What's Real Wealth to You?

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The ability to stay focused despite distractions around.

The ability to be a rock when life turned upside down.

The ability to be clear despite unclear situations/conditions.

The ability to stay humble while being rich.

The ability to raise people up despite challenges.

The ability to stay active despite being demotivated..


If you had to pick one, which one would you pick? Or which one of the list do you relate to the most?
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The ability to stay focused despite distractions around.

The ability to be a rock when life turned upside down.

The ability to be clear despite unclear situations/conditions.

The ability to stay humble while being rich.

The ability to raise people up despite challenges.

The ability to stay active despite being demotivated..

If you had to pick one, which one would you pick? Or which one of the list do you relate to the most?
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Always no. 2 .. that is my numerology digit tbh.. and it is also funny that I am a 2nd decan scorp, so.. if I am able to pull it off, I can be master number 11. Wish me luck and wish all the best of luck for you too 💕
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The ability to stay focused despite distractions around.

The ability to be a rock when life turned upside down.

The ability to be clear despite unclear situations/conditions.

The ability to stay humble while being rich.

The ability to raise people up despite challenges.

The ability to stay active despite being demotivated..


If you had to pick one, which one would you pick? Or which one of the list do you relate to the most?click to expand

Always no. 2 .. that is my numerology digit tbh.. and it is also funny that I am a 2nd decan scorp, so.. if I am able to pull it off, I can be master number 11. Wish me luck and wish all the best of luck for you too 💕
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Wishing you luck 🙏
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Nothing? 🤔click to expand


Honestly I really don't know. I'll have to go with everybody else answer on this thread. I don't have one of my own.

If you were to pick one from all the answers in the thread, which one would you go by?
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Was everybody though it pretty much was a toss up between enfant terrible and midatbest one but until rabbit came in with this best answer

The ability to tell world leaders "suck my cock, bitch" and suffer no consequences.

So there you have it. That answer beats all.
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Posted by SadHatter
It took me forever to learn this, and it feels like a mental breakdown becasue ive spent my entire life focused on attaining traditional measures of success and wealth. And ive done well at it. I was here to shake down this world and take from its pockets what was mine all along. Thats how I viewed life growing up poor within a very wealthy family who withheld their resources.

Ive never been a "relationship guy", yet I was very seldom single, and I cant recall a relationship under 7 years ive had. Ive never been singel for long either. I also don't recall ever pursuing any of them. I was very caveman - i hunted and brought home the kills, we all feasted, and id leave to do it again, in trade for sex amd security. As cold as that sounds in writing, it wasnt, I try to be a good human.. what im trying to say is there was never a connection, emotionally. I thought there was. If youd have asked I would have said I was. I didnt know what I didnt know. I think a lot of people have that arrangement. That was my relationship model my entire life. So, 90% of my focus was about that next move, the next kill, more.

Between my son, meeting someone unexpectedly that i fell for so hard it absolutely scared me, and smacks in the face that im not immortal, and maybe its easier coming from a place of abundance after years of the hunt. But, it seems clear in the 2nd half of my life that wealth is definitely love, emotional connection, caring for and being cared for by someone you enjoy hanging out with, and actively look forward to seeing. That could be a SO, a friend, your child, family, just someone you click with and its natural. That person you want in the rocking chair next to you to watch the sun set.

I think id even rank that above health. Ive spent time in Children's Hospitals in a former career, and the smiles and joy from the kids who knew their time was almost up, all because they were surrounded by the people they loved and who loved them.. Even then I was was envious of that, I just didnt know how to quantify it. I mean isnt that the best anyone can hope for in life? To pass peacefully surrounded by your loved ones? I think thats the wealth everyone should hope for.


Very well said.

I gotta ask tho... Why "SadHatter" and not something like "HappyHatter"?
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Posted by SadHatter
It took me forever to learn this, and it feels like a mental breakdown becasue ive spent my entire life focused on attaining traditional measures of success and wealth. And ive done well at it. I was here to shake down this world and take from its pockets what was mine all along. Thats how I viewed life growing up poor within a very wealthy family who withheld their resources.

Ive never been a "relationship guy", yet I was very seldom single, and I cant recall a relationship under 7 years ive had. Ive never been singel for long either. I also don't recall ever pursuing any of them. I was very caveman - i hunted and brought home the kills, we all feasted, and id leave to do it again, in trade for sex amd security. As cold as that sounds in writing, it wasnt, I try to be a good human.. what im trying to say is there was never a connection, emotionally. I thought there was. If youd have asked I would have said I was. I didnt know what I didnt know. I think a lot of people have that arrangement. That was my relationship model my entire life. So, 90% of my focus was about that next move, the next kill, more.

Between my son, meeting someone unexpectedly that i fell for so hard it absolutely scared me, and smacks in the face that im not immortal, and maybe its easier coming from a place of abundance after years of the hunt. But, it seems clear in the 2nd half of my life that wealth is definitely love, emotional connection, caring for and being cared for by someone you enjoy hanging out with, and actively look forward to seeing. That could be a SO, a friend, your child, family, just someone you click with and its natural. That person you want in the rocking chair next to you to watch the sun set.

I think id even rank that above health. Ive spent time in Children's Hospitals in a former career, and the smiles and joy from the kids who knew their time was almost up, all because they were surrounded by the people they loved and who loved them.. Even then I was was envious of that, I just didnt know how to quantify it. I mean isnt that the best anyone can hope for in life? To pass peacefully surrounded by your loved ones? I think thats the wealth everyone should hope for.


Very well said.

I gotta ask tho... Why "SadHatter" and not something like "HappyHatter"?click to expand

You want the long reason or the condensed version?
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The long reason
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I was just thinking about wealth. I just watched this video - naturally another Aries. I have really been gravitating towards Rams lately - so many good points he makes.



What is real wealth? Knowing is wealth. Knowing what? Knowing how this world is organized, and who is behind this organization. But we all must have a roof over our heads and enough to eat, mustn't we? Not so fast. Remember you are on the battlefield that is life - defend yourself!

When Christ rearranged molecules into 'food' and fed the many what does it mean really? It is profound - it is very big. Wealth can be reduced down to material matter yet Christ just reduced material matter down to something that he could make out of nothing and multiply. You mean material matter is nothing really? Yes it is nothing. The more material nothing you possess the more likely you are to miss the giant mountain sitting behind this nothing.

Bypass this obsession with 'nothing' because it is just a distraction and will keep you occupied in nothing - that is wasting your time. At it's finest it is just a pile of light. Quit being a mouse running through this material maze - because this material maze has been proven to be false. In the big picture seek 'Whom' is projecting this 'nothing material matter' before you. That is real wealth. How frightening to know how truly vulnerable little children we really are - we really have nothing, in fact. Though some have much nothing and base their lives on accumulating this nothing.
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Posted by victoria-sakura
Posted by SadHatter
It took me forever to learn this, and it feels like a mental breakdown becasue ive spent my entire life focused on attaining traditional measures of success and wealth. And ive done well at it. I was here to shake down this world and take from its pockets what was mine all along. Thats how I viewed life growing up poor within a very wealthy family who withheld their resources.

Ive never been a "relationship guy", yet I was very seldom single, and I cant recall a relationship under 7 years ive had. Ive never been singel for long either. I also don't recall ever pursuing any of them. I was very caveman - i hunted and brought home the kills, we all feasted, and id leave to do it again, in trade for sex amd security. As cold as that sounds in writing, it wasnt, I try to be a good human.. what im trying to say is there was never a connection, emotionally. I thought there was. If youd have asked I would have said I was. I didnt know what I didnt know. I think a lot of people have that arrangement. That was my relationship model my entire life. So, 90% of my focus was about that next move, the next kill, more.

Between my son, meeting someone unexpectedly that i fell for so hard it absolutely scared me, and smacks in the face that im not immortal, and maybe its easier coming from a place of abundance after years of the hunt. But, it seems clear in the 2nd half of my life that wealth is definitely love, emotional connection, caring for and being cared for by someone you enjoy hanging out with, and actively look forward to seeing. That could be a SO, a friend, your child, family, just someone you click with and its natural. That person you want in the rocking chair next to you to watch the sun set.

I think id even rank that above health. Ive spent time in Children's Hospitals in a former career, and the smiles and joy from the kids who knew their time was almost up, all because they were surrounded by the people they loved and who loved them.. Even then I was was envious of that, I just didnt know how to quantify it. I mean isnt that the best anyone can hope for in life? To pass peacefully surrounded by your loved ones? I think thats the wealth everyone should hope for.


Very well said.

I gotta ask tho... Why "SadHatter" and not something like "HappyHatter"?click to expand

You want the long reason or the condensed version?click to expand


The long reasonclick to expand

Im going to try to keep it as light as possible. But basically what I wrote in the previous post. Ive spent the last few months reflecting back. Assessing priorities. Realizing the path I had chosen all my life constantly left me feeling empty. Thinking about all the people who sacrificed themselves so I could feed the machine for myself. How selfish I was. Something ive never been able to justify in my mind is the woman I almost married wanted a child so bad, but I put it off and put it off, along with getting married. A major career change for me made her anxious, so instead of all the other ways I could have handled it I chose to walk away from a 10 year relationship reasoning in my mind that she just didnt have faith in me.. then a couple years later had a child I didnt want with a woman i had no intention to stay with. My baby mama becoming an alcoholic in part because while I fully accepted my son wholeheartedly, Ive always kept her at arms length (I did help her and shes good now, that dynamic has changed some. I mean i cant have my son's mother acting a fool, for him). I honestly wondered, on occasion, if I wasnt a psychopath. Then I met someone unexpectedly and over time softened up. Like.ice melted. But that ended up being my Karma for all the other shit I mentioned. The tables had turned. I was gutted. I wanted to ice back up and go back to what id always done. But when you stand at the crossroads of where youve been and where you know now you could go? I cant go back. Im not even mad at the one who crushed me, im kinda happy I there was enough life in that part of me to feel being crushed. How does it go? Sometime you have to bleed so you know youre alive? But now i know there's a pulse. I need to make amends with some people, and apologize to others while i shift my priorities from the rat race, to connecting with the people who love me at the same level.

So, im not a HappyHatter, yet . I'm still a SadHatter while I bury the MadHatter and re-map my brain to be a little less up my own ass. Ill get there
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" 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. " - Alfred Lord Tennyson 🙂
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Posted by SadHatter
It took me forever to learn this, and it feels like a mental breakdown becasue ive spent my entire life focused on attaining traditional measures of success and wealth. And ive done well at it. I was here to shake down this world and take from its pockets what was mine all along. Thats how I viewed life growing up poor within a very wealthy family who withheld their resources.

Ive never been a "relationship guy", yet I was very seldom single, and I cant recall a relationship under 7 years ive had. Ive never been singel for long either. I also don't recall ever pursuing any of them. I was very caveman - i hunted and brought home the kills, we all feasted, and id leave to do it again, in trade for sex amd security. As cold as that sounds in writing, it wasnt, I try to be a good human.. what im trying to say is there was never a connection, emotionally. I thought there was. If youd have asked I would have said I was. I didnt know what I didnt know. I think a lot of people have that arrangement. That was my relationship model my entire life. So, 90% of my focus was about that next move, the next kill, more.

Between my son, meeting someone unexpectedly that i fell for so hard it absolutely scared me, and smacks in the face that im not immortal, and maybe its easier coming from a place of abundance after years of the hunt. But, it seems clear in the 2nd half of my life that wealth is definitely love, emotional connection, caring for and being cared for by someone you enjoy hanging out with, and actively look forward to seeing. That could be a SO, a friend, your child, family, just someone you click with and its natural. That person you want in the rocking chair next to you to watch the sun set.

I think id even rank that above health. Ive spent time in Children's Hospitals in a former career, and the smiles and joy from the kids who knew their time was almost up, all because they were surrounded by the people they loved and who loved them.. Even then I was was envious of that, I just didnt know how to quantify it. I mean isnt that the best anyone can hope for in life? To pass peacefully surrounded by your loved ones? I think thats the wealth everyone should hope for.

Very well said.

I gotta ask tho... Why "SadHatter" and not something like "HappyHatter"?click to expand


You want the long reason or the condensed version?click to expand

The long reasonclick to expand


Im going to try to keep it as light as possible. But basically what I wrote in the previous post. Ive spent the last few months reflecting back. Assessing priorities. Realizing the path I had chosen all my life constantly left me feeling empty. Thinking about all the people who sacrificed themselves so I could feed the machine for myself. How selfish I was. Something ive never been able to justify in my mind is the woman I almost married wanted a child so bad, but I put it off and put it off, along with getting married. A major career change for me made her anxious, so instead of all the other ways I could have handled it I chose to walk away from a 10 year relationship reasoning in my mind that she just didnt have faith in me.. then a couple years later had a child I didnt want with a woman i had no intention to stay with. My baby mama becoming an alcoholic in part because while I fully accepted my son wholeheartedly, Ive always kept her at arms length (I did help her and shes good now, that dynamic has changed some. I mean i cant have my son's mother acting a fool, for him). I honestly wondered, on occasion, if I wasnt a psychopath. Then I met someone unexpectedly and over time softened up. Like.ice melted. But that ended up being my Karma for all the other shit I mentioned. The tables had turned. I was gutted. I wanted to ice back up and go back to what id always done. But when you stand at the crossroads of where youve been and where you know now you could go? I cant go back. Im not even mad at the one who crushed me, im kinda happy I there was enough life in that part of me to feel being crushed. How does it go? Sometime you have to bleed so you know youre alive? But now i know there's a pulse. I need to make amends with some people, and apologize to others while i shift my priorities from the rat race, to connecting with the people who love me at the same level.

So, im not a HappyHatter, yet . I'm still a SadHatter while I bury the MadHatter and re-map my brain to be a little less up my own ass. Ill get thereclick to expand

" 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. " - Alfred Lord Tennyson 🙂
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I believe that. The most thrilling and most profoundly stressful times in my life yet exhilarating times in my life was the break up. That sense of freedom from being in “bondage” or possession was the most exhilarating part.
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Good health, time well spent (even that means - resting or time off from the usual chaos of a modern life), good company, a peaceful home-place (or else it doesn't really feel like home), meaningful experiences (any type of experience - which involves positive emotions/feelings - or positive emotional wealth if you will - the type you remember for years to come - while yearning for similar gains, be it - in a similar context - or entirely different / could involve/imply people - but not necessarily).
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Posted by SadHatter


I was wrong about a lot of this. Its not the work side of those for me. Im still proud of my accomplishments, amd I really couldn't imagine the mental turmoil id put myself through not having goals to progress towards in all areas of my life.. all this was blaming the wrong things.

I started my business towards the end of my previous relationship. I ended things and went full into making sure I put everything I had into it. Partly because she was scared id fail and it would affect her also. And it would have, she wasn't wrong. But I did it. I made it happen. But I shed the softer side of me, the more relationship-stable side of me to make it happen. I became a dismissive avoidant. I didnt let anyone into what I was building. I had some people whom I dated who attempted to destroy what I was building. That only solidified my avoidance. So, in essence, I withdrew from the relationship side of life, to invest that energy into my business. I stayed in mission.

My previous career before my business I worked for the government. I had a super easy schedule 24 on 48 off, so I had a good balance, we were stable, we were happy. At work I had authority, but the job was the job. I didn't have to build anything. It was all mapped out, I just had to fill the role. Not a lot of stress in the work structure itself. Shit, if im being honest, if you look good, are in good shape, and have a fun personality, you can climb the ranks in firefighting fairly easily. Bonus points if youre actually competent as well. Thats what I came from. Big difference from starting a business from the ground up. Once I got established, I was used to complete control, making the decisions on where we were headed, what our philosophy was, what pur morals would be, all of it. No cracks. Be gentle but firm. No finger holds for people to crack me. Didn't date anyone who I worked with in any capacity because I was my business. It was never the lack of opportunity. I had someone try to destroy everything after a short period of dating, and i was able to repair it and grow. It was my child that i grew. Stay on mission.

What I missed in the previous post was what was really missing. Its not hollow accomplishments. If course some mean more than others, but its none of that. Shit, if I didn't have that - the knowledge that I can conquer anything I throw myself into, id hate to see myself. I wouldn't want to know that guy. What I was missing and overlooking was the ability to take the high performer mask off and just be me with someone who thats all they wanted - just me. Not for what I bring to the table. Not what I can do for them. Not use me for anything. For the past almost 15 years now ive been the boss. I dont show weakness. Ill show kindness, but no uncertainty, no second guessing, no doubts.. I have to be the mentor. I have to provide guidance. I have to be the leader, for all.of us. Cut people who dont perform or just dont align with my values. Its not a burden though, I enjoy it, but I have to supress the doubts, the uncertainty, all that within myself and just push through. The feedback I get from my people and our shared success, validates that side of me.

What i know now is if need that person who isnt involved in my work. Who is the place where I can take the mask off. I always thought the the phrase "home is where the heart is" meant the people in my home have my heart.. and that may be true, still. But what ive came to realize is what im really looking for is someone who has my heart so much that they feel like home. Where I can walk in the door and hang up the work mask and just chill. I honestly never knew that side of me.

Lol here's something odd, but true.. I've cut my own hair since I was in 6th grade. My barber screwed up my hair and so I taught myself to do it. Ive done it myself for the past 30+ years. It was definitely control. And definitely control to avoid disappointment. I had my hair cut this week. And I didnt do it myself. Sounds dumb.. but, its hard for me to trust people other than myself.. but its also hard for me to not be trusted by someone. quite the conundrum.. I guess i gotta start somewhere.


As someone who's mostly an outsider looking in, I'm glad you're starting to lower the walls down and let other people in, however slow that progress may be. I really hope you will be able to find that person who just knows how to make your place of residence a complete home.