Scorpio moon returns...

My ex, Pisces sun/Scorpio moon, keeps coming back. Is this a common trait of you guys?

The last time I physically see him was the end of April, about 5 months after we split up. He just randomly popped up and I eventually agreed to go over and see him.

I had things to get off my chest and questions I wanted answered. So I stayed and we talked, shouted, cried (him not me) and eventually laughed.

When I left, he asked if he would ever see me again and I told him, that depended on him and his actions from then on.

Needless to say, he didn't really make much effort so contact between us stopped.

Then at the beginning of October he randomly contacted me and tried to get me to go over to his again. I told him I didn't think it was a good idea after the last time. He eventually dropped it.

Now he's back again, same thing,"let's catch up, have a drink etc"

I don't understand why he keeps coming back. It's over! ?

Just ignore him and move on. He needs to learn you are a person and not a shirt or something you throw on the floor and pick up when you decide to wear it again.

Also, he could be in a relationship and only wants to contact you when things are going bad in that relationship.

That moon opposition is probably doing its magic.

Posted by lexci
Just ignore him and move on. He needs to learn you are a person and not a shirt or something you throw on the floor and pick up when you decide to wear it again.

Also, he could be in a relationship and only wants to contact you when things are going bad in that relationship.

This has crossed my mind, but I actually cba to even ask, because I no longer care lol

Posted by Ajna
Love isn't something that is feeble to us.

it's deep and we (well I) would die for

that person. It's so strong. He still

loves you. He just has to know

things end.

I told him the last time he contacted me, it was best left alone.

We can't be "just friends" and he knows this, I don't understand why he doesn't accept that.

Posted by littlenanobyte
Yes they do. My dad, fiancé, and two best friends have Scorpio moon and they have always went back to fucked up relationships that they deep down know are bad for them. They have no control emotionally, no backbone whatsoever unless it comes to petty revenge, it's bleak.

It's just so random, I've not been posting on social media or anything, so it's not like something has popped up in his face to make him think of me.

I'm at a loss myself as we both know it wouldn't work out, so why keep opening old wounds? ?

why did you broke up? how long have you been together?

Posted by Pandora101
why did you broke up? how long have you been together?

We were together for about 5 months. We broke up because he wasn't prepared to be patient with me emotionally.

He confessed he was "falling" in love with me and I was honest and said I was starting to feel the same, but wasn't ready to say it yet. I just wanted a bit of time to feel safer with him before saying I loved him. It went downhill from there.

For me to fall in love with you, takes serious time and trust, so yes sometimes I will stay longer than I should or come back to make absolutely certain it's over but I wouldn't do what he's doing. I find that all men come back, always.

I went out with a Gemini sun/Scorpio moon girl a few years ago. I didn't want to, but she was very persistant about the two of us going out. I told her I just wanted to be friends and she eventually seemed OK with that, but still said she wanted us to hang out. I agreed, even though I suspected she was hoping it would lead to more.

We went to the beach, had a great time and I was happy that she acted friendly and not flirtacious with me. Nothing awkward. It was a nice time. We started hanging out regularly. All of a sudden, I notice one day that we're a legitimate couple. We're making plans together, checking in with each other, clearing things with each other, she's jealous of my female friends. Everything. Obviously, I noticed before we got to everything, but it seemed too late by then. I felt stuck.

I tried to make it work for me because I felt bad. I felt like I got myself into that mess. I was kind of mad at her because I know she was consciously working me over, but I had managed to be completely oblivious to it like an idiot.

She was really nice to me, always did stuff for me and I knew she loved me. At the risk of being a bit crude, our physical relationship was great. I wouldn't say I stuck around for it. but I was impressed by her intensity. She had very deep feelings for me and that made me feel worse. I tried to have those feelings for her and couldn't do it.

I tried to break up with her twice. Once, she got real upset. The second time, she seemed cool about it, but we ended up back together both times. Eventually, we got really comfortable with each other and started hanging out with our own friends more, doing things independently and being super-chill. The romantic stuff fell by the wayside. I started calling her my friend and she started calling me her friend. I was relieved. We were finally on the same page after over a year of b.s.

Then she turned on me. We both enjoyed photography, driving around to find things to take pictures of, etc., so we took a roadtrip to a state park. It was a terrible time. Out of nowhere, she was misrable and rude to me. Spent most of the time on her phone, shot daggers at me whenever I would try to joke with her, hardly talked to me and wouldn't even walk beside me. It was a long day. I couldn't wait to get back to our town and go our separate ways.

After that, she picked a fight with me over something stupid and that was pretty much the end. She didn't talk to me for awhile, then started to socialize with me a little, but only to play games with me. She would text me to tell me she was too busy to talk to me or say that she forgot to respond to my text because she was out with her friends. Stuff like that. I stopped trying to get in touch with her and she eventually came back and said she missed me and wanted me back in her life, but I didn't bite.

OP probably had the right approach to the way her Scorpio moon acted. I didn't. If my ex's behavior was influenced by her Scorpio moon, I'd have to say some of its qualities are pretty intriguing, but the soul-sucking tendencies need to be handled properly to be managable.

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Posted by littlenanobyte
Yes they do. My dad, fiancé, and two best friends have Scorpio moon and they have always went back to fucked up relationships that they deep down know are bad for them. They have no control emotionally, no backbone whatsoever unless it comes to petty revenge, it's bleak.

It's just so random, I've not been posting on social media or anything, so it's not like something has popped up in his face to make him think of me.

I'm at a loss myself as we both know it wouldn't work out, so why keep opening old wounds? ?

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My Scorpio moon ex did the same thing. We had no contact at all and she popped back up again. My personal experience has been that they hold on to things and get extremely emotionally involved and very quickly. My ex was a Gemini for Christ's sake and there was nothing light and airy about her. Scorpio moon was her only heavy personal placement, so I attribute that heaviness in her personality to it.

If you're not willing to take the plunge as quickly as they want, provided they don't have much control over the moon's influence, I think it probably is best to stand your ground and refuse to let them back into your life.

The folks who give into the negative expression of it can't seem to get enough of being hurt, either. They seem to think hurting makes the experience richer or something.

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Posted by Ajna
Love isn't something that is feeble to us.

it's deep and we (well I) would die for

that person. It's so strong. He still

loves you. He just has to know

things end.

I told him the last time he contacted me, it was best left alone.

We can't be "just friends" and he knows this, I don't understand why he doesn't accept that.

Ask him does he still love you.

Let him know love isn't about forcing things.

If he loved you then letting you live the life

you want to live is part of that.



Maybe tell him about your frustration and the headaches

influenced all because he doesn't understand this concept.

Of course empathize and come at it from a loving place but

his grip on things that are no more is harming you, affecting

you both. He really has to learn to let things be.

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Believe me we had a very open and honest discussion about everything. He just didn't listen.

Posted by Skye
"When I left, he asked if he would ever see me again and I told him, that depended on him and his actions from then on."



Why did you say this to him if it's over? Did you tell him it's over?

Because if I'm honest, I was being a coward and didn't want to say the words and hurt him some more.

I have made it clear since then, that us getting together is not a good idea and things are best left as they are.

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Posted by Pandora101
why did you broke up? how long have you been together?

We were together for about 5 months. We broke up because he wasn't prepared to be patient with me emotionally.

He confessed he was "falling" in love with me and I was honest and said I was starting to feel the same, but wasn't ready to say it yet. I just wanted a bit of time to feel safer with him before saying I loved him. It went downhill from there.

"It went downhill from there."

What happened exactly?

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I wanted more time together as we were only seeing each other 2 x a week, so I suggested maybe spending a weekend together once a month, as we both have kids.

He would be on board until a couple of days before and then "something" would come up or something would happen. I.e a petty argument, that would make it not happen. Or make arrangements for nights out to meet each other's friends etc. This ish was unacceptable so I put my foot down and walked away.

I need to spend more time with someone to know if they're the right person to become emotionally vulnerable with. I've been hurt badly in the past due to jumping in too fast, I'm not making that mistake again.

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Posted by littlenanobyte
Yes they do. My dad, fiancé, and two best friends have Scorpio moon and they have always went back to fucked up relationships that they deep down know are bad for them. They have no control emotionally, no backbone whatsoever unless it comes to petty revenge, it's bleak.

It's just so random, I've not been posting on social media or anything, so it's not like something has popped up in his face to make him think of me.

I'm at a loss myself as we both know it wouldn't work out, so why keep opening old wounds? ?

My Scorpio moon ex did the same thing. We had no contact at all and she popped back up again. My personal experience has been that they hold on to things and get extremely emotionally involved and very quickly. My ex was a Gemini for Christ's sake and there was nothing light and airy about her. Scorpio moon was her only heavy personal placement, so I attribute that heaviness in her personality to it.

If you're not willing to take the plunge as quickly as they want, provided they don't have much control over the moon's influence, I think it probably is best to stand your ground and refuse to let them back into your life.

The folks who give into the negative expression of it can't seem to get enough of being hurt, either. They seem to think hurting makes the experience richer or something.

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I'm more than sure that I would have a very similar experience, if I gave into his "casual" catch up.

I don't need that kind of emotional or mental drama in my life, I'm back on track and intend to stay there!

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Posted by Pandora101
why did you broke up? how long have you been together?

We were together for about 5 months. We broke up because he wasn't prepared to be patient with me emotionally.

He confessed he was "falling" in love with me and I was honest and said I was starting to feel the same, but wasn't ready to say it yet. I just wanted a bit of time to feel safer with him before saying I loved him. It went downhill from there.

"It went downhill from there."

What happened exactly?

I wanted more time together as we were only seeing each other 2 x a week, so I suggested maybe spending a weekend together once a month, as we both have kids.

He would be on board until a couple of days before and then "something" would come up or something would happen. I.e a petty argument, that would make it not happen. Or make arrangements for nights out to meet each other's friends etc. This ish was unacceptable so I put my foot down and walked away.

I need to spend more time with someone to know if they're the right person to become emotionally vulnerable with. I've been hurt badly in the past due to jumping in too fast, I'm not making that mistake again.

I understand x

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It's a shame though, as we got on really really well and have so much in common. If I thought that we could somehow just be friends, I would love to keep him in my life.

Unfortunately I know that we could not be "just" friends, as he would always be trying it. Then we would start bickering because of his butt hurt etc so it's best all round to stay apart

Posted by TaurusinTexas
For me to fall in love with you, takes serious time and trust, so yes sometimes I will stay longer than I should or come back to make absolutely certain it's over but I wouldn't do what he's doing. I find that all men come back, always.

Nope. Maybe your men come back; mine do not because I've made it a point to tell them, "I don't want to be your friend because I don't sleep with my friends". Thank GOD I know the words to use to be left alone.

As for OP, you're doing the right thing. Delete him from FB, your phone, Instagram, etc. We HATE to be ignored. We're sensitive enough to know you don't want nothing to do with us. And yes, it's not working out at his end with other "women" he had/has had and he swims right back to you KNOWING you will respond to his means of communication. You did. I suggest you ignore him 100% completely and he will leave you alone.

Anything will remind him of you, music, food, movie, etc., and yes, he will think about you, and that's when the idea pops into his head to contact you. Piscean men know that they have you at the end of the fishing pole.....they've cast out their fishing rod, and just wait for the floater to pop up and down knowing that you will "nibble" at the end. Don't do this to yourself. Just ignore him and he won't come back to you life. It HURTS to know that a person blocked you on FB, and it HURTS to know when he texts/calls, at the end it will show and/or indicate by voice, "The subscriber has blocked your call" or text, I don't know. I have a Microsoft T-Mobile phone and when I block you, it will show me the blocked text you are trying to communicate w/me and I just laugh my ass off!!!! I LOVE it to know that you are sooooooooooo stubborn and kissing my ass by trying to contact me; I also know you are soooooooo stubborn, too! Eventually, the guys at the end of the line will "get it" and leave me the treetrunk alone! 😡

Cyber hugs! 🤗

Love,

Eva

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Posted by TaurusinTexas
For me to fall in love with you, takes serious time and trust, so yes sometimes I will stay longer than I should or come back to make absolutely certain it's over but I wouldn't do what he's doing. I find that all men come back, always.

Nope. Maybe your men come back; mine do not because I've made it a point to tell them, "I don't want to be your friend because I don't sleep with my friends". Thank GOD I know the words to use to be left alone.

As for OP, you're doing the right thing. Delete him from FB, your phone, Instagram, etc. We HATE to be ignored. We're sensitive enough to know you don't want nothing to do with us. And yes, it's not working out at his end with other "women" he had/has had and he swims right back to you KNOWING you will respond to his means of communication. You did. I suggest you ignore him 100% completely and he will leave you alone.

Anything will remind him of you, music, food, movie, etc., and yes, he will think about you, and that's when the idea pops into his head to contact you. Piscean men know that they have you at the end of the fishing pole.....they've cast out their fishing rod, and just wait for the floater to pop up and down knowing that you will "nibble" at the end. Don't do this to yourself. Just ignore him and he won't come back to you life. It HURTS to know that a person blocked you on FB, and it HURTS to know when he texts/calls, at the end it will show and/or indicate by voice, "The subscriber has blocked your call" or text, I don't know. I have a Microsoft T-Mobile phone and when I block you, it will show me the blocked text you are trying to communicate w/me and I just laugh my ass off!!!! I LOVE it to know that you are sooooooooooo stubborn and kissing my ass by trying to contact me; I also know you are soooooooo stubborn, too! Eventually, the guys at the end of the line will "get it" and leave me the treetrunk alone! 😡

Cyber hugs! 🤗

Love,

Eva

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I didn't say, I talk to them or even acknowledge but they always come back. I had one 20 years later and I got a Facebook message in my other folder. Just ignore and move on but they all always come back around at some point.

Posted by Hare
I always just moved on. Removed exes from my life completely.

I'm like that, once I'm sure it's over I'm gone for good, never to be heard from again. But I do tend to stay in relationships too long, to be sure but once it's done, it's done. No going back for me.