What is your definition of

I've always known it to be a guy who basically has his balls in a vice and can't do shit without her permission or blessing. Basically, his girlfriend is a mommy figure that breathes down his neck for doing anything.

...is there any other behaviors that qualify? I had a friend just insult a guy she talked to at a party last night by calling him whipped because he was talking about his girlfriend all night, even talked about when if/when he'd propose to her. I was surprised because from what she described, it just sounded like a guy who's into his chick. ...a little overkill on talking about her so much, sure, but "whipped?"

So now it's got me wondering, would that behavior also be considered "whipped" now? I don't think it is. I see it more as a negative connotation where the guy is, well, "whipped" by his S.O. all drill sergeant style . I thought that was the general consensus...?

It seems like people are blurring the lines and saying stupid shit like mentioned above, or even when guys go around ragging on another guy that he's whipped when he's just being courteous or considerate to his lady, which just blows my mind. Since when the hell is being into your S.O. and being thoughtful and courteous of them considered "whipped?"

People are so fucked in the head anymore, I swear. :/

Any sort of oversharing you remember splayed all over social media = "stalker."

Friendly = "weird" or "flirting."

Dude who talks about his lady = "whipped."

But being a callous, self absorbed fuck is okay?

Posted by Deadpoop
I think theres two sides to this whip...

Nowadays people throw that word out way too much. To me someone would be cool chwhip when they are being treated like hot garbage from their girl and still act like nothings wrong. They don't wanna sack up and say something because they too are being selfish with what they want. They don't wanna lose whatever it is that they're holding on to. However, nowadays people will call a guy whipped because he goes home early from a party, or if he listens to her too much which i think is bullshit, or like in your case gushes about a girl he loves. I mean isn't that supposed to be endearing? Are we not supposed to treat our SO's and talk about them like we ourselves would want to in either case? People don't understand themselves well enough these days to understand vernacular. It's kinda scary.

Right?? I've heard that thrown around when a guy was getting all uppity about his wife being miffed that he'd go out to eat and get food before coming home when he knew she was cooking dinner. He'd come home with no appetite and thought it was just ridiculous she was annoyed with it. "I'M NOT WHIPPED! I CAN DO WHAT I WANT!"

...dude, it's common courtesy. If you know someone is making dinner for you, you don't do that shit. It's just rude and inconsiderate. :/ But nooo, it's "whipped!" *eyeroll*

Sounds like she don't respect him but sadistically keeps him and he is too soft to call it off.

This is a damned if you do, damned if you don't scenario.

Posted by Arielle83
He's not whipped!

He's telling her to back off I love my gf. She's this and that and better than you etc.

Maybe he got the vibe she was getting too friendly.

I do the same when guys get too friendly, so I brag about my husband.

It's mate guarding.

...knowing her, I really wouldn't be surprised if he was doing that haha.

"He's whipped" really means "I'm jealous"-- I'm willing to bet.



I love this topic... good one, Rocky.

Posted by Rosaknowsya
Whipped is when a belt slaps your backside.

"My mom just whooped my ass."



When using the term, "whipped" to describe a male it basically demeans a man's relationship with an important woman in his life. That being said, if it were a woman, shed be considered... "a show off, desperate..."

Do you think the term could be used for a female in the same example? Or would it be different?

Probably different. Mostly because of societal stuff. Women are expected to make their lives all about their men, so in 2016, it'd be viewed as kind of "dated" and almost "desperate." Men aren't supposed to let his woman "control" him in any way, shape or form, because he is still supposed to behave as if he were single while in a relationship, so ohnoes, whipped!

If someone is talking about their S.O. like that, I have zero fucks to give because I don't see it as a problem. I literally was kind of taken back my friend had such a shitty attitude about it. I'm like wtf, why is this a problem? :/

Being a normal person isn't whipped... whipped is when you let an abusive woman abuse you. There's damaged women out there but a normal woman isn't abusive and there's no shame in treating your woman with respect! Society is very dumb and gives us dumb messages sometimes.

One of the main people who helped plot the expansion and the rise of the Mongol Empire was Genghis Khan's wife. She was one of his main advisors and he let her run a lot of things behind the scenes. Muhammad's wife Aisha- she ran things. Being with an intelligent woman who has useful input and valuing her input is smart and should be celebrated.

i could go for some whip cream

Posted by Arielle83
He's not whipped!

He's telling her to back off I love my gf. She's this and that and better than you etc.

Maybe he got the vibe she was getting too friendly.

I do the same when guys get too friendly, so I brag about my husband.

It's mate guarding.

True, but what if the guy is putting down his gf? Do you tell him that he's a douchebag or that they've confused you with someone that cares? LOL

Posted by littlenanobyte
One of my best friends falls off the face of the Earth everytime he has a new girlfriend. They typically don't last very long. He has said to me before "I am so weak that I know if she asked me to stop talking to any of my friends and all of my family, I would do it to please her and I know that sounds bad, but I'm that much invested in her that I would do ANYTHING to make her happy, even if it costed me my own happiness and my own relationships."

I lost a lot of respect for him on that day. I told him that was sad and pathetic and he said I know. Lol.

That is what I define as "whipped", and he truly is! He loses his sense of self and identity in a relationship. Then when they break up... comes crawling back to his friends and family. I guess at least he is aware of these qualities in himself, though he doesn't do much to try to change it as of right now.

I so cannot stand people like that. They're pathetic and terrible people to keep around. I usually distance myself from those types, tbh.

Posted by littlenanobyte
In your friends situation, I think she was way off base and unfair in her remarks. I don't see anything wrong with a guy talking about his girlfriend/fiancé/wife a lot. I actually think it's sweet and endearing. It shows that he really cares. Maybe he wanted to get feedback about the proposal from other women? Maybe he was nervous about it? Or as someone else said, maybe he felt uncomfortable at some point and that was his way of setting boundaries.

I wouldn't be surprised if he was. She has a tendency of disrespecting relationship boundaries because she's so focused on her wants and needs. She tends to view people as commodities she needs to use for some purpose. She had a male friend where she insisted on just the two of them meeting and leaving the girlfriend out because she had nothing in common with her and didn't want to bother entertaining her presence because she'd rather just talk about what she found interesting with the dude. I was a bit flabbergasted she saw nothing wrong with this outlook. I'm like she has every right to have an issue that you want to meet with her boyfriend and intentionally exclude her. You have no room to be upset, whatsoever. :/

In this case, she was trying to have a convo and sounded miffed that he wouldn't stay on her topics and would bring up his girlfriend.

I dunno. She makes me headdesk when it comes to relationship stuff of any kind. I was just really wtf when she considered this "whipped." But like I mentioned in a few previous posts, there are a lot of people out there who mislabel all sorts of stuff because they're socially stunted and selfish fucks.