Sports addiction

Didn't even realize this was possible. Know anyone who might be a sports addict?

Pretty sure my man is. I knew he loved sports and was possibly a bit obsessed. He watches every sport from Football to college basketball to hockey...hes black, btw 😛. I don't care for sports, so the extent of his obsession kind of went over my head, as I have plenty of other things to do while he's watching. I've always dated guys who were really into sports...no big deal. I take advantage of the opportunities to have people over and cook for the big games.


Fast fwd to this football season. OMG. He's a huge Niners fan and I found it kind of cute...even though I come from a long line of psycho giants fans myself. (if they knew I was dating a Niners fan, I could be disowned :p) Whenever they won, he'd be so happy, almost euphoric. Again, didn't pay any mind bc, hey, he's happy I'm happy. When they lost tho...smh. I then understood why he never wanted to watch the games with me, or anyone, for that matter. I thought watching sports with others was a sort of social bonding? Nope. He'd rather be left alone and I see why. He completely loses it. It could be just the first quarter, but let one of the players do something he believes is a stupid move, and I suddenly fear for the safety of the tv. When they won (whatever it's called that got them to the Super Bowl) he was the happiest id ever seen him. Even happier than he Was for other monumental things that have happened in his life, and atleast IMO, were much more happy worthy.

Ok, so we all know how this turns out....the Niners lost on Sunday.

I finally heard from him once yesterday , via text, since then. It's Wednesday. He warned me that if they lost, he was gonna be a mess. My ignorance led me to believe again, that it was cute, even if a little crazy and silly. I responded with an aww and a kiss, and told him I'd be there for him. He said no seriously babe, you don't get it. Whatever, he's such a baby I thought, and brushed it off. Last I heard from him, was literally right as the game was about to start. He texted me I love you baby.

No one has heard from him. He hasn't even been to work and he never misses work. I've been giving him his space, but I have sent him random sweet texts letting him know I miss him and whatnot, all of which he ignores. He randomly texted me a

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Me.

I've taken off work for matches, wake up earlier on my days off than when I hafta work just so I can watch a match and i have an LFC tattoo that covers one of my hips.

And that's just football (soccer). 😄

Doesn't seem too extreme.

Posted by Poisson
What sign is he?


My Aries ex would tell me used to get into fist fights when he was younger over basketballs games... HUGE LA Lakers fan.

He's a Cancer. Fighting is a but much, but it does happen. Guys can go overboard with the shit talking.

My female cousin was at an eagles giants game and a male eagles fan poured his beer all over her bc she was rooting for the giants. A grown man.

Haha I've gathered.

Finally heard from him yesterday. He txts "sorry." Haven't even replied, as I'm at a loss for words at this point.

So why do you think it's an issue for yourself? Sounds like harmless passion lol

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Are things good aside from this? Tho between all the seasons (and the overlaps *ugh*), I could see this being a pretty consuming issue. The question is, is it a dealbreaker?

ps. I'm sorry for your troubles, but fuck the Niners. I'm still pissed cause they knocked Saints outta the playoffs season before last. Grr.

Haha

Everything else is great, just can't wrap my mind around a person being that emotionally distraught over....a game. To cut off contact with the world, including your job for 3 days and go into a severe depression, is crazy. I worry that it may be indicative of other issues, as well.

Posted by Poisson
I don't think it's an issues. Just a man being a man. It can be unbecoming at times but at least he's not out doing lines of blow. I think it's just harmless passion. Other than the sports obsession, if everything else is going well I don't think it's something to hold against him. Just my opinion.

MsP, he did warn you it can get bad... Maybe just ask him if he's done sulking yet? *shrug*

It's more than a man being a man, but I'm not going to say anything about it. Doesn't require a deep discussion, just a mental note.

It does seem a bit over the top! I have never really dated a guy who was into sports, my father wasn't either. The Virgo who was living in my house would have been the closest, and he was a dick when it came to some game (baseball, football or basketball - everything else is not worthy and should not be even played in the US never mind aired on TV *rolls eyes*). I'd be watching some show, and at a climatic moment he would DEMAND I change the channel so he could see the score. BIG F'ING WHOOPED DE DOO, you can see the score when a commercial comes on. And he would constantly be yelling at the fricken TV. SHIT, he would be late going anywhere just because he was catching replays and final scores in ESPN the morning after a game. Given that it was my house, it was my preference what was on, he finally got the hint and would go to the sports bar to watch. Then if the game wasn't going the way he wanted, he'd come back to the house all bitchy.

Now, that being said, when my son played soccer I was all about it when it came to my child, the same with my daughter when she played rugby (and she was a monster on the field). Now THOSE are REAL sports! 😛

Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by MsPisces.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Are things good aside from this? Tho between all the seasons (and the overlaps *ugh*), I could see this being a pretty consuming issue. The question is, is it a dealbreaker?

ps. I'm sorry for your troubles, but fuck the Niners. I'm still pissed cause they knocked Saints outta the playoffs season before last. Grr.

Haha

Everything else is great, just can't wrap my mind around a person being that emotionally distraught over....a game. To cut off contact with the world, including your job for 3 days and go into a severe depression, is crazy. I worry that it may be indicative of other issues, as well.

And it very well could be... in a few ways.

You're right that I'm probably just really passionate. The problem is, I have an addictive personality that makes me a little more in the crazy column than I otherwise would be.

The addictive personality (which thankfully i can at least identify) bleeds over into every aspect of my life and if left unchecked could be a huge problem, as you can imagine.

Not to say this is your guy, but maybe some behavior to watch out for.

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I def. feel you. My thoughts exactly.

Posted by Prince_Pisces
Sounds like an idiot to me. Trade him in for a new one 🙂 LOL!

Lol 🙂

Interesting.

Lol Chance. I should have stuck with the Capricorns. What was I thinking?! 😛

You're right tho. If someone he loves dies or something, is he going to turn into a friggin recluse? Ugh. Lol probably not come to think of it, bc according to him, nothing affects him as greatly as his teams winning or losing. W.T.F.

Haha

Go Ravens! 😄

Haha

Fuck football.

Basketball is cool. I like Boston because of Garnett's fine self. That's about as far as any team loyalty goes for me. I could stand watching the Niners, only bc I thought the coach was hot, esp when he got all angry on the sidelines 😛