I got pisces back...

Just when I thought I was over him he came back into my life. We started hanging out and spending all of our time together again and somehow... we are together again now... he is sleeping in my bed and sharing my room with me... allthough I must admit that I am confused by many of his actions. He is still very sweet and loving towards me.. but I can sense the hesitation on his part. Should I let him set the pace on this relationship? I'm so used to being the dominant partner and making all of the decisions... so would it be wise to let him take over for a change?

"Should I let him set the pace on this relationship? I'm so used to being the dominant partner and making all of the decisions... so would it be wise to let him take over for a change?"


You've got to be kidding, right?

In case you've forgotten .. he kicked you out, to the curb, for another woman. That wasn't you being in charge and making the decisions, lol


There's a fine line between confidence and insecurity .. it seems that this usually comes out of my mouth with mainly Scorpio's.

Scorpio702 .. what the hell you doing? I thought you were over this obsession? I don't get the female Scorpio .. seriously, I just don't.

Why in the world are you doing this to yourself? You say, you got him back like your all proud and shit of it .. he fucked you over royally, kicked you out of your damn home .. I'm not grasping exactly why he's such a good catch.

"Just when I thought I was over him he came back into my life. We started hanging out and spending all of our time together again and somehow... we are together again now... he is sleeping in my bed and sharing my room with me... allthough I must admit that I am confused by many of his actions."


S702 .. by choice, you moved into HIS parents house last month. So, to come in here and say, "Just when I thought I was over him he came back into my life", is quite a manipulation, and though, others may not see it .. I won't be manipulated into believing innocent words, when I know your actions were intentional.

You moved into his parents house by choice ..

Sorry, I really do feel for you because I believe that you are so confused and insecure about being wanted and loved that you have no idea, nor goal about where each new day is going to take you on the road for success. I do really feel for you .. but, I'm a straight shooter and I'll tell you like it is.

Perhaps, I should get rich and hire an interpreter to be my voice, so my words don't come out so harsh .. but, I'm not that rich, so I have to say them myself and let the chips fall where they may.

Don't even try to say that he just ventured back into your life unexpectedly, and that you were nearly over him .. for if you were really trying to get over him, to be over this obssession .. the last place you would have moved is his parents house.

You planned this move with the intentions of winning him back .. you want sympathy and a warm heart? Admit your motive. Don't try to play games in here .. we know you moved into his parents house on purpose.

WOW DOUBLED.. Be careful, something just aint right.. as the song goes... I thought you were going to hang tough me and leave the pmen alone..

Actually... I moved into his parents house because my parents kicked me out of their house because I went to stay with my friend (his sister) for the weekend, and when I came back all of my stuff was packed up and I had no where else to go. I don't have many friends... not ones that I could stay with anyway, I did not move there by choice. Now, I could've been out of there by now, I will admit that, but John (my ex) said that he would be moving to New mexico last month, and that didn't happen because he lost his job again. I avoided him like the plague, I refused to be in the same room as him, when his family would talk about him I would just shut it all out. He came to me and started hanging out with me again, and I enjoyed the time I spent with him, I won't deny that at all. But this was not some manipulative ploy to get him back. However, I will admit that I did do some manipulating... like buying him a Transformers toy (yes I know, he's a big kid) and asked for a kiss in return... I admit that was totally devious on my part, but I didn't move back into his parents hoping I would get him back because I honestly thought that me moving into his parents house would just push him ever farther away from me.

It's not so simple... yes he messed up and hurt me very very badly... as you all know, but I hurt him too when we were together... so all things considered I think that we are even now... I really do care about him a lot... and when he looks into my eyes.. I can just see... I don't know how to explain it... his eyes light up and sparkle.. and I know mine do too. He may not be the perfect guy, but I'm not even close either. I have seen other guys but I just don't feel for them the way I feel for John, and unfortunately I don't think I will ever feel that way about anyone else.. I just feel like we are supposed to be together. Cheenah, I know I was supposed to stand strong and say fuck that asshole, and I tried my hardest... but it's really hard when you are living under the same roof... and it's hard when you have 2 years of history of being together.. he is also my first love and first everything else, I'm sorry I lost my will power. PrettyPisces thank you for saying that I'm pretty... everyone who knows me in real life says that's a bad picture of me... whatever to them. But, I do love him still, and I can't stop, and I can't just stop caring about him even though I tried.. I just feel like this is what is supposed to happen.. we are meant to be together...

"Actually... I moved into his parents house because my parents kicked me out of their house because I went to stay with my friend (his sister) for the weekend, and when I came back all of my stuff was packed up and I had no where else to go."


Curious .. can't say my parents have ever kicked me out for staying a weekend with a friend .. my son can't say his parents ever kicked him out for having a weekend away.

Can't say I know anybody whose parents kicked them out (especially an adult child) for taking a weekend holiday.

Very, very curious, indeed ..................

oh goodness.

behave yourselves this time.

Well you see P-Angel, it's not the sort of thing that I like to advertise to the whole world but my parents are drunk abusive major alcoholics, and their whole rants were based completely on their anger fueled by their beer, they get drunk off their asses every single night and fight, and when I left I happened to be the reason they fought so therefore I was more trouble then I was worth and got kicked out. The same thing happened to my brothers... my brothers won't even talk to my parents because of what they did to them, and they think that I shouldn't be in contact with them either, because all I do is hurt myself more and more.. anyway, back to the subject at hand. I guess I couldn't just stay strong and keep ignoring him, I guess I broke down... and you are right, what he did to me was really messed up, but he did say that he was really sorry for what he did, and that I had every right to hate him for it,but I don't, and I couldn't... I can say that I do all that I want but that would just be a big lie, and I can't lie to myself anymore, I still love him very and I think I always will, even if he can't keep a job or support himself or take care of any of his responsibilities... I still care for him just the same..

The gem is sad... he knows what's going on and thinks I am making a big mistake... he keeps inviting me out to go do stuff but I am so completely tied up with pisces that I just don't have the time anymore...

He never said he would change... we haven't talked about that... we only talk about the now and he doesn't like to talk about the past.. and I can't blame him because I don't really like to talk about it either. I just really believe that this is right, and that we are right together, I may only be 20 and very naive but I know what my heart feels... and he may be 26 and just a big kid but I love him for that.. we can laugh about everything and joke and kid and just enjoy eachother's company.. I really love spending time with him, every minute of it, he makes me so happy and he doesn't even know it. I just hope that it will last this time... I know it will.

"my parents are drunk abusive major alcoholics, and their whole rants were based completely on their anger fueled by their beer, they get drunk off their asses every single night and fight, and when I left I happened to be the reason they fought so therefore I was more trouble then I was worth and got kicked out."


This overwhelming need to be wanted has become clear to me now, Scorpio702 .. as is the oblivion and/or acceptance to being abused.

I truly hope you find a way to heal from the trauma, so you will be able to cope without the terror. Good Luck to you. 🙂

P-Angel don't worry... it wasn't really a shock to me that my parents are that way, they have been that way my whole life and I don't think I'm traumatized by it.. I mean when I was younger yes, very much so, but now that I am older I realize that there was nothing I could do, and so I accepted it. Maybe I do have a huge need to feel accepted and loved.. you are right about that, but I don't think being with pisces is being in an abusive situation at all.. he makes me happy and makes me smile and really does care for me... it's something I haven't had prior to him. Anyway, don't want to talk about my family anymore, just not a good subject matter. But my pisces means everything to me, he is the light at the end of a very dark tunnel for me... aww how corny but sweet... thank you for your honest and blunt responses, as I have told you several times, I never mind the bluntness, I appreciate the brutal honesty even if it hurts, I always do.

"But my pisces means everything to me, he is the light at the end of a very dark tunnel for me"

I understand .. he is your safety net. We all have those.

You're welcome, and I truly do care .. I'm just very direct.

Hopefully, some lessons would have been learned by both of you and this will prove a more trusting relationship. I am a little concerned about him not agreeing to any changes or comprimises, however, because this suggests that he refuses to be bound to any agreement which dictates that he will treat you any different from before.

That is disturbing, Scorpio702 .. not for him, but, for you.

Keep us posted with new developments and I'm sure everyone in here will be thinking about your well-being. 🙂

Of course I am holding back though, I mean the fear is in the back of my head that he could always just throw me out again... I mean my entire life revolved around him for 2 years.. and then when he left me, I had no idea what to do with myself and I even felt like I didn't know who I was anymore.. and it was so hard to start building my own life and deciding what I want to do for myself, and now that he's back in my life, I don't want to compromise the independence that I have gained from losing him. I still love him with all of my heart, and he's known it the whole time, and I know that he loves me too, and I'm sure that he has his own reservations too about us being together again, I'm sure that he's holding back too, because I know that he feels bad for what he did, he's said it several times, and while he hasn't come right out and said that he would change, he has said some reassuring things. When I was at work last night he came in just to tell me bye before he went off to work.. I always loved the sweetness that is his true nature, and I'm so glad to have it back, and I am going to try my best to make sure that it stays that way, and it will as long as I am patient and understanding... which aren't always my strong points I admit. But, I will keep you all posted of course, and it's so nice that I have people on my side and here for me, I hope I can be there for you too! Lalala the internet is such a funny and magical thing 😄

I remember a line from a song that I've never forgotten, SG ..

"What does love have to do with happiness"

A person can love and be unhappy ..

However, when a person is happy .. the heart loves.


The heart isn't at peace from love first .. it's at peace from happiness first.

Once happy, love finds your heart.

He makes me so happy, every minute I am around him it's like I'm on cloud 9 all over again.

Take for example a marriage .. while you were happy, you loved your partner. Once you become unhappy, you no longer love your partner.

It's the happiness that either broke or bonded you.

We see it everyday in here .. people talk about events or situations that happen that make them unhappy, as to whether they will stay with a person to love them, or not.

For instance .. what happens on the Virgo board, with the Virgo's. If a person stayed happy simply because they loved their Virgo, SG, then we would all, including you, still be faithfully standing by our claim that we love them with all our heart .. happiness will certainly come because I love that person.

This isn't true, is it? If we are unhappy with this person, or this particular situation with the person .. our heart will fall out of love .. love CANNOT maintain the power of happiness, no matter how hard we try.

Happiness is mightier, I've no doubt about that .. for if love was what held a relationship together then we would still be standing by our hearts, to the bitter end. But, we didn't want to stand to the bitter end, did we? Because that made us unhappy, so it ended, eventhough love was involved.

Just how I see it, as I look around at what drives people. Just because I believe this, doesn't make it true for everybody .. only makes it true for myself. 🙂