my evil libra sister in law

hi. could anyone help me find out the moon sign for 9 oct 89. I have no idea at what time she was born. she is my sis in law and im trying to understand her so bad since she's been having this passive aggressive attitude towards me and badmouthing me behind my back and disrespecting me as well. she is always right and love to police people around. she comments critics on everything people do but when it comes to herself she will deflect in any way possible. she treats her husband like a doormat which I deeply feel sorry for her husband. I feel like i hate her so much but part of me trying to understand her as well. perhaps if I learn about her chart, id be able to understand her better and amend any issues we have with each other. my date of birth is 11.02.88 and was born around 10.30pm GMT+8

I am really hoping if anyone could help❤

An air sun with a Cap moon.....quite a harsh combo...

I agree.. You should definitely ask her what's up?

If you want to have a peaceful relationship with her I would recommend calmly talk to her.. Don't let her deflect though .. Let her know *you know* what she's been saying.

Family stuff is always touchy and it's better to keep the peace going around than causing or adding more drama.

It's up to you though if you prefer avoiding this person... Then yeah... Say whatever you feel in your heart.

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Posted by floriecherie

hi. could anyone help me find out the moon sign for 9 oct 89. I have no idea at what time she was born. she is my sis in law and im trying to understand her so bad since she's been having this passive aggressive attitude towards me and badmouthing me behind my back and disrespecting me as well. she is always right and love to police people around. she comments critics on everything people do but when it comes to herself she will deflect in any way possible. she treats her husband like a doormat which I deeply feel sorry for her husband. I feel like i hate her so much but part of me trying to understand her as well. perhaps if I learn about her chart, id be able to understand her better and amend any issues we have with each other. my date of birth is 11.02.88 and was born around 10.30pm GMT+8

I am really hoping if anyone could help❤

It's hard without accurate information. You didn't even list birthplace. I guessed yours and figured she was in the same area. So I have to ignore fast moving planets and astroids.

It's not her Sun it's her Mercury in virgo. She has a nasty aspect on it. You both have adverse aspects to each other.

I want you pretend she is cursed.

Imagine you are very critical of yourself and others. When you speak your mind it comes out negativity, because that is the way you think. You hurt yourself and others because of this. Because of this, you alienate yourself by pushing others away and that hurts you even more. You play it off but it hurts and feeds the negativity even more. A vicious cycle.

What you can do is go after her behavior. No personal attacks. It's pointless. When she says something. Repeat it back to her in your words but said properly. This way you acknowledge you understand her yet disagree with her language.

Do not allow her to get under your skin and drag you down. Eventually confront her in private and ask her why she says things that way. Listen to what she has to say and engage her. Call her out on her undermining you and ask why. Work on her this way and be consistent about it. A little at a time when the opportunity presents itself.

She may have a negative view on you and your actions. Correct her interpretation of that. If she ever has a valid point, acknowledge it but don't allow her to use that to undermine everything else. Agree to disagree if things go to far.

Or you guys can just battle it out and create a toxic family environment. You will need to cut her out or marginalize her involvement.

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thank you.

our time zone is GMT+8

can you tell more about virgo mercury

Posted by Basorexia

I agree.. You should definitely ask her what's up?

If you want to have a peaceful relationship with her I would recommend calmly talk to her.. Don't let her deflect though .. Let her know *you know* what she's been saying.

Family stuff is always touchy and it's better to keep the peace going around than causing or adding more drama.

It's up to you though if you prefer avoiding this person... Then yeah... Say whatever you feel in your heart.

true.. nobody likes bad blood

Posted by mudra_

Have you asked her what her problem is, why she talks sht about you behind her back and why she treats your brother like crap? Maybe she would act like she doesn't know what you're talking about. But let her know her know you're on to her BS. Things will fall apart all on their own until truths are revealed and something big happens.

You need her birth time but is it even worth it to know?

nope I never ask her and I opt for avoidance and observance from afar instead

Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Moon in cap people can be cruel. Add that Libra Sun and you you've got some evil cocktail lol. I've got a Libra cousin and she is manipulative and can be very cruel when the circumstances are in her favor.

Maybe she is jealous of you? If she is like that with everybody then simply ignore her don't interact with her.

I read as well in this forum how evil capricorn moon can be its scary. but im not sure if she is aqua or cap moon because on her date of birth she could be an aqua moon if she was born later on the day. I see her as rebellious as aqua, she likes to go against the norms. one example: how its unnecessary for woman to cook, so she doesnt cook. but I have never seen the humanitarian part of aqua in her because she doesnt even like sharing foods.

maybe u can share more about capricorn moon and how it is different than aqua moon. I myself having aquarius as my sun sign. and idk why I cant relate to her lol.

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Posted by Black-Mamba

Its her LIBRA sun

cap moons aren't that nasty

Lmao.

Agree with @MyStarsShine tho. My ex gemini sun and Cap moon ex was cruel. Its like he enjoyed making me feel bad randomly. He said once I look like his mother. Who says that? Even if it was true lmao.

He posted later online he likes to make girls fall in love with him and then he loses interest. Wish I knew and didnt waste my time on him. 😈

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thats so bad. I notice the same traits in my sis in law too. she can say the nastiest rudest meanest thing just like that like its nothing , laugh and walk away.

Posted by MyStarsShine

An air sun with a Cap moon.....quite a harsh combo...

True. it makes more sense if she's a cap moon instead of aqua moon. I noticed right off the bat is she is going through a Saturn square sun transit for most of 2019. Those are pretty miserable😅. She might feel more burdened than usual or have heavier obligations than usual. and this year she just gave birth to her firstborn and she was raised in privileged family, and I think this is the first time ever in her life that she has to carry such burden.

Posted by Black-Mamba

Its her LIBRA sun

cap moons aren't that nasty

how libra can be nasty? I thought libras are peace loving people lol

however I notice it is always the libra women that can get nasty sometimes

I get along very well with libra men. my husband is libra sun and most of my exes too.

but I just cant get well with libra women. I noticed they can be jealousy sometimes.

Posted by bumboklatt

Sounds like a domme mmmmm

yep, perhaps because she is also the only daughter and the youngest in her family. she is kinda the ultimate decision maker in her family. she decides where to have dinner, where to go, every lil thing everytime. if anyone goes against her decision, she'll get frustrated. there was this one time when the family's maid brought in some man into the house and she told her parents to send the maid back. but I told my in laws to give her a chance, and put stricter rules since they have spent alot to get the maid.

my in laws agreed with what I suggested and my sis in law just couldnt accept it.

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Posted by floriecherie

Posted by bumboklatt

Sounds like a domme mmmmm

yep, perhaps because she is also the only daughter and the youngest in her family. she is kinda the ultimate decision maker in her family. she decides where to have dinner, where to go, every lil thing everytime. if anyone goes against her decision, she'll get frustrated. there was this one time when the family's maid brought in some man into the house and she told her parents to send the maid back. but I told my in laws to give her a chance, and put stricter rules since they have spent alot to get the maid.

my in laws agreed with what I suggested and my sis in law just couldnt accept it.

Yeah i just read shes going through her saturn return. Shes probably in bhitch mode

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oh my *runs away lol

Posted by floriecherie

Posted by mudra_

Have you asked her what her problem is, why she talks sht about you behind her back and why she treats your brother like crap? Maybe she would act like she doesn't know what you're talking about. But let her know her know you're on to her BS. Things will fall apart all on their own until truths are revealed and something big happens.

You need her birth time but is it even worth it to know?

nope I never ask her and I opt for avoidance and observance from afar instead

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I would talk to her and let her know that YOU are aware she's talking behind your back. If the shoe was on the other foot she would confront you. Then I would back off and not engage with her anymore. You can't control how your brother lets her treat him so I would stay out of their marriage.