Where my Scorp moons at?

Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

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That's normal though

Posted by hippiecrite

Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

"apprehensive sidecar"

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Posted by hippiecrite

Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

I feel this and I'm not a Scorp moon. Probably my Leo bits wanting 100% loyalty. I can understand if you don't agree with me being angry at something, but either way I want you to back me up.

My bestie just had some shit happen to her in a legal matter that did not go her way. On one side I can see why the judge made the decision, but the judge was a cunt in her delivery of the news and made my friend feel like she was a greedy piece of shit. My friend did not get the money that she should have gotten but at the same time she didnt want the money and her decision to ask for it came last minute. The money went to her nephew instead and she is fine with that but the judge basicly told her she didnt deserve the money. She called me crying so upset and distraught. I wish she had told me she was going to court that day I would have taken the day off to go with her for support incase something like that happened. If I had been in the court room I'd have probably been held in contempt cause I would have probably yelled out something I shouldn't. 😂

As far as your Virgo I feel that too. When I was on the side of the road with a flat he acted like I was fine and not worried about it at all. Meanwhile I was freaking out cause it was dark and raining and strangers were stopping to help me....luckily they were all nice but you never know. I can take care of myself but it would have been nice if he showed any type of concern for me. However, when another Virgo guy friend of mine found out he flipped out about the fact that I was by myself. So I dunno maybe it is the Libra influence cause mine had a Libra rising. Not sure of my other Virgo friends chart, we are just friends so never bothered doing his chart. Lol

Posted by hippiecrite

Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

ABSOLUTELY....Not in this form of support, but more so a bit more gratitude and respect when it comes to outside noise.

As a Scorp Moon, I have learned our Ego's are big AF, and we give till we have nothing more, so we have this larger than life expectation because we GIVE the larger than life experience. Youre just looking for something he is incapable to give you at YOUR standards, but try looking to see if this is HIS BEST....And take it from there. Try not to control what level hes on...

So the scorpio moon ex must have totally hated my libra moon, I used to placate him during his rants just to get him to calm down. Do you carry on when upset? Like for hours?

I use to be like that, but even worse. Throw being possessive and extremely competitive on top of high expectations, while also being passive aggressive. So rather then be honest on how I feel I would act like nothing was wrong, while quietly seething on the inside. Normally to the point I would end up removing them from my life, even though they probably didn't deserve it.

Nowadays if its someone close to me I ask myself "Why aren't they on my side?" If there is a good reason I will look at it as me being on the wrong side of them. Sure they didn't have my side, but why didn't I have their side? I've learned im not always right, and more times then not let my own thoughts, opinions, and emotions get the best of me.

Maybe the virgo assessed the situation and came to the conclusion that what you wanted him to defend was a battle he couldn't win.

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Posted by Black-Mamba

i get it, this why leo moons and scorpio moons should be able to work, except we hate one another and hurt one another.

loyalty is key to both moons.

ayeeeeeeeeeee

leo moons are hoes though

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So are Scorpio moons 😂

Posted by Unwording

Tbh, I’d probably see that as bias and be annoyed with that, too. lol

There’s a soccer bar that’s been a big part of our social lives for years, even separately, before we were together. I have a love/hate with it now. Love to see my old friends, but the owner got super weird with me a few years ago and continues to make things awkward AF. Just... passive aggressive bullshit.

Virgo thought it’d be nice to go out for my match yday and the owner was bartending. First words out of his mouth to me were rude and I was immediately ready to leave. He asks what we want for drinks and the Virgo says Irish coffee. I said water. I’m not giving him my money. Anymore. I turn to my blissfully ignorant boyfriend and tell him I’d have already left if he weren’t with me. He says we can go, basically pounds his drink and we’re outie. The owner apologizing to HIM.

We get outside and Virgo says something to the effect of, “I’m glad he didn’t say anything, cause if he did, I was gonna say you were my ride.” Dafuq?! Don’t be a pussy. How about defending me when I’m getting disrespected right in front of your face?

So I see your point. He backed my play, but it still wasn’t enough. 😂

Posted by LalasReturn

That's normal though

I guess. At least I know I’m being irrational and don’t hold it against him. We can’t agree on everything.

So you do it too? Cause I’m seriously not sure sometimes if I’m being rational in my irrationality. My chart’s kind of a doozy. 😄

Posted by FactCheck

Hi,

Its not because he's a virgo. It's because he's not a water moon.

I get that, that poor, Gem moon bugger. The thread isn’t me asking what’s wrong with him, he’s being perfectly civil, which is (ironically) one of the things I love about him. The thread is wondering if others have the same irrational response to these situations, specifically Scorpio moons.

Posted by Black-Mamba

i get it, this why leo moons and scorpio moons should be able to work, except we hate one another and hurt one another.

loyalty is key to both moons.

ayeeeeeeeeeee

It comes down to loyalty. You’re absolutely right.

Personally, I get along great with Leo suns, but something about the moons... we rub each other the wrong way. *shrug*

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Posted by hippiecrite

Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

I feel this and I'm not a Scorp moon. Probably my Leo bits wanting 100% loyalty. I can understand if you don't agree with me being angry at something, but either way I want you to back me up.

My bestie just had some shit happen to her in a legal matter that did not go her way. On one side I can see why the judge made the decision, but the judge was a cunt in her delivery of the news and made my friend feel like she was a greedy piece of shit. My friend did not get the money that she should have gotten but at the same time she didnt want the money and her decision to ask for it came last minute. The money went to her nephew instead and she is fine with that but the judge basicly told her she didnt deserve the money. She called me crying so upset and distraught. I wish she had told me she was going to court that day I would have taken the day off to go with her for support incase something like that happened. If I had been in the court room I'd have probably been held in contempt cause I would have probably yelled out something I shouldn't. 😂

As far as your Virgo I feel that too. When I was on the side of the road with a flat he acted like I was fine and not worried about it at all. Meanwhile I was freaking out cause it was dark and raining and strangers were stopping to help me....luckily they were all nice but you never know. I can take care of myself but it would have been nice if he showed any type of concern for me. However, when another Virgo guy friend of mine found out he flipped out about the fact that I was by myself. So I dunno maybe it is the Libra influence cause mine had a Libra rising. Not sure of my other Virgo friends chart, we are just friends so never bothered doing his chart. Lol

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I remember that! The thing with your Virgo? I commented on it. Yeah, he and I are both self contained units. Even if the situation looked dire, I couldn’t guarantee he’d offer to help. That said, if I asked for the help, I know he’d come through for me. It pushes me to retain my self sufficiency, which I kinda like.

Nothing worse than ending a long term relationship and realizing you’ve gotten so dumb you can’t even program the TV. 😁

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Posted by hippiecrite

Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

ABSOLUTELY....Not in this form of support, but more so a bit more gratitude and respect when it comes to outside noise.

As a Scorp Moon, I have learned our Ego's are big AF, and we give till we have nothing more, so we have this larger than life expectation because we GIVE the larger than life experience. Youre just looking for something he is incapable to give you at YOUR standards, but try looking to see if this is HIS BEST....And take it from there. Try not to control what level hes on...

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Very good advice. Thank you. 😊

Posted by Jules-ll

So the scorpio moon ex must have totally hated my libra moon, I used to placate him during his rants just to get him to calm down. Do you carry on when upset? Like for hours?

No, but I have caught myself bringing it up if we have a disagreement. So I know it’s bugging me more than it should and that I’m starting to hold it against him, even when everyday me thinks I’m cool about it. If I was cool about it, it wouldn’t be in my argument arsenal. lol

Our communication style s mesh really well. There’s nothing we haven’t been able to talk about and work through. Think it’s just finally time to have a sit down for this one.

But to your personal experience, I’d say Scorp moons hate being placated. That said, I’ve met some that were so thick they didn’t notice.

Posted by Soul

I use to be like that, but even worse. Throw being possessive and extremely competitive on top of high expectations, while also being passive aggressive. So rather then be honest on how I feel I would act like nothing was wrong, while quietly seething on the inside. Normally to the point I would end up removing them from my life, even though they probably didn't deserve it.

Nowadays if its someone close to me I ask myself "Why aren't they on my side?" If there is a good reason I will look at it as me being on the wrong side of them. Sure they didn't have my side, but why didn't I have their side? I've learned im not always right, and more times then not let my own thoughts, opinions, and emotions get the best of me.

I’ve enjoyed being an internet bystander to your evolution over the years.

Posted by DMV

Maybe the virgo assessed the situation and came to the conclusion that what you wanted him to defend was a battle he couldn't win.

He just doesn’t wanna get in the middle of it. He’s the most universally liked person I know and you don’t get and retain that title by making waves. 😕

Edit to say, that came off differently once I read it. He just hates conflict. He has no friction in his own life, so I understand him not wanting to volunteer for mine.

Posted by 2Moon

we have a lounge:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/moon-signs/scorpio-moon-lounge-12895470/?p=4

Nice!

Posted by Phangus

My Pisces sun/Libra moon is like this, oddly. I fought it for a long time, but eventually realized that if I wanted him to feel safe and loved, sometimes I have to take his side on petty shit, or just stay silent.

Never thought about it, but I could see that pairing reacting that way. How does it make you feel when you do? Do you feel you’re compromising your own sensibilities?

Posted by the_verdictofkiki

well... i see it as something that is a lot more simple...

if x is loyal to me, I am loyal to x...

if x is not loyal to me, then i am not* loyal to x....

and i don't give a damn of who that person is... i will show them how loyal or un-loyal i can be and REGRET NOTHING.

I get that. I also get that not everyone wants or needs our level of loyalty. Some people go as far as to call it “making a scene”. 😄

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Posted by Soul

I use to be like that, but even worse. Throw being possessive and extremely competitive on top of high expectations, while also being passive aggressive. So rather then be honest on how I feel I would act like nothing was wrong, while quietly seething on the inside. Normally to the point I would end up removing them from my life, even though they probably didn't deserve it.

Nowadays if its someone close to me I ask myself "Why aren't they on my side?" If there is a good reason I will look at it as me being on the wrong side of them. Sure they didn't have my side, but why didn't I have their side? I've learned im not always right, and more times then not let my own thoughts, opinions, and emotions get the best of me.

This.

I know its hard for Scorpio moons to understand why people aren't always "on their side", especially when it comes to our feelings towards things, but it's unrealistic. We're not always right, we can be narrow minded if our feelings or egos are hurt, and people are allowed to feel differently than we do. It doesn't always gotta be so deep, fellow Scorp moons- choose your battles.

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We are NOT always right JEEZUS but why does it feel like we are -_-...That Damn Ego!

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Posted by hippiecrite

Posted by Unwording

Tbh, I’d probably see that as bias and be annoyed with that, too. lol

There’s a soccer bar that’s been a big part of our social lives for years, even separately, before we were together. I have a love/hate with it now. Love to see my old friends, but the owner got super weird with me a few years ago and continues to make things awkward AF. Just... passive aggressive bullshit.

Virgo thought it’d be nice to go out for my match yday and the owner was bartending. First words out of his mouth to me were rude and I was immediately ready to leave. He asks what we want for drinks and the Virgo says Irish coffee. I said water. I’m not giving him my money. Anymore. I turn to my blissfully ignorant boyfriend and tell him I’d have already left if he weren’t with me. He says we can go, basically pounds his drink and we’re outie. The owner apologizing to HIM.

We get outside and Virgo says something to the effect of, “I’m glad he didn’t say anything, cause if he did, I was gonna say you were my ride.” Dafuq?! Don’t be a pussy. How about defending me when I’m getting disrespected right in front of your face?

So I see your point. He backed my play, but it still wasn’t enough. 😂

Sorry, just jumped in on this post ....does the virgo know the history of the bar/pub and tender?

Imo we are all alone. The only loyalty that counts is to yourself. I'd rather have a friend with a pov i am not able to see. A friend who makes me evaluate over blind loyalty.

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Rational me is fully onboard with your sentiments. We need partners, not enablers. In this instance, I think it’s bothering me so much because I never wanna go back there, but he doesn’t feel the same way. Life gets busy and it can be hard enough to carve out time for one another without adding stuff like this on top of it. But. If I go back? I’m not being loyal to myself.

Huh. That makes total sense actually. Thank you for the sounding board! But, yes. To answer your question, he’s been privy to every time this guy’s been a jerk to me. Not gonna lie, his complacency bums me out.

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Posted by hippiecrite

Posted by Phangus

My Pisces sun/Libra moon is like this, oddly. I fought it for a long time, but eventually realized that if I wanted him to feel safe and loved, sometimes I have to take his side on petty shit, or just stay silent.

Never thought about it, but I could see that pairing reacting that way. How does it make you feel when you do? Do you feel you’re compromising your own sensibilities?

Now that I've read what happened, that's a little different than what I was referencing. I've actually gone overboard taking up for him before in public situations with strangers or near strangers and embarrassed him. He's much better at remaining calm when dealing with jerks than I am.

I had to choose sides when he got into it with close friends of ours because he holds grudges, and the offending friends never apologized for what they did. I resisted for years, but once I finally stopped trying to bridge the gap, it was a relief.

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Ah. In all honesty, I’ve done that too. But I *think* mine was justified? lol The guy friend that subscribed to my oldest daughter’s cam site. We saw him in passing and dude yelled out, “Hey, Virgo!”. Being the nice guy he is, he hello’d back and I’m sitting here like, why are you talking to him?! But my kids are the closest thing he’s ever gonna get to children of his own, so I’m genuinely baffled why he’d wanna have anything to do with that guy. Such is life. *shrugs*

But yeah, we have a similar dynamic. Don’t let my moon take the reins like I used to, but he’s still WAY more chill than I’ll ever be. It takes a balance. 😊

Posted by FactCheck

If he had a cancer moon, it would be a whole different energy.

Nope

Posted by tiziani

I’ve definitely gone Khal Drogo for a Scorpio before and they didn’t mind.

I’d have been happy if, when the guy was apologizing to him, he’d have simply said that he wasn’t who the guy should be apologizing to.

But you’re right, we’ll talk it out and it’ll be fine. Just need to get it off my chest.

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Posted by hippiecrite

Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

I feel this and I'm not a Scorp moon. Probably my Leo bits wanting 100% loyalty. I can understand if you don't agree with me being angry at something, but either way I want you to back me up.

My bestie just had some shit happen to her in a legal matter that did not go her way. On one side I can see why the judge made the decision, but the judge was a cunt in her delivery of the news and made my friend feel like she was a greedy piece of shit. My friend did not get the money that she should have gotten but at the same time she didnt want the money and her decision to ask for it came last minute. The money went to her nephew instead and she is fine with that but the judge basicly told her she didnt deserve the money. She called me crying so upset and distraught. I wish she had told me she was going to court that day I would have taken the day off to go with her for support incase something like that happened. If I had been in the court room I'd have probably been held in contempt cause I would have probably yelled out something I shouldn't. 😂

As far as your Virgo I feel that too. When I was on the side of the road with a flat he acted like I was fine and not worried about it at all. Meanwhile I was freaking out cause it was dark and raining and strangers were stopping to help me....luckily they were all nice but you never know. I can take care of myself but it would have been nice if he showed any type of concern for me. However, when another Virgo guy friend of mine found out he flipped out about the fact that I was by myself. So I dunno maybe it is the Libra influence cause mine had a Libra rising. Not sure of my other Virgo friends chart, we are just friends so never bothered doing his chart. Lol

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It's your Cancer moon.

Posted by hippiecrite

Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

I don't anymore. I realised over time it was big mistake holding my partner to a higher standard than I do with others. I tend to open my ears and eyes more now, if my partner becomes an 'apprehensive sidecar'. I will ask questions, try to assess why that's the case, and then come to a conclusion.

I've come to accept that everyone has different values and perspectives from me, including my WASPish partner (she calls herself that, not me lol). It's probably my 11th house placements taking over where my moon used to rule my emotions, but I'm more of a 'wait and see' person now than before.

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Posted by hippiecrite

Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

I feel this and I'm not a Scorp moon. Probably my Leo bits wanting 100% loyalty. I can understand if you don't agree with me being angry at something, but either way I want you to back me up.

My bestie just had some shit happen to her in a legal matter that did not go her way. On one side I can see why the judge made the decision, but the judge was a cunt in her delivery of the news and made my friend feel like she was a greedy piece of shit. My friend did not get the money that she should have gotten but at the same time she didnt want the money and her decision to ask for it came last minute. The money went to her nephew instead and she is fine with that but the judge basicly told her she didnt deserve the money. She called me crying so upset and distraught. I wish she had told me she was going to court that day I would have taken the day off to go with her for support incase something like that happened. If I had been in the court room I'd have probably been held in contempt cause I would have probably yelled out something I shouldn't. 😂

As far as your Virgo I feel that too. When I was on the side of the road with a flat he acted like I was fine and not worried about it at all. Meanwhile I was freaking out cause it was dark and raining and strangers were stopping to help me....luckily they were all nice but you never know. I can take care of myself but it would have been nice if he showed any type of concern for me. However, when another Virgo guy friend of mine found out he flipped out about the fact that I was by myself. So I dunno maybe it is the Libra influence cause mine had a Libra rising. Not sure of my other Virgo friends chart, we are just friends so never bothered doing his chart. Lol

It's your Cancer moon.

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I dont have a cancer moon...

Posted by Hell

Cam Site?

Dude... the youngest and I were messing around on the phone and went to my Insta account. Decided to check on her older sis (wasn’t snooping. we’re “friends”, i just always forget i have an account 😄). She’s got all these racy pics up with links and shit. One of em says something about coming over to see her at her 18+ page. This friend, instead of telling me about her running this thing OUTTA MY HOUSE!, decided the best course of action was to subscribe to her page.

I’m no prude, but he’s known her since she was 8, she sees him as a sort of surrogate father figure and they work together. The whole thing was weird AF and my Shorty still doesn’t wanna use our bath tub. lol

Posted by tiziani

Lol I'm accepting of most things but, even for me, that's taking the creep factor to another level

Right?! And I’m not saying I handled it well. Cutting this guy outta my life totally threw a wrench in the BBQ circuit, but to say I no longer enjoy his company would be an understatement.

Posted by MissKrabs

Good lord i thought it was something trivial, and not here to tell you your virgo sucks but man i would never ever go to his bar ever again.

This isn’t a slag the Virgo off thread. He just has a different last straw than I do, and that’s ok! He’s been a healthy, calming influence in my life and I’m grateful for that. And not just because his chill attitude has left him virtually ageless. Fucker. 😁

But yeah, thank you for getting it. I know it’s a me issue, but that doesn’t change the fact it legit hurt my feelings. And being the owner means that guy’s almost always there. Going to see friends, but avoiding him is next to impossible. Eh. It’s Milwaukee. We’ve got plenty of other bars.

Posted by tiziani

I was just thinking yesterday, I could have gone dark and talked 3-4 dancers into a private studio to do a cam ring.

But instead, this year, I'm taking a second job in "internet security" keeping people's personal details off the web. I am never done being a captain-save-em. Even when I think I am, I end up right back there with the cape peaking from underneath somehow.

As the parent, it was a weird mix of emotions. While I admire her entrepreneurial spirit and acceptance and ownership of her body, the safety was definitely a concern. Part of the reason I got so pissed at the guy is that they work at an airsoft arena. Mostly male clientele, with lotsa misplaced testosterone. lol

If he found out about it, I’m sure some of the other guys did too. With her closing by herself alot, in an already dubious neighborhood, the whole thing seemed a recipe for disaster. 😬

That Trent’s a good dude. I’d think it also puts you in a position where you could just as easily use this to personal gain. You walk a fine line, my friend. Much respect. 😄

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Good lord i thought it was something trivial, and not here to tell you your virgo sucks but man i would never ever go to his bar ever again.

This isn’t a slag the Virgo off thread. He just has a different last straw than I do, and that’s ok! He’s been a healthy, calming influence in my life and I’m grateful for that. And not just because his chill attitude has left him virtually ageless. Fucker. 😁

But yeah, thank you for getting it. I know it’s a me issue, but that doesn’t change the fact it legit hurt my feelings. And being the owner means that guy’s almost always there. Going to see friends, but avoiding him is next to impossible. Eh. It’s Milwaukee. We’ve got plenty of other bars.

From my experience it's better to have a calming partner than i will hide bodies with you. But i get your trigger, you are actually handling it very good. Not sure is it a scorpio moon thing, you sound more like a rational cap in this matter. And yes, find another bar but i also get the attachment to a certain bar, i had in my life like 3 of them. Still visiting one after 15y.

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Dunno if it’s a chart progression thing or just learning from my mistakes, but I’ve refused to be ruled by my moon for some time now. It had a good run! lol

Exactly! So you know how much this sucks. Between this and the thing I’m talking about with Tiz, I’m starting to feel like a social pariah. 😕

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Good lord i thought it was something trivial, and not here to tell you your virgo sucks but man i would never ever go to his bar ever again.

This isn’t a slag the Virgo off thread. He just has a different last straw than I do, and that’s ok! He’s been a healthy, calming influence in my life and I’m grateful for that. And not just because his chill attitude has left him virtually ageless. Fucker. 😁

But yeah, thank you for getting it. I know it’s a me issue, but that doesn’t change the fact it legit hurt my feelings. And being the owner means that guy’s almost always there. Going to see friends, but avoiding him is next to impossible. Eh. It’s Milwaukee. We’ve got plenty of other bars.

From my experience it's better to have a calming partner than i will hide bodies with you. But i get your trigger, you are actually handling it very good. Not sure is it a scorpio moon thing, you sound more like a rational cap in this matter. And yes, find another bar but i also get the attachment to a certain bar, i had in my life like 3 of them. Still visiting one after 15y.

Dunno if it’s a chart progression thing or just learning from my mistakes, but I’ve refused to be ruled by my moon for some time now. It had a good run! lol

Exactly! So you know how much this sucks. Between this and the thing I’m talking about with Tiz, I’m starting to feel like a social pariah. 😕

ok this will sound like i'm changing my mind (since i'm a mom and i felt like punching the guy, after i read the whole story) but bottom line is, maybe you should simply don't give a fuck. not for friends sake, but your own. the guy is a creep, there's no doubt about it. but either, don't go there at all, or go and have fun, and ofc ignore his ass. time has changed and we old ppl have to keep up. in a way, rejecting to go there is like you are not supporting her. idk, think about it, but at the end not so many things are important.

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Ok. Just clarifying those stories are two different guys. They just happen to be the two times I wish Virgo had outwardly shown a little more support, which is why they both came up.

But, in retrospect, I agree with you. Ostracizing the friend who followed her cam site got me ostracized from a lot of my other friends, because it was an uncomfortable situation for them. I get it! But it’s done and now I’m working on all of those individual friendships, instead of approaching it as a group dynamic. Time heals a lot of things, so we’ll see. 😊

Edit to say all of the individual friendships except the cam site Sag. He can die in a fire. lol

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Hi,

Its not because he's a virgo. It's because he's not a water moon.

Meh, I disagree.

I’m a Scorpio with a cancer moon but I have 4 libra placements (including rising) and I am the type that will try to see both sides of the story too. So I think she might be right about it being his libra placements. It’s all about balance and harmony with libra. And I also am that non-confrontational type, I prefer not to rock the boat, even with my scorp sun/mercury.

I hate it sometimes too, though. Communication in close relationships is not a strength of mine. 😕

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I’d bet money on it. Plus his mom, dad and sibling are all Leebs... total Norman Rockwell upbringing. Lucky for me he’s a good communicator. Well. If *I* bring it up.

What about you? Does it ever get to a place where you feel safe bringing stuff up? Stuff outside the superficial? He’s Libra Merc and Gem moon, so once I get him going, all’s well. It’s just broaching the subject himself that seems to be an issue.

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i get it, this why leo moons and scorpio moons should be able to work, except we hate one another and hurt one another.

loyalty is key to both moons.

ayeeeeeeeeeee

My Pisces Leo moon daughter and I are so loyal to each other. However, I think it's bc I make sure she always feels she can speak to me. Her father it's different and he is a Scorpio moon, so I think the Sun has a big influence.

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So the scorpio moon ex must have totally hated my libra moon, I used to placate him during his rants just to get him to calm down. Do you carry on when upset? Like for hours?

No, but I have caught myself bringing it up if we have a disagreement. So I know it’s bugging me more than it should and that I’m starting to hold it against him, even when everyday me thinks I’m cool about it. If I was cool about it, it wouldn’t be in my argument arsenal. lol

Our communication style s mesh really well. There’s nothing we haven’t been able to talk about and work through. Think it’s just finally time to have a sit down for this one.

But to your personal experience, I’d say Scorp moons hate being placated. That said, I’ve met some that were so thick they didn’t notice.

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Oh he would harp on about whatever was bothering him. Endlessly, it seemed at times. I would tell him that I understood him the first 10 times he repeated himself. Maybe it was the Aries sun, not the scorpio moon. But it was insulting to me, I'm not a dumb person! That's when the placating would start, because I knew it bothered him to no end lol.

It's so important that you have good communication, good for you! I used to stuff until I couldn't anymore, and then flip out. Not anymore, if something is bothering me I let it out. And it feels so much healthier. I think being with another air moon is a good fit for me...

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So the scorpio moon ex must have totally hated my libra moon, I used to placate him during his rants just to get him to calm down. Do you carry on when upset? Like for hours?

No, but I have caught myself bringing it up if we have a disagreement. So I know it’s bugging me more than it should and that I’m starting to hold it against him, even when everyday me thinks I’m cool about it. If I was cool about it, it wouldn’t be in my argument arsenal. lol

Our communication style s mesh really well. There’s nothing we haven’t been able to talk about and work through. Think it’s just finally time to have a sit down for this one.

But to your personal experience, I’d say Scorp moons hate being placated. That said, I’ve met some that were so thick they didn’t notice.

Oh he would harp on about whatever was bothering him. Endlessly, it seemed at times. I would tell him that I understood him the first 10 times he repeated himself. Maybe it was the Aries sun, not the scorpio moon. But it was insulting to me, I'm not a dumb person! That's when the placating would start, because I knew it bothered him to no end lol.

It's so important that you have good communication, good for you! I used to stuff until I couldn't anymore, and then flip out. Not anymore, if something is bothering me I let it out. And it feels so much healthier. I think being with another air moon is a good fit for me...

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Ugh. That’s enough to drive anybody nuts. Take steps to fix the problem or stfu. 🙄

I’m lucky. This is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had and he’s been so patient with me. Scorp moons can be draining to Gem ones, so I wanted to have a better idea of what to say and not just spew emotional diarrhea all over him. lol

You guys have all been super helpful. Was waiting for a non hectic day to bring it up and, thanks to your input and letting me use you as a sounding board, now I know exactly what I wanna say. Thank you. ❤️

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Ok. I’m a big girl and I can choose my own battles and fight my own fights, but... I’ve gotta hang up that I’m pretty sure is my moon being a dick.

The Virgo is the least confrontational person I’ve ever met (lotsa Leeb energy) and, like I said, these are *my* qualms. That said, it irks the crap outta me that he doesn’t have my back on certain things. Like... it’s one thing to be understanding of *why* I have these issues, but it’s another to realize that these issues occurred and maaaybe it should bother him too.

Does that make sense? Probably not. You’re not in my head. But the essence of the situation is, I think my moon is yearning for the ride or die and he’s giving me apprehensive sidecar, at best.

Any other Scorpio moons notice you hold your partner/significant other/most important people to a higher standard than you do others?

Yes, I need this in my relationship, I definitely felt very alone when my ex didn't have my back in public.

My mom is a Taurus Scorpio moon, my dad is an Aries, Leo.moon, he has always had my moms back in front of any and everyone. I've never even heard him speak a negative word of her to a single soul. That's the type of loyalty I want.