Picses situation.

What does it mean when a fishy gets close to you , then backs off and acts like they don't know you?
How to pisces take rejection?

Are you asking how Pisces takes rejection? We bail, pure and simple. Don't stick around for the details. At the slightest whiff of something awry, we swim away to protect ourselves. Whenever a guy I'm dating acts hinky, I'm the first to feel it. May not say anything, or I may, depending....I might even ask a few probing, direct questions and drop all pretense -- basically saying the jig is up, let's lay it out on the table. If that goes nowhere and the behavior continues - most importantly if I can still feel something's not quite right with him, I'll slip away and stay away until (if ever) I feel safe again.

We're generally, um, not so good at rejection, because when we give ourselves it is fully or not at all. Really picky about who I will date or allow near me.

What is it that scares you guys off so easily?

Well, lots of things. First and foremost, when we sense what's going on "down below" - if there's pain coming from you, or doubt, or fear, we feel a general sense of wrongness and don't know where to place it. Being somewhat self-effacing and scared ourselves, we interpret these weird vibes as negatives against us - like you're not happy with us or have some hidden wound from another relationship - aren't ready or willing to really be with us.

You have to understand, our radar is geared for feeling below the surface, not what's shown to us. So if there's something we can feel, but can't find a place for, somehow we take it personally and figure you're done or rejecting us. Rather than face that possibility, we bail to save face and heart.

hahah im in that situation with a guy im dating.. hes a pisces .. and he drives me nuts.. he loves his bad moods and he hates how i have a million and one moods that change my personality around (im a cancer).. i would like to think this part of me is charming and interesting but it scares him so much.. We both talk and think about stuff way too much and switch each others words around. Sometimes im not sure if he is still into me .. ive thought about ending this once or twice but when i try i get this feeling of intensity.. i cant do it .. i just feel that the emotional bond is so close that theres something more to this.. but its tough.. he's the most lucid, and confusing person ive met .. i always feel like id be letting something go

MissNomerFishie

Are you asking how Pisces takes rejection? We bail, pure and simple. Don't stick around for the details...
Do U mean bail as in never to return or bail and give some space to the rejection. I take rejection as in NO. U simple don't want my help. I am not going to kiss your tail, and beg I to take my help. If U need it, fine, if not that is cool to. However, If U ask me to do something 4 U, and U simple don't show appreciation, I leave it at that. However, the next time U ask me, to do something 4 U. I will say NO, if U want me to do something 4 U, what am I going to get out of this! Or if I do this for U, then what R U going to do 4 me. I bail at first to give space, however, I don't bring up the fact that U rejected something that U asked me to do.

What I am saying is do U bail until the other party returns to U? Or do U bail from the rejection and give space.

So I'm going to take bailing as you've made up your minds and won't be going back?
My pisces friend is acting weird around me, he's stopped talking to me after I had not seen his hand to help me get up -- I was sitting down.
Actually both of my pisces friends are acting weird..

Maybe its a type of disappointment? I thought we were really good friends until they've stopped talking to me and it feels weird.

So, what it comes down to is, point me in the right direction to get back into the pisces heart. 🙂

So I'm going to take bailing as you've made up your minds and won't be going back?
My pisces friend is acting weird around me, he's stopped talking to me after I had not seen his hand to help me get up -- I was sitting down.
Actually both of my pisces friends are acting weird..

Maybe its a type of disappointment? I thought we were really good friends until they've stopped talking to me and it feels weird.

So, what it comes down to is, point me in the right direction to get back into the pisces heart. 🙂

"My pisces friend is acting weird around me, he's stopped talking to me after I had not seen his hand to help me get up -- I was sitting down."


Not sure what you mean by this. Are you saying that because your Pisces didn't help you get out of a chair .. this makes him wierd?

It actually depends on the type of rejection, Krobe.

well first id say you'd have to pinpoint the reason they bailed out in the first place... then address it. most pisceans i know, myself included, will forgive you if they can understand WHY you did something because they would want to be forgiven too if they were in the same spot.

Agreed, Lil .. without knowing what is referred by rejection, there's no way to give any insight. Why did this person bail? What happened? We aren't set in concrete, we view different circumstances differently.

LilM, btw .. I didn't respond to your update thread and I meant to. Glad you and your Little Bull are going to have another go, glad, that is, if it feels right for you. This is prime example of how forgiving we are, and don't always just bail-out. It depends on the circumstances. I hope that you and your Bull can find a middle ground to where you are both happy. 🙂

awww thank you P, that is very sweet of you to say. im hoping that i dont regret it, but baby steps... baby steps. i appreciate your support.

So I'm going to take bailing as you've made up your minds and won't be going back?

Well, that all depends on the situation. Sometimes we disappear for a short while, sometimes for good. Not sure about anyone else, but if it's me closing the door with Permaseal there's usually a cursory explanation beforehand. Usually kinda loud, not yelling but definitely blessing someone out. They always know why. It may just be them pulling back on you.

Best thing to do with one of us when this happens is come from a place of care, not need, and explain how you're feeling, inquire directly about what you may or may not have done to cause it, find out what the deal is. We appreciate direct, honest, heartfelt communication and can put ourselves in your shoes.

Try it.

"Not sure what you mean by this. Are you saying that because your Pisces didn't help you get out of a chair .. this makes him wierd?"

Well I was sitting down and he offered his hand but I didnt acknowledge it because I must have missed it. Then he said oh rejected the hand. I dont think he would take as rejection or anything. Lil mermaid is telling me to figure out what it was that scared them off and not that I havent been doing that but this is more tricky than I thought it would be.

So basically a drop of evil and away with you? hmph, thats alot of pressure to put on someone you know!

its not a lot because there is always the possibility that we will come back. we believe whole heartedly in forgiveness if it is well deserved even if you have hurt us. so finding out what you did to scare him away is actually quite beneficial, though it can be tricky, it's rewarding in the end.

and if you do ask him, he might say that you didnt do anything. but that only means that you need to keep asking him because more than likely, he is going to feel like it's petty and silly now that you have confronted him about it and won't want to say. but if you keep asking, he'll say eventually and then you can move forward... course that depends on how moody he is being... and what you did...

it's so hard to say what he will do seeing as how we dont know what you did. but we only run away when we feel we have good reason to.

"come from a place of care, not need"


This could be the biggest and most effective you can ever learn about a Pisces. We are care-givers and so therefore, appreciate and respond to care given back. If someone approaches us with only their own needs being fulfilled, but not really caring about us, we will do a back-flip on you.

So, perhaps, look at this aspect a little more closely. Are you giving him the impression that you are needy of him, or, are you letting him know that this is actual concern for both him and you and the union.

Take the hand for example: Did he see this as you didn't need him, so he therefore made the rejection comment? I've no clue, I'm just throwing that out as an example of how we might process something like that. He might have seen that as you didn't care about him being a gentlemen and you just didn't need his assistance.

We're kind of funny about that .. if it's just being needy of something, that doesn't set well with us.

A huge problem with the Pisces/Cancer combo is that we're BOTH guilty of a certain quality. We make suggestions, hint about things .. without ever actually coming straight out with the information. We pick up on signs and expect the other person to be able to do the same.

If both of you are making induendo's without verbalizing wishes, desires, or needs .. then it could leave you both to be confused.

Oops, you're not a Cancer, are you? Sorry 🙂

is this the girl that said he offered the hand and she didnt take it and rejected hand? I know if i did that and my guy didnt take it, as silly as it sounds, i would feel rejected too. especially being a person who likes my space and im not particularly affectionate, if i offer my hand, thats big. i would think wow, what's wrong with my hand that he doesnt want to take it or, damn... maybe he's mad... or maybe he isnt feeling me anymore... silly as it sounds.

We take everything to heart .. so that doesn't sound silly, Lil. With everything someone does, says or doesn't do or say, in a relationship .. we analyze all of it to try and find what it actually means, rather than what it looks like.

With the hand .. it looked like the other person just didn't see it when offered .. but, in the Piscean mind, it could have meant something else and we will definitely chew on that, we might even pull away if we think it meant the person doesn't care.

Our feelings are very vulnerable .. and it takes very little to hurt us. So, the best policy is to communicate with us because if you don't, then the only thing we have to go by is what we are feeling. Talk to us, straight up.

Another thing that archer said about a month ago, that was so true. She knows Pisces all so well and how to deal with us. She said, don't pick, nag, demand, or anything like that if you see something .. just tell us point blank, "That pissed me off" and walk away. Because we are all about caring about, comforting and wanting our partners to be happy with us, we will take this sentence, "That pissed me off" and make whatever adjustments are necessary. However, if a person instead, bitches us to death .. we'll do a back-flip and then you may never get anything out of us.

that is super duper true. i hate a nagger, because in the process of nagging, you will probably say something hurtful and then i will have to deal with my feelings and yours... in the process of all that, depending on what you say, i will totally say f*ck your feelings if you tear mine to shreds in trying to get me to see that i did something to you.

aww hell, did that make sense?

Hmm, well seems to be lots I dont know about you fishies. Well, I'll give asking him a shot but if not I'm going to be back and make some fried fish. lol! thanks 🙂

Talk to him, don't worry. However, you have to keep in mind that Pisces need time to ponder things .. so, he may need you to be patient to get out whatever it is that's bothering him. If you'll notice in here, when we Fish are talking .. we go through a whole series of questions, ideas, suggestions from others .. before we decide.

We're not point-blank in answers normally because we have to think about all the possibilities first .. our feelings are multi-layered, so will the answer be. So, when you talk to him, he may say numerous things out-loud about how he feels before settling on how he feels the most.

Good Luck 🙂

I'll start gathering ingrediants for chips and hush puppies.

is this the girl that said he offered the hand and she didnt take it and rejected hand? I know if i did that and my guy didnt take it, as silly as it sounds, i would feel rejected too. especially being a person who likes my space and im not particularly affectionate, if i offer my hand, thats big. i would think wow, what's wrong with my hand that he doesnt want to take it or, damn... maybe he's mad... or maybe he isnt feeling me anymore... silly as it sounds

No krobe is the one that said it.
I feel like if I offer U something, or U ask me to do something 4 U and U turn it down, then the hell with U. I will bail in the opposite direction by not forcing U to take my offer. I offered, U rejected, Im cool. However, don't ask me to do it again. I don't want to know Y U did not take my offer, and since U refused I don't care. However, Yeah, I will bail out of the situation, the chase U to give U my hand situation. U either want my help or U don't.

How do U take it MissNomerFishie. Does that sound to harsh!

Yep, I vanish.

The weird thing is I do it regardless all the time. I don't know why but sometimes I just like stop talking to people. A friend of mine Eman, I'd call him up randomly, and then we'd be talking, and then like I'd tell him we're gonna talk more, but then I end up never calling him for like months! And I call and he'd be like "where'd you dissapear to?" and I'd be like confused not really thinking I dissapeared, I just go about my way and if I come around I come around, I don't think, "haha I'm gonna vanish from him 'cause I'm happy"

I do this a lot, people think they have me figured out that I need them or whatever, then I am gone forever and they're confused wondering what happened. I just am not type of stick around very long.

On rare occassions when I feel strongly about someone, I will stay and even fight through my intuition and feelings of doubt to be sure it's really worth it.

"If the doubt was removed but you still felt strongly about them... would you stay and fight?"

You're asking if I had no doubts? Well yeah, I'd stay. I usually want to run when I have doubts, except on some occassions.

No, I'd be gone. =\

No, I'd be gone. =\

sorry double post PC issue o____O

If I am unsure about a person's motives, or if they feel the same way I do, I back off, and, frankly, this is how I handle rejection. I avoid it.