Should I let go of the friendship?

I have someone that I've been friends with for almost 3 years and we became closer over time to the point where I started to consider her a best friend. We talked about our hopes and dreams and what we wanted out of life on a regular basis. At the beginning of this year, she found out she was pregnant by her boyfriend that she was head over heels for. I tried to conceal my disappointment as much as I could, but I had a feeling that she could hear it in my voice. I consoled her and reminded her that everything would be okay and she calmed down. Once that was out of the way, I told her that I would plan her baby shower and immediately began purchasing essential baby items (i.e. diapers, wipes, bottles, baby soap). After all, this is my best friend, so I want her to be prepared. As time went on, I continued to buy baby items and check in with her to make sure she was alright.

When I would call her, her phone would go straight to voicemail and she would text me later stating that she was tired or having morning sickness. Understandable. I won't trip over that. But now it's become a pattern. Whenever I try to call her just to check in be it about her, the baby shower, or just to talk/vent, she never answers the phone or responds to my messages, but what I find so funny is that she manages to remember my number when she needs to vent about how her boyfriend is treating her and whenever I try to give her advice, she tells me that I'm overreacting and that I'm making him out to be a bad guy.

During the entire and current duration of her pregnancy, she has told me how he has left her without food to eat in their home, finding messages between him and his ex girlfriend on his phone and email, finding the ex's heels and clothes around the house and just the overall disrespect that he's showing her. I became angrier and angrier every time she called me and I suggested each and every time that they should seek counselling or be co-parents because they aren't working out. This was about a month and a half ago and was our final conversation. I found out through another close friend that she thinks I'm "judging" her which explains the ignored calls and messages.

Now I'm wondering if I should even try to mend the friendship. I stopped planning her baby shower because she won't answer my calls and to be honest with you...I'm pretty fucking pissed. I feel like our friendship has been one sided all this time and to add insult to injury, I've spent at least $ 500 in baby products that I have no use for.

I guess my question now is, would you mend the friendship? Do I sound judgmental to you?

Posted by DeadInside
you born alone, you die alone

Lol fair enough

Posted by Chelsey07

Posted by DeadInside
you born alone, you die alone

Lol fair enough

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That's a response from ONE (man). Doll, the gifts are for the baby (a human being that didn't ask to be brought into this world); so when you GIVE those $ 500.00 gifts to the baby; that is a BLESSING coming back to you.

You can bang her head a thousand times against the wall and she will do what ever she wants to do....why? Because she loves him and even if he was having sex with the ex gf and she walks in the room he will look up (all sweaty) and tell her, "Hon, you're not seeing what you're seeing. Go to Jack in the Box for me, come back and we'll have dinner together at the kitchen table". Guess what? Yep! Dumb ass will believe him. That is HER problem NOT yours. You can also turn blue in giving her advice and then yep! Goes in one ear and out the other.

No need to continue with proceeding with plans for baby shower (inviting, sending out invitations, etc). Right now she is NOT thinking of the future. As I say, this young millennium are full of dumb asses that don't stay on the pill in order to refrain from having babies from: Tom, Dick, Harry, etc. Sigh!!!!!!

Is this friendship severed? Yeah, I think so. When you find out when she had the baby, go visit her at the hospital and give her said $ 500.00 of gifts for the baby. Expect your phone to ring later when she "needs you".



Good luck.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: "With friends like her who needs enemies?"

Take a hint and ditch the bitch