Anyone else missing Durrie?

Where have all the durries gone? lol (to the tune of Paula Cole's "Where Have All The Cowboys Gone?")

I miss you, *sniffle

Heather

Yes, where is the little munchkin pa tootie—? I have one last nerve he needs to get on it! J/K cutie

lol...let's corrupt him together, what do you say, suzy?

LOL 😛

Durrie, your harem is lost without you.

Teach me, professor. hehehe

Okay now I'm getting worried a little. I hope he's okay :/

Still here ladies...alive and well, thanks for your concern you are very kind.

Truth is I have still been reading the posts latley but have had no interest in the topics of posting to reply.

Seems like there is a whole lot of paranoia out there latley and all this board has been about is pointing fingers and talking absolute rubish...snide remarks and way to many people takeing things personally and building their anger as a result...—

I guess it's because this board will never be objective by it's very nature. What I mean is that every post I post or you for that matter will always be read by "whoever" in "whatever" frame of mind on the day suject to their emotional and mental state at the time of reading my post so for it to be taken at face value as you posted is impossible...not that it has to be but the backlash of that is a lot more detrimental than thought.

I have been known on this board for what I call stong will and decent morals and an ability to stand for what I believe due to more evidance than not that it works...FOR ME!!! As a result others have chosen to call me many things right from dogmatic to richeous and to the point that I have been called Jesus and other holy names...you see...

I will admit I fell for and was swept up in some of the negativity at times but everytime it came to pressing the submit button it was like...

..."what for...what's the use...I'm not gonna waste my breath when people don't wanna listen to anyone else but them selves"...

There was a post I was very interested in and took an active role in called forgiveness. The mentality shown towards forgiveness upon that thread to be honest worried me...indeed some found the entire notion a waste of time but more than that it opened my eye's to people and their problems. I could have stuck around and done the brocken record thing but I realised that it's not my job to fix the world...it's my job to enjoy it...!!!

Phoenix...you are such a kind and happy person...I always enjoy your posts and your recurring theme of "if I like it and it doesn't hurt anyone it must be good" is a sound one. Thanks you so much for thinking of me...it means a lot to know I have somehow touched you...

I'm still here...I just don't have time for bickering but when a decent topic is raised albeit my personal decision we'll meet again.

Take care...love and light always....
Durrie.

Durrie,

I know how you feel and sometimes it is just better to dust yourself off and walk away. I think I will do just that!

Durrie, I understand exactly what you mean. I *especially* understand it "in the realm of durrie", if you know what I'm saying. 🙂

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damn, okay, it's not showing up for some reason...hold on a sec...

I keep trying to say that "I *especially* understand it "in the realm of durrie" was not to be taken as an insult, but as a compliment. Whew, there. lol!

P.S. I went on and on to my boyfriend about how loving and good natured and pure you are as a person. I told him all about "the English guy named Durrie". lol. 🙂

P.P.S. Also, the part where I said, "always an example on this site"--that should say, "durrie, you are always an example to follow on this site".

And I don't know if this is relevant to you or will matter to you (lol), but, Suzy and I and pretty much everyone around here has worked everything out, and I can't speak for anyone else, but I learned a lot from the whole thing. Okay, I'm done babbling now 😛

hmmm... so durrie... you're English? Interesting...

That is called practical application. I always learn that way. Someone can tell me a hundred times, but it doesnt seem to sink in until it happens to me, and I have to experience it for myself! or work it out.
I guess that is refered to as hard headed.

Durrie,

I think highly of you too. I wish you would accept the fact that we are all like children in life and we learn as we go and grow and as long and we will make mistakes and things will come up that we have to learn from and as long as we are learning, then this is what matters.

Please come back, teach. You are needed here!!!!
Love
Suzy

Hello laddies...

Once again thank you so much for your support...it is very gratifying to finally hear possitive words on this board again and when they are directed at myself it is part of my journey to learn humbleness and not get big headed...
Thankyou all for your kind words...much appreciated...!!!

Gwendylyn...Does England interest you...? Why is it interesting to you that I live in England...I'm just curious really. I don't regard myself as english, I was actually born in Zimbabwe(Rhodesia) but grew up and went through my entire schooling in South Africa and regard myself as S.African...a place of much beauty and granduar and a place where I shall return to to raise my children one day.

Once again...thanks for the kind words laddies...and SuzyQ, you show much reziliance and strength of character to keep posting and being yourself since certain people wanted you "extrodited"...who are they to say...but I do hope you have learned from this. We are all just human and as such we hate being decieved...with a little bit more understanding and a whole lot more forgiveness we can overcome that...pride can be a dangerous thing...

Take care all...love and light to all and always...
Durrie.

Durrie,

Do you think I was being prideful. Really I was just trying to communicate in code to another. It was not personal and really it was so obvious!!!

Ok, but I still like to be different personalities sometimes. It is fun! I am really a little bit of all those people. I will try and be nicer and humble too. I am not dishonest though. Every story I have told is the complete truth no matter if it was SuzyQ, YM, Wonderbox etc...never lied about the content only who was the author, ok?

Love ya Durrie
SuzyQ!

PS I think a good name for a baby is Afrika(A-freak-a) or Kenya

Hey Suzy...

No not at all...I don't mean you were a victim of your pride I mean the other people were...the ones who took offence at what you did...they were the victims of their own pride to my mind.

You see...before they knew who all those aliases were they would have had no problem what so ever in taking your advice if they themselves liked or condoned the actions suggested by one of your aliases.

As soon as their suspicions were raised and their pride hurt or questioned as a result, feelings of deciept flood in and their judement is now subject to negativity and they changed their choon toward those aliases and actually became hostile in many respects toward those aliases and you as a result...regardless of your intentions I might add ie. good or bad it didn't matter...they had their deciept eye's on and that's all they could see.

SusyQ your pride is justified to my mind...you've been found out and you've accepted that you've hurt people and hopefully you've learnt from that. For you to hold your head high and say this is who I am, carry on as such and say that is why I did what I did, and keep your pride is quite difficult and actually builds character.

Worry about how your own heart feels SuzyQ...listen to it and trust it...life will make more sense and seem easier if you do. I hope we can lay this incident to rest now as life must move on...

Stay well SuzyQ.
Much love...
Durrie.

np durrie

Interesting posts folks... and truthfully said regarding the responses to topics generated at times.

But y'know what? Different individuals having unique personalities/ temperaments will exhibit a variety of these responses. There are many people from all walks of life reading the boards, and depending upon educational background, culture, etc. of these individuals, I find the feedback could be also reflected somewhat by this.

I also find that expressing oneself appropriately on messageboards can be misconstrued or misinterpreted at times, so detailed explanations are many times necessary. (I've found out from my own experiences-sigh). I guess I should consider a course in Expressive Writing 101.LOL

In any case, I read and respond when I feel it necessary to do so. If not, I just move on. That's the liberty we have on this system. I really think there's no need for offensive or distasteful words, particularly those assaulting another person character. Granted, we may not all agree; but if we can just agree to disagree in good spirit, that's a good thing.

Just my "two bit" opinion...
~With a smile~
Shel.

Hmm..now *how* did thos lines happen?lol. Oh yeah..I had placed the '' after person..geez..another lesson learned... Isn't life grand? lol

ShellieG--liked your post; very well said.

Durrie. Even though I completely disagree with about half of your latest post, I am not going to sit here and pick it apart, in the interest of everyone getting along and also because it seems futile; if you want to think that pride had something to do with my feelings being hurt because of trust issues being broken, then you will think that, accurate or not. :/

Hey Phoenix...

Hmmm...this is exactly what I was talking about in my first post here. It's come full circle and the cycle continues...I was not refereing to you in my last post, you assumed I was and there is nothing I can do about that and I am not going to say or do anything more about it because I know what my intensions were...you either believe me or you don't it's that simple.

The last time I did this I was accused of baiting people into a response which I was not and still am not.

Assumption...the mother of ALL "FU*K UPS"...so how do we get around it...simple...we ask...!!!

Phoenix I'm not mad at you for assuming I was talking to you but what why do you not choose to ask me before takeing a posistion on the subject...that way no toes are unintentionally stepped on and everyone is happy...

I think I have just found a new topic to post but I am going to have to think about it first...

Phoenix I could never be angry at you or anyone else on this board...it's so not worth it...we're all just trying to help...well I hope so...but to take offence at something from someone who is essentially a total stranger is just madness.

Take care Phoenix...
Durrie.

Well, you're right I should have just asked you if you were talking about me. The part I disagreed with in your post was when you said that basically the root of why people got pissed or upset about the aliases was pride...I totally disagree with that. I can't speak for anyone else, but we're sharing opinions here and my opinion is that pride has absolutely zero, zilch to do with any of it. It was about feeling taken advantage of and being deceived--as you said, people then saw everything through their decieved eyes. But should they be blamed for that? Was it their fault? My opinion is no. Rational people don't get upset over nothing...to imply that what was done was "no big deal" and that the people who were affected by it were "prideful" to me is putting blame where it does not belong. And if you feel that blame does not lie with anyone in this matter, then at least you acknowledge that is certainly doesn't lie with those who were hurt by this...right? Also, you might see everyone here as "essentially strangers", but I do not see it that way at all. A lot of the people here I feel I know better than many people in my "real" life...I see most of the people here as far more than essential strangers. The pride thing really throws me--I can't make the connection at all...how do you assume someone is prideful just because they got angry about something? I don't understand. But you're right, from now on I will just come right out and ask if I'm being talked about rather than assuming...

Take care,
Heather

*should say "...it certainly...", not "...IS certainly..."

Hi Everyone 🙂

I came upon this post but I will admit that I did not go back and read the first page. Sorry. I hope you don't mind if I throw my thoughts out there about the words I was reading.

As long as we are "alive" on this planet, "stuff" will be in our lives (only if we choose it to be). I sit back and I observe not knowing any of you from a very distant place. Let's say I have gone from this planet but I am so aware of all that happens here. Actually, you may want to try this. Seperate yourself from you...observe your life, your actions, everything.... I do feel that situations will arise and we must deal with them and herein lies the observations from afar....this helps us to "see" more clearly the true meaning of life. Helps us to make the decisons that will allow us to "feel" good and the decisions that come from a place of love.

There are so many ways, so many choices on how we can choose to live life....try them all on for size and see which one "fits" with who you are. If you feel like it, pretend that you have passed on and you do have the ability to review your life or be a part of it as it is now happening....review this post but from another place in your mind. See what happens.

Just wanted to throw some things out there for pondering....

FB

Just keep being yourself Durrie. You have never changed for anyone, that's what ive liked about you.

I have always liked that about him too. I don't know when or why I fell out of favor with him, but it seems I have for some reason. Not assuming, just pontificating.

I do agree with your explanation, Phoenix, posted on Nov. 15th...

Durrie, you may think what you choose as we all may..

Suzy, if you were not trying to deceive, why did your alias' have different ages? There were other differences too...yet, you say you only spoke the truth??

Freebird, you are always a 'fresh air' thinker...I wish you would post more! You are inspiring!

I didnt use different ages. That was your own perception. I said I was an old woman and I am!

I think I have finally been twistedstraight! LOL. I have learned a very big lesson from this whole ordeal and for that I am grateful!!! Maybe I was wrong for the what I did, but my intentions were not.

Sometimes we do crazy things when we have been hurt or perceive that we might get hurt and it manifests into behavior you normally would never consider doing! I hate playing games because I dont like it done to me! This was just something I needed to go through, because I was hurting and in some emotional pain. I have never been through anything like it before and hope to hell I never get played like that again. I guess I deserved to hear about it from you all. I hope this explains some of it.

That should read " I was an older woman" not an old woman LOL! I am trying to put my picture in my profile so to share with you some more of myself but I am not sure how to do it.

Suzy

Hmmm, if you were not giving the perception of different ages...then how come 'Your Mother' claimed to have a daugher around SuzyQ's age? Would this be possible if "Your Mother' was the same age as SuzyQ?? I think not!

You need to just get over it! I am not going to explain myself to you anymore!! You seem to want to carry the torch awhile then go ahead if it makes you happy or gives you something to feed off of. It only makes you look like the hater in the end. I guess you are so perfect, Star, that you have never done anything wrong in your whole life, right? Well, if you have then you need to put the stones down!

You are so funny Star! Durrie, if you are reading this, i know you don't like negativety but it seems to me that your desperate attempt to change every situation into a positive one is motivated by your fear of becoming negative or of 'negativety' itself. I say you have the power to change the world, you don't need to 'fear' negativety. If you are a strong enough (i should say 'compassionate' enough, because i believe compassion is the only way to change negativety. In my view, compassion is strength anyway), you can change the negativety around you, you can act as a transformer if you like, and you will no longer run from it.

PS. I've never read your posts (Durrie) as being 'bateful'.

Hey everyone...

I thought this thread was done and dusted with mine and Phoenix's last comments...but...Freebird...

Yes Freebird, your advice is sound and I do this often. I love sitting on a vantage point above a busy station at rush hour and just watching millions of people milling about like ants...it helps me with the removal process, helps me see me from a distance like you suggested...

Thing is...that is something for me and what I use to keep myself on track and yes it does help to dissolve the negativity at times but my quandry is how others can't and wrongly assume, judge and build incorrect oppinions from negativaty as a result which in turn makes me feel untoward them even though I know their thinking is poorly based and would be differant if they knew the whole picture.

This is why I have and can't stress the power of forgiveness enough and was shocked at certain people's replies and comments on the forgiveness thread...people I once revered and thought I might be like in many ways.

To learn to truley forgive is to lean to become selfless to my mind and that...well that means no more pain, no more loss, no more greed, no more vanity, no more lamenting, no more "neativity" as a whole really...none of the daily crap we as humans plunge our selves and lives into at our "OWN" expense to satisfy this psudo-life know as our minds ego.

Libragirl I don't fear negativity...I loath it...I have no use for it and as I live and I see the repercussions and affect it has daily on people's lives but yet...I still ironically see it's relavance in life...and you are right we can and do have the power to change it but my will is not to have anything to do with it fullstop, albeit a pipedream of mine as a "human"...

Love and light to all and always...
Durrie.

P.S Star, get off SusyQ's back for petesake...FORGIVENESS!!!

P.P.S SusyQ, you got what you ask for...

lalalala.. things ive already seen, "sayings" or shall i say "advice" that ive already heard, nothing new.

what happens when the person who seemed to have all this "positive" light is a fraud? Who just speaks but never feels. What happens when the person you thought had it made, is some walking contradiction? I guess nobody knows anything. They just state things that might have some importance to some ppl, but everyones different so i dont see how one advice matches everyone. And one assumption matches everyone. I think pushing ppl to be some way or to agree the same way as that person is sorta funny. I think sometimes ppl only see admirable traits on ppl who are "right" in their standards, but to others it might not be the same thing..so what is the "right" or should i say "admirable" person? Maybe we're just all the same damn thing.. Lalalalala

confusing confusing. Its like one thing comes after another, but i guess life would be boring if we knew it all. Maybe we're just all the same and yet different at the same time since we all have different situations. But as the person, theyre different but probably holding the same characteristics of man, just some can overcome those better. And if they do, its good, if they dont, it doesnt mean theyre bad.. i still say theyre good cus they have their own admirable traits. So i guess, maybe sometimes, this world makes a balance by even those "bad" qualities of man or "bad" experiences or "bad" occurances. Who knows. o_O candyyy i want candyyyy

Wow! I got a new daddy and its Durrie. Thanks Durrie, and now you are on the butter list! I can handle it; I find it amusing. They act like judge and jury and I committed the worst crime on earth. Really what I did was none of there business, and I dont feel like I should have to tell them anything. I wasnt bothering them or trying to hustle anyone. I could see it if I was some sick treetrunker and I was hitting up guys for dates or getting involved in peoples personal lives deceptivley, but that wasnt the case. They ought to be thankful I did what I did. Maybe they will wake up and realize this is a common occurrence and can be much more serious.
Like I said, I was played the same way and I was trying to make a point.

lol!!! we arent taking it seriously suzy Q, well at first yeah since you know, there is something called knowing how to keep a friendship. "None of you have proven worthy of being called a 'friend'!" blah blah hooba. hMMmMmmM you did say some harsh things outta no where tho but you state it as being 'blunt'. You cant deny that. And other posts you said that you dont say anything unless provoked, liar. Maybe you were 'provoked' but sometimes it seems like you get provoked and start lashing for all the pointless reasons and that is why my child, you get ppl throwing what you gave back at you. Im just stating the truth, not trying to bash at you. And I'm not trying to 'change' you since you basically change everyday but i'm just stating the obvious. And this message board is basically what you do, say your thoughts and opinions and having all these 948594 characters you made up isnt a bad thing, since no one really cared only the ones who thought of you as a "friend". Maybe ppl just found it hilarious? And suzy just because you believe that its a 'common' or 'normal' everyday thing doesnt mean that people wont be bothered by some things. And before, you said "You like to mess with me that is in writing", thats true x) but i only said that because you f*ked with me also("friendship") mhmmmmmmmm, im boreeed, ima go out, latez

LOL Luz

I agree with Lena, 'lala'. I've finally reached this point. Durrie, you say you have a vantage point, kind of insinuating you are above everyone? I don't think so. You, like all of us are human and have the same human foibles as us all. You say you 'loathe' negativety, i would say you fear it. You only fear what you loathe. You are scared of it because you are afraid of becoming it. Negativety is only postivity not yet in the light. You say 'love and light', well, practice what you preach and transform the negativety around you into positivety. Btw, leave Star alone, she is one of the only person on these boards with integrity. She is a free person and free to think, say and feel what she likes. Hello, let people fly. You are so busy preaching forgiveness and freedom (from what i can tell) yet you oppress with your constant statements of 'forgiveness'.

Anyway, this is too ridiculous to go on with.

This crap is getting old! Star has no integrity neither do you. Go way back and read her posts. This has happened before and never once did she apologize. She has slandered other people and then blames it on the Libra people! As long as she has a gang to hide behind she has a spine; call her out by herself, she backs down. I dont call that integrity. I call that a pack mentality. Stop the judging unless you are without anything to be judged for yourself, and I already know the answer to that. You look foolish and therefore without integrity. Admit that you have treetrunked up before and have no right to hold yourselfs superior to anyone.

As far as Lena goes, you dont exist in my world anymore. I dont hate you, I just dont care to have anymore dealings with you. I dont need the drama or the chaos!

Where is durrie now?

the paragraph wasnt even half about me LOL i guess you really dont get anything through ur head, i never "cared" that you were 049504 ppl. I never really cared about YOU either until that one point but f*k that. I was laughing and going along since from the start, you never treated me good. But i really dont care, like i said, im here to 'mess' with you because you irritate me with every word you say about ppls and ideas. So just stay out of everyones way and stop trying to act like bad ass who thinks shes better than everyone because basically, you're s**t for saying that star & libragirl have no integrity. You talk too much Suzy, plz stop ok? No one really cares but you know, they got their own problems you know? I wonder if you have any real true friends...

I can answer that--she doesn't. No one in their right mind would put up with her. And yes, Suzy, you are an absolute parasite for dogging on some of the most upstanding people around here.

Well, i think i have integrity and im not going to argue about it. I wasn't being judgemental, i was merely making a point in a very dignified way if you ask me. I appreciate much of what Durrie has to say, but i would be going against my integrity if i didn't say what i wanted to say. I don't believe what you say about Star, i think she's ace and my opinion sticks.

Good day to you all,
Libragirl.

You do have integrity Libragirl--don't let anyone say otherwise. And you always make your points in a dignified way. That is a very admirable trait, if you ask me. I do wish Star had been here tonight to see the madness unfold. lol. *sigh, I hope that suzy's computer breaks so she can't spew her mean butter all over the place anymore