What would you do?

Sooo, here's a situation?

(females pretend you're a dude)

If you were to see your sister with a mark on her face, and she says her ex-boyfriend hit her on the face, what would you do?

A.) Hit the abused ex

B.) Tell her to never come near the guy again

C.) Say she deserves it

D.) Do nothing

Males* imagine yourself as the female and you see your little brother with a mark with the same situation, but an ex-girlfriend, what would you do?

By using the options above.

B and contact authorities.

My instinct may be to go beat the shit out of the person but violence does not solve violence.

good question

Posted by JadeAlexander
There is so much more to domestic abuse....

Is she with the guy at all? If the relationship is over I’d file a report. And I would let the ex know you’re aware of what he is and it he won’t be tolerated.

My husband was physical for years. I just lived with denial and believed he was sorry and it would never happen again. Helping your sister come to terms with her experience so she won’t allow him or anyone to victimize her again is the bigger goal.

I totally relate with your last paragraph. I was also in a similar situation for years.

There's a lot more going on in domestic abuse.

Even on the husbands side, my ex had been dealing with many more issues than just abuse, he was depressed, and even tried to attempt against his own life. We have kids and it hurt me to see him like that.

I had to separate from him, and I figured that getting him more involved with the kids will make him realize that there's so much more to life mostly when your kids love him.

of course, it depends on how he is and if you are willing to help both sides.

Posted by JadeAlexander

Posted by Aerazo

Posted by JadeAlexander
There is so much more to domestic abuse....

Is she with the guy at all? If the relationship is over I’d file a report. And I would let the ex know you’re aware of what he is and it he won’t be tolerated.

My husband was physical for years. I just lived with denial and believed he was sorry and it would never happen again. Helping your sister come to terms with her experience so she won’t allow him or anyone to victimize her again is the bigger goal.

I totally relate with your last paragraph. I was also in a similar situation for years.

There's a lot more going on in domestic abuse.

Even on the husbands side, my ex had been dealing with many more issues than just abuse, he was depressed, and even tried to attempt against his own life. We have kids and it hurt me to see him like that.

I had to separate from him, and I figured that getting him more involved with the kids will make him realize that there's so much more to life mostly when your kids love him.

of course, it depends on how he is and if you are willing to help both sides.

Yes... because of the kids everything is even harder. I want him to be a better father, to understand how to treat people. I wanted him to get help for his issues too. Go to the right sources so he can learn how to grow. I want him to be happy.

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Thats good, even though is not your issue, not addressing it may cause more harm mostly if there are kids involved.

Maybe talk to her and see what she thinks and find a way to discuss this would be a good way to approach it.