I did a horrible thing....

I checked my Pisces phone when he wasnt looking. I never do stuff like that but something told me to. I dont have very much trust for him considering our past but when we decided to get together "officially" we decided to put the past behind and move forward from the day of commitment on. Of course the word commitment doesnt make me trust him but he knew that and said that he would try hard to make me see that he is true to me. He has NEVER been in a committed relationship....so he says....ever!!! He's been a bachlor all his adult likfe. Things have been great! We have been together every single day since my birthday (april 5th). I cant recall a day where we werent together. He treats me great and makes me feel special. Becasue I know what he is capable of...I scare.

P-Angel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What am I doing—?? I shouldnt be in a relationship where I dont trust a person. Right?

Anyhow what I found was very disturbing. He is text messaging his ex-girl girlfriends. He went to concert the first week we got back together and he text her that night from the concert to meet up with her. Then for some reason canceled on her...change of heart....lol....he and i met up that night after he was done with the concert. Also another girl text him do you still love me and he said of course i do but we are in diffrent places and its time to move on. I know he hasnt done anything with anyone because i am with him every day after work from 6pm when i get off work till 6am when i leave to work the next morning to go back to work. But why is he flirting with the temptation of it all—? Why— I dont want to be the dumb girl who sticks around and is oblivious to it all.........but I love him and know he hasnt acted on anything, unless it goes on while he is at work. Also one girl seemed to have a pregnancy scare about a month ago and i know this cause i read it in the text. That means he was sleeping with her without a condom at the same time he was dating me (not exclusive) but still. Its apparent that he was dating about four girls at once. Now all of a sudden he is in love with me and is willing to give it all up.......sure!

I confrunted him....OMG! He flipped out on me. I deserve it! I envaded his privacy but if i hadnt i would have never know. Again thats not like me! Something told me to. He said that he has been with me every day since we got back together and he has been faithful. He said he cant change his past and yes he wa

and yes he was dating multiple women but now its all over. Then why are you texting them i asked? He said they text him sometimes he responds and sometime he ignores them. I understand that becasue sometimes my ex text messages me and i respond. Why? Why the sudden change from several women to one? Im so confused. Then we started fighting because he became very defensive and all of a sudden he was the victim. He turned the tables and me like a dumb chick found myself begging him to work it out when i originally wanted to run away from this situation. Not to mention he then said if he wanted to hang out with his friends that are females then he will do so....which is fine but female friends are not your ex girlfriends who you slept with less than 3 months ago. He wouldnt like it if i did that. there were a few text messages to him about meeting up for lunch about a week ago but who knows if he followed through with it. I didnt see a response to that text.............GEEEZEEE!

He text me this morning and said that i am the only one he wants to be with and that he wants to work through it. i want to too but do you think i am setting myself up? Is he changed? Of course you cant answer that for only he can but.........I just dont know. I responded to his text with....

okay calm down calm down... breathe and take a sip of coffee.

sometimes when a pisces loves someone, really love them, they will always love them. and most of us like to end things on a good note so we may keep in touch. now he told the girl he still love her, but that doesnt mean that he is inlove with her. he may love her. but as he said, he is moving on. so take it for what it's worth because he could have said baby come on over and lets f*ck! but he didnt.

the girl after the concert, im sure he may have thought about it or she may have just been a friend that he was going to hang with, but he thought better of it and canceled. thats commendable right there. at least he realized before he had done something stupid and prevented himself from getting in a situation that he would later regret.

i wish i were as lucky. i went through my bf phone and found that he had gone bowling and dancing with a girl who he claimed was his "friend" and after i caught him the first time, continued to have an ongoing flirtation with her talking about taking her on trips and shit. how about that? your guy at the very least didnt do anything that would warrant that much suspicion.

as for the sex when you werent exclusive, i suppose that can happen... i know what i was up to last summer and... hey... i didnt have anyone exclusive so i was playing the field. i wasnt sleeping with everybody but i didnt have a guy that i had for sexual kicks while i had another for hanging out with and kissing, and another i liked to talk to on the phone. no one had said, ari can you be my girl so i was doing what i wanted.
the point is, you're exclusive now and what's important is he be faithful and committed now. what happened "before" you should be of your concern. What happens now is your concern.

and dont feel bad about looking at his phone... we all make mistakes and we all have done it at least once. you're human. let yourself off the hook sweetie.

excuse me... that didnt have a guy, should be "did" have a guy

of course i would like to work things out but i need to know that your intentions are not to hurt me and that these text messages are not going to be happening. Also he said he didnt know if he could ever trust me again because i envaded his space and that he wont ever stand for that again. I udnerstand that...it was wrong of me to do but look what i found. He said that he thought i was different and that he never expected me to do that. Give me a break! He said we both have trust issues to work through now but he is willing to try. When did he become the victim in all this!!!!!!!!!!! For the sake of not loosing him i promised to never envade his space again and that i would try my hardest to regain his trust...what was i thinking I am falling into this and allowing him to be in charge when i should be the one calling the shots. He is text messaging other girls and making plans to meet up with them. Oh yeah when i confrunted him about meeting up with the girl after the concert he said that he realized it would have been wrong so he told her no and called me to meet up with him. He said he has never been in a relationship before and he is adjusting but that in the end he made the right descission and told her no. He claimed that he has been making some major changes in his life for me but that everything takes time and patience. He is trying!!!

Talk to me tell me what you think....I know i am going to get bashed for looking at his phone.....give it to me i am ready guys.......

Need advice...

ok i understand having relations with other women when we werent exclusive but just by looking at the phone it was apparent to me that there were at least four other women aside from myself. Scary!!!!!!!!!! i was sleeping with him unprotectd!!!!! My stupid fault i know but i took his word for it. I asked him if he was envolved with anyone else and he said no. Just be honest. Its not like we were exclusive. He claimed it was only me and that he just wasnt ready to be in a commited relationship becasue he had a lot on his plate with work. The truth is that he didnt take me very serious in the begining because we slept with eachother a bit fast. He claimed it was hard to take me serious because he didnt know how many other people i did that with. understandable! He said he is over that now and realizes what a good person i am despite that. I was in a relationship with someone for 4 years prior to him maybe it just came natural to me to do....dont know...cant explain why i slept with him so fast i just did and he held it against me for some time. seems to be over it now.....

my bull got mad at me for looking in his phone too but i told him so what, i did it, now what... now that he has been caught and found out, now what? i was like negro, bust a move then. would you like to end this because i looked in your phone and found out that you're a sneaky little man who isnt who i thought you were? and i guess putting it to him that way made him realize that he couldnt justify what he had done any more than i could justify what i had done. we were both wrong.

but what do you think? he did make the right decision in the end... doesnt that count for something?

thats silly of him. he slept with you just as fast as you slept with him. wasnt he there pumping you or did you put spell on his "lil pita" and make him do it? for all that, you shouldnt have taken him seriously either. that's a cop out.

I DONT KNOW ANYMORE! 😢 He is a potential cheater. I dont think my heart can take anymore pain. 😢 thanks for the advice but i think i am answering my own questions. if i let him get away with stuff now he is not going to respect me.

calm down... you need to sit down and tell him where you're coming from that way he can understand why you are reacting the way that you are reacting. it's important for pisceans to understand why things are the way that they are so that they can adjust accordingly. tell him why you went through his phone and why you can't take anymore pain. tell him that you understand he has never had a real relationship but that you have and you know how they end without true committment... i mean you will have to be blunt and straight up if you want him to get it. he WILL NOT get it if you beat around the bush or you simply nag him to death.

"Then why are you texting them i asked?"

"I understand that becasue sometimes my ex text messages me and i respond."

"He is a potential cheater"

So are you, so am I .. if someone made me angry enough, I could even be a potential murderer.

Seriously .. if I were in a relationship with someone who would flip the fuck out over and "if", or a "potential" .. i would probably lie too, just to shut the person up.

Then .. I'd swim.

"So are you, so am I .. if someone made me angry enough, I could even be a potential murderer."

*Opens the stash full of automatic rifles, hand grenades and rocket launchers.

One day...one day I'll find a use for you my kids...

*Takes a deep sigh

You're in contact with your ex .. so, wtf?

That makes you a potential cheater ..

hey, at least he did the right thing and didnt go see the girl after the concert. give the poor man some credit. honestly, if that's all he did, consider yourself lucky. that's nothing to hide at all.

The difference between me being in contact and him being in contact is that he is making plans to see them late night. My ex text messages me that he misses me and i respond with its time to let go i am envolved with someone esle. Thats the difference. I was simply saying that i understood that sometimes ex's will sometimes contact you and you have no control over that. thats the difference. i make it known that i am envolved with someone else. He is inviting them over....for what? why else does someone invite someone over late night.......hmmmmmmmm

I like that one DC.....good visual

If I were in your situation .. there would be only one thing out of all of this mess that would have my blood pressure soaring, threatening stroke ..

.. I've slept with a man who has had multiple partners WITHOUT protection.

Whether I loved him or not is irrelevant .. that really means nothing when I'm walking around with herpes or some shit FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE ..

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