What’s your toxic trait?

My toxic trait is that I will shut down and not tell people what truly bothers me. Similar to silent treatment.

Also, wait for a perfect moment for a revenge if someone slights me.

Last but not least. I always had this principle that a friend to my enemy can’t be my friend. If you are friends with so and so and I don’t like them, we are done too ✋

Oh and sometimes I consider some people too low life to associate with. I genuinely hate that though 😬

Well, there is more. But I can’t think of everything right now 😆

Intolerance

Posted by Generosa
Passive aggressive

Moodiness

Cut people out of my life very fast, I don't even listen to them

Moodiness

Moodiness

Moodiness

🥴

Oh gosh, do I feel you on moodiness!

Same thing here 🫤

Haha! I stay too damn long thinking they will change.

Also eating crackers in bed. 🙄

My toxic trait is that I don’t think I have a toxic trait.

I am a good manipulator when I want something to go my way.

Too many to name. 😬

No BJ’s on purpose 😁

Posted by geminiflyby
Haha! I stay too damn long thinking they will change.

Eternal optimist 😀

Spend money now, worry later!

Blame all men for every man.

Posted by BadderBunny
-Vindictive

-Hold grudges

-Moody

-Easily turned off

-Blunt (aqua mercury 😒)

-Pretend to be agreeable, while continuing to do what I want any way

-Ignores red flags

-Sometimes I am the red flag

-I guess I'm flirty, but its unintentional

-Want attention, but also want to be left alone because I'm moody

-Can go from "peace, love and light" to "you can catch these hands" in a split second if you come at me wrong

Can you teach me how to pretend to be agreeable before doing whatever you want anyway? I just do the second part and it’s never well received 🤣

Rigid boundaries

Too negative

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Posted by BadderBunny
-Vindictive

-Hold grudges

-Moody

-Easily turned off

-Blunt (aqua mercury 😒)

-Pretend to be agreeable, while continuing to do what I want any way

-Ignores red flags

-Sometimes I am the red flag

-I guess I'm flirty, but its unintentional

-Want attention, but also want to be left alone because I'm moody

-Can go from "peace, love and light" to "you can catch these hands" in a split second if you come at me wrong

Can you teach me how to pretend to be agreeable before doing whatever you want anyway? I just do the second part and it’s never well received 🤣

LOL. I simply don't comment and they assume I have agreed with what they said. But I see no reason to argue because I am going to do what I want regardless. 😆 This might be my Libra mars passive aggression with my Pisces sun rebelliousness.

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Interesting! I learn from your posts. I think we are both square suns and mars so maybe that’s why. I’m Gemini/cancer mars 😆 Not sure what makes me argumentative - probably Gemini sun/taurus cusp plus moon opposite mars. Worst aspect for mars and mars placement period, in all of astrology 🚮

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Posted by nanochip
Rigid boundaries
Too negative

Too negative is the Cap moon. My Cap moon friend used to say her siblings referred to her as the dream killer. LOL.

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I really hate that for us! It feels impossible to fix at this point. We are a perpetual rain cloud 🌧️

Posted by hoeflation
Superficial charm

Glib Leo moon charm 👎 😄

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Posted by borednbeautiful
No BJ’s on purpose 😁

BJ’s off purpose?

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Oh hell no!!

Can be a bit of a bully, self-important, know-it-all, unforgiving, intense, insensitive, dramatic, doesn’t take what other people say serious, stubborn. Okay let’s stop there.

Prone to depressive episodes, but reallyyyyy great at hiding it.

Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.

I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

What in the job interview answer was that 😂

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I'm confused. I don't know what you mean.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.

I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

You have actively provoked people on here who are more outwardly aggressive, including myself. Cut the crap. 😕

Posted by black773

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

You have actively provoked people on here who are more outwardly aggressive, including myself. Cut the crap. 😕

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At least I ain't no bully like you are

Posted by black773

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

You have actively provoked people on here who are more outwardly aggressive, including myself. Cut the crap. 😕

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True. He did that to me!

But I don’t have the nerves to play those games anymore.

Using sex to get emotions and vice versa.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by black773

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

You have actively provoked people on here who are more outwardly aggressive, including myself. Cut the crap. 😕

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At least I ain't no bully like you are

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You’re flat out lying to yourself old man.

Posted by borednbeautiful

Posted by black773

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

You have actively provoked people on here who are more outwardly aggressive, including myself. Cut the crap. 😕

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True. He did that to me!

But I don’t have the nerves to play those games anymore.

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I think he is one of those people that has a kink for abuse.

Posted by black773

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by black773

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

You have actively provoked people on here who are more outwardly aggressive, including myself. Cut the crap. 😕
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At least I ain't no bully like you are

You’re flat out lying to yourself old man.

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From here on out you gonna get mentally ignored after this. Everything was going smooth around here until your bully ass came along screwing with me for no particular reason. It was so nice you ignored me and overlook past all my other posts on threads we both posted on. You is a bully, hendo is violent. So why don't you do me a favor and make me a happy man and block me if you don't like what you see coming from me. It will do both of us some good. Now goodbye kid.

I'm too honest sometimes.

My cut off game is unmatched.

Everyone gets two chances and then, then they get cut loose.

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Posted by black773

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Posted by black773

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

You have actively provoked people on here who are more outwardly aggressive, including myself. Cut the crap. 😕
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At least I ain't no bully like you are

You’re flat out lying to yourself old man.

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From here on out you gonna get mentally ignored after this. Everything was going smooth around here until your bully ass came along screwing with me for no particular reason. It was so nice you ignored me and overlook past all my other posts on threads we both posted on. You is a bully, hendo is violent. So why don't you do me a favor and make me a happy man and block me if you don't like what you see coming from me. It will do both of us some good. Now goodbye kid.

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Lmao

Posted by borednbeautiful
Using sex to get emotions and vice versa.

Guilty! 🙋🏻‍♀️

I've always had an issue with taking my own negative thoughts about myself and thinking other people are think the same thing. I tend to assume people are constantly judging, or thinking the worst about me when in reality they aren't even thinking anything about me whatsoever. So in my mind I'm assuming people have negative thoughts about me, with absolutely no proof whatsoever. So at times I create scenarios in my own head that aren't even real. All because I mentally put my own toxic traits into other people.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by slug

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

What in the job interview answer was that 😂
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I'm confused. I don't know what you mean.

An answer you would give in a job interview

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The problem is this is dxp not a job interview. I saw this a few hours ago and didn't intend to answer this. This is part of bullying me right here just like that dumbass black773 character.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by slug

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

What in the job interview answer was that 😂
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I'm confused. I don't know what you mean.

An answer you would give in a job interview
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The problem is this is dxp not a job interview. I saw this a few hours ago and didn't intend to answer this. This is part of bullying me right here just like that dumbass black773 character.

I'm not bullying you, it was a joke.

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Oh I'm just making sure this ain't one of those black773 thing. You do know that guy ain't no good. And those who ever hit the like button on just about anything that no account guy posts most likely ain't no good either. He never once in his lifetime had a girlfriend, don't know how to talk to nobody and like to spend his time laughing at people and making fun of people of all kinds. He has a difficult time accepting people for who they truly are. Nothing good about him. At all.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

What in the job interview answer was that 😂
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I'm confused. I don't know what you mean.

An answer you would give in a job interview
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The problem is this is dxp not a job interview. I saw this a few hours ago and didn't intend to answer this. This is part of bullying me right here just like that dumbass black773 character.

I'm not bullying you, it was a joke.
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Oh I'm just making sure this ain't one of those black773 thing. You do know that guy ain't no good. And those who ever hit the like button on just about anything that no account guy posts most likely ain't no good either. He never once in his lifetime had a girlfriend, don't know how to talk to nobody and like to spend his time laughing at people and making fun of people of all kinds. He has a difficult time accepting people for who they truly are. Nothing good about him. At all.

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You said you were done. You’re saying anything now. You do want me to leave you alone right? This is what I meant when I said you like to provoke. So you’re not nice either. There’s usually a point I’m trying to prove. I don’t know what you are on about. 😆

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Being too nice. I feel like my nice and kindness get taken for granted and weakness. Like it's ok for other people to not be so nice and let out steam but the minute I do the same I'm wrong and mean. People is hell. For this reason is why I choose to be a loner that don't trust too easily.
I can't possibly think of anything more toxic than that. Being nice might sound good to y'all but it sure as hell make me feel like I'm truly a bad guy. All other so call toxic traits I have might be toxic to y'all but not to me.

What in the job interview answer was that 😂
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I'm confused. I don't know what you mean.

An answer you would give in a job interview
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The problem is this is dxp not a job interview. I saw this a few hours ago and didn't intend to answer this. This is part of bullying me right here just like that dumbass black773 character.

I'm not bullying you, it was a joke.
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Oh I'm just making sure this ain't one of those black773 thing. You do know that guy ain't no good. And those who ever hit the like button on just about anything that no account guy posts most likely ain't no good either. He never once in his lifetime had a girlfriend, don't know how to talk to nobody and like to spend his time laughing at people and making fun of people of all kinds. He has a difficult time accepting people for who they truly are. Nothing good about him. At all.

But you do the same thing. You're a shit stirrer and an instigator. LOL. You make fun of people. You encourage others to make fun of people. You're not to nice, cause you aren't really nice.

Thats why she said your response sounded like an interview answer because it was an attempt to spin a positive into a negative. Like when people ask whats you weakness? And you say oh I just take on to much and I need to learn to delegate my work. Bye lol.

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I'm only nice to those that deem worthy of it from me. I treat people accordingly. You act like an asshole towards me you'll get the same in return. I'm not nice to black simply because he's not nice. Maybe if he tried being nice just once in a lifetime and quit trying to find something from someone's post to pick on then I'll be nice to him. The solution is plain and simple. I don't like him. And even if he do try being nice now it's too late.

I never thought I could get underneath a lot of users thin skin and have them living rent free in their little heads.

I'm done and about to finish punishing the rest of my beers. I would suggest the rest of you all to do the same. Please find a hobby kick back and unwind or something and let's not let me and my opinions get underneath y'all's skin.

Shut down & don’t express feelings. Ya run away sometimes

Too optimistic

Stay too long because of that damn hope thing

Too independent

country music?

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Passive aggressive, sensitive, handful, procrastinator, need attention, hates confrontation, loves to argue but then gets upset. If I don’t like u, then I’m hard to talk to and stoic. can be unforgiving or too forgiving, Pisces mars btw but also I prob got other issues

What’s your sun and moon?

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Passive aggressive, sensitive, handful, procrastinator, need attention, hates confrontation, loves to argue but then gets upset. If I don’t like u, then I’m hard to talk to and stoic. can be unforgiving or too forgiving, Pisces mars btw but also I prob got other issues

What’s your sun and moon?
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cancer libra 🫠

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Leeb moon hates confrontation ☺️

I see all that Aries transit has caused some heat to boil over in here.

My disassociativeness.

The lack of connection on any level with someone at will creates disturbing results.

Changing dialogue from friend to acquaintance/means to an end. Often not on purpose. 💀

If you don't want certain ppl in your life this is the ultimate tool.

Keep in mind it takes a LOT or serious shit to phase me.

I can be very very stubborn when I get emotional. The more upset I am the longer it takes for me to calm down. I don't rage but I will vent because I absolutely hate losing my cool.

When I focus, there is a chance I will hyper focus and tune out everything and everyone else.

When I am really hurting, Ill look for comfort like a needy child or go get laid in order to get it out of my system. I don't have anyone to talk to about my shit so this is what I do.

I do a lot of shit for others I seem to not want to do for myself.

I fight the urge to say fuck it and go disappear into my own world.

Posted by PuzzlePieces
Shut down & don’t express feelings. Ya run away sometimes

Too optimistic

Stay too long because of that damn hope thing

Too independent

Too independent? Im curious.

It's true men feel more connected, builds attachment, doing stuff for thier partner they can do themselves. Being relied upon. Trust building etc.

Is that what you are refering to?

Or are you the do everything myself when I don't have to and struggle more then necessary because of pride?🫠

What do you mean by too independent?

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Posted by PuzzlePieces
Shut down & don’t express feelings. Ya run away sometimes

Too optimistic

Stay too long because of that damn hope thing

Too independent

Too independent? Im curious.
It's true men feel more connected, builds attachment, doing stuff for thier partner they can do themselves. Being relied upon. Trust building etc.
Is that what you are refering to?
Or are you the do everything myself when I don't have to and struggle more then necessary because of pride?🫠
What do you mean by too independent?

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I just automatically do things myself, partially it’s how I was raised I guess. When I was married my ex actually let me do things myself or handle them too. Well not everything but definitely more than other guys. Also, I was also single a long time after my divorce so I wasn’t used to letting guys do things for me. I have to admit I did miss having a partner who was there for me.

Right now my boyfriend is the type who likes to do things for me. Sometimes he reminds me it’s his job because I just automatically start to do things myself. I’m adjusting though lol

I am not the type that insists on doing things myself. It’s just I can so I do. I also am not the type who will ask someone else to do things. I will try myself unless I need help. I think some guys have trouble with this & that I have a professional job and don’t “need” to be taken care of. There are obviously things that I am not so good at, everybody has those things different for everyone. My boyfriend insists on doing things for me that helps take the stress off me. 🙂 I feel guilty when he does though. But he says he likes to pamper me. Hey at least we have communication.. and I realize I should let him.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by PuzzlePieces
Shut down & don’t express feelings. Ya run away sometimes
Too optimistic
Stay too long because of that damn hope thing
Too independent

Too independent? Im curious.

It's true men feel more connected, builds attachment, doing stuff for thier partner they can do themselves. Being relied upon. Trust building etc.

Is that what you are refering to?

Or are you the do everything myself when I don't have to and struggle more then necessary because of pride?🫠

What do you mean by too independent?
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I just automatically do things myself, partially it’s how I was raised I guess. When I was married my ex actually let me do things myself or handle them too. Well not everything but definitely more than other guys. Also, I was also single a long time after my divorce so I wasn’t used to letting guys do things for me. I have to admit I did miss having a partner who was there for me.

Right now my boyfriend is the type who likes to do things for me. Sometimes he reminds me it’s his job because I just automatically start to do things myself. I’m adjusting though lol

I am not the type that insists on doing things myself. It’s just I can so I do. I also am not the type who will ask someone else to do things. I will try myself unless I need help. I think some guys have trouble with this & that I have a professional job and don’t “need” to be taken care of. There are obviously things that I am not so good at, everybody has those things different for everyone. My boyfriend insists on doing things for me that helps take the stress off me. I feel guilty when he does though. But he says he likes to pamper me. Hey at least we have communication.. and I realize I should let him.

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Is he feeling better now?

Did he go for help/therapy?

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by PuzzlePieces
Shut down & don’t express feelings. Ya run away sometimes
Too optimistic
Stay too long because of that damn hope thing
Too independent

Too independent? Im curious.

It's true men feel more connected, builds attachment, doing stuff for thier partner they can do themselves. Being relied upon. Trust building etc.

Is that what you are refering to?

Or are you the do everything myself when I don't have to and struggle more then necessary because of pride?🫠

What do you mean by too independent?
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I just automatically do things myself, partially it’s how I was raised I guess. When I was married my ex actually let me do things myself or handle them too. Well not everything but definitely more than other guys. Also, I was also single a long time after my divorce so I wasn’t used to letting guys do things for me. I have to admit I did miss having a partner who was there for me.

Right now my boyfriend is the type who likes to do things for me. Sometimes he reminds me it’s his job because I just automatically start to do things myself. I’m adjusting though lol

I am not the type that insists on doing things myself. It’s just I can so I do. I also am not the type who will ask someone else to do things. I will try myself unless I need help. I think some guys have trouble with this & that I have a professional job and don’t “need” to be taken care of. There are obviously things that I am not so good at, everybody has those things different for everyone. My boyfriend insists on doing things for me that helps take the stress off me. I feel guilty when he does though. But he says he likes to pamper me. Hey at least we have communication.. and I realize I should let him.

Is he feeling better now?
Did he go for help/therapy?

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He is feeling better. He went to his brother’s house & has been there a couple of weeks. ( it’s a 8 hour drive). His brother needed some help at his company & they had a remodel at their house they wanted done. Also has been fishing with friends, going to church and seeing friends. ( He used to live there). So they’ve been keeping him busy. He will need to work on the therapy & some other things when he gets back. He is in agreement about what he needs to do for us to have a good life & him to have a good life. He also has some jobs lined up here for when he gets back. Staying busy is key.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by PuzzlePieces
Shut down & don’t express feelings. Ya run away sometimes
Too optimistic
Stay too long because of that damn hope thing
Too independent

Too independent? Im curious.

It's true men feel more connected, builds attachment, doing stuff for thier partner they can do themselves. Being relied upon. Trust building etc.

Is that what you are refering to?

Or are you the do everything myself when I don't have to and struggle more then necessary because of pride?🫠

What do you mean by too independent?
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I just automatically do things myself, partially it’s how I was raised I guess. When I was married my ex actually let me do things myself or handle them too. Well not everything but definitely more than other guys. Also, I was also single a long time after my divorce so I wasn’t used to letting guys do things for me. I have to admit I did miss having a partner who was there for me.

Right now my boyfriend is the type who likes to do things for me. Sometimes he reminds me it’s his job because I just automatically start to do things myself. I’m adjusting though lol

I am not the type that insists on doing things myself. It’s just I can so I do. I also am not the type who will ask someone else to do things. I will try myself unless I need help. I think some guys have trouble with this & that I have a professional job and don’t “need” to be taken care of. There are obviously things that I am not so good at, everybody has those things different for everyone. My boyfriend insists on doing things for me that helps take the stress off me. I feel guilty when he does though. But he says he likes to pamper me. Hey at least we have communication.. and I realize I should let him.

Is he feeling better now?

Did he go for help/therapy?

He is feeling better. He went to his brother’s house & has been there a couple of weeks. ( it’s a 8 hour drive). His brother needed some help at his company & they had a remodel at their house they wanted done. Also has been fishing with friends, going to church and seeing friends. ( He used to live there). So they’ve been keeping him busy. He will need to work on the therapy & some other things when he gets back. He is in agreement about what he needs to do for us to have a good life & him to have a good life. He also has some jobs lined up here for when he gets back. Staying busy is key.

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Good to hear 😊

Staying busy is good but not if it’s a way to

avoid and push down the issues.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by PuzzlePieces
Shut down & don’t express feelings. Ya run away sometimes
Too optimistic
Stay too long because of that damn hope thing
Too independent

Too independent? Im curious.

It's true men feel more connected, builds attachment, doing stuff for thier partner they can do themselves. Being relied upon. Trust building etc.

Is that what you are refering to?

Or are you the do everything myself when I don't have to and struggle more then necessary because of pride?🫠

What do you mean by too independent?
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I just automatically do things myself, partially it’s how I was raised I guess. When I was married my ex actually let me do things myself or handle them too. Well not everything but definitely more than other guys. Also, I was also single a long time after my divorce so I wasn’t used to letting guys do things for me. I have to admit I did miss having a partner who was there for me.

Right now my boyfriend is the type who likes to do things for me. Sometimes he reminds me it’s his job because I just automatically start to do things myself. I’m adjusting though lol

I am not the type that insists on doing things myself. It’s just I can so I do. I also am not the type who will ask someone else to do things. I will try myself unless I need help. I think some guys have trouble with this & that I have a professional job and don’t “need” to be taken care of. There are obviously things that I am not so good at, everybody has those things different for everyone. My boyfriend insists on doing things for me that helps take the stress off me. I feel guilty when he does though. But he says he likes to pamper me. Hey at least we have communication.. and I realize I should let him.

Is he feeling better now?


Did he go for help/therapy?

He is feeling better. He went to his brother’s house & has been there a couple of weeks. ( it’s a 8 hour drive). His brother needed some help at his company & they had a remodel at their house they wanted done. Also has been fishing with friends, going to church and seeing friends. ( He used to live there). So they’ve been keeping him busy. He will need to work on the therapy & some other things when he gets back. He is in agreement about what he needs to do for us to have a good life & him to have a good life. He also has some jobs lined up here for when he gets back. Staying busy is key.

Good to hear 😊
Staying busy is good but not if it’s a way to
avoid and push down the issues.

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Yes I agree, but in this case he needs to. He will also need to slow down and concentrate on self care. It’s similar to my daughter & he’s been talking to her about what she does also.