i do care for him ...but ?

hi guys

i really need your help.. i really in love with this pisces guy for 5 yrs but he just lost interst in me ... he is the one who is guilty and cheated on me a year agao and im the one to blame?

he beg me to go back together and i said yes coz i love him but he start to act weired he lost interest im me... i confess i was really nagging and didnt forgot the cheating issue but i really want things to wok out ..please tell me how to deal with this guy i dont want him to feel like im so in love with him ..i dont want him to take me for granted.


how do u attract pisces to you again?

cupcake sag,

If he cheated on you before he most likely will do it again...I said, most likely because I truly do not know however, why do you want to be with him? When a man truly loves a woman, he will not lose interest in her. What you have shared here...that after you being with him for a bit he looses interest in you - I am guessing that you both have been intimate with each other.....it may be highly possible that once he gets his "fix" = sex - he looses interest until his desire to be satisfied returns.

If you do not want to be taken for granted - then do not put yourself back into that situation.

thnax freebird im really confused with my feelings im trying to fix it and not to fix cox deep inside im not forgiving him but somthing else keeps me with him i really dont know

nobody said relationships were easy however, they can be when in the right one. Because you are confused with your feelings this may be a wonderful time for you, cupcake sag to take time for yourself. Focus on you and what it is you do want in a relationship. By you being confused with yourself this will only bring you into relationships that magnify that confusion. What is going on internally is what we see externally.

*"deep inside im not forgiving him"........what you really mean is - you are not forgiving yourself.

this is your time sweetie.

i know i just decided to take some time for me till i feel happy and peaceful from inside .. i have plan in mind and ofcourse not including him in it. im letting go for a while mabye he will understand what i want. if not .. im must heals fast .

good on you cupcake sag - take all the time you need and, truthfully - whether he understands or not really does not matter at the moment - what matters is YOU!

Wishing you all the best on your journey of self.

"im must heals fast" - unfortunately my dear, this is one process where in order to heal you must go with the flow and ALLOW yourself to heal in the perfect timing. If you can, find the joy in each moment - make it a fun experience 🙂

For this very reason is why I don't believe in the "forever" mind-set of being in "in love".

And this isn't anything against you, cupcake, rather expressing this condition using your circumstances as an example.

For years, there was a deep love between two people .. now, that this love has run it's course and the experiences that were suppose to be felt have been .. it's time to part and love anew with another soul. However, instead of being left with all these wonderful loving memories within the union ... what is being felt is sadness, betrayal, mistrust, an emotional upheavel.

If two people lovingly walk away, with the same loving feelings they had during the union .. then their memories will be of this love, not of the betrayal.

free bird thnax alot for the supprot

p angel you r truley a sensitive pisces i really cried when i red your comment . he called twice but i didnt answer i just want me to be happy so i can make up my mind

"For this very reason is why I don't believe in the "forever" mind-set of being in "in love"."

Hey P - I can see your point here however, this is a "belief" and we each are in control of our beliefs. What we beleive, we will experience - Law of Attraction.

I do share with you that we (our souls) meet those we need to learn from and when the lesson has been completed we each move on. When both persons understand the coming together for the experience (and...everything is only an experience here on planet earth)they will release each other in love wishing only the best for the other. Depending on the lesson, a couple may stay together forever. Regarding the "in love" part of it - this is where our feelings come into play and whether we choose to honour them or not. Some folks stay together and are not "in love" only staying together out of fear - and that very well may be their lesson or experience - actually, it is because they are in it. One cannot argue with reality - what is, is.

Life can be so easy if we can find the joy in each moment with each person and ALLOWING everything to be as it is with acceptance - also trusting our FEELINGS (inner guidence system) when it does not feel good it is our responsibility to make the changes to create those feel good feelings.

Peace.

You are very welcome cupcake sag.

You are going to be fine my friend.

"deep inside im not forgiving him but somthing else keeps me with him i really dont know"


cupcake .. I've felt like this at times with past boyfriends. What I think it was for me was ....

I knew in my heart that what he did was not right, and it made me feel so betrayed .. yet, I would pine away to be with him again. Then one day, it came to me why I still wanted him .. what I wanted was, the way we used to be.

With time and experiences comes change, growth, lessons .. and the way we as people were 2 years ago, isn't who we are today. What I was wanting that kept drawing me back, was the person he used to be, before he grew .. before we both grew into different people.

With this awareness, came another awareness ... he didn't stop loving me, he didn't lose interest in me .. it just meant that I helped him grow, as he did me, to become the person he is today, that I am today. And that IS love .. to not love, would mean to hold each other back, to prevent evolution of the person in life. I don't think I can commit to the theory of ... if a person loves another they won't lose interest, for to me, this is saying that I expect them to always be the same person forever ..

So, instead of thinking that he doesn't love you any longer .. try to think ... because of this love for each other, we have encouraged each other to become better people in heart THROUGH this love.

It is a gift to each other .. and with this gift, you take what was beautiful and carry it forward.

p-angel
i guess i im used to him , he have his way in expressing his feeling to me and clearly i dont get it, i want him to love the way i want, maybe im not accepting the fact that were are different ,maybe im still a mess from what happened ... im sure that he is honest with me now and we driven to certain circumastances that made him cheat ( im not lokking for excuses for him) but i feel like ,he really makes me safe ane loves even if he didnt talked about it , but becauce im a SAG i tend to make the thing my way which is direct and spoken not the P way hidden.

i really want this realtionship ,he is trying but i feel like a butt head

i really have the samr issue

I have a very similar problem with my Pisces bf, in that we love in very different ways, and he's hurt by things that I say or do, even though to me these things shouldn't be hurtful and I do not do or say things to purposefully hurt him. I'm coming to accept that there isn't a right or wrong person with me and him, but two different people who's relationship is coming to an end. We both feel it and it's sad, but I'm glad I had my experience with him. I'm trying to see this as another learning curve which will help me when I feel ready to embark on another relationship.

I think P Angel summed up it up perfectly when she spoke about experiences changing people and that what you want back is the person they were before.

Dreamz,

Drama is healthy. It's a part of life. Avoiding it and limiting your experiences to just happy thoughts is not healthy.

Starfish will disagree, as she always does. 🙂

Ahh... you know. I came unannounced and uninvited as usual... 😛

Fire-water generally is tough. Fire people get on my nerves, as I'm sure I get on theirs.

What do you get when you mix fire and water?

Steam.

But after the sizzle from the sex is done, you're just feeling all damp and cold.

I don't have kookie moments. I'm far too serious for that.

"I just spat out the first thing that came to mind."

C'mon man, you're talking to a full-bloodied Scorpio. Takes more than that to put me off. 🙂

You're right Starfish.

:: blushing ::

It does mess with my 007 image, though, if you get my drift...

🙂

That's why I come over here.

You guys always bring out the fuzzy side I never knew I had.

:: getting all serious now ::

You want some of me, Dreamz? Huh?

:: hardly flinching ::

yeah

🙂

Sigh.

Here we go again. Should I get you a mannequin to take out all your rage on?

🙂