Cheer
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Is this harmful or not to a Pisces?
I think you have control issues.
Thanks, guys I know this already. But seriously, I just want to know if I can help my friend or not.
ou keep saying "Friend". From the rest of your post though, it's obvious you want more and probably are pushing him to get over his ex, so you have a shot with him. Might be wrong but that's how it reads to me.
Posted by Cheer
They want to go through there periods of hate,depression,anger, and endless cycles of repeat.
Yeah, that's how people approach emotions actually. You being a crab, I don't get your issue with that.
Posted by Cheer
I feel like I am tested everyday.click to expand
Are you delusional? Oh you mentioned you're a crab so that's probably it.
Don't know what you're playing at here.
Not to be rude, but is this post about you, or your Pisces friend?
It sounds like your Pisces friend has told already told you what *they* need, and this is more about what *you* need.. either from them, or just in general.
It sounds like your Pisces friend has told already told you what *they* need, and this is more about what *you* need.. either from them, or just in general.
Posted by Andalusia
Not to be rude, but is this post about you, or your Pisces friend?
Dude, she's a Cancer. Everything is about them and revolves around them.
Wake up Mel, you're slacking.
Thats why I am asking? If it is good to back off, let them solve it, or what is the best way to help. I know my friend has finally shared this important piece of himself with me.. I was just wondering since he is opening up about his ex more in detail.
Posted by DamnataPosted by Andalusia
Not to be rude, but is this post about you, or your Pisces friend?
Dude, she's a Cancer. Everything is about them and revolves around them.
Wake up Mel, you're slacking.click to expand
I have middle child diplomacy issues. Plus, I am trying to cultivate a more 'sympathetic', less 'judgmental' approach in 2014..
I literally debated back and forth for about 3 minutes with myself over whether or not to preface my comment with "Not to be rude, but".. Which, reading it now, just sounds fucking passive aggressive and ineffectual as hell.
There goes that resolution.
This post isn't about me, It is about my friend. Truly guys, and this is the first friend I have come across, that is a Pisces. He has me confused, most the time. I like the idea of learning from him, I like, and love him as a friend. I know a relationship isn't imminent between us. I don't want to push him. I just want to be the best friend I can be. so there is the want part. I am sorry if you think I am being crab-centered. A lot of times, I don't know how to express myself with other people. So please, you have already answered my question. I will back off on the topic. I just wanted to know if it would harm him. If I didn't figure out how to help. He is there when I need him, or he is there by chance, when life hits bottom for me.
Posted by tiziani
I get where you are coming from, you just explained yourself in a very strange way.
The best thing you can do is listen and not expect anything at all. That is, if you want to be a friend.
Thank you, tiziani
and thank you everyone else as well. I am sorry if I seemed self centered. I didn't want you to think that. I was trying my best to reread what I had written. To make sure it, explained what and how this friend of mine act with each other. Then ask the question, for the best possible answer.
Posted by MissFisk
Nothing irritates a Pisces more than imposing and telling them how you think they should feel.
This is true for me.
I find it really irritating when people try to give me advice when it's based around my emotions. You cannot change how I feel. Also, if someone tried to help me without me seeking them out first, that would just make things worse. That means I wanted time alone to deal with my own problems but you're trying to get into my business. I don't care whether it's to help me or not. Unless I'm an alcoholic, druggy, homeless, or suicidal/mentally ill you do not need to put it in your head to help me because I can still help myself. If all you're doing is listening to him, that's fine as long as he wants you to. Anything else I can't see helping. But I am not him.
My advice, leave him alone to deal with his own problems. If he's being mean to you then that's all the more reason to leave him alone, for both of your sakes. Don't let him use you or manipulate you. Don't give him that power over you or else he won't respect you as a person. Anyway, in my opinion, time will heal him. Just continue being a friend and be there when he wants you to. Don't force yourself into his situation.
Posted by Cheer
First things first, I am a cancer friend. My Pisces friend still is brooding over their past ex. They have told me they aren't ready to get over them. They want to go through there periods of hate,depression,anger, and endless cycles of repeat.
It sounds like your friend's content wallowing in his own misery. Let him be.
Thank you guys for your comments, and insight. I do truly like Pisces, and I apologize for my cancers bad reputation.
I am only self centered, when it doesn't involve my friends or family. I try my best not be to selfish. It is the most harmful thing for me as a cancer.
I am only self centered, when it doesn't involve my friends or family. I try my best not be to selfish. It is the most harmful thing for me as a cancer.
Posted by Cheer
This post isn't about me, It is about my friend. Truly guys, and this is the first friend I have come across, that is a Pisces. He has me confused, most the time. I like the idea of learning from him, I like, and love him as a friend. I know a relationship isn't imminent between us. I don't want to push him. I just want to be the best friend I can be. so there is the want part. I am sorry if you think I am being crab-centered. A lot of times, I don't know how to express myself with other people. So please, you have already answered my question. I will back off on the topic. I just wanted to know if it would harm him. If I didn't figure out how to help. He is there when I need him, or he is there by chance, when life hits bottom for me.
The bolded part is what stuck out to me, and what I was trying to touch on in my initial response.. And it's probably what others were referring to with the "crab speak" comments.
Eh, I don't think you did anything you need to apologize for. Don't feel bad when someone disses your sign (Very general statement, not in reference to anyone!). That'll happen around here a lot for every sign. Just focus on what you are and not what other things/people tell you you are. You seem to at least be taking what everyone says into consideration, which is good. Just be conscious of your own actions in this situation and you will handle it how you'll handle it.
Ok Cheer, in general: a year is nothing. Pisces grieve for a while, especially if they are the ones that get left behind.
Secondly: I doubt your friend wants a relationship with you, or he would not suffer obvious for you to see. Its his way of keeping you at bay and still getting what he wants without making commitments.
The logical thing for you to do would be to turn around and to look for a guy who appreciates you.
The LOGICAL thing... I know, you are probably not able to set your feelings aside and do the logical thing, so I wish you strength, because you are in for some heartache!
Secondly: I doubt your friend wants a relationship with you, or he would not suffer obvious for you to see. Its his way of keeping you at bay and still getting what he wants without making commitments.
The logical thing for you to do would be to turn around and to look for a guy who appreciates you.
The LOGICAL thing... I know, you are probably not able to set your feelings aside and do the logical thing, so I wish you strength, because you are in for some heartache!
You can gently make him aware of the dynamics, you know, bring impulses out to the light of day, into consciousness 🙂
He obviously chooses to re-live certain parts of the relationship in his head for a reason. Is it because he feels victimised? Is it because he'd re-write history? The why is key to moving forward. Maybe he's reacting to feeling pushed to move forward while he's not ready. I wouldn't suggest any action plan, just not allow my own projections and opinions of the situation to get in the way
To answer if they do that yes, Pisces do mentally or physically revisit or rekindle old relationships.
Posted by MissFisk
If it has nothing to do with you, you need to back off. It's not your job (even though you think you're being a good friend) to solve their problem for them. Nothing irritates a Pisces more than imposing and telling them how you think they should feel. Especially if it's an ex. He needs to do this on his own... unless you're trying to move in on him.
+1
Posted by tiziani
Maybe her point was she feels like she is enabling him.
Now how did a Libra get the Cancer and the Pisces and Virgo screw this up?
Posted by Cheer
This post isn't about me, It is about my friend. Truly guys, and this ....
Posted by Cheer
He is there when I need him, or he is there by chance, when life hits bottom for me.
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If it is or isn't.
What could I possibly do to help them?
I know listening is one thing I can do. I love to listen to them, when they do open up.