I need GENUINE life changing advice. All opinions welcome.

I love this site because I can ask total strangers for advice and know I’ll get feedback without any emotional attachment lol. But basically I’ve been living in California for 1 year away from any family as a way to escape my home town, I’m 24 and I’m an exotic dancer. I see no point in why I’m here anymore, in the past year I’ve lost my love of dancing and I’m currently working on other things that will eventually lead up to the same amount of money I make now. I have barely any friends but I do have a boyfriend of 6 months. We’re inseparable, together every day and it’s the deepest love I’ve ever had for somebody. He’s there for me, we fight occasionally but he clearly wants to work it out thick and thin. So I get a call a week ago from my uncle(who’s a millionaire) wants me to pack up my stuff, and come live with him & his wife and kids in Texas because he wants to teach me how to run his business so I can one day start my own. Basically a huge blessing that could change my life. Rent free, no strings attached as a favor from my mom because she really wants me to stop dancing. I’m torn. His wife says she’ll fix my credit & everything. I’m so surprised but it’s a miracle. My only problem is truly myself. I’ve been depressed for awhile now, and I love my boyfriend. But when I bring it up to him if I should move he wants me to do what’s going to make me happy. He told me he doesn’t even know if we’ll become more serious in the future because I haven’t stopped dancing yet. Like meet his mom, live together ect. He says he’ll invest in me if I start a business.. BUT I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO START A BUSINESS. & my boyfriend is wishy washy and sometimes I can’t depend on his word all the time. My uncle can teach me things I’ll remember for life.. Help me please. My uncle wants me to drop everything and come now. I usually always follow my heart and gut and I know I haven’t been feeling Cali lately at all. But something is telling me to stay. Help me guys. Tell me if I’m trippin.

So a relationship that’s still in the honeymoon stages of rose colored bliss vs financial freedom/career.

Stop taking your clothes off for creeps and pursue that financial freedom. If he’s ride or die you can get through the ldr and have a plan for him to come join you out there.

S/O come and go. Business endeavors can last forever.

Get money honey

It doesn’t sound like you can depend on him despite those tingly feelings. Be logical about this hun. He will be there if it’s real.

Hey guys I appreciate the feedback. One thing though this post isn’t really choosing between love or money lol. I just added my boyfriend in their to add on to why I maybe shouldn’t leave. If me and him were to break up right now I’d still be living here. I believe everything happens for a reason.. I feel like whatever made me come here was for a purpose and to pack up and leave so suddenly is scary. My lease isn’t even up yet but my aunt says she can break it, and fix my credit later... and talking to him on the phone he uses words to describe me as “hood” and that he knows me better than I know myself.. even though I haven’t spoken to him since I was 12. Idk where he heard this but I’m anywhere near ghetto.. and as I kept denying it he kept INSISTING I was. Is this weird? Y’all I just don’t know anything about business. And really want to learn and I just don’t know if this is the right way to go. I know if I tell my mom she’ll either make up an excuse because he’s a Christian or call him and ask why he said that.

Posted by purplehearts94

Hey guys I appreciate the feedback. One thing though this post isn’t really choosing between love or money lol. I just added my boyfriend in their to add on to why I maybe shouldn’t leave. If me and him were to break up right now I’d still be living here. I believe everything happens for a reason.. I feel like whatever made me come here was for a purpose and to pack up and leave so suddenly is scary. My lease isn’t even up yet but my aunt says she can break it, and fix my credit later... and talking to him on the phone he uses words to describe me as “hood” and that he knows me better than I know myself.. even though I haven’t spoken to him since I was 12. Idk where he heard this but I’m anywhere near ghetto.. and as I kept denying it he kept INSISTING I was. Is this weird? Y’all I just don’t know anything about business. And really want to learn and I just don’t know if this is the right way to go. I know if I tell my mom she’ll either make up an excuse because he’s a Christian or call him and ask why he said that.

All this fix your lease, credit, etc. later from your uncle/aunt would turn me off. You got a million dollars. Fix my shit now, please and then I'll move to Texas.

The way they are acting now, as you describe above, is like a real power play. And, why powerplay from those with millions? It is what it is. People who have money that act like this have insecurities.

Then, to put you down and act aggressive about the whole move?

Naw, you can pay for/send me to school for business, pay me a salary negotiated up front that is at least comparable to my present salary, and pay for my room and board.

Then, we gucci.

Otherwise, they are human just like everybody else and can let you down too. Your uncle is practically a stranger to you. Where was he all these years? I send my nieces and nephews money twice a month.

It might very well be a good "opportunity" but something about this "opportunity" feels off ...idk what it is. In the end ...it's ultimately your choice on what you think is the best for you...not your mom, uncle, aunt ,bf ...but you!

Posted by LostinmyMind11

It might very well be a good "opportunity" but something about this "opportunity" feels off ...idk what it is. In the end ...it's ultimately your choice on what you think is the best for you...not your mom, uncle, aunt ,bf ...but you!

I agree. I think something's off too. So does she.

Posted by purplehearts94

Hey guys I appreciate the feedback. One thing though this post isn’t really choosing between love or money lol. I just added my boyfriend in their to add on to why I maybe shouldn’t leave. If me and him were to break up right now I’d still be living here. I believe everything happens for a reason.. I feel like whatever made me come here was for a purpose and to pack up and leave so suddenly is scary. My lease isn’t even up yet but my aunt says she can break it, and fix my credit later... and talking to him on the phone he uses words to describe me as “hood” and that he knows me better than I know myself.. even though I haven’t spoken to him since I was 12. Idk where he heard this but I’m anywhere near ghetto.. and as I kept denying it he kept INSISTING I was. Is this weird? Y’all I just don’t know anything about business. And really want to learn and I just don’t know if this is the right way to go. I know if I tell my mom she’ll either make up an excuse because he’s a Christian or call him and ask why he said that.

Youre a stripper. Believe it or not, most of us normal people find ur profession distasteful & are going to judge you.

Get over it & go change your life. Start a career for yourself. Or continue living the life of a whore with bad credit.

Posted by elllle

Posted by purplehearts94

Hey guys I appreciate the feedback. One thing though this post isn’t really choosing between love or money lol. I just added my boyfriend in their to add on to why I maybe shouldn’t leave. If me and him were to break up right now I’d still be living here. I believe everything happens for a reason.. I feel like whatever made me come here was for a purpose and to pack up and leave so suddenly is scary. My lease isn’t even up yet but my aunt says she can break it, and fix my credit later... and talking to him on the phone he uses words to describe me as “hood” and that he knows me better than I know myself.. even though I haven’t spoken to him since I was 12. Idk where he heard this but I’m anywhere near ghetto.. and as I kept denying it he kept INSISTING I was. Is this weird? Y’all I just don’t know anything about business. And really want to learn and I just don’t know if this is the right way to go. I know if I tell my mom she’ll either make up an excuse because he’s a Christian or call him and ask why he said that.

Crappy boyfriend aside (I read your other posts)....

I would not go to Texas. This sounds a bit shady. Straight away they don't even seem to have any respect for you.

I'm wondering what their agenda is.

Also, do not break your lease. Nobody can "fix" your credit. The only way that wouldn't affect you is if she paid off the rest of the term.

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You can fix credit

"I feel like whatever made me come here was for a purpose"

This is how delusions start. Believe me I know about delusions, I'm a double Pisces.

I think you should go to Texas. To be trained and financially helped by wealthy relative in the knowhow is a life changing opportunity that only few lucky ones have. Don't turn your back, they may never ask you again.

If you need more time to think about it, use your lease to persuade them to give you another 6-12 months or whatever the lease is. Use this time to sort your budding relationship (is he a keeper or not?) and investigate what you would like to do for a business. Start by reading about what your uncle is doing....maybe ask him questions, to see that you are intelligent and interested.

Honestly, they have a lot to lose with this offer. You only have to gain.

Damn, another weeks "old" story I somehow landed within seconds of logging in.....I blame dxpnet's new algorithm....it's a trap!

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Posted by elllle

Posted by purplehearts94

Hey guys I appreciate the feedback. One thing though this post isn’t really choosing between love or money lol. I just added my boyfriend in their to add on to why I maybe shouldn’t leave. If me and him were to break up right now I’d still be living here. I believe everything happens for a reason.. I feel like whatever made me come here was for a purpose and to pack up and leave so suddenly is scary. My lease isn’t even up yet but my aunt says she can break it, and fix my credit later... and talking to him on the phone he uses words to describe me as “hood” and that he knows me better than I know myself.. even though I haven’t spoken to him since I was 12. Idk where he heard this but I’m anywhere near ghetto.. and as I kept denying it he kept INSISTING I was. Is this weird? Y’all I just don’t know anything about business. And really want to learn and I just don’t know if this is the right way to go. I know if I tell my mom she’ll either make up an excuse because he’s a Christian or call him and ask why he said that.

Crappy boyfriend aside (I read your other posts)....

I would not go to Texas. This sounds a bit shady. Straight away they don't even seem to have any respect for you.

I'm wondering what their agenda is.

Also, do not break your lease. Nobody can "fix" your credit. The only way that wouldn't affect you is if she paid off the rest of the term.

You can fix credit

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Broken lease stays in your credit report for 7 years. Good luck trying to rent another place without putting a massive deposit down.

Get that money. Youre young, that romance will eventually fade. You wont know what you really want in a man until your 30's. If he really is the one, he'll make it out to Texas. TAKE THIS ADVICE.