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Stringing you along
^^^^ that's why I call these people users
attention vampires. they just like attention and not being bored.
Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
2. They are keeping you on back burner because who they really are interested in is either not available or does not yet reciprocate their feelings
FTW
If you're crushing on a guy & you feel that he's leading you on, know this. He does like you but doesn't like you ENOUGH to be with you.
He might keep you around as a Plan B or F
He might keep you around b/c the sex/head is good
He might keep you around b/c he needs that constant ego boost & sense of importance that you give him
He might keep you around as eye candy to show off to his boys (Even if you look better than the other girl's he dating, it still doesn't mean he'll want to commit to you)
He might keep you around b/c he's a coward & isn't man enough to tell you that he only sees you as a friend
He might keep you around b/c he's constantly battling his own issues/demons with commitment & convinces himself that if YOU (not him) get better, than maybe he'll magically wanna commit one day (When he's at that age or phase when he wants to settle down, but can't b/c he doesn't realize or acknowledge that he's actually not even ready, so he'll try to force himself to settle for you, but when things get too emotional, he just can't)
He might keep you around b/c you're his downtime, playtime or something to do when he's "bored." (Kind of like that good book we all have to read for a rainy day)
OR he might NOT actually be leading you on at all. A lot of the time a man makes it clear through his actions & his words that he is not interested in you ENOUGH (or doesn't want commitment at all) but women often times miss these clues or just flat out DON'T LISTEN b/c they are too busy floating up into the clouds; it's not until they realize that they are up in the clouds ALONE that they realize oh sh**t this guy wasn't really into me!
He might keep you around as a Plan B or F
He might keep you around b/c the sex/head is good
He might keep you around b/c he needs that constant ego boost & sense of importance that you give him
He might keep you around as eye candy to show off to his boys (Even if you look better than the other girl's he dating, it still doesn't mean he'll want to commit to you)
He might keep you around b/c he's a coward & isn't man enough to tell you that he only sees you as a friend
He might keep you around b/c he's constantly battling his own issues/demons with commitment & convinces himself that if YOU (not him) get better, than maybe he'll magically wanna commit one day (When he's at that age or phase when he wants to settle down, but can't b/c he doesn't realize or acknowledge that he's actually not even ready, so he'll try to force himself to settle for you, but when things get too emotional, he just can't)
He might keep you around b/c you're his downtime, playtime or something to do when he's "bored." (Kind of like that good book we all have to read for a rainy day)
OR he might NOT actually be leading you on at all. A lot of the time a man makes it clear through his actions & his words that he is not interested in you ENOUGH (or doesn't want commitment at all) but women often times miss these clues or just flat out DON'T LISTEN b/c they are too busy floating up into the clouds; it's not until they realize that they are up in the clouds ALONE that they realize oh sh**t this guy wasn't really into me!
There's a difference b/w "He calls me once every day," vs. "He only calls me once a week." If he only calls once a week or never reaches out to you 1st, he's NOT that into you
There's a difference b/w a guy being flaky or breaking a promise once b/c of unforeseen circumstances vs. a guy that always has a million excuses for why he didn't/couldn't come through for you. The guy that's always claiming his "phone died" or that "something suddenly came up" is NOT that into you
There's a difference b/w a guy whose busy (like everybody else in the world) but still makes/finds time for you anyways vs. the guy whose always justifying why he can't make time for you simply b/c he's busy. If the president, the BUSIEST MAN IN THE WORLD, has time for his family, golf & a vacation, then so does your average Joe.
In life you can't always count on the other person to say, "I'm sorry I'm leading you on." The kinds of people who use others or lead them along don't usually have the "honesty" or "tell it like it is" trait. If you wait on these kinds of people to give you the truth, you'll be waiting a LONNNNNG TIME
That's why it's important to use your own instincts & intuition. Whose most likely to have it out for you (in a bad way), your intuition or some guy? Guys have done you wrong, NOT your intuition. So when you're in a situation where your intuition is telling/showing you something different than what the guy is telling you, listen to your GUT! I guarantee you that your OWN intuition is a lot more loyal, consistent & trustworthy than the guy who isn't consistent
There's a difference b/w a guy being flaky or breaking a promise once b/c of unforeseen circumstances vs. a guy that always has a million excuses for why he didn't/couldn't come through for you. The guy that's always claiming his "phone died" or that "something suddenly came up" is NOT that into you
There's a difference b/w a guy whose busy (like everybody else in the world) but still makes/finds time for you anyways vs. the guy whose always justifying why he can't make time for you simply b/c he's busy. If the president, the BUSIEST MAN IN THE WORLD, has time for his family, golf & a vacation, then so does your average Joe.
In life you can't always count on the other person to say, "I'm sorry I'm leading you on." The kinds of people who use others or lead them along don't usually have the "honesty" or "tell it like it is" trait. If you wait on these kinds of people to give you the truth, you'll be waiting a LONNNNNG TIME
That's why it's important to use your own instincts & intuition. Whose most likely to have it out for you (in a bad way), your intuition or some guy? Guys have done you wrong, NOT your intuition. So when you're in a situation where your intuition is telling/showing you something different than what the guy is telling you, listen to your GUT! I guarantee you that your OWN intuition is a lot more loyal, consistent & trustworthy than the guy who isn't consistent
You get the end you deserve... Respect with respect.
Lol
LOL, I forgot about this thread. I was fuming earlier on because I believe I was strung along by an aqua..14 years ago lol. They were discussing this on a radio show & it made me remember my relationship with him..made me super mad. I just wanted to hear more 'signs' since they didn't give that many on that show. I want to be prepared lol. I hate how oblivious I am to things sometimes.
Posted by krysrenee7
In life you can't always count on the other person to say, "I'm sorry I'm leading you on." The kinds of people who use others or lead them along don't usually have the "honesty" or "tell it like it is" trait. If you wait on these kinds of people to give you the truth, you'll be waiting a LONNNNNG TIME
That's why it's important to use your own instincts & intuition. Whose most likely to have it out for you (in a bad way), your intuition or some guy? Guys have done you wrong, NOT your intuition. So when you're in a situation where your intuition is telling/showing you something different than what the guy is telling you, listen to your GUT! I guarantee you that your OWN intuition is a lot more loyal, consistent & trustworthy than the guy who isn't consistent
Kyrs, you have covered almost all the reasons why people lead another on or string them along. Whatever the reason may be, one trait common in such a person is cowardice. They are too afraid to tell it how it is. Honesty is expensive and you can't expect that from cheap people.
Anyway, your aforementioned quotation was the one of the most sound advice I received from you back when I joined this site in 2011 as a victim of said cowardice. I stand by this advice and pass it forward to other girls in a similar position. Thank you. You can indeed only rely on your intuition and not on other people for honesty.
Posted by krysrenee7
If you're crushing on a guy & you feel that he's leading you on, know this. He does like you but doesn't like you ENOUGH to be with you.
...he might NOT actually be leading you on at all. A lot of the time a man makes it clear through his actions & his words that he is not interested in you ENOUGH (or doesn't want commitment at all) but women often times miss these clues or just flat out DON'T LISTEN b/c they are too busy floating up into the clouds; it's not until they realize that they are up in the clouds ALONE that they realize oh sh**t this guy wasn't really into me!
+1
Posted by AnonymousUserPosted by aquapiscescusp
You get the end you deserve... Respect with respect.
That's funny coming from someone with a avi like yours. lulzclick to expand
😛
Posted by aquarius09Posted by krysrenee7
In life you can't always count on the other person to say, "I'm sorry I'm leading you on." The kinds of people who use others or lead them along don't usually have the "honesty" or "tell it like it is" trait. If you wait on these kinds of people to give you the truth, you'll be waiting a LONNNNNG TIME
That's why it's important to use your own instincts & intuition. Whose most likely to have it out for you (in a bad way), your intuition or some guy? Guys have done you wrong, NOT your intuition. So when you're in a situation where your intuition is telling/showing you something different than what the guy is telling you, listen to your GUT! I guarantee you that your OWN intuition is a lot more loyal, consistent & trustworthy than the guy who isn't consistent
Kyrs, you have covered almost all the reasons why people lead another on or string them along. Whatever the reason may be, one trait common in such a person is cowardice. They are too afraid to tell it how it is. Honesty is expensive and you can't expect that from cheap people.
Anyway, your aforementioned quotation was the one of the most sound advice I received from you back when I joined this site in 2011 as a victim of said cowardice. I stand by this advice and pass it forward to other girls in a similar position. Thank you. You can indeed only rely on your intuition and not on other people for honesty.click to expand
This world is full of too many people waiting forever for the person who betrayed them to enuinely apologize or be honest
Never has it occurred to them that you don't have to wait on another's honesty to guide you through a situation! Why has it never occurred to people that being honest with THEMSELVES & listening to their gut is probably the best way to go?
We ladies never wanna take responsibility for our roles in things. We like pointing the finger & blaming men for the bad outcomes we face, BUT the minute a woman admits that she had hindsight 20/20 or that her intuition (even if just once) told her to run, then the blame suddenly shifts to HER, not him! A man isn't & shouldn't be held responsible all b/c a woman didn't follow her gut!
The kinds of people that are too coward & lead people on are ALSO the kinds of people who are not honest! The 2 go hand in hand! We've got
....The kinds of people that are too coward & lead people on are ALSO the kinds of people who are not honest! The 2 go hand in hand! We've gotta start acting like we know that! Denial is a choice made by self! A man isn't to blame b/c a woman wasn't her OWN best friend.
Intuition/instinct usually gives you the answer to your questions long before you verbally ask others! Normally, if you've gotta ask, chances are you need to run!
Intuition/instinct usually gives you the answer to your questions long before you verbally ask others! Normally, if you've gotta ask, chances are you need to run!
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by aquarius09Posted by krysrenee7
In life you can't always count on the other person to say, "I'm sorry I'm leading you on." The kinds of people who use others or lead them along don't usually have the "honesty" or "tell it like it is" trait. If you wait on these kinds of people to give you the truth, you'll be waiting a LONNNNNG TIME
That's why it's important to use your own instincts & intuition. Whose most likely to have it out for you (in a bad way), your intuition or some guy? Guys have done you wrong, NOT your intuition. So when you're in a situation where your intuition is telling/showing you something different than what the guy is telling you, listen to your GUT! I guarantee you that your OWN intuition is a lot more loyal, consistent & trustworthy than the guy who isn't consistent
Kyrs, you have covered almost all the reasons why people lead another on or string them along. Whatever the reason may be, one trait common in such a person is cowardice. They are too afraid to tell it how it is. Honesty is expensive and you can't expect that from cheap people.
Anyway, your aforementioned quotation was the one of the most sound advice I received from you back when I joined this site in 2011 as a victim of said cowardice. I stand by this advice and pass it forward to other girls in a similar position. Thank you. You can indeed only rely on your intuition and not on other people for honesty.click to expand
This world is full of too many people waiting forever for the person who betrayed them to enuinely apologize or be honest
Never has it occurred to them that you don't have to wait on another's honesty to guide you through a situation! Why has it never occurred to people that being honest with THEMSELVES & listening to their gut is probably the best way to go?
We ladies never wanna take responsibility for our roles in things. We like pointing the finger & blaming men for the bad outcomes we face, BUT the minute a woman admits that she had hindsight 20/20 or that her intuition (even if just once) told her to run, then the blame suddenly shifts to HER, not him! A man isn't & shouldn't be held responsible all b/c a woman didn't follow her gut!
The kinds of people that are too coward & lead p
REAL TALK!!! All women should pay heed to this!!
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