Pisces Friend Getting Divorced

Hello Fishies!

This Pisces aquaintence is coming over tonight as she is newly single and wants to get out and about. Since most of her friends are married, she turned to me and my roommate, which we are very happy to do.

We want to keep the night positive and fun for her. Although the separation is pretty new, I am fairly sure she is okay because she mentioned that she has a date Saturday night. (Nothing like not letting the body get cold!)

We are thinking of hosting it like a re-bachelorette party, kind of a rite of passage back celebrating her return into the dating world.

My question is should we ask her about her marriage and what happened? Normally, I wouldn't. I am the distractor friend who doesn't pry. If they want to bring it up, great we'll talk about it, otherwise it is their business and I respect that. But most of my friends are air signs or fire signs and that is just how we roll. I want her to feel comfortable if she shares, comfortable if she doesn't share. It is her night.

Thoughts on how to make her more comfortable? Although she knows me and my roomie, she doesn't "KNOW" us in a close way.

Thanks guys!

LS

Well you probably already had your party. Hope you had fun.......

My response to OP - My suggestion follow her lead. Most likely she will want to talk about it. Not sure if it is a pisces thing but definately a woman thing. Usually allwomen like to talk about our heartbreaks. Most likely she got sloshed .....lol At least that is what I would do. I think that is fabulous the whole "re-bachelorette party, kind of a rite of passage back celebrating her return into the dating world". That is probably what she needed.

Shaks - Thai Massage—??

PD

ha! shaks... massage is always great. especially if it comes with a "happy ending".

so, yeah, if she doesn't open up on her own start making those drinks! google some festive, divorce-themed, and strong drink recipes. make a batch before the party and hand her a couple. watch the inhibition disappear! liquid courage always does the trick. she'll feel loose and comfortable... then u can get around to that massage...

little_sparrow .... the thing here isn't really whether you should ask her about it or not that you need to be concerned about .. you could remain perfectly silent and just await for her to talk, if she wants to ... and still be asking the same question because you won't have realized she was even addressing it.


My point?


Pisces people, especially when we have been injured .. talk in waves, emotional waves as they surface.

So, you could ask her a question, and if a wave of emotion doesn't surface, then she could just look at you unmoved, appearing to be unconcerned, heartless to your query about her break-up .... or, you could ask her if she wants to go get ice cream and she could literally fall to pieces and plomp onto the ground, because an emotional wave surfaced about her ex loving ice cream.


So, your concern in dealing with her and keeping her feeling comfortable and cared for, shouldn't really be based on what you say ... rather, how you recieve what she gives you.

Like with the ice cream example ... if she lets something out to you that seems out of context, and you blow her off thinking it isn't important ... then you'll have lost her. she'll swim away from you fast, you having no importance to her.






Sometimes when we release our feelings ... we make no sense whatsoever to other people, and this is when we lose them. We can't make them understand us if they choose not to .. so we just swim away. We learn as we grow, that people, for the most part, don't understand what we are trying to tell them ...... and it's pointless to try and get them to get us, because then it makes it worse ..... so, we just swim away and go suffer our wounds in private until we can cope again.

If she speaks to you about this, and you don't "get" what she's saying and respond to her as if her words aren't valuable simply because you don't "get" what she's saying, so it must not mean anything ..... then you've lost her.

"Now, she is dating an Aries man who treats her like the queen she is."


Indeed .. these two are a perfect match ... they need each other.


Glad to hear that she feels complete now.

love, that is me and my friend to a T. This pair is wonderful! She's my best friend (an aries), but the only thing I don't think I'll ever quite understand is her need to be center of attention, her self centeredness bothers me to nooo end. We are complete opposites, but we help each other out, and it's bueatiful. I feel like I found my soulmate in her, I agree, this pair needs each other. But I also think we can get on each others nerves...