Pisces in love problem

im love with my friend (aquarius) but he has a girlfriend. he knows i like him but only wants to be friends with me. he said he cares about me but sometimes it can go weeks before he contacts me i tryed to text him (just friendly)but sometimes he never texts back should what should i do?

Ahhhhh I feel your pain... I'm in almost the exact situation. Except my feelings for him are still a secret.

Wish I could help, but I'm clueless!

Hey Flower,

Ummm, if he has a girlfriend then why are you chasing after him? If he goes for weeks without contacting you, then you shouldn't be offended my dear ... you not his girlfriend 🙂

Hahaha, the reason he wants to be friends with you is because he a man that actually loves the lady he is with and wants to be faithful -- not all men opt for cheating. There are some honest men out there who don't do such things 😉

You seem very nice, so you should leave your Aqua friend alone and start going out with unattached men.

You are probably infatuated so your feelings will pass.

If he goes for weeks without contacting you, then you shouldn't be offended my dear ... you not his girlfriend.
I know but he told me to keep in touch so i did but he never text me back you see he keeps sending me mixed massages he says he cares but then i dont hear from him for weeks? and he still wants to be be friends with me so im confused cause i dont think he knows what he wants

Well, if he wants to be friends with you then that's probably all he wants. If he tells you to keep in touch, it's because he enjoys having you as a friend.

My best friend (who is a guy) cares for me too, but he loves his girlfriend 🙂 He and I don't contact each other for weeks and sometimes months. But we both know that we still have each other to lean on.

I agree, he does know what he wants.

Flower, you asked, "what should I do?"

The answer is: Quite chasing somebody elses boyfriend. We women hate, with a capital "H", scrupulous women who would try to make our man cheat on us, by throwing yourself in front of him. We ALL know that men are weak when it comes to their libido and so, it's up to us females to have some morals and NOT try to take a man who is trying to be faithful away from another female.

Step back and look at this from the other side: How would you feel if a girl knew he was yours, yet, she continued in trying to steal him away?

This very topic came up on another thread and you know what? If anything ever comes of this . . this other girl is going to throttle the life out of you . . not him. Why? Because we know men are weak . . and it's our job (females) to have our sister's back and not steal a man away.

If I were you, I'd be ashamed of myself for even thinking that I had the ability to cheat one of my sisters, much less, say it openly and then ask for help in figuring out what to do.

Now, if you didn't know about the other girl and thought he were single, that would be different. But, you KNOW he's taken . . and you would pursue . . that's terrible.

I must not have had enough coffee this morning because only half of that made sense. But, you know what I meant.

i would not want him to cheat on his girlfriend (and no i dont know her). i only found out he had one after i asked him out (not that long ago) it just anyoys me cause he told me to keep in touch i do and he does not reply or contact me (and no i dont send him messages all the time) and i just wanted to get view point of why he would be like this cause he said wanted to be friends with me i just want to know why!

This is baffling !!!!

Being friends with someone doesn't mean they have to be in contact with you . . all the time. I have friends I only talk to a couple times a year. Besides, you already said that you're in love with him . . so, you have to take responsibility in accepting that the reason why you WANT him to contact you is for the reason of hooking up with him.

You're really young, aren't you?

You said, "i just wanted to get view point of why he would be like this cause he said wanted to be friends with me i just want to know why!"

I'm not sure what you're asking, here. Are you asking why he is treating you exactly like a friend would treat you? Or, are you asking why he won't treat you like a girl on the side-line, in case he decides to cheat? Or, are you asking how to get past YOURSELF and your own uncontrolled emotions because you feel for another girls boyfriend? Or, are you asking why he doesn't live up to your expectations as to how a friend is suppose to treat you?

What is it you really want to know?

im 23 hes 27 and friends are very important to me and when they dont contact me it hurts me cause yes im very emotional i cant help it. you see this situation has been going on for over a year now (before his girlfriend) it goes we talk he seams very keen flirting etc then he goes and thinks and tell me to give him some space i do he regrets upsetting and wants to see me we talk again etc etc it just confuses me i ask him how he felt he told me about the girlfriend. i do love him but i know i cant be with him so im just asking whats you views on what i should do?

What you should do is walk away. This is another woman's man. This answer is simple and clear . . and he made it perfectly clear to you, you just have to accept it and get on with your life.

To quote you, "i ask him how he felt he told me about the girlfriend"

What do you think that means? When he's prompted about feelings, he talks about his girlfriend. Hello —?

Besides, the fact still remains, you are trying to figure out how to capture another woman's man. That's dispictable . . .

Other women might come on here and give you advise, maybe not. In my eyes, chasing another woman's man - KNOWING he's someone elses - is disgraceful and leaves you looking like you have no honor or integrity.

Flower,

Guys sometimes keep you close by in case things don't work out with the gf. Besides, Aquarians are notorious for not responding.

i understand what i dont understand is why of why does he flirts with me and then go off and disapear? i know i cant have him i got over that so i repeat again i dont want him to cheat on his girlfriend i just wait his friendship ok so to end the matter i just going to stay friends with him even if i cant understand him!

"im very emotional i cant help it"

Power of suggestion is influential. If you say you can't, then you can't. If you say you can, then you can. You say you can't help it, so, then you will stay out of control. If YOUR emotions are out of control, which they are because you say you can't help it - that's your problem - not his.

He's just a friend . . why is that so hard to comprehend?

Because you've let your emotions be out of control.

It's irrelevant what sun sign he is . . any man, hell . . any person, would go out of their way to avoid another who can't control their emotions. He told you . .

Get a grip on YOURSELF and leave the man alone. If you keep pestering him . . he may elect to stop being your friend.

You may just want a friendship but you sound more emotionally involved than he is. Consider this, are you anxious when your other friends don't get back to you right away? You don't want to get caught up in the mixed message game. It's more important that you are clear about what you want and are honest with yourself. If you want more, then don't resist your feelings. Resistance just causes more problems. If he can't meet your expectations as a friend or future lover then you're in for more pain.

are you anxious when your other friends don't get back to you right away?
YEP
the thing is i do want to be with him but i know we cant so i get fustrated but i know i can tell him either cause he get confused so i guess i will leave it at that and think about it and see what happenens.

He doesnt' sound confused . . you do.

When asked about how he felt . . he thought of girlfriend.

"i get fustrated"

There's nothing wrong with him. YOU have emotional problems . . deal with it, or forever be in pain.

I know if I knew you in real life . . you'd be my friend for about 2 seconds . . you have no guilt about flirting with another woman's man.

What you're doing is wrong . . he belongs to someone else.

God - I am with an Aqua & if I thought one of his female friends had feelings for him she would feel my rath which is sickly sweet & very dangerous. I did think this one girl (who he has grown up with) wanted him - I think a girl can tell these things - anyways we made friends & got smashed - But I think she wants him - thank God she lives overseas - I would hate things to get nasty.

Well,I think you've gotten your answers already,hes not interested in you so it won't change.Aquas are a fixed sign also and can be loyal actually so pushing or trying won't budge him unless he wants to be,which at this point I'd say no cause he was honest.If he wanted you to get in his pants it would've already happened,girlfriend or no-I know "some" aquas who have been unfaithful and also know just as many who are completely and stubbornly faithful.So just for the fact that he didn't do anything and informed you,I'd say he'd fall into the faithful group)

For the not replying part,aquas generally have tons upon tons of things they have on thier plates.Theres always whatever work they do,thier families,personal life(his girlfriend)plus all the friends and social such they chose to participate in.Even if you were his girlfriend you'd have to learn to be patient and give him some freedom and understandings that are outside of you,being just friends with one also requires that.

....and for the really brutally honest part that popped in my head is even if he doesn't have a girlfriend or would cheat,he wouldn't do it with you.Its easier to tell only half truths than the real truths such as the plain and simple "im not interested in you" cause people won't except that without being mad and taking it personal.You should take it as it is,that he likes you in a friend manner but not romantically.Persistance,games,trying to break them up,etc. won't change it.

flower why flirt with him when he belongs to anotherr, i think u shuld lay off. find a guy who is not attached to any girl

Flower, even if he does like you romantically, the timing's off, and that is a very hard thing to deal with. If you spend your time waiting for a better situation with him, it might be risky. But you are a pisces, and that is something I admire about you pisces, your tenacity and purer love. That is something to be cherished. The fact that you love someone is nothing to feel bad about, yet the timing of the situation isn't helping. Figure out whether you can detach enough (through other activities or medutation) where you can keep the love but not drive yourself crazy. Your well being is important in this situation. I completely agree that friendship is very important, and I believe pisces can be excellent friends even when they have alterior motives. I can't tell much about aqua men, cause honestly they baffle me, they are too distant for me to comprehend fast. But I did witness a friend of a friend who's aqua who made an act that could only come from pure unconditional love.

Wish you the best girl 🙂