What’s your toxic trait? (Page 2)

If I say I need to step back in a disagreement because I'm getting frustrated and the other person keeps going, I'll verbally attack like a lioness going for the kill. I don't think about it, plan it, or really even hold much control over it. I don't like it, but I know when I'm getting there and try to exit stage right, but some people just can't take a break, then I reach a breaking point and boil over.

Posted by borednbeautiful
My toxic trait is that I will shut down and not tell people what truly bothers me. Similar to silent treatment.

Also, wait for a perfect moment for a revenge if someone slights me.

Last but not least. I always had this principle that a friend to my enemy can’t be my friend. If you are friends with so and so and I don’t like them, we are done too ✋

Oh and sometimes I consider some people too low life to associate with. I genuinely hate that though 😬

Walking out the room when someone is talking about something I don't want to discuss.

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by PuzzlePieces
Shut down & don’t express feelings. Ya run away sometimes

Too optimistic

Stay too long because of that damn hope thing

Too independent

Too independent? Im curious.

It's true men feel more connected, builds attachment, doing stuff for thier partner they can do themselves. Being relied upon. Trust building etc.

Is that what you are refering to?

Or are you the do everything myself when I don't have to and struggle more then necessary because of pride?🫠

What do you mean by too independent?

I just automatically do things myself, partially it’s how I was raised I guess. When I was married my ex actually let me do things myself or handle them too. Well not everything but definitely more than other guys. Also, I was also single a long time after my divorce so I wasn’t used to letting guys do things for me. I have to admit I did miss having a partner who was there for me.

Right now my boyfriend is the type who likes to do things for me. Sometimes he reminds me it’s his job because I just automatically start to do things myself. I’m adjusting though lol

I am not the type that insists on doing things myself. It’s just I can so I do. I also am not the type who will ask someone else to do things. I will try myself unless I need help. I think some guys have trouble with this & that I have a professional job and don’t “need” to be taken care of. There are obviously things that I am not so good at, everybody has those things different for everyone. My boyfriend insists on doing things for me that helps take the stress off me. 🙂 I feel guilty when he does though. But he says he likes to pamper me. Hey at least we have communication.. and I realize I should let him.

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"My boyfriend insists on doing things for me that helps take the stress off me. 🙂 I feel guilty when he does though. But he says he likes to pamper me. Hey at least we have communication.. and I realize I should let him"

Yes please let him. It's a way to show tlc for some of us, it makes of happy. Not trying to be a "man" just how we are.

" But he says he likes to pamper me."

Especially this, I personally love spoiling and pampering. Once again let him the ways you prefer that makes you feel that way for a bonus.

I really miss doing all of this.

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by PuzzlePieces
Shut down & don’t express feelings. Ya run away sometimes

Too optimistic

Stay too long because of that damn hope thing

Too independent

Too independent? Im curious.


It's true men feel more connected, builds attachment, doing stuff for thier partner they can do themselves. Being relied upon. Trust building etc.


Is that what you are refering to?


Or are you the do everything myself when I don't have to and struggle more then necessary because of pride?🫠


What do you mean by too independent?

I just automatically do things myself, partially it’s how I was raised I guess. When I was married my ex actually let me do things myself or handle them too. Well not everything but definitely more than other guys. Also, I was also single a long time after my divorce so I wasn’t used to letting guys do things for me. I have to admit I did miss having a partner who was there for me.



Right now my boyfriend is the type who likes to do things for me. Sometimes he reminds me it’s his job because I just automatically start to do things myself. I’m adjusting though lol



I am not the type that insists on doing things myself. It’s just I can so I do. I also am not the type who will ask someone else to do things. I will try myself unless I need help. I think some guys have trouble with this & that I have a professional job and don’t “need” to be taken care of. There are obviously things that I am not so good at, everybody has those things different for everyone. My boyfriend insists on doing things for me that helps take the stress off me. 🙂 I feel guilty when he does though. But he says he likes to pamper me. Hey at least we have communication.. and I realize I should let him.

"My boyfriend insists on doing things for me that helps take the stress off me. 🙂 I feel guilty when he does though. But he says he likes to pamper me. Hey at least we have communication.. and I realize I should let him"
Yes please let him. It's a way to show tlc for some of us, it makes of happy. Not trying to be a "man" just how we are.
" But he says he likes to pamper me."
Especially this, I personally love spoiling and pampering. Once again let him the ways you prefer that makes you feel that way for a bonus.
I really miss doing all of this.

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Yes I am trying to let him. I do like it 🙂 Just forget sometimes & that’s when he says something.

Leo Mercury

I can be pretty immature, I can be get way too into picking sides and being clicky and shit talking about people behind their back even if I don't realize it. I'm awefull at not realizing how my "joking around" can be actually mean and fucking with people.

When other people are stressed out I just think "chill the fuck out it's all good mate" but when I'm stressed out I want them to understand me and not expect me to be chill. Hahaha I'm a massive dickhead tbh.

Swearing a lot

Lately my toxic trait is merely existing.