pisces man 2

i have been seeing this second pisces for few months now.after such a disasterous experience with the first one!
things are going quite well.he is so sweet, attentive,caring etc...
i cant fault him for anything really!

i have been very open with him from the start and said i dont know if i am ready for another relationship etc
and he said he is willing to wait and see if things change in the future for us!
we have been seeing eachother regularly i enjoy his company and am sure he does mine too!

but sometimes i get the feeling whenever i show bit more interest in him, he changes... as if becomes more confident if that makes any sense..
like we had a good time last night, i can tell he was feeling very comfortable with me so he said too. the next morning at work -we work together by the way- the first thing he does is to email this new girl and ask her personal questions and trying to find common people they know! i wouldnt have a problem with this normally but it is so not like him.he is quite shy it took him 6 months to even talk to me when i first started!


it could be just me! and my own fears of things turning very bad again!and not being able to fully trust him.

did anyone feel like that before? not quite sure what to make of it really!?! it is not major but it must have bothered me otherwise i wouldnt be posting it in here ! 😕

'Why do you get into relationship knowing that it's a trouble anyway? '

well i dont know if i want to get into a relationship! i just go with the flow for the first time in my life .

PP, I'm under the impression that outcast gets no attention offline hence the reason he's an attention whore online. Ignore him lol.

Passion,
Are you really good looking by any chance? Well not that that really matters but it could be one of the reasons why he wants to show you that he could be interested in other girls. To kinda knock you off your high horse a little. A gorgeous friend of mine (gemini) dated a pisces and she would tell me about when guys would give her attention he would have to "prove" that he had other options.

Remember some pisces always have to have the upper hand in a relationship (be it friendship or whatever). They like people they can help. If you're fine, they'll pick you apart find something your sensitive about and try to 'help' you with that.

"*Closes with ear on stupid imitationoflife* ...No nothing comes from this one."

LOL! It's called "BLOCK USER," and it's a beautiful thing. 😉

Smh@siren...

It always amuses me when people have to let you know that they are ignoring you. Hil*friggin*larious.

I think it's just you being jealous and paranoid ..

"very open with him from the start and said i dont know if i am ready for another relationship"

You gave him the signal of interest, while pushing away at the same time. You two have gotten closer, obviously, but, you felt compelled to mention in this post that you were upfront from the beginning with him, and this upfront word is ..... I'm not looking for a relationship.

If you've given him this impression .. then he is a free man to contact any woman he chooses without regarding you .. for he's not your man.

"i get the feeling whenever i show bit more interest in him, he changes"

This doesn't seem abnormal .. since you've given him a signal that your not interested in a relationship = mixed signals = push & pull. If a man told me he wasn't interested, and then started showing me more attention to insinuate he was interested, I'd likely change, also.

"email this new girl and ask her personal questions"

Did you actually see these emails? And so what, really? You've told him you're not interested in a relationship, so what difference does it make if he's interested in another person?

"he is quite shy it took him 6 months to even talk to me when i first started!"

He doesn't sound shy to me .. maybe you just intimidated him because you don't trust him, from an injury with a different Pisces?

I've experienced the "start to like a Pisces a bit too much and he gets confident and goes shopping for women" thing with my Pisces ex.

I noticed that when I would get attention from ne he would give more attention to new women. I didn't care because Just like I didn't give the guys attention back they didnt give him attention back.

Also, Pisces TEND to seem shy but I don't think shy is the right term. So, while it may have taken him 6mos to talk to you (took my ex 1yr to put the gear in drive) it may just be because he thought you were a challenge or like PA said intimidated (not because of trust though) because of your personality.

Also, if you were in a relationship when he first came aboard then having that safety net probably made him feel good to fall for you. Seemingly getting confident by your interest could have been that appeasing thing they do when they can't be honest about not wanting the same thing in the same way.

Getting to know the other girl is probably because he is losing interest in you because you gained interest in him. I would agree with moro and say he's not worth your time. Keep him as a friend and of course if you want to play "the game" follow her other instructions lol.

JMO's 🙂

MsA

It's kind of funny, reading people's interpretation of Piscean actions/behaviours ... have always maintained, and always will .. how people "appear" to others, isn't necessarily how we appear to ourselves, and it's interesting to see how non-P's process things.


Pisces have said numerous times in here over the years .. and we say this because it's true .. our confidence level in ourselves isn't effected by other people. If we have a love interest, other people who might be in the scenerio play no role in our ability to secure/gain the attention of the person we fancy.

If a Pisces wants you ... you know it !!!!
We won't participate in any kind of "winning" for attention.
Our confidence isn't based off of another person giving us attention.


lol

My husband, who being a Virgo, is by nature .... handicapped in processing signals .. he knew immediately that I wanted him.


Heads up .. if a person is unsure whether your Fish wants you .. then they don't. We go full force .. seduce, charm, give adoration, attention, total eye contact that does't waver.

We wrap our entire world around you, and make this clear from the very beginning by putting complete focus on you ... there's no way any person could miss this.

So, if a person has missed this clue .. then it means it wasn't present to comprehend. Like I said, if a Virgo can pick up on it, then anybody can.

This Pisces man, to whom passion fruit is talking about isn't interested in a serious relationship.

If he was .. she would know. He would make his presence known in every aspect of her life. By nature, Pisceans whole world revolves around the person we love. We devote ourselves to them .. this is our natural state while in love with someone.

If this isn't happening .. then there's no connection with the Fish.

i dont think i gave him mixed signals since i told him from the start that i am still recovering from my previous break up and quite messed up at the time and dont really know what i want! a full on committed relationship could be too much for me!

he said he understands, is very patient and doesnt get to meet ppl like me everyday and willing to wait and take it at my pace!

i can sense he gets frustrated time to time but this doesnt speed up my feeling.somehow we manage to come out better in the end. he even said this is the best nonrelationship he ever had!

well no matter how much you say
" our confidence level in ourselves isn't effected by other people"
i ill have to disagree in his case and the other pisces i knew!

PA: "Heads up .. if a person is unsure whether your Fish wants you .. then they don't. We go full force .. seduce, charm, give adoration, attention, total eye contact that does't waver.

We wrap our entire world around you, and make this clear from the very beginning by putting complete focus on you ... there's no way any person could miss this."

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I agree with all of that P-Angel. My Pisces ex gave me all of those things and made me feel like that for two months but then he lost interest in me and moved on to someone else. All the while making me feel like things were good with us until I got the message in his distance. Later I got the confession that he went to his best friend who is female proving my point that he lost interest in me because my feelings were too real, wanting a place in his life with title recognition.

PA, I think you've been married a long time (not sure though). I have a co-worker who is Pisces and will tell you she's been married since she was 8y/o becaue her husband and her grew up together and that's all she knows is him (Capricorn). She has never tried to help me understand my ex in the way of Pisces because she doesn't know herself that way. But, I also know that by her being married for so long she doesn't know what its like to be out here living this (and reliving it at high speeds) in the dating/breaking-up world.

I have never not got what you were saying except when you deny our findings in Pisces men. I accept your protectiveness though and take it as just that. But, the truth is we're all getting the same responses from Pisces men so we can't all be wrong.

:: shakes head ::


Sobeit, then ... people see what they want to see. The whole point of this thread was in asking about this .. when in reality, this is what you want to believe anyway .. so, it's pointless.


We are our own counsel ... we are guided by ourselves. There's nothing I can do to make you understand this, if you choose not to.


Good Luck in "winning" him over, lol

Well, I'm certainly not a man, so I obviously process from a female perspective.

However .. I know that Pisceans by nature HAVE to HAVE a connection. This is a part of our being .. regardless of gender.

:: sighs ::

Because we are Piscean .. we know our nature.

We can't be made to happen. It has been said by MsA that people come in here to have the same complaints, and every person gets told the same thing over and over .. but, people refuse to listen.


It is there, or it's not .... no inbetween. We can't be won, we can't be seduced into loving a person from sex, we can't be convinced, we can't change our confidence level based off of another person ..


.. we can't be conquered or obtained .. regardless of gender ..

It's not so much we don't want to listen PA or hear what we want to hear SF, it's that our perceptions are discounted as inaccurate and THAT is what is hard to digest.

If I tell you my Pisces told me he loves me, gave me all the attention in the world and there was no doubt in my mind that he wanted to be with (for at least 2mos) and then I tell you that I think it was for another woman that he left and then HE confirms in confiding in said other woman and you tell me there is nothing there it is VERY hard to think otherwise when Pisces men are known for falling for pretty women and being easily influenced, and looking for the fantastical, ideal, dream queen. THEN....

When someone else says that the Pisces that was interested in them is going to another city where an EX-GF lives you say its just that he wasn't interested in a relationship but she knows the level of intensity the exchange (of feelings) was on. THEN....

When someone else comes in and tells you thta their Pisces man was all into them, and though they wanted to take it slowly the time spent together (as friends) brought them closer. With her encouragement his confidence (towards her) grew stronger. Soon, she finds that he is emailing another woman asking questions of (romantic) interest. And you tell her that he was not interested in a relationship.

I just don't get how all of that starting off with ME and ending up with HER equals that he was NEVER interested in ME because he stopped being interested in me. We're not concocting images in our heads of these men giving us time and attention so why are they moving on so quickly?

It has to be because they are somehow turned off by returned affection/attention and only understands the chase. They say Pisces hang around for those who need their help. Do they think we just need help finding feelings to like someone and that's it so their job is done. I don't get it but would like to.

I like Pisces, I love their hearts but I don't understand (how to respond) the swimming away. What are you suppose to do at that point to get things back on track? You say that Pisces need their space, well the people involved need their man they want to be with. Distance can be a compromise but extended distance can't. Help us understand because I'm not at a point of frustration where I'll say NO MORE PISCES MEN but I am at a point where I am saying NO MORE MISUNDERSTANDING PISCES MEN. I don't mean to seem so intense. Please don't take offense. 🙂

"I tell you that I think it was for another woman that he left and then HE confirms in confiding in said other woman"

He was talking to this other woman, who is a female friend, about trying to understand you better, MsA. You make it sound like he was fucking her because that's what you want to believe. He was talking to a female friend, because females have better insight into other females.

"and you tell me there is nothing there it is VERY hard to think otherwise when Pisces men are known for falling for pretty women and being easily influenced, and looking for the fantastical, ideal, dream queen."



:: shakes head ::

Pisces couldn't care a less about outside looks, or anything superficial when it comes to love .. we care about inside beauty.

Why you believe such garbage is beyond me .....

Easily influenced .. OMG

.. you haven't heard a word, not one word ..

We hold our own counsil .. how many Pisceans have to say this?

The reason why your Fish swam away, MsA .. is because you wanted a status, a title attached to your name.

You are only telling yourself it was because of another woman because you can't face the truth ... the truth being, you ignored his actions of "showing" you love because he didn't give you your rightly title.


:: throws hands up and walks away .. Outcast is right, it's useless ::

ok people,

There are millionsss of pisces people. ALL OF THEM ARE NOT ALIKE! No one is the authority on pisces behavior because it is impossible to know everything about a person's movements based on their sun sign. There are many issues that come into play here. I've dated pisces men (we're drawn to each other somehow lol), my friends have, I have a parent that is a pisces, one of my best friends is a pisces & they each have similarities but they are each unique. Lets keep that in mind. Lets keep it fun here, this place is here to bounce ideas off of each other. No one is right or wrong.

As for pisces and confidence & approach:

Pisces Ex #1: He moved in slow. He was dating someone else when I met him (unbeknownst to me). He didn't officially break up with her (a virgo). We didn't jump into a relationship because of this fact. He would tell me about how she would "give him his all" and "treat him like a king" but he still was not satisfied. Her love and affection pushed him away. In our relationship I found that as long as I gave him my "all" he was not satisfied. The minute I kept him in the "dark" or went a few days without calling or did something that upset the routine he was doing everything I wanted him to do while we were close. This is not restricted to pisces men...this is TYPICAL insecure man behavior. Let's keep in mind we're dealing with MEN here...lol

Pisces Ex 2: Treated me to the finest things. Introduced me as his "wife" first week of the relationship. Loved when his friends complimented him on how beautiful I was. It put an extra pep in his step. Loved to make appearances, loved to be the center of attention...well dressed...the whole nine. Very jealous. It could've been his leo moon. Loved to be seen as fabulous but mysterious.

Both of them cared about what others thought..deeply. The first one I think had severe problems because he thought of himself as a failure. And his family would come down on him so hard for having no career he would fall into a drug induced depression. The minute his dad would say something nice about the business he wanted to start he would perk up. And he was in his 30's.

lol...I almost forgot about Ex #3: A pisces man who's friends told him what to do. His friends literally ran his life. To his defense this was a few years ago..we were like 20. I have never met a person that was so driven by what other people thought of him. He had no mind of his own.

Ok, P-Angel, I will stop before you start to spank all us Virgals lol. 🙂 It's not useless, I get my part in it but I don't see why it held so much weight that he had to leave me permanently. I believe my actions tipped it over but I don't see why we couldn't work it out. That's why I have my suspicions. Doesn't that seem just a little suspicious to you? It can't all be because of me.

Moro, you're right I definitely was not secure in knowing he accepted my role in his life as girlfriend. Like PA and SF said, you will know if a Pisces is digging you and I guess I could just tell something wasn't quite right. Which eventually proved true.

Imitation, the first sentence (stop at the periods) in each example was my Pisces ex. Basically, he moved in slow, treated me nicely, then looked to someone else about what to do (with me) once it got a little hot in the kitchen. His final decision was to end us, without telling me though. His last words were "I'll give you a call". That was Feb 6th lol.