@crudemood
19 Years
Pisces.. flirtatious, unloyal?
Starfish, you are SO right. I'm assuming you are a Pisces too. Also, I would add that Pisces need change after awhile and sometimes cheat out of boredom. We LOVE love and romance and being swept off our feet and such, and I think most Pisces prefer to be monogamous, but if you want to keep a Pisces, you have to treat them well, make them feel loved and keep a little spontaneity and excitement in the relationship.
Crudemood, u can do all of that and a pisces person will still be ungrateful and cruel at the end.
There may be a slight few exceptions, but I would take it slow and don't expect too much from them.
Just my personal experience, of course your situation may differ GOOD LUCK!
There may be a slight few exceptions, but I would take it slow and don't expect too much from them.
Just my personal experience, of course your situation may differ GOOD LUCK!
Oh yeah, I wanted to add one thing. If you want to get and keep a Pisces, you have to make us feel like we are THE ONLY ONE you have eyes for. Most Pisces I know, myself including, are instantly turned off if we catch wind of the fact that the one that we love has eyes for someone else. If I like a guy and find out that he has a girlfriend or is interested in someone else or wants to see other people, that's an instant deal breaker. If I'm in a relationship with someone and I find out that they've been cheating or entertaining that though, I'm gone.
""Most Pisces I know, myself including, are instantly turned off if we catch wind of the fact that the one that we love has eyes for someone else.""
Wouldn't that be an instant turn-off for most people?
To answer you, Notso07, no, it's not. I know plenty of people, and I'm sure you do too maybe, who would stay and try to fight for that person's affections. I don't do that. Same thing with going after someone who is already in a relationship or seeing someone else...lots of girls would, but I simply wouldn't bother. I could never settle for being the other woman or one of many. I'm not saying that all Pisces are like me but all the ones I know are, myself included. We simply must be THE ONLY ONE when it comes to our objects of desire because they will be that for us as well...until they mess up.
Wouldn't that be an instant turn-off for most people?
To answer you, Notso07, no, it's not. I know plenty of people, and I'm sure you do too maybe, who would stay and try to fight for that person's affections. I don't do that. Same thing with going after someone who is already in a relationship or seeing someone else...lots of girls would, but I simply wouldn't bother. I could never settle for being the other woman or one of many. I'm not saying that all Pisces are like me but all the ones I know are, myself included. We simply must be THE ONLY ONE when it comes to our objects of desire because they will be that for us as well...until they mess up.
Notso07, I guess we think alike. It's incomprehensible to think that someone would be ok in a situation like that, but I've seen it so many times and I just don't understand it. I have a co-worker (don't know what her sign is but can't be a Pisces, no way!) who has a "boyfriend" who lives with his girlfriend. He takes my co-worker out on dates and buys things for her and her daughter, but goes home to his live-in girlfriend at night. My co-worker is perfectly fine with being the other woman and doesn't really even want him to leave his girlfriend for her. I would NEVER be ok with a situation like that. I MUST be the only one. Ideally Pisces love the idea of love/soulmates/etc and we are loyal and love completely until things get bad for us.
She actually doesn't see it that way. She says she is getting what she wants...companionship and someone to spoil her and her daughter with gifts...without the commitment because she is still free to see anyone that she chooses. I don't know if she really believes this or if she is just trying to fool everyone, herself included. And yeah, it's a shame that she is teaching her little girl to be dependant on a man like that. I know the live-in girlfriend isn't too happy about all of this but yet she stays. I've met this man and he's not even cute but he's got $ $ and that's all that counts to some people. And my co-worker, who doesn't want the "commitment", refers to him as her "boyfriend". Crazy.
"Crudemood, u can do all of that and a pisces person will still be ungrateful and cruel at the end."
Cheenah, sorry you had this experience with a Pisces but we're not all like that. There is some truth in what you say, we do have a tendency to lose site of the big picture, but an ideal mate/friend would find a way to point it out to us. We do learn overtime so don't expect miracles overnight. If you allow someone mistreat then there are various reasons for tolerating this behavior. We can be fiercely loyal, steadfast friends, but it's only when a Pisces finds a real soul connection with another; I am not speaking exclusively of romantic soul mates.
Cheenah, sorry you had this experience with a Pisces but we're not all like that. There is some truth in what you say, we do have a tendency to lose site of the big picture, but an ideal mate/friend would find a way to point it out to us. We do learn overtime so don't expect miracles overnight. If you allow someone mistreat then there are various reasons for tolerating this behavior. We can be fiercely loyal, steadfast friends, but it's only when a Pisces finds a real soul connection with another; I am not speaking exclusively of romantic soul mates.
Catfish is right...we do learn over time. Pisces are very sensitive to others feelings and do not enjoy being cruel to anyone. I know that when I've broken up with someone, I may not have handled it in the right way in the past. The Pisces disappearing act is not a myth. It is the way that some Pisces deal with ending a situation that they no longer wish to be in because they cannot bear to say the words that will hurt someone. I am guilty as charged on that account. When I was younger, I would agonize for a long time when I felt like I wanted to end a friendship or relationship with someone and I would ultimately pull the disappearing act because I couldn't bring myself to tell that person and hurt them. As I've gotten older and more mature, I realized that it's far less hurtful to be honest and tell the person how I feel before ending things (and without disappearing on them).
Also I will second what Catfish says about us being fiercely loyal and steadfast when a Pisces finds a real soul connection with another. When I find someone that I really connect with...friend or romantic partner...we usually become attached at the hip.
Also I will second what Catfish says about us being fiercely loyal and steadfast when a Pisces finds a real soul connection with another. When I find someone that I really connect with...friend or romantic partner...we usually become attached at the hip.
I agree with peixe77 on this one:
"I could never settle for being the other woman or one of many. I'm not saying that all Pisces are like me but all the ones I know are, myself included. We simply must be THE ONLY ONE when it comes to our objects of desire because they will be that for us as well...until they mess up."
We don't chase men who want to be with other women. Some men want you to prove how much you want them and they expect you to compete with other women but NOT with Pisces.
"I could never settle for being the other woman or one of many. I'm not saying that all Pisces are like me but all the ones I know are, myself included. We simply must be THE ONLY ONE when it comes to our objects of desire because they will be that for us as well...until they mess up."
We don't chase men who want to be with other women. Some men want you to prove how much you want them and they expect you to compete with other women but NOT with Pisces.
Hi Peixe77,
When it comes to Pisces' behavior you've hit the mark. We don't mean to be mean, it's the guilt and/or shame we feel when things don't work out well. Pisces are the first to think it was a failure on our part, especially if a relationship is not working. Our hearts are long gone before we even mention it to our partner so when we're done, we're done. I think that's the part people don't get, we believe in and want commitment, we're just not willing to settle for what isn't working or a partner who is unwilling to invest in maintaining the relationship. If we do take another lover while in a relationship, it's because we're missing something essential we're not getting out of our regular partner. Or, we embarrased to ask for what we need so we look elsewhere.
CF36
When it comes to Pisces' behavior you've hit the mark. We don't mean to be mean, it's the guilt and/or shame we feel when things don't work out well. Pisces are the first to think it was a failure on our part, especially if a relationship is not working. Our hearts are long gone before we even mention it to our partner so when we're done, we're done. I think that's the part people don't get, we believe in and want commitment, we're just not willing to settle for what isn't working or a partner who is unwilling to invest in maintaining the relationship. If we do take another lover while in a relationship, it's because we're missing something essential we're not getting out of our regular partner. Or, we embarrased to ask for what we need so we look elsewhere.
CF36
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I know they are alot like cancers in alot of aspects but I don't wanna make any assumptions without first getting some insight.
Are pisces loyal creatures? Are they the flirtatious sort? Let me in on how they are in relationships.. Unless there is some site I missed out on, I'll go search some more..