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What does your birth order say about you—
Middle-Borns
Positives: The classic middle-born is very relational, tends to be a people-pleaser and usually hates confrontation. Their basic need is to keep life smooth and their motto might be 'peace at any price'. They are usually very calm, will roll with the punches and are amiable, down-to-earth and great listeners. They are skilled at seeing both sides of a problem and eager to make everybody happy. That makes them good mediators and negotiators.
Negatives: They tend to be less driven than first-borns, but are much more eager to be liked - or at least be happy with them. They have a difficult time setting boundaries. They can drift into becoming 'co-dependent' as they try to please everybody. They are not good at making decisions that will offend others. They also tend to blame themselves when others fail.
Last-Borns
Positives: Last-borns are the world's cheerleaders. You have strong people skills and love to entertain and talk to others. You make friends easily and immediately make others feel at home. You're an extrovert, energised by the presence of other people and you're probably not afraid to take risks.
Negatives: Last-borns tend to get bored quickly. They have a strong fear of rejection and a short attention span. When the fun stops, they've had enough and want to check out. To some extent they're self-centred. They may harbour unrealistic expectations of finding a relationship that is always fun - and of course, such relationships simply do not last.
Positives: The classic middle-born is very relational, tends to be a people-pleaser and usually hates confrontation. Their basic need is to keep life smooth and their motto might be 'peace at any price'. They are usually very calm, will roll with the punches and are amiable, down-to-earth and great listeners. They are skilled at seeing both sides of a problem and eager to make everybody happy. That makes them good mediators and negotiators.
Negatives: They tend to be less driven than first-borns, but are much more eager to be liked - or at least be happy with them. They have a difficult time setting boundaries. They can drift into becoming 'co-dependent' as they try to please everybody. They are not good at making decisions that will offend others. They also tend to blame themselves when others fail.
Last-Borns
Positives: Last-borns are the world's cheerleaders. You have strong people skills and love to entertain and talk to others. You make friends easily and immediately make others feel at home. You're an extrovert, energised by the presence of other people and you're probably not afraid to take risks.
Negatives: Last-borns tend to get bored quickly. They have a strong fear of rejection and a short attention span. When the fun stops, they've had enough and want to check out. To some extent they're self-centred. They may harbour unrealistic expectations of finding a relationship that is always fun - and of course, such relationships simply do not last.
well the person that wrote this said, if there are only two children, then you would just read the first born and last born. their is no middle child. he said that if a third child is born later then the original last born will start to show traits of the middle child description.
yup...perfect...right on point😉
Posted by NemesisPosted by chemengin
well the person that wrote this said, if there are only two children, then you would just read the first born and last born. their is no middle child. he said that if a third child is born later then the original last born will start to show traits of the middle child description.
hmmmm. interesting. what is this based on though?
do we fit into these roles based on our parents experience and expectations?
we all know how first borns are laden/burdened with expectations and how less strict parents are with second (and further) children...
that i can relate toclick to expand
i can relate to that too. it is based on studies from psychologist over the years, they believe that birth order determines the type of personality for each child. the study started with children then extended to how birth order affects individuals as adults. this is a website i found http://www.babble.com/baby/baby-development/birth-order-personality-sibling-family-size/. it says that you can use your birth order to help you have better social relations with everyone you meet. Even romantic relationships.
I don't fit into any of these. 😢
Confusing family.
Confusing family.
Posted by chemengin
First-borns
Positives: They are natural leaders and often high achievers. The majority of politicians, spokespersons and managing directors are first-borns. They frequently live with a sense of entitlement and even superiority. They often come in two flavours: compliant nurturers/caregivers or aggressive movers and shakers.
Both are in control; they just use different methods. As a rule, first-borns are picky, precise people - they pay attention to detail - tend to be punctual, organised, and competent. They want to see things done right the first time. They don't like surprises.
Negatives: They are often moody and occasionally lack sensitivity. They can be intimidating, particularly by pushing people too hard or refusing to take no for an answer.
Sometimes they can be a bit 'know-it-all', and often they are poor at delegating - largely because they don't trust other people as much as they trust themselves. They also tend to be bossy, perfectionists and overly-conscientious.
yep.
I was raised in a home as an only child for 8 years. Then had a younger step brother Spent half my time with that side of the family. Then I met my older half brother. Then my sister was born; I got to hold her in the hospital. I was 9. Then my half brother could not see my dad anymore. At age 14 my siblings and father left and haven't seen them since then.
But, if I had to say what I felt like in birth order, I feel like the oldest. I do talk long distance to my younger brother and sister - and I definitely still do fit into that role of oldest sister to them. My half brother was too submissive to really have an effect on my attitude within a year.
.... Sorry if the whole explanation makes no sense. It doesn't make much sense to me either 🙂
But, if I had to say what I felt like in birth order, I feel like the oldest. I do talk long distance to my younger brother and sister - and I definitely still do fit into that role of oldest sister to them. My half brother was too submissive to really have an effect on my attitude within a year.
.... Sorry if the whole explanation makes no sense. It doesn't make much sense to me either 🙂
Hate you both. 😢
* Momentarily yet STRONGLY dislike individuals making a joke or slander towards the unpredictable nature of my family unit and safety during 'pre-adult' years.
There.
There.
Beh. I won't derail the lovely chemengin's thread, being refreshing in terms of topic. Later.
Sorry, my older sister was more like the last born description, I (2nd) am a combo of only, first and middle with more of a take charge, independent nature than any of my siblings. My younger sister, next in line to me, does fit closer to the middle born descriptor but, so does my brother who is the baby of the family.
My own kids, my daughter is more like the only born (eldest) and my son middle born.
My own kids, my daughter is more like the only born (eldest) and my son middle born.
First born of 3 - description seems to fit very well. I'd say that the other 2 fit my brother and sister for the most part too.
LOL, that's what I thought too! (my Leeb son being the epitome of that def)
Posted by PurrrrHissss
Interesting how only-borns sounds like fixed signs, first-borns sound like cardinal signs, and last-borns sound like mutable signs.
Middle-borns just sound like Libras.
Wow, really good observation.
My fiance is the youngest of four and has a blend of only and last (his three sisters are all at least 15/16 years older than him). He's Scorp/Scorp w/ Libra rising.
I am an only born and I agree completely
Posted by PurrrrHissss
Interesting how only-borns sounds like fixed signs, first-borns sound like cardinal signs, and last-borns sound like mutable signs.
Middle-borns just sound like Libras.
*throws confetti* it was between you and Reconstructing_a_Leo. i knew one of you would get it. 🙂but the psychologist swear that there was no correlation what so ever between birth order and astrology.
Posted by sheathedclaws
I was raised in a home as an only child for 8 years. Then had a younger step brother Spent half my time with that side of the family. Then I met my older half brother. Then my sister was born; I got to hold her in the hospital. I was 9. Then my half brother could not see my dad anymore. At age 14 my siblings and father left and haven't seen them since then.
But, if I had to say what I felt like in birth order, I feel like the oldest. I do talk long distance to my younger brother and sister - and I definitely still do fit into that role of oldest sister to them. My half brother was too submissive to really have an effect on my attitude within a year.
.... Sorry if the whole explanation makes no sense. It doesn't make much sense to me either 🙂
no its makes sense, sorry you had to go through that though. 😢
Posted by DeadRingerr
I was the prettier one!!!
🙂
Posted by chemengin
First-borns
Positives: They are natural leaders and often high achievers. The majority of politicians, spokespersons and managing directors are first-borns. They frequently live with a sense of entitlement and even superiority. They often come in two flavours: compliant nurturers/caregivers or aggressive movers and shakers.
Both are in control; they just use different methods. As a rule, first-borns are picky, precise people - they pay attention to detail - tend to be punctual, organised, and competent. They want to see things done right the first time. They don't like surprises.
Negatives: They are often moody and occasionally lack sensitivity. They can be intimidating, particularly by pushing people too hard or refusing to take no for an answer.
Sometimes they can be a bit 'know-it-all', and often they are poor at delegating - largely because they don't trust other people as much as they trust themselves. They also tend to be bossy, perfectionists and overly-conscientious.
Posted by chemenginPosted by sheathedclaws
I was raised in a home as an only child for 8 years. Then had a younger step brother Spent half my time with that side of the family. Then I met my older half brother. Then my sister was born; I got to hold her in the hospital. I was 9. Then my half brother could not see my dad anymore. At age 14 my siblings and father left and haven't seen them since then.
But, if I had to say what I felt like in birth order, I feel like the oldest. I do talk long distance to my younger brother and sister - and I definitely still do fit into that role of oldest sister to them. My half brother was too submissive to really have an effect on my attitude within a year.
.... Sorry if the whole explanation makes no sense. It doesn't make much sense to me either 🙂
no its makes sense, sorry you had to go through that though. 😢click to expand
Don't be sorry. I haven't lost anyone. I've lived as an only, oldest, and middle child! That's more experience than many are able to encounter in their life. It has given me understanding for a spectrum of different views. 🙂
Im a last born and the negatives are spot on, the positives not so much. Im an introvert, but i can fake being an extrovert for a while until i get overwhelmed and return to my shell.
Lol first born seems to fit me more since I am a Cardinal sign,but only born fits me as well.
Posted by PurrrrHissss
Interesting how only-borns sounds like fixed signs, first-borns sound like cardinal signs, and last-borns sound like mutable signs.
Middle-borns just sound like Libras.
Ha! I was going to say this too! I'm a first born with more Cardinal placements than I know what to do with (Aries/Cap) and the description of the "first born" fits me to a T- except the part about punctuality. I don't think I've ever been on time for anything in my life :p
The description of the last born fits both my younger sister (Cap Sun/Pisces Moon) and my boyfriend- but it fits my boyfriend more. He's got almost all of his placements in Pisces except his Sun (Aqua).
In terms of compatibility, I've also read that romantic relationships tend to more successful if a First Born marries a Last Born: http://www.ivillage.co.uk/how-your-birth-order-affects-your-romantic-compatibility/82285. My Father is the youngest child from his family (2 older sisters) & my Mother is a the oldest child in hers (1 younger brother). I'm the oldest child from my family (1 younger sister) and my boyfriend is the youngest child from his (1 older sister). Come to think of it, all 4 of the serious boyfriends I've had have been the youngest child in their families- and three of those boyfriends had an older sister.
Awesome thread, Chem!
Posted by aliariesPosted by PurrrrHissss
Interesting how only-borns sounds like fixed signs, first-borns sound like cardinal signs, and last-borns sound like mutable signs.
Middle-borns just sound like Libras.
In terms of compatibility, I've also read that romantic relationships tend to more successful if a First Born marries a Last Born: http://www.ivillage.co.uk/how-your-birth-order-affects-your-romantic-compatibility/82285. My Father is the youngest child from his family (2 older sisters) & my Mother is a the oldest child in hers (1 younger brother). I'm the oldest child from my family (1 younger sister) and my boyfriend is the youngest child from his (1 older sister). Come to think of it, all 4 of the serious boyfriends I've had have been the youngest child in their families- and three of those boyfriends had an older sister.
Awesome thread, Chem!click to expand
thanks sweetie 🙂
mm thats interesting. im going to check that site out. because im the oldest with 2 brothers. my fiance was the youngest for a while, until his parents had a child when he was 13. wonder does that count for anything. idk.
Posted by sheathedclawsPosted by chemenginPosted by sheathedclaws
I was raised in a home as an only child for 8 years. Then had a younger step brother Spent half my time with that side of the family. Then I met my older half brother. Then my sister was born; I got to hold her in the hospital. I was 9. Then my half brother could not see my dad anymore. At age 14 my siblings and father left and haven't seen them since then.
But, if I had to say what I felt like in birth order, I feel like the oldest. I do talk long distance to my younger brother and sister - and I definitely still do fit into that role of oldest sister to them. My half brother was too submissive to really have an effect on my attitude within a year.
.... Sorry if the whole explanation makes no sense. It doesn't make much sense to me either 🙂
no its makes sense, sorry you had to go through that though. 😢
Don't be sorry. I haven't lost anyone. I've lived as an only, oldest, and middle child! That's more experience than many are able to encounter in their life. It has given me understanding for a spectrum of different views. 🙂click to expand
🙂 a strong lioness as a result
Posted by chemengin
Middle-Borns
Positives: The classic middle-born is very relational, tends to be a people-pleaser and usually hates confrontation. Their basic need is to keep life smooth and their motto might be 'peace at any price'. They are usually very calm, will roll with the punches and are amiable, down-to-earth and great listeners. They are skilled at seeing both sides of a problem and eager to make everybody happy. That makes them good mediators and negotiators.
Negatives: They tend to be less driven than first-borns, but are much more eager to be liked - or at least be happy with them. They have a difficult time setting boundaries. They can drift into becoming 'co-dependent' as they try to please everybody. They are not good at making decisions that will offend others. They also tend to blame themselves when others fail.
I am the middle of three boys... and a Libra.
I'm fucked!
Posted by ninh
Here's a link to an article I read a few years back. Interesting. It even mentions that this is similar to the horoscopes.
The Power of the Birth Order
Ooooh Time magazine!
Posted by ninh
Here's a link to an article I read a few years back. Interesting. It even mentions that this is similar to the horoscopes.
The Power of the Birth Order
love time mag. thanks for sharing ninh.
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Only-borns
Positives: Only-borns are the mega-movers of the world. They are task-orientated; tend to be extremely well organised, highly conscientious and dependable. They are keen on facts, ideas and details and feel extremely comfortable with responsibility.
Negatives: The negative characteristics of only-borns can be tough to handle. They are often unforgiving, very demanding, hate to admit they're wrong and usually don't accept criticism well. To others, they seem very sensitive and indeed, their feelings are easily hurt.
First-borns
Positives: They are natural leaders and often high achievers. The majority of politicians, spokespersons and managing directors are first-borns. They frequently live with a sense of entitlement and even superiority. They often come in two flavours: compliant nurturers/caregivers or aggressive movers and shakers.
Both are in control; they just use different methods. As a rule, first-borns are picky, precise people - they pay attention to detail - tend to be punctual, organised, and competent. They want to see things done right the first time. They don't like surprises.
Negatives: They are often moody and occasionally lack sensitivity. They can be intimidating, particularly by pushing people too hard or refusing to take no for an answer.
Sometimes they can be a bit 'know-it-all', and often they are poor at delegating - largely because they don't trust other people as much as they trust themselves. They also tend to be bossy, perfectionists and overly-conscientious.