New here and tired of being in the water....

Sun: Pisces
Moon: Scorpio
Mercury: Pisces
Venus: Pisces
Mars: Cancer

The only thing different is my Libra rising *sigh* I must have been a real ass in the past to deserve this time around 😄

Anyone else get as frustrated as I am? I'd love to put my own finger down on life once and awhile for goodness sake. I am
tired of "floating" around all the time. And damn it do I have to FEEL every little freaking thing going on around me?

Ok..spill the beans huh? Married 16 years 3 awesome daughters ages 7-12. Two weeks ago I get a call from a really good friend and she tells me that this guy I grew up with (her x-husband) was killed in a car accident. My wife and I knew him fairly well so I called my wife (I was working out of town) to give her the bad news. Well turns out she had been having an affair on him for over a year. I spent two weeks trying to get out of the house watching her wear his clothing and placing his pictures around the house and in front of my innocent children. Either way, as hurt as I was I still felt the need to comfort...but I couldn't handle it, and it just kind of broke me down to a point. Picking the pieces back up now slowly and on to a new life, thank the heavens. So there you have it a sob story worthy of Greek god mythology.

Oh holy hell. I am so very sorry Pravada, for the loss of your friend and the waste laid to your marriage. Concentrate on those lovely girls now. I don't know you, but HUGS just the same. Keep healing for yourself.

wow u must be a psyco in relationships congratulations

ooops sorry i didnt read the other posts and what all this is about didnt wanna sound like a prick. I have a scorpio moon aswell so pretty much someone cheating on u is really really bad....It must be really hard being a parent and not being able to show ur emotions around ur kids......well thats what id be trying to do in ur case im pretty sure thats impossible I hope u created a family environment where its ok to express your feelings lol

but hey your 34 your still young...and the best part is you get to have one of those mid life chrisis thingys where u get to buy a car or something and change your look or whatever they do....

But i dont get it why is she wearing his clothes and why does she have pictures up all over the house and in front of your children? is she mourning or something?.......tell her she needs to get her shit together she cant be bringing this shit into your house.....shes the weakest link in the case and u need to ditch her for the children....because that mourning crap shes doing is gonna make u go crazy

coping - every morning when u wake up look in the mirror tell yourself u matter and that you love youself and proceed to shave and wash yourself....wear your best clothes and do tasks that u set ur mind to so ur emotions dont get in the way like read a book...(not romance) try a jack higgins novel.....or play with the girls......omg the best thing you should do is buy a wii or a ps 3.....omg ps3 is the best for break ups perfect for when u come home from the gym to wind down......which i hope u have already got ur membership cos ur gonna need them punching bags and ur gonna meet some hot mummas... >phew< well that about covers most of it

luck be with you young man!

This seems out-of-place to me.


A wife spends over a year keeping silent, and then when she doesn't actually have to worry about anyone finding out because the lover is dead ... she decides to sacrifice?


Something is seriously wrong with this picture.

Posted by P-Angel
This seems out-of-place to me.


A wife spends over a year keeping silent, and then when she doesn't actually have to worry about anyone finding out because the lover is dead ... she decides to sacrifice?


Something is seriously wrong with this picture.

lol yup something def doesnt add up

we want details!

extra juicy

Posted by P-Angel
This seems out-of-place to me.


A wife spends over a year keeping silent, and then when she doesn't actually have to worry about anyone finding out because the lover is dead ... she decides to sacrifice?


Something is seriously wrong with this picture.

Ya sorry guys my literal skills are under par at the moment. I suppose its really confusing but its true. My life is like a freaking soap opera. Lets see, Wife and maggot farm (See there goes my scorpio) had been together before wife and myself. But Myself and his wife (we shall call friend) had been together when they where together and we had all been really close school friends etc. Well things didn't work out and everyone went different ways, so wife and I hooked up, college/kids everything, and maggot farm and friend married & divorced 2 years ago. Somewhere down the line wife and maggot farm must have had unfinished business and decided to give things a go. So wife decides to be honest because she cant take the loss. 48 Hours after the news she is already trying to get me back and I tell her to get bent (which was hard). After that she took the other road and is pouring everything into his family now...make more sense?

is ur wife a virgo? she seems really down to earth about all this....You want her to get back with you but your waiting for a grand gesture 🙂 how sweet

No, makes absolutely no sense at all.



A person who suddenly becomes safe after a year of being in danger of being caught, isn't likely to blow the whistle on themselves.

Wow Pravada... I thought my life was dramatic! I also have a TON of water in my chart.
Rising😛isces
Sun: Cancer
Mercury: Cancer
Venus: Cancer
Cancer in V & VI house
Scorpio in the IX

My advice is to feel it ALL, live it ALL and then you'll be able to release it... over time.
My world fell apart around me about 2 years ago. Realized everything I thought I once believed in, was a lie.

Maybe you have just taken the 'red pill'.
Welcome to the other side.

The whole thing sounds like a fabrication. People don't behave that way.


Her first reaction after the initial shock would be fear.



For her to prance around purposely displaying her indescretion when she is no longer in danger of being caught .. is a calculated move.

A human wouldn't react like that ... they would 'act' like it though.

so, why?

Posted by P-Angel
The whole thing sounds like a fabrication. People don't behave that way.


Her first reaction after the initial shock would be fear.



For her to prance around purposely displaying her indescretion when she is no longer in danger of being caught .. is a calculated move.

A human wouldn't react like that ... they would 'act' like it though.

so, why?

Idk, my family is fully into shit disturbing... creating and reveling in unnecessary drama.
The wearing of the clothes and putting up pictures... They would act exactly like this.

However, they lost most of their 'human' tendencies a long, long time ago.

Great... now I get to relive it all. And I was having such a nice day, too 😢

I'm not surprised in the least that simple concepts have to be explained to you ... you are known for owning this look when you think you are supposed to be protecting something.


When you figure out what it is you are suppose to be protecting .. then I might decide to clue you in.

It's doubtful that your family would do that .. it's probable that you think they would.

Posted by P-Angel
It's doubtful that your family would do that .. it's probable that you think they would.

Hmm... pretty sure they would...

My brother had an affair with his wife's best friend.
Left the wife.
Got together with the BF and married her.
The new wife/bf's father chases brother with shot gun. Disowns his daughter.
Ex-wife and new wife's father plot to make brother pay.
Ex-wife brings up assault charges on brother.
NEW wife tells her father she believes brother is abusive... to get father to talk to her again.
Ex-wife hears this, tells brother... and tries to get him back...

That's only the beginning... it got much, much worse...

Ok well sorry to cause such debate guys it wasn't even my intention to really bring this out. Honestly I have not had any real outlets, and truthfully I've been the only one in any form to be strong for the kids. I left Bozeman Montana a few days ago to arrive here in Coeur d' Alene, Idhao. I've been kind of just checking out this whole astrology thing I guess as kind of an escape over the last few days found the forum, started reading etc. The entire reasoning of the post really was unintended to be pity me blah blah. Anyway...

http://www.heartcom.org/PatrickRudy.htm<BR>

Yes, and don't swim away Pravada. This is a great place to be for the most part. 🙂

"and truthfully I've been the only one in any form to be strong for the kids."

Of course. I'm sure they need strong people for dead people they aren't even attached to. When the guy down the street from my brothers house died, your kids needed someone strong for them then also.

Or ... or ... are you implying that they ARE attached to this dead guy? Hence: needs someone strong for them to carry on.

Interesting ......




"I left Bozeman Montana a few days ago to arrive here in Coeur d' Alene, Idhao."

so, how did the kids hold up during this trip? Are they liking their new town?

Or ... or ... did you leave them at home with the nutcase?