How to attract a Pisces guy??

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I'm a Virgo on Libra cusp. He said he wanted to be friends and I'm fine with that but I still want to make him like me back. He is different from other guys who are mean and insensitive because he is genle and compassionate. Hes shy but I'm patient and understanding of that
So what does Pisces guy look for in a girl?? And what are some strategies to get him to like me back?
We are close friends who deeply care about eachother. I'm pretty sure hes not completely uninterested. He wanted to be friends because we are in school and he feels awkward when we talk. How do I make it less awkward?
I need help from awesome and at the same time not so awesome Pisces haha! My worst enemy was also a Pisces. I guess thats what you get when you put opposites together.
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We don't only chat in the group chat...I just didn't mention it previously. And not necessarily, I read that when people are awkward around eachother it can also mean that they are really into eachother and they are very nervous of screwing up in front of the other. I won't stop being friends with him. I think I'll even support him when he gets a gf thats not me because I care for him. But until then I just want to do my best to get him for myself, and that includes giving him space, making him question whether I still like him or not, and being appealing to him when we are communicating. I'm just a bit lost on how to appeal to him.
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Posted by lolmeng
I was never holding him in my grasp, I was fine with being friends. I'm not clingy at all. It would be better if you gave me more useful advice. I rarely even hint to him that I still like him.
Alright, I'll give you something useful.

What makes us Pisces melt is a thoughtful gesture. Do something meaningful for him without being asked. Give or do something that shows you've been listening to him. Bring him his favorite snack. Read his favorite book and discuss it in your chat time. Etc. etc.

We like gifts that show you care about us. It's the little things that go the furthest.
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I was talking to a Virgo libra cusp Sept 24th male I'm a pisces sun sag moon we never started a relationship because he wouldn't be up front with me never told me if we were friends which I asked he only said he wanted me maybe and tbh thats not up front to me maybe I'm naive but I didnt know what he ment by that. I didnt think he was interested because I didnt feel him emotionally connected to me. I always had to ask him about what he liked and enjoyed doing we went out a couple of times he acted like if we were dating at his job they even thought I was his gf. I thought he was eventually going to ask me to be his gf this went on for a yr. And honestly I think he was just stringing me along and maybe he had or has a gf. My advice to you as a pisces is try to connect with him emotionally like @ladyneptune said small things go a long way ask him about his likes dislikes.
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His birthday is coming up soon! I want to give him something meaningful but hes not at school this semester and I cant deliver personal gifts to him. I can only buy something for him online. I wanted to give him a scribbler with cute drawings on it.
I dont know what to do exactly for his birthday. If I give him something I feel he would be pressured to give me something back.
Maybe I should buy him something meaningful without too much monetary value? You Pisces dont seem to care about monetary value.
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I have a bit of trouble connecting emotionally with him. It was very easy when we just met we talked every day for like 3 months. Then we stopped and got more distancey. I wish those days were back. I keep wondering if I did something wrong to scare him off. It was amazing at the beginning because we got close so fast and learned a lot about eachother. Now he would only talk about school 😐 I feel a bit hopeless and lost.
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Posted by lolmeng
His birthday is coming up soon! I want to give him something meaningful but hes not at school this semester and I cant deliver personal gifts to him. I can only buy something for him online. I wanted to give him a scribbler with cute drawings on it.
I dont know what to do exactly for his birthday. If I give him something I feel he would be pressured to give me something back.
Maybe I should buy him something meaningful without too much monetary value? You Pisces dont seem to care about monetary value.
Does he know you like him? because thats d only way he will feel pressured to give you something back. my birthday is coming up soon as well and d guy I was talking to i believe remembers and honestly even if he gave my a small chocolate I would be happy we haven't spoken for about a month now but it would mean a lot. the scribbler would be nice but if you cant get it delivered then send him an ecard.
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Posted by OceanBoy88
Pisces wants the whole package to be honest. You must be smart, deep, and sexy. If you match that, be nice to him. Hugs, play together, and smile sweetly with pretty eyes. Have him used to you. Then disappear and be friends with another guy. When he "bumps" into you when your alone or free, watch him come full force for you lol. When he does, let him do the chasing and give him clues he's winning. Flirt back with your eyes and hands. We feel more and understand through touch not words. The chase and the building up of emotions is a huge turn on versus the "hey you win without having to try" feeling.
He pretty much sums up everything a Pisces man is looking for. I'm on the same cusp as you are and been in relationship with a pisces for 6 months and we are dating again. His long term female friend is also on the same cusp, he says she is "fun" cos she is a party girl, he probably can never see himself being with her. He only enjoys her company cos of familiarity and drama free.

Pisces man hates drama, they would swim away from that.
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Posted by OceanBoy88
Pisces wants the whole package to be honest. You must be smart, deep, and sexy. If you match that, be nice to him. Hugs, play together, and smile sweetly with pretty eyes. Have him used to you. Then disappear and be friends with another guy. When he "bumps" into you when your alone or free, watch him come full force for you lol. When he does, let him do the chasing and give him clues he's winning. Flirt back with your eyes and hands. We feel more and understand through touch not words. The chase and the building up of emotions is a huge turn on versus the "hey you win without having to try" feeling.
He pretty much sums up everything a Pisces man is looking for. I'm on the same cusp as you are and been in relationship with a pisces for 6 months and we are dating again. His long term female friend is also on the same cusp, he says she is "fun" cos she is a party girl, he probably can never see himself being with her. He only enjoys her company cos of familiarity and drama free.

Pisces man hates drama, they would swim away from that.
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mine had a love/hate with it. leo moon.
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If he's an Aries in Venus then I can relate to that in a way. I share Aries in Venus with him. Usually I connect strong and intense, but as soon as I lose interest, it fades away. In highschool I developed a powerful relationship with a Virgo. She knew I was crazy for her but it was so hard to read her. It's funny because she was so talented in art. I still have the things she drew for me actually. She would always do sweet things like buy me snacks for lunch break and we'd always sit together and talk. As much as I fell for her she never really gave me solid clues. I'd tell her she's beautiful and really liked her but all I got was an "oh okay" or "shut up". I took that as a " I'm not interested" and started my luck on other girls. I would always strike out and talk to her whenever I was hurt and down. After we graduated and I completely gave up on her, she became insanely aggressive to get me back. After a total of 5 years of knowing each other, we started a dedicated relationship that lasted 7 years. It was by far the most fulfilling relationship I've ever been in. I find it extremely difficult to create a bond through chats and text because you can't feel the person and vibe with them. No emoji in this world can express a genuine feeling. In my situations, bonding with a woman face to face is key. You can see happiness, sadness, anger, excitement, and love. If all you two can have is a long distance thing, then its going to be hard. Without one and one time, everything is blurred and imagination runs wild. Personally, a long distance relationship would drive me insane.

ii've never seen a successful relationship where pisces man is long distance, unless they are already established IN a relationship. (for example if he's in the military or works far, like trucking, ect)
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@Poppyseeds Lol I hate drama! I've been called the peacemaker so much! I stepped in so many fights to stop them and cringe whenever I hear people planning to
get even
Pisces loves to be peace maker more so than Libra, but they would soak up all of those negative emotions from both parties and ended up stressing themselves!

The fish guy would soak up lots of stress and then come and talk to me about it. He find it hard to open up to others to release his stress. Are you like that as well?
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@lisabethur8 I can agree with that 100% . The ONLY way I can do a long distance relationship is only if a pure bond was created. I was supposed to include that but forgot
I went away for 3 weeks holiday, the night before my flight he had tears in his eyes. He tried not to let me see him cry, so I pretend I didn't see it. Since I was gone I know he miss me but he never said a word.

We had a stupid fight while I was away, 4 days later he broke up with me.... since then he never stopped contacting me and when I'm back in town he volunteer to pick me up from the airport. When he saw me he closed his eyes and hugged me so tight... if I dind't say let's get going he would stand there and hug me for a really long time...

In hind sight I wonder if we didn't have that fight would he broke up with me.. talking about the same guy we were talking about the other day.
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@Poppyseeds Im definitely like that. I tend to go out and hang with friends constantly almost every day and all of a sudden shut down and decline everyone. I don't really have much people to talk to. Not that I dont have friends (I have amazing friends), but I just need alone time. Especially after feeling too much negative energy. I don't have much friends that I can completely confide to in a deeper sense. I have only one but I don't want to burden him with my problems. Ironically he's a Scorp. Best friend I've ever had since 2010 and his value surpasses friends I've know for my lifetime. Now, when I'm stressed out, I close my windows, lock my doors, ignore all messages, and just calm myself. My biggest escape is music. I am a pianist and its my only place I can bring peace to myself. It calms my spirit and restores my energy to face the world. It's my form of meditation and for me, it has saved myself many time. In your sense, you are his meditation and for me its my piano.
You sound like him a lot especially with the "lock out", he's never learn piano but he loves piano. He said he doesn't really open up to anyone not even towards his family. He says everyone gives out different energy. He would chill with his best friend for beer or watch TV or simply enjoy the comfortable silence with him.

Thanks being his meditation is a nice compliment. This is probably why he is still dating me. I wish things can take to the next level, but not until he does some soul searching. Some says he is stringing me along, but I do believe in his tears and his phobia is real.
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@Poppyseeds Lol I hate drama! I've been called the peacemaker so much! I stepped in so many fights to stop them and cringe whenever I hear people planning to
get even
hm you have gemini moon/aqua rising.

what's your mars venus?

pisces i know dont really go out of their way to be "peacemakers" ...
Mars capricorn
Venus aries
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hm yeah it maybe your gemini moon.

mars capricorn men are ambitious in their own way...and so is venus aries.

i'm only talking specifically on relationships.

they know what they want.

might be your houses too.
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@Poppyseeds I have the same issue with my family. I don't really tell them much because I don't want them to worry. Sadly we never were an affectionate family. I see other family's and I honestly can say it makes me jealous especially how close others are. I've always seen Thanksgiving Days, Christmas parties, and birthdays more real in other families. My parents told me they loved me less than the amount of fingers on my hands. I know the love is there but we never expressed affection. I actually feel weird saying it to my parents and siblings and we're all in our mid/late 20s.
I can agree to the people giving different energies. People make you feel a certain way and that's undisputable. Regardless of man, woman, or star signs, everyone effects you in some way. I do the same with my best friend. I feel silence really do speak louder than words. As far as your friend stringing you along, I wouldn't be able to tell. But soul searching I can agree to. I'm constantly looking to find myself, and if I had tears in my eyes or fear, it would be because I was completely broken. I hide it well behind a mask
He came from a divorce family, I'm guessing he had a traumatic childhood but he wouldn't admit it. He has a love hate relationship with his mom. He is a good son who often spend time with her yet he is determine to find someone who is nothing like her. As he finds her very frustrating. He loves his family, he is close to them as he sees them a lot but I wouldn't say very close as he can't fully express himself.

About " it would be because I was completely broken. I hide it well behind a mask" I can related to that.. as I never knew he felt that way until he said I've been relying on you too much to grow. I'm too attached to you. He surely hides it well... I didn't know until he said all that the day he broke up with me. But here he is again.

I believe that if there is any stringing along going on it wouldn't be on purpose.. it's the unsuitability of his own emotions.
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@Poppyseeds yea I feel expression is hard. Everything I wrote hear would never come out of my mouth honestly. My face would be more clear and any words I planned to say would just blank out like stage fright. If only someone can read my mind if would be do easier!!! Sometimes a word can't fit an emotion. Thats how I feel sometimes. A divorced family for him is especially rough. The constant back and forth with bonds fading away would hurt anyone. For me, the only time words come out clear is if I was faced with an ultimatum like how he probably felt in your situation so maybe that's why everything came out at the last minute
You are right about him with expression, he is exactly what you describe. I'm amazed by how much similarity you two share.

I didn't plan on giving him ultimatum at that moment, he cried and then told me he was really into me and such. He doesn't express himself well either, We love holding hands, smile while looking into each others eyes and kissing each other when we are out, I also love touching him when he drives. I can feel how much he is enjoying it and he once told me I have the magic touch to him.

I guess being with a fish you really have to judge him by what he is doing for you and feel his presence, like the way he smiles at you, hold you, kiss you and how he look into your eyes?
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He definitely knows I like him. It took a week for him to tell me he just wanted to be friends.




You need to step away. He only wants to be friends with you.


Anything/everything you do that crosses that boundary is intrusive and disrespectful on your part.


If you truly like him .... then let it go completely, because you can't even be friends with him.


If you tell him that you agree to be friends, then you're being deceptive and befriending him under false pretenses.


Do the right thing ...... and let him pass you by completely.
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Well. I take everything on here with a grain of salt. I can sense which pieces of advice are BS and which are not 🙂 I'll decide what to do personally because I wont let anyone else tell me what to believe. I was never that kind of person. But any more advice and insights are welcome. I dont think I'll give him another birthday present this year but maybe the next. By then he wont know for sure if I still like him or not.
Its true that /maybe/ I did get friendzoned but the whole situation is more detailed than that. You are all ignoring how we are both busy from school.
Anyways if I cant get him then I have lots of other opportunities for guys it seems.
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@Poppyseeds exactly. If he's like me, its the expressions
that mean more than the words. It's hard to find someone that truly understands that aspect in a sense because everyone wants to verbalize everything. There's nothing wrong with talking, its great because you can here sincerity in each other and just vent and catch up on the day or share some jokes but there were so many times that you just want to sit there and be quiet enjoying each other's vibrations. What he does for you is just as important to how he smiles, holds you, or gives any affection. I can't say all Pisces are the same but I can agree to the stereotype of us giving, loving deeply, and becoming spiritually involved to our significant other
Even your view on verbalizing stuff is the same as him.. he told me once about don't focus on my words, focus on things I do for you.

Everything feels right from his action. He is very giving, however spiritually he is not evolved or open just yet. He needs some soul searching or at least finish the book he voluntarily purchased.

By the way do you find it easier to talk to girls you have already friendzoned?
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Well. I take everything on here with a grain of salt. I can sense which pieces of advice are BS and which are not 🙂 I'll decide what to do personally because I wont let anyone else tell me what to believe. I was never that kind of person. But any more advice and insights are welcome. I dont think I'll give him another birthday present this year but maybe the next. By then he wont know for sure if I still like him or not.
Its true that /maybe/ I did get friendzoned but the whole situation is more detailed than that. You are all ignoring how we are both busy from school.
Anyways if I cant get him then I have lots of other opportunities for guys it seems.
All I can say is don't hold your breathe for him, go with the flow, enjoy the friendship and be open to other opportunities. If he wants you he will ask you out. That's my experience with Pisces.
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poppyseeds; Exactly. Im not completely unopen to other guys. I love our feiendship too and my libra side always values building a great friendship before love. Im definitely not going to bring up the topic of relationships to him again, not for 2-3 years at least.
I can relate to your feelings as I'm on the same cusp, not sure if you saw my comment earlier.

No need to bring anything up, let the fish swim to you 😉
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Yeah thats more accurate. Hes low level and subtle. Im already telling him and my friend in the group chat about guys who hit on me. Hahaha hope thats a good strategy.
It would be nice if I knew even more about male fishes' minds. Hes so closed off and a bit mysterious
no don't do that. that's a very bad strategy.
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Fish are very intuitive, they can see through what you are trying to do.

Just show him you are enjoying life and that's good enough, leave your love life as a mystery to him
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I just want to tell you all more about him. See what you can make out of it.
He actually lacks self esteem. He never shows me his weaknesses anymore and only tells me about his good grades. But once he told my friend that he thinks of himself as worthless and not good at anything. He told me that he lacks self confidence and hes working on it. Yet hes the leader of a university club and he has leadership and people skills.
He had a crush on another Pisces girl before and that lasted 4 years. He just got over that terrible experience when we met. And we talked pretty much every day for 3 months when we met. We flirted and went to places for fun and those felt like dates. That happened four times. He even paid for my food and snacks. Later it died off and we were more distancey but still remained a close bond.
I even met his sister and made fun of him with her haha
On the surface honestly he seems like a very shy reserved but responsible and mature guy.
Recently he is weird haha. In group gatherings he sits far from me. He just talks with his guy friends and never me. Then as we are getting ready to leave he says goodbye to everyone then says it again specifically to me in a low voice. In one group gathering I got on the wrong bus and he offered to pick me up lol. My friend mentioned he looked kind of annoyed when he was on the phone with me offering to pick me up. At the movie he sat the farthest from me.
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@Poppyseeds I do find it easier to talk to girls I have friend zoned. If I become deeply attracted to them after, I'd tell them because that would b messed up to not be honest now. Many powerful couples started as friends. It builds a solid foundation for each other and gives you a candid moment of each other.
I only asked because he seem to be more at ease on social media with colleagues and friends. I asked him what if your friends take it the wrong way and want more? He goes that's their problem and not mine.

We started off as dating right away so it's a bit different.. anyway he has already introduce me to his best friend and sports team, all good.
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I just want to tell you all more about him. See what you can make out of it.
He actually lacks self esteem. He never shows me his weaknesses anymore and only tells me about his good grades. But once he told my friend that he thinks of himself as worthless and not good at anything. He told me that he lacks self confidence and hes working on it. Yet hes the leader of a university club and he has leadership and people skills.
He had a crush on another Pisces girl before and that lasted 4 years. He just got over that terrible experience when we met. And we talked pretty much every day for 3 months when we met. We flirted and went to places for fun and those felt like dates. That happened four times. He even paid for my food and snacks. Later it died off and we were more distancey but still remained a close bond.
I even met his sister and made fun of him with her haha
On the surface honestly he seems like a very shy reserved but responsible and mature guy.
Recently he is weird haha. In group gatherings he sits far from me. He just talks with his guy friends and never me. Then as we are getting ready to leave he says goodbye to everyone then says it again specifically to me in a low voice. In one group gathering I got on the wrong bus and he offered to pick me up lol. My friend mentioned he looked kind of annoyed when he was on the phone with me offering to pick me up. At the movie he sat the farthest from me.
Typical Pisces who suffers from inferior complex. They need female attention to soothe their fragile ego. Some are harmless and some would put on a big bad front to put others down in order to lift themselves up.
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