moon in virgo man in love

the man i love frustrate me to no end, we are friends and as time pass i noticed his feelings for me through his jealousy and some little gestures he would do for me(baby steps) , but everytime i try to talk about feelings he would get quiet on me and change the topic, one day he said that its not the right time for it,but when he gets jealous he become cold and distant and when i ask he says that he is fine, and when we fignt he gets mean and doesnt believe anything i say so one time i told him that i ll give him space since that is what he apparently wants from me, but he was so hurt and i think he would never get over it even though we are cool now, so my question is how can i deal with him? or to get him to communicate more instead of getting into the silent treatment or fight for ridiculous things?and he is detached so how to know for sure he feels the same ?

he is gemini sun

moon in virgo

mercury taurus

venus cancer

mars cancer

venus opposition saturn, uranus and neptune

he will be attracted to a woman with qualities of Cancer/ due to his cancer venus



and emotionally he will be happy with a smart bookish woman too. who is super nurturing and caring (cancer venus/ cancer mars)

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he will be attracted to a woman with qualities of Cancer/ due to his cancer venus



and emotionally he will be happy with a smart bookish woman too. who is super nurturing and caring (cancer venus/ cancer mars)

thank you for your reply, i have a venus in taurus and mars in cancer, and i do a lot to nurture and take care of him but sometimes i feel like i do too much and i suffocate him, its like he needs a balance, when i do he takes but he needs space sometimes since he is a moody man, and when i give that space he comes for more, most of our fights come from the fact that deep down he is an insecure guy that doesnt think he deserves love and attention, and because of that he misunderstand my motives sometimes and we fight for days which hurts deeply

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What is your moon sign?

i have a moon in gemini in the 12 th house

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

the man i love frustrate me to no end, we are friends and as time pass i noticed his feelings for me through his jealousy and some little gestures he would do for me(baby steps) , but everytime i try to talk about feelings he would get quiet on me and change the topic, one day he said that its not the right time for it,but when he gets jealous he become cold and distant and when i ask he says that he is fine, and when we fignt he gets mean and doesnt believe anything i say so one time i told him that i ll give him space since that is what he apparently wants from me, but he was so hurt and i think he would never get over it even though we are cool now, so my question is how can i deal with him? or to get him to communicate more instead of getting into the silent treatment or fight for ridiculous things?and he is detached so how to know for sure he feels the same ?

he is gemini sun

moon in virgo

mercury taurus

venus cancer

mars cancer

venus opposition saturn, uranus and neptune

Our placements are pretty close. I have gemini sun, virgo moon, cancer venus and venus opposition saturn.

I am the same as him. When I get jealous i retreat in my shell. Quiet and brooding. My aqua complains about it sometimes coz he wanna talk but i wanna take time to analyze my feelings. The thing is, the silent treatment after an argument is because we know our words can hurt. We can say things we dont mean. So its not proper to talk when we havent analyzed things yet.

Feelings are pretty hard to talk about because it makes us feel weird wahahahaha. And the Venus opposition Saturn— that makes us pretty careful when it comes to love. So as much as we can, we wanna get it right the first time. I think the best you can do is stay calm and give assurance. The more we feel comfortable, the more we will open up. It takes time tho so please be patient.

I read somewhere that for men, they are attracted to whatever their venus is but marries whatever their moon is. So check the characteristics of his moon.

Good luck x

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thank you for your input, but how to reassure him when he gets silent? should i give him space? the thing is when i do he does too and we could spend days like this, its like he afraid of what i ll say and he thinks space is what i need and approchaing him makes me felle unwanted , so what to do?

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Posted by lisabethur8

he will be attracted to a woman with qualities of Cancer/ due to his cancer venus



and emotionally he will be happy with a smart bookish woman too. who is super nurturing and caring (cancer venus/ cancer mars)

thank you for your reply, i have a venus in taurus and mars in cancer, and i do a lot to nurture and take care of him but sometimes i feel like i do too much and i suffocate him, its like he needs a balance, when i do he takes but he needs space sometimes since he is a moody man, and when i give that space he comes for more, most of our fights come from the fact that deep down he is an insecure guy that doesnt think he deserves love and attention, and because of that he misunderstand my motives sometimes and we fight for days which hurts deeply

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ohmygosh!! those kind of guys....awwww u just want to love them more and cuddles.

just keep doing what you're doing...



dont change!! u are doing great.



frustrating yes, but if u love him ... keep on loving him. dont give up.





a song for u for him..

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

Posted by halalbae

What is your moon sign?

i have a moon in gemini in the 12 th house

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difficult indeed

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

the man i love frustrate me to no end, we are friends and as time pass i noticed his feelings for me through his jealousy and some little gestures he would do for me(baby steps) , but everytime i try to talk about feelings he would get quiet on me and change the topic, one day he said that its not the right time for it,but when he gets jealous he become cold and distant and when i ask he says that he is fine, and when we fignt he gets mean and doesnt believe anything i say so one time i told him that i ll give him space since that is what he apparently wants from me, but he was so hurt and i think he would never get over it even though we are cool now, so my question is how can i deal with him? or to get him to communicate more instead of getting into the silent treatment or fight for ridiculous things?and he is detached so how to know for sure he feels the same ?

he is gemini sun

moon in virgo

mercury taurus

venus cancer

mars cancer

venus opposition saturn, uranus and neptune

Our placements are pretty close. I have gemini sun, virgo moon, cancer venus and venus opposition saturn.

I am the same as him. When I get jealous i retreat in my shell. Quiet and brooding. My aqua complains about it sometimes coz he wanna talk but i wanna take time to analyze my feelings. The thing is, the silent treatment after an argument is because we know our words can hurt. We can say things we dont mean. So its not proper to talk when we havent analyzed things yet.

Feelings are pretty hard to talk about because it makes us feel weird wahahahaha. And the Venus opposition Saturn— that makes us pretty careful when it comes to love. So as much as we can, we wanna get it right the first time. I think the best you can do is stay calm and give assurance. The more we feel comfortable, the more we will open up. It takes time tho so please be patient.

I read somewhere that for men, they are attracted to whatever their venus is but marries whatever their moon is. So check the characteristics of his moon.

Good luck x

thank you for your input, but how to reassure him when he gets silent? should i give him space? the thing is when i do he does too and we could spend days like this, its like he afraid of what i ll say and he thinks space is what i need and approchaing him makes me felle unwanted , so what to do?

Tbh, i would advise you to approach him but not in a very aggressive way. My partner leaves me alone for 10 minutes. Then comes back really calm and ask me if im ok. And if i say yes but in a cold way, he will just tell me if something is bothering me, we should talk. He doesnt say that in a forceful manner but rather in a very understanding and caring way that it makes me feel safe. One of the reasons why its hard to open up is because we feel unsafe to do so. Its not easy to just let it all out knowing the other person might not like us after or worse, leave us after. So we tend to just retreat in our own safe place. But if we feel you do care, we will open up at some point. You just gotta show youre worth our trust. That you are worth opening up to. It is hardwork and a lot would give up when it gets hard. But we can be amazing once we are comfortable with you and once we feel safe with you. 🙂

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thank you so much, i ll follow your advice

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by lilyofthevalley987

Posted by lisabethur8

he will be attracted to a woman with qualities of Cancer/ due to his cancer venus



and emotionally he will be happy with a smart bookish woman too. who is super nurturing and caring (cancer venus/ cancer mars)

thank you for your reply, i have a venus in taurus and mars in cancer, and i do a lot to nurture and take care of him but sometimes i feel like i do too much and i suffocate him, its like he needs a balance, when i do he takes but he needs space sometimes since he is a moody man, and when i give that space he comes for more, most of our fights come from the fact that deep down he is an insecure guy that doesnt think he deserves love and attention, and because of that he misunderstand my motives sometimes and we fight for days which hurts deeply

ohmygosh!! those kind of guys....awwww u just want to love them more and cuddles.

just keep doing what you're doing...



dont change!! u are doing great.



frustrating yes, but if u love him ... keep on loving him. dont give up.





a song for u for him..

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thank you

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

Posted by halalbae

What is your moon sign?

i have a moon in gemini in the 12 th house

difficult indeed

I think both moons feel unwanted by each other. Gemini placements are not good with emotional responsibilities and appear a lot more open than they actually are, it kinda wants to make a Virgo Moon hide their real self as well. Especially Gemini Moons because our Moon sign shows how we react to emotions. ASCoppVenus' advice is very useful and true from the way I know myself as a Gem Sun/Virgo Moon, so Id say follow her advice

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i understand what u want to say, but from the two of us, i show more emotion and feelings than him and i dont fake it ,i dont pretend, i may not be a typical gemini woman, and not everyone is the same, and as i see it he feels unconfortable sometimes with too much attention, i am an introvert yes but i show who i really am to a few chosen ones, and he is one of them, i never opend up to someone like i did with him even though he didnt share much with me, he hides some parts of himself, and he told me before that he doesnt want to lose me and wants to protect me from him, but after some hiccups, we are wary of each other, i tried to leave him alone but the bond is so strong that i think it would never break and he'll be always in my life, just recently he said that we'll stay together even when we are old and gray

and the moon is just a part of the chart but not the most dominant,and you have to look at chart as a whole to define whether the relationship would work or not, if i insisted on it, its because of his detached tendency and his nature that needs to analyse the feelings instead of feeling them and the fact that he always looking for the meaning behind everything i do even though there is nothing sometimes, and this is the reason behind alot of our quarrels, i do sth he misunderstand it and i try to explain but he doesnt get me or believe me because to him the idea that got into his head is the right one and everything that comes after is just bull

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

the man i love frustrate me to no end, we are friends and as time pass i noticed his feelings for me through his jealousy and some little gestures he would do for me(baby steps) , but everytime i try to talk about feelings he would get quiet on me and change the topic, one day he said that its not the right time for it,but when he gets jealous he become cold and distant and when i ask he says that he is fine, and when we fignt he gets mean and doesnt believe anything i say so one time i told him that i ll give him space since that is what he apparently wants from me, but he was so hurt and i think he would never get over it even though we are cool now, so my question is how can i deal with him? or to get him to communicate more instead of getting into the silent treatment or fight for ridiculous things?and he is detached so how to know for sure he feels the same ?

he is gemini sun

moon in virgo

mercury taurus

venus cancer

mars cancer

venus opposition saturn, uranus and neptune

Our placements are pretty close. I have gemini sun, virgo moon, cancer venus and venus opposition saturn.

I am the same as him. When I get jealous i retreat in my shell. Quiet and brooding. My aqua complains about it sometimes coz he wanna talk but i wanna take time to analyze my feelings. The thing is, the silent treatment after an argument is because we know our words can hurt. We can say things we dont mean. So its not proper to talk when we havent analyzed things yet.

Feelings are pretty hard to talk about because it makes us feel weird wahahahaha. And the Venus opposition Saturn— that makes us pretty careful when it comes to love. So as much as we can, we wanna get it right the first time. I think the best you can do is stay calm and give assurance. The more we feel comfortable, the more we will open up. It takes time tho so please be patient.

I read somewhere that for men, they are attracted to whatever their venus is but marries whatever their moon is. So check the characteristics of his moon.

Good luck x

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@ASCoppVenus,just a question if i may, except the jealousy, how would i know he cares about me the same way? since like i said he shows very little and he is helping and making everybody around him confortable and at ease, so sometimes i wonder if what i see is real or just an illusion?

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Posted by lilyofthevalley987

Posted by ASCoppVenus

Posted by lilyofthevalley987

the man i love frustrate me to no end, we are friends and as time pass i noticed his feelings for me through his jealousy and some little gestures he would do for me(baby steps) , but everytime i try to talk about feelings he would get quiet on me and change the topic, one day he said that its not the right time for it,but when he gets jealous he become cold and distant and when i ask he says that he is fine, and when we fignt he gets mean and doesnt believe anything i say so one time i told him that i ll give him space since that is what he apparently wants from me, but he was so hurt and i think he would never get over it even though we are cool now, so my question is how can i deal with him? or to get him to communicate more instead of getting into the silent treatment or fight for ridiculous things?and he is detached so how to know for sure he feels the same ?

he is gemini sun

moon in virgo

mercury taurus

venus cancer

mars cancer

venus opposition saturn, uranus and neptune

Our placements are pretty close. I have gemini sun, virgo moon, cancer venus and venus opposition saturn.

I am the same as him. When I get jealous i retreat in my shell. Quiet and brooding. My aqua complains about it sometimes coz he wanna talk but i wanna take time to analyze my feelings. The thing is, the silent treatment after an argument is because we know our words can hurt. We can say things we dont mean. So its not proper to talk when we havent analyzed things yet.

Feelings are pretty hard to talk about because it makes us feel weird wahahahaha. And the Venus opposition Saturn— that makes us pretty careful when it comes to love. So as much as we can, we wanna get it right the first time. I think the best you can do is stay calm and give assurance. The more we feel comfortable, the more we will open up. It takes time tho so please be patient.

I read somewhere that for men, they are attracted to whatever their venus is but marries whatever their moon is. So check the characteristics of his moon.

Good luck x

@ASCoppVenus,just a question if i may, except the jealousy, how would i know he cares about me the same way? since like i said he shows very little and he is helping and making everybody around him confortable and at ease, so sometimes i wonder if what i see is real or just an illusion?

The way I show care or love for someone is by service. And yes, i love helping people close to me in general. But the one I love, gets all the forms of service imaginable: making time for him, providing emotional, intellectual and physical support when needed, being responsible for the person. Always having a back up plan for things we wanna do in case it fails because i am willing to help make things work for us whatever our plans are. Its all about making him feel like im not leaving him when things get hard. In my case, i dont want to be a housewife if I can. I wanna help him build a comfortable life for our family. When hes stressed, i listen to him and i offer advise and if i cant i just listen and let him say stuff he needed to let out. I wanna learn how to cook because i wanna make him proud. Its also why im studying right now because he inspired me and i want to be a good future wife to him. Those are simple things that maybe some people wont appreciate but having a virgo moon means we wanna organize things not because we are ocd but we wanna make our partner comfortable. Thats how we show our love.

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thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question, i want to understand him better and get closer to him, and sometimes i feel like he puts me on a pedestal and any flaw i show confuse him and i ask myself what he really think about it, but he is there for me, always observing and worrying, what amaze me is just the smallest change in me affects him, if i mention sth i dont like he change it, when i talk he listen, but like i said since he is a cool guy,sometimes i wonder even though he told me once to listen to what my heart tell me lol

@ASCoppVenus, do you get embaressed sometimes or irritated by your partner 's behavior? maybe because we like to pick on each other (there is never a dull moment with him) we keep each other on our toes lol, its like when there is peace and quiet he needs to add some spice or he tends to tease me, its gives him pleasure, but when in a bad mood he gets irritated .

What are mars cancer's like?

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What are mars cancer's like?

can you be more specific ? are u asking behavior wise , personality wise or in relationships?

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@ASCoppVenus, do you get embaressed sometimes or irritated by your partner 's behavior? maybe because we like to pick on each other (there is never a dull moment with him) we keep each other on our toes lol, its like when there is peace and quiet he needs to add some spice or he tends to tease me, its gives him pleasure, but when in a bad mood he gets irritated .

Sometimes haha my partner likes to joke about sex stuff with me. Normally i would get offended but because hes my partner i just joke back at him. No biggie! 🙂

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ok thank you 🙂

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Posted by Sag898

What are mars cancer's like?

can you be more specific ? are u asking behavior wise , personality wise or in relationships?

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Curious about all of it yes 🙂

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Posted by Sag898

What are mars cancer's like?

can you be more specific ? are u asking behavior wise , personality wise or in relationships?

Curious about all of it yes 🙂

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mars in cancer was more prominent at a dark phase in my life, i used to be passive aggressive( when u shout at me i dont respond but im stabbing you in my mind kind of a thing lol) but now that i am older i am more assertive, i dont keep to myself, i am more confident and i worked really hard to get where i am today, the good side is that nurturing quality and the fact that i can sympathise and put all my effort to help someone in need( mothering), i am sensitive yes but now i dont let it get to me, i block it by analysing if the feeling is worth it or not, if getting upset is necessay or not.

@ASCoppVenus, do you tend to ignore your partner, like if u have a lot going on u can like just pretend he is not here?

i am saying this because he does this a lot, all would be wounderful and then if i do sth he doesnt like he would step back, and dont talk to me, like he waits for me to chase him or sth, i dont understand and it hurts a lot (my ego) its like he only take but dont give, how should i deal plz?

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Posted by halalbae

What is your moon sign?

i have a moon in gemini in the 12 th house

difficult indeed

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It's really not that bad. I'm a Gem moon married to a Virgo moon for 6 years so far, and we married in our early 20s when we were both even more annoying shits. 😛

If you get serious with him, you WILL be nagged to death, and then nagged to resurrection. Certainly no communication issues, we both pretty much say exactly what we think.

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Posted by halalbae

What is your moon sign?

i have a moon in gemini in the 12 th house

difficult indeed

It's really not that bad. I'm a Gem moon married to a Virgo moon for 6 years so far, and we married in our early 20s when we were both even more annoying shits. 😛

If you get serious with him, you WILL be nagged to death, and then nagged to resurrection. Certainly no communication issues, we both pretty much say exactly what we think.

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@dadjokes,thank you for your input, oh yeah, when he is annoyed by me he says some really hurtful things, its like the end of the world, he talks about blocking and that i am going to drive him crazy, and that i like it when he is angry . And all this because i can ask a question about his behavior towards me, and i say a word he doesnt like and then we could go on and on about it, i dont know what to do sometimes and start wondering if this relationship is healthy, because i am the giver and he takes, he is not demonstrative at all but the moment i want to put an end to it he comes back.