Help with Pisces teen

Hi,
I am not deeply knowledgeable on astrology however i have gotten some good insights over the years looking up my own & family member's signs.
I am an early Aries Mom and my teenage Pisces son is starting to go down a dark depraved path.
Any advice for two such conflicting signs to get along & for me to to get through to him enough that he steers clear of having a horridly hard life? I just want him to be able to have enough of a career that he can be comfortable - not trying to force him into a certain career or anything like that. I just want him to have freedom & not have to struggle more then normal.

Re: dark

Are we talking about drugs, alcohol, something else?

Little bit of both alcohol & drugs, refusing to do school work and failing classes. He hasn't cut any classes thankfully. He could be doing much worse, I'm just trying to head it off at the pass. I realized while reading up last night part of it could be he has matured enough to be fully displaying his sign.
Also I'm worried about accidentally burning a bridge with him by being too direct. It's like any advice or directive I tell him is a challenge to not do. His own friends have even noticed so i don't think it's just teenage thing. It's like walking on egg shells where as before we were very close & could tell each other anything.

Anything to try or for me to avoid doing is appreciated.

Does he have any career aspirations?

I actually tried to private message you but it is disabled for you. I had some more questions. Pm me if you would like some help.

Could it be because is school work is to hard for him? What's his birth chart? maybe I can explain it and see what's going on.

I'm a Pisces teenager with an Aries mother too, and I'd say what's best to do is give him love (if you can, because my mom couldn't - for me it came from my dad) - get him to feel comfortable. The reason he turns to escapist behavior is because of a lack of love and comfort, the feeling of being safe.

If a Pisces doesn't feel comfortable sober, unlike most people who solve what's bothering them, they escape in isolation from the world around them. This because they feel that their feelings are too complex to understand, let alone solve.
And without an accepting, stable and loving mother, they are unable to let go, and they escape from the pressure.

This doesn't count for all Pisces though, mostly the very sensitive ones. There's ones who are just into partying too.

I'll see if I can turn on PM (thought it was on, sorry).

What information is needed for a birth chart? That's always confused me - a neighbor once tried to explain figuring out the the rising sign thing to me once and I got confused.

Risesafterall, noted. I do try to take good care of him without babying him. I do all I can to address any comfort issues as soon as I am aware however sometimes I think it makes him feel uncomfortable. Thank you for the notes, it'll help.

First, your energy is wrong. If you are thinking this way, then certainly, you are approaching him this way .... you said, "for me to to get through to him enough that he steers clear of having a horridly hard life?"

Your approach is to assume that his life will be horrid if he doesn't live by your standards. And I'm telling you right now .... if this is your thought process, which would then lead you to converse with him with this mindset ... then he'll likely swim away once he's able to never return to you.

A Pisces person is completely independent in the way they want to live their lives. If someone comes along and tells them that they don't approve of their choices, then the Fish will flip them off, and dessert them FOREVER.

As I read your testimony, you believe that he's going to have a horridly hard life, based on YOU, and your perception of life. which only counts for you, and your life. If you attempt to tell him what he should or should not do, to live up to your standards .. then you're going to lose him permanently.

mark my words ... we will NOT be controlled, in any form. So, the likely reason why he's slipping further, is because you are running your mouth to him in telling him what you expect of him, and telling him that if he is to have a good life, then he HAS to abide by your standards.

I can see perfectly why he is rebelling against you .... you're treating him in total contrast of how you should treat him.


You said, "I just want him to be able to have enough of a career that he can be comfortable - not trying to force him into a certain career or anything like that. I just want him to have freedom & not have to struggle more then normal."


By saying that ^^^^^ it implies that he is not worthy of loving his life the way it is, because you are trying to impose your standards on him.

The first rule of thumb with a Pisces is to accept them ... however they come. It looks like you don't have respect for his life choices to stop yourself from trying to control him. That's an Aries trait, this trying to control their people. Well, you're gonna lose this child, if you don't control yourself, and stop placing expectations on him.

he has a beautiful life, that's wonderful for him .... and you haven't even noticed, have you? No !! Because you're too busy disapproving.



Second ..... the way to reach the Fish, is to be in need of them. If you are on top of your game, and dont' need anyone to tell you what to do, you don't need anyone to give you pointers in life (such as you are doing to him) ... then there's no place in your life for a Pisces.

If you want him to hear you ... then you need to stop being the boss, and start considering yourself equal.

Another Pisces in here said to you, "After I noticed how much my nephew looks up to me is when I changed my actions."


And this verifies what I told you.

to reach the Fish, he needs to feel appreciated and needed ..... according to what you've written the only thing I sense is that you don't approve of him and his choices.



So, the bottom line is .... you need to check yourself and make the appropriate adjustments