Depressed Aries.

Hello Aries folks 🙂

Long time lurker, I reply on this board from time to time 🙂

I ask for your help with a very special friend of mine. She's :

Aries Sun
Pisces Moon
Pisces Mercury
Taurus Mars
Pisces Venus

We've known each other for some time now and I consider her to be family. The last 2 years were hard on her and I felt her sinking into depression. She's lost a lot of weight due to stress and she barely keeps in touch with anyone but me and her boyfriend. It started when she finished university, she doesn't find work in the field she's qualified in and it made her worry about the future. It's like all her energy and sparkle is dwindling away and I don't know how I can help her. I try not to pester her, allow her to contact me because she's grown tired of people asking her why has she changed so much but I need to find ways to make her happy again.

She loves owls so I sent her a present with a plush owl from ikea she liked when she came visiting. That made her happy for a couple days but then she drifted away again. We live in different cities.

I'll add more info if it is needed. Any suggestions or advice are appreciated

Thank you.

I'm not exactly sure about is to make your friend happy. Everyone is different. Try not to crowd her but pop in every now and then to let her know you're there for her. Sending her an owl was nice. Wish her well and listen to her if she ever decides to open up to you on how she's feeling.

As and Aries myself, I don't like to burden people with how I'm feeling. I leave people in the dark and I like to figure things out on my own. Sounds selfish but I feel it's a lot better than complaining and whining to someone about my life. Especially something that can be fixed.

How to make your friend happy*

Posted by AriesIntrovert16

As and Aries myself, I don't like to burden people with how I'm feeling. I leave people in the dark and I like to figure things out on my own. Sounds selfish but I feel it's a lot better than complaining and whining to someone about my life. Especially something that can be fixed.

That's one of the things she told me early on, which is why I try to stay out of her troubles because I don't want her to feel obliged to relive whatever is troubling her.

Thank you for taking the time to respond

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
I'm not exactly sure about is to make your friend happy. Everyone is different. Try not to crowd her but pop in every now and then to let her know you're there for her. Sending her an owl was nice. Wish her well and listen to her if she ever decides to open up to you on how she's feeling.

As and Aries myself, I don't like to burden people with how I'm feeling. I leave people in the dark and I like to figure things out on my own. Sounds selfish but I feel it's a lot better than complaining and whining to someone about my life. Especially something that can be fixed.

I like to be left alone but I also need the people I love to reach out from time to time. It's not likely that anyone can fix whatever's wrong or make me happy (I have to do that on my own) but it means the world to me when they show that they care

Posted by paries

I like to be left alone but I also need the people I love to reach out from time to time. It's not likely that anyone can fix whatever's wrong or make me happy (I have to do that on my own) but it means the world to me when they show that they care

I'm staying out of her business as much as I can, I understand she needs time and space to deal with her life. I'm just trying to show her I care and that I'm there in case she needs someone to talk to.

I'm sure she appreciates it. 🙂 also, you might want to suggest an exciting outing, something she'd be interested in in a casual manner, so there's no pressure if she wants to decline.

Posted by starlover
😢

Would your friend talk to someone, a counsellor or therapist maybe

It might help her to put things in persepctive. It always helped me
over the years and with all the challenges life brings

Aries people are quite prone to depression and low self esteem and it
is wonderful she has you, but maybe encourage some help too

Thank you for taking the time to reply.

She told me once she tried seeing a counselor but on her way to the office she felt there was nothing she could talk about..turned tongue tied. It's hard for me to bring the subject because she might feel

..she might feel I'm saying she's crazy. She's really sensitive and I don't know how I can actively help her..besides letting her space and staying out of her way. I just feel I'm failing at being a good friend because I haven't yet found a way to address the issue.

It's ok. We know everyone thinks we are crazy.

Basically I find it a complete waste of time to speak to someone unless they can help.
"talking about things helps" is not part of the Aries vocabulary.

We like to DO things. Sitting around talking seems like a waste of time when we could be DOING something.
Can you ask her out for a coffee and brainstorm job ideas. Go through the Want ads together.
If she needs a job, she needs a JOB, not some counsellor (unless they have heaps of good ideas.)

Keep being proactive about catching up. If we are in a bad place it is very hard for us to reach out and admit that we are in a bad place and need to know someone cares. It's not one of our super powers.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
It's ok. We know everyone thinks we are crazy.

Basically I find it a complete waste of time to speak to someone unless they can help.
"talking about things helps" is not part of the Aries vocabulary.

We like to DO things. Sitting around talking seems like a waste of time when we could be DOING something.
Can you ask her out for a coffee and brainstorm job ideas. Go through the Want ads together.
If she needs a job, she needs a JOB, not some counsellor (unless they have heaps of good ideas.)

Keep being proactive about catching up. If we are in a bad place it is very hard for us to reach out and admit that we are in a bad place and need to know someone cares. It's not one of our super powers.

Hey RNAP,

Thank you for replying. I don't see you Aries folk as crazy, more like running on coffee 24/7 🙂. I know she hates talking about her problems and I am trying not to pry because I would come across as pushy. We don't live in the same city or I would've taken her for plenty of walks and outdoorsy activities..like you mentioned she liked doing stuff. I refer to it in the past tense because lately it's like her energy levels dropped and I think it's part of the reason why she is depressed. She used to go hiking, traveling, rock climbing all the time. I'm just trying to look for alternative ways to show her I care, because she's not in the mood for talking.

I'm almost on the brink of kidnapping her for a few days and taking her someplace nice. I'm going back to where she lives at the end of August and I plan to convince her to go home with me to the countryside. She can play with the endless string of cats in my yard and maybe some peace and quiet will help her.

I'm also Aries Sun, Pisces Moon, Pisces Mercury. I like to figure out my own problems. She's in a cocoon stage and will emerge when she's ready. Just give her time. I don't like people trying to fix me or figure out what makes me tick. I'm very aware of what's wrong and right in my life. Give her time.

Posted by wateryram80
I'm also Aries Sun, Pisces Moon, Pisces Mercury. I like to figure out my own problems. She's in a cocoon stage and will emerge when she's ready. Just give her time. I don't like people trying to fix me or figure out what makes me tick. I'm very aware of what's wrong and right in my life. Give her time.

Hey there, thanks for replying.

Doing my best to let her be..I used to try to fix people when I was younger and then I realised I am actually doing them a disservice. I know she will be ok..the thing that worries me is her weight drop, as she eats a lot healthier than I do.

Just curious, what are your placements?

Sun sign, moon sign, mercury, mars and Venus

Oh and I find what you're doing for your friend very sweet. I hope to find a friend as good, caring and awesome as you one day.. Thanks.

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Just curious, what are your placements?

Sun sign, moon sign, mercury, mars and Venus

Virgo sun
Aries moon
Virgo mercury
Cancer venus
Aries mars

Bf's also an Aries, also with a Pisces Mercury. I'm cursed or something 🙂). Whenever I talk to people with Mercury in Pisces it sounds like:

Me: So as I was saying, due to facts a,b and c..
Mercury in Pisces: *yawn* *confusing metaphore*

Love'em

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Oh and I find what you're doing for your friend very sweet. I hope to find a friend as good, caring and awesome as you one day.. Thanks.

Thank you, just doing the best I can. She'd do the same for me in a heartbeat. Just trying not to get overbearing with it.

Sounds to me like she's more Pisces than Aries. You should try asking their board.

Update: She actually came across this post and figured I was talking about her. She found it really sweet and she was amazed to find herself in so many answers posted from you guys. She's feeling better now so I thank you all for your kind advice, it worked 🙂

Posted by Damnata
Hello Aries folks 🙂

Long time lurker, I reply on this board from time to time 🙂

I ask for your help with a very special friend of mine. She's :

Aries Sun
Pisces Moon
Pisces Mercury
Taurus Mars
Pisces Venus

We've known each other for some time now and I consider her to be family. The last 2 years were hard on her and I felt her sinking into depression. She's lost a lot of weight due to stress and she barely keeps in touch with anyone but me and her boyfriend. It started when she finished university, she doesn't find work in the field she's qualified in and it made her worry about the future. It's like all her energy and sparkle is dwindling away and I don't know how I can help her. I try not to pester her, allow her to contact me because she's grown tired of people asking her why has she changed so much but I need to find ways to make her happy again.

She loves owls so I sent her a present with a plush owl from ikea she liked when she came visiting. That made her happy for a couple days but then she drifted away again. We live in different cities.

I'll add more info if it is needed. Any suggestions or advice are appreciated

Thank you.

I have the same big three as her

Aries Sun
Pisces Moon
Pisces merc

And i too have been very depressed the last few years....maybe its a planetary thing...I really hope it is and it will pass...I never in my life thought I would be depressed about anything...Sad for a day two but depressed nah I thought I was above that.

Hey bkbella86,

Yeah, I actually though I am going to blame all the Pisces energy for it 🙂) (I like Pisces people but in a Ram's chart it doesn't mingle too well). On one hand she's amazingly accurate with intuition, really empathetic, on the other hand she absorbs everyone's mood, without helping it. I try to be at my best when we meet so I see her light up if I don't go too deep or start questioning her..she told me she feels people deplete her energy daily.

The thing that irks her the most is how weak she feels..I told her it's ok to be sensitive and maybe take a fall once in a while but I noticed the shocked look on her face (she thought I was taking pity on her and that's like a death sentence for you rammy folks) and stopped.

*thought

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