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Don't say 'can' or 'Could' to a man, 'will' or 'would'

Just a couple of things ive read that really work!
Also, men want to be 'respected' women want to be 'loved"
Lol! I paid money for these insights when my marriage was going down the pan, simple easy things to remember, but they work x
Try the will you, would you thing, seriously! Its amazing what a difference it makes!!

Okay, I'm out.

'can you' suggests to a man " are you capable"?
Could you suggests 'are you ever gonna friggin do that for me', he feels useless in your eyes.
Seriously I know we are all prone to say can or could, women don't mind, but men hear it differently apparently and I have witnessed the difference!
Just try it seriously, and post back in a couple of days.
I first tried it on my husband, where normally he would go all prickly and defensive if I said" can you take the rubbish out in the morning pls" even with a friendly tone, sometimes he'd forget, just take half of it ect, but when I one day just said, " would you mind taking all the rubbish out for me in the morning pls, jeez he took it all and even the brown bin with the garden waste in it, I even noticed his whole demeanour change when I asked him in that way, seriously just try it x

I don't know. I love researching and finding things out tiziani, just sharing. Š

The can you could you is from men are from mars women are from Venus, very insightful actually.

Some general male feedback would be nice in this thread, just out of interest Š

Its for relationship x

The top post is maybe a little confusing, sorry.
The 'Can you' 'Could you' is what you shouldn't say to a man but you should say 'Will you' or 'would you' instead .
Id had a few at work last night when I came home and wanted to share this.

It definitely does get a different response from men if you put it into practice, you can try it out on any man in any circumstance and you'll notice how much more positively responsive to your request they are.

Just thought id share to see if men agreed with me, well it is from a very informative book that probably not everyone has read or heard about.

Posted by MiZLeo
I dunno. I've tried some of this stuff and it doesn't seem to make a difference. Only thing that seems to work is ignoring them like they don't exist. I sware that moves world's. ... unfortunately when I get to that point it's usually cause I am really done with them and they might as well not exist.

Ye, when you 'Stonewall' you don't care anymore anyway, but sometimes if you feel your communication when in a relationship could be a little smoother, I'm just sharing a few insights ive learned, we as women do forget that men don't think emotionally as we do, we can chat to our girlfriends all day long and the understanding is just there without thinking about it, then as we are growing up and getting into relationships with men we get frustrated because we feel misunderstood sometimes, men are Logical and women are Emotional, that's just how it is.
Men are from Mars Women are from Venus makes a good point, when a woman cuts herself she will tell her girlfriend and get "aww you ok" when she tells her man its"Did you clean it properly and put a plaster on, be more careful next time" (or words to that effect)