Cancer Moon. How to get the crab to open up?

Hi- First let me say thanks for reading.

Here's the deal-

Me: Aries Sun, Virgo Rising, Virgo Moon
Him: Aries Sun, Leo Rising, Cancer Moon

Started off as an LDR back in April. Fun little vacations. LOTS of sex. Lots of yearning. Sigh.

Found a job in L.A. which motivated my move here from Chicago. Of course he had alot to do with it too! But I wouldn't have done it JUST for him, it was a wise career move, too.

Long story short- it's almost like we sped up to slow down. He aggressively pursued me at first, but now that I'm here it's like he wants to slow down. Not super interested in sex, not incredibly affectionate, not verbally expressive with his emotions, etc.

Don't get me wrong. He's sweet and thoughtful and DOES things that indicates he really cares. He just doesn't say them and would rather cuddle than have sex sometimes.

So this morning I dropped the L bomb. To which he responded with "I really like you, I'm just not there yet."

WTF?! Almost 5 months of dating, I moved across the country, etc. and you "really like me?" What does it take to get this guy to open up to me?

Whenever I try to discuss feelings or emotions, he totally changes the topic and sidesteps the issues. It's like I have to try and pry his feelings out of him which I feel just pushes him further away. I thought these people are supposed to be so sensitive and in touch with their emotions, etc. But he's probably the least emotionally expressive man I've ever dated.

So- any cancer moons want to weigh in? Or anyone who's dated a cancer moon have any advice?

gotta love the Aries, you want something you go after it. No holds barred. 🙂 Do you live together? Did he ask you to move in with him?

Hey Hey the guy wants to cuddle with you. Give him a break. Just because you are on schedule for the L word doesn't mean he has to be. Everyone moves at their own pace. Yes you sacrificed a lot to be with him but you are still together. So just enjoy it. You cannot simply press the fast forward button in any relationship in order to skip to the good parts and ignore the low parts. If he's not in the mood to open up then have patience.

So what if he doesn't feel what you feel. It's all so intangible anyway.

If I am lucky enough to cuddle the one I love then that would be awesome and I wouldn't want to ask for more. If you want a guy who can be more in touch with his emotions then go find one. Leave this one then. In love we either accept our partners for what they can offer us or we leave them for the bigger better deal elsewhere.

You know what it'll take for him to open up to you eventually? Ditch your timeline and your agenda and just BE WITH HIM.