Pisces guy is Hateful with me but wont tell me why

WTFFFF!!!! I'm sorry to be starting out this way but this pisces guy (who I have written about here before) is being so unbelievably messed up to me. I work with him but I recently just found another job in a hospital and when I told him he started bashing me. Saying that I'm just a hot mess because I'm going to be starting a new job in a new city(not far away from my home) and going to school. I thought he'd be happy and support me for trying to do something productive with life but all he kept saying was that I was a hot mess and that I wasnt going to survive in the city. Yea we were hooking up and what not but once he said that to me I snapped and told him that I didn't need his support(I think that was a good reason to basically flip him the bird).

So I didnt speak to him for about 2 weeks, I text him, and he answers "why are you texting me?" Making it seem like I did something awful to him. I even asked him what I did and he said he doesn't have to explain himself to me. So I Left him alone.

I let another few weeks pass by without contacting him so that things can cool down(maybe he needed more time?) because I dont like having grudges on anyone. I text him to ask him something completely different from the subject and all he tells me is why am I texting him(again) and to leave him alone, he doesn't need me in his life, that I'm no good for him. But I am completely lost as to why he's being this way. He was saying that I was insane but I dont know what the hell I did to him. I stayed calm and collected and asked him what I did that got him this mad at me..but all he could say was to leave him alone. He was STILL refusing to give me ANY reason as to why he is sooo angry at me. Can Any Pisces figure out WHY he might be acting like this? He knows/knew I had deep feelings for him but he told me he didnt give a f*ck about me so I left it as that, and I met someone new, I dont think he knows about it, but then again who knows. Anyway can someone give me some clarity as to why ya'll think he's acting this way?

What do you mean?

The love I had for him is disappearing but I still work with him from time to time. I can't be with a person like him where he never wants to reason with me for anything, he always has to have things his way. He's older than me by a few years and you'd think he'd be able to be in a calm state of mind but it just seems like he's having a hard time dealing with something, possibly referring to me maybe. And I was wondering what is the problem with us being civil, I'm trying to stay on good grounds but why isn't he?

I'm not trying to play any games with him, I'm not chasing him or anything. I leave him be as in not trying to get into detail about his personal life because I am no longer part of it I dont think. I'm choosing my battles and this one I have been battling for far too long and I just see no reason in fighting anymore. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't or can't be on calm grounds

That's awful though, that causes more pain to you hating. At least I think so

I just want to understand why he has all this hatred towards me. Would you have any slight idea why?

Cap, did you tell the fish you were looking for another job and that you may be moving to another city?

awww... i wanted to watch 😢

Posted by LunarMaiden
Cap, did you tell the fish you were looking for another job and that you may be moving to another city?

Yeah, if you didn't tell him maybe he's upset at you possibly making this move/decision without keeping him in the know of it all?

Idk, but I'd stay away. When emotional the males can get really ugly. Maybe there is a reason for it all, but if he's not going to open up about it let him be.

Posted by EusiveSoulll
I disagree with Inana on this one. Pisces have no problem with people advancing themselves weather jobwise, or any other way. If anything??_me, myself like to see everyone succeed in life no matter what their mission/goal is in life!!!!
Unless the pisces man OP is dealing with is a pshycho??_.I say there is way more to this story!!!

Have to agree with ESoul.... I don't think just an announcement from the OP about her job/move.... would be enough to garner the type of distaste and utter "done"ness that the Pisces guy is showing for her. That type of reaction would take a WHOLE lot more...

It might have hurt his feelings to not be in the consideration process, but I'd doubt it would make him go completely cold on her.

I need to stop hitting "post" so quickly. I always think of something more after the post that I want to say. Apologies!

Posted by EusiveSoulll
I disagree with Inana on this one. Pisces have no problem with people advancing themselves weather jobwise, or any other way. If anything??_me, myself like to see everyone succeed in life no matter what their mission/goal is in life!!!!
Unless the pisces man OP is dealing with is a pshycho??_.I say there is way more to this story!!!

Uhh, I'm not saying I know what his problem is, so there's nothing to disagree with. I dont even know if she discussed it with him or not beforehand, which is why im asking, so i'm just as clueless as she is and we all are.

Maybe there is more to the story, but maybe there is not.

Cap how serious was this relationship. In your OP it says you two "hooked up." Does this mean it was only a sexual relationship?

I think if you are involved with someone it's common courtesy to let them know of any life altering changes. Anyway, I would love to hear his side of the story.

I agree LunarMaiden.

Posted by EusiveSoulll

Posted by lnana04

Posted by EusiveSoulll
I disagree with Inana on this one. Pisces have no problem with people advancing themselves weather jobwise, or any other way. If anything??_me, myself like to see everyone succeed in life no matter what their mission/goal is in life!!!!
Unless the pisces man OP is dealing with is a pshycho??_.I say there is way more to this story!!!

Uhh, I'm not saying I know what his problem is, so there's nothing to disagree with. I dont even know if she discussed it with him or not beforehand, which is why im asking, so i'm just as clueless as she is and we all are.

Maybe there is more to the story, but maybe there is not.

If I have come across as in any kind of —negative?? way towards your comment??_.I deeply apologize Inana. It was not my intention by any means!!! It honestly was not ( crap... I feel bad now )
Nevertherless??_.when it comes to education, jobs, or people advancing in their lives in general ( as I have stated earlier)??_..I can not see a Pisces having a problem with that??_even if "we" are informed about it the very last minute ( speaking on my own behalf here)
I would never??_COULD never stop/prevent anyone from their own success !!!!
Therefore my strong opinion about this case ??_

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Ignore me. I've been a bit sensitive and snappy lately...not sure what's going on.

So even if he liked her he wouldn't be upset at her moving? For him to say she'd be a hot mess and couldn't survive the city makes me think he feels some way about her leaving. What could those comments be about?

You were the first one to distance from him and when he felt bad about it, you didn't care. And now you expect that with just one text message, you'll be okay?

It was obvious that he was hurt because he feels like you turned him down because of his reaction, when in fact the reason why he's acting like a jerk is the possibility that maybe you'll be away from him and he doesn't want that.

I swear on everything I love I did not do anything bad to him. I have always done everything i my power to try to make him happy. A couple of years ago we had a problem where I was acting very jealous for him dating another girl within our same job(it broke my heart having to see that in the workplace), but I apologized. Now, I have tried to prove to him that I truly regret what the way I was acting. But what made me want to walk away this time was the fact that I'm trying to follow and accomplish my goals and dreams and not an ounce of support did I get from him. I dont want or need a person like in my life. He has goals too and I never bashed him for it, I encouraged him. So that was like the final blow for me.

I didnt see reason to stick around when he told me himself that he doesn't care about me. But on my last day of working at my old full-time job I told him how that was going to be the last night he was going to be seeing me at work for a while because I had to train on this new one. After that is when the whole leave me alone thing started.

And I met someone new after that.

I did fall in love with him but I was also very heartbroken by him, and I realized I couldn't do this to myself anymore and stick around someone who showed me that they didn't need me. When I put in my notice for my job we weren't on speaking terms either because I had warned him about something that I was told from our job and he got pissed off about me telling him. He told me to never speak to him again so I didn't. We didn't speak for 3 weeks and then we walk me home from work one night.

But I'm not even moving out of the city I'm in, I'm just working somewhere else so what gives

Then that's it. You told him he's never gonna see you ever is like telling him, I don't want you in my life. And then you message him? That's why he's asking you why did you message him.

Now, you met someone new. Focus your energy on the new one. Forget that one in the past. In the future,when you two meet, you'll probably make ammends... But for now, ignore.

Lunar I agree, I would love to hear his side too because until then I feel like he's just trying to hold something over me so that I can keep asking. Do that the curiosity can get to me. But I distanced myself because where I like to resolve a situation, he wants it to linger on without trying to fix anything.

Not to mention he kept saying that he doesn't want a relationship with anyone (including me I suppose), so why should I have stuck around waiting for someone who didn't want me?

I have no clue what got him to the point of where he is at (based on your side of the story).

But I will say.... I've gotten to the point of "Forget you ever knew me" and uttered those words to one person in this life.
And I felt jerked around, lead on, played for a fool. I had kept putting trust in the person that they actually did care about me, and when they finally demonstrated in a solid way that they didn't give a fuck about me - I snapped and got personally attacking about it (sounds similar to your guys reaction).

Now I'm female, and your fish is male - So I'm not sure how those inner workings change things. But I will tell you this, the guy I told off, actually respected what I said for 3 years, and then came back at me to see if we would ever be able to be friends. 3 years was enough for my emotions to settle and reconsider the matter. I guarantee you this, I never would have went to seek him out. So, had he not bit the bullet, we truly never would have spoken again.

I'm not saying you were in the wrong. I seriously don't know. But, he was offended in some manner, about something, and had hit his tolerance limit for you.

Posted by CuteCapri

A couple of years ago we had a problem where I was acting very jealous for him dating another girl within our same job(it broke my heart having to see that in the workplace), but I apologized.

Now, I have tried to prove to him that I truly regret what the way I was acting.

lol

Oh, okay. I remember your last story about him and the warning.

It seems the two of you just got on speaking terms again and now this? From what you've posted or your side of the story, I can't say that you've done anything "wrong" but I do see a possible buildup in him and his sensitivity towards your actions. Besides trying to figure out what's going on with him to ease your head, I don't see or haven't read where you've given any hint of actually caring about how he may feel with all of this. It seems he's been slighted more times than one by you in the feelings department so its like screw it now.

I know with us, when a person gets to making comments we automatically think wtf is their problem? And try to ignore it or get mad at it.
To the other person maybe that's a release of anger and other emotions at the thought of you leaving and an ignore or taking offense to it is the worst thing you can do. Idk, but girly it sounds like you're on his crap list again.

Thank you so much all!

This really helps ALOT! I feel much better because of you all:-)