Scorpio man confused by pisces crush

The story goes (I am 19):

> I met her on the grass at uni 1 year ago

> Became friends, not close, platonic, found out she was in long term relationship

> Little communication over the following year (2013)

> Semester 1 2014 began talking again, found out she had broken up with bf

> She invites me to 2 parties to which I decline due to study, but I agree to go with her and other friends to the third invite.

> Have a great time, drink a fair bit, nothing sexual happens, a few touches here and there nothing too dramatic

> see her to study at uni, I find out she's still in contact with ex, not too much though, ask if she's seeing anyone else she says no, so I ask her out for lunch she says yes convincingly(happy days?) no.

> exam period comes, both stressed don't talk as much, as soon as exams finish I ask her if she's free on a certain day (sunday) to which she replies I'm working. I reply with, let me know when you're free and she says yeah sure 🙂

> since then she's gone out drinking to clubs a few times and hasn't initiated any conversations or shown much interest in me. On fb I have been the one initiating the conversation the last 9/10 times, whereas before it was more even.

> what gives? Is she politely saying yes to fuck me off nicely? Or is there a possibility she's interested? I've felt a connection but I cannot read this person like I can most others. I really like her and she's very well mindfucking the shit out of me.

> In total i've asked her three times to go out to lunch just us two, and she's said yes all three times but doesn't appear to be follwing up on any of it? Has she used the excuse that she's working a lot to get out of it? I cannot read her.

> HALP.

Posted by PsychoScorp
The story goes (I am 19):

> I met her on the grass at uni 1 year ago

> Became friends, not close, platonic, found out she was in long term relationship

> Little communication over the following year (2013)

> Semester 1 2014 began talking again, found out she had broken up with bf

> She invites me to 2 parties to which I decline due to study, but I agree to go with her and other friends to the third invite.

> Have a great time, drink a fair bit, nothing sexual happens, a few touches here and there nothing too dramatic

> see her to study at uni, I find out she's still in contact with ex, not too much though, ask if she's seeing anyone else she says no, so I ask her out for lunch she says yes convincingly(happy days?) no.

> exam period comes, both stressed don't talk as much, as soon as exams finish I ask her if she's free on a certain day (sunday) to which she replies I'm working. I reply with, let me know when you're free and she says yeah sure 🙂

> since then she's gone out drinking to clubs a few times and hasn't initiated any conversations or shown much interest in me. On fb I have been the one initiating the conversation the last 9/10 times, whereas before it was more even.

> what gives? Is she politely saying yes to fuck me off nicely? Or is there a possibility she's interested? I've felt a connection but I cannot read this person like I can most others. I really like her and she's very well mindfucking the shit out of me.

> In total i've asked her three times to go out to lunch just us two, and she's said yes all three times but doesn't appear to be follwing up on any of it? Has she used the excuse that she's working a lot to get out of it? I cannot read her.

> HALP.

If she agrees to lunch, but flakes on you...

Here is what you need to write,

"Hey, I know you are busy but here's the deal. Why don't you check your schedule, and get back to me about when you are free to meet up and hang out."

Make her consult HER schedule and get back to you.

If she flakes on you again, dude, just forget about her.

Life is WAY too short for flakes.

Dude, just text her what I told you VERBATIM.

Do it, NOW!

Yeah I was thinking of doing that, or just saying "I don't want you to feel obliged to say yes to lunch, if you dont want to go and just want to stay as friends then I'm cool with that (deep down i'm not)" or I could say "So did you find out when you were free"? etc I'm not sure what to do

I already asked her to let me know........she's indecisive as fuck so I doubt she'll get round to that LOL

Dude, that shit you are thinking about writing is SHIT.

Just write what I told you to write, and don't be stupid about it.

So you want me to ask her again to tell me when she's free on the spot? or...

Posted by ScorpioFish


Here is what you need to write,

"Hey, I know you are busy but here's the deal. Why don't you check your schedule, and get back to me about when you are free to meet up and hang out."

Make her consult HER schedule and get back to you.

If she flakes on you again, dude, just forget about her.

Life is WAY too short for flakes.

This kind of passive aggressive ultimatums never work.
She will either tell him to fuck off or just give an half assed ambiguous response, and OP will keep convincing himself than she is interested but that he goofed up by putting some pressure on her and the situation will get worse fom there.
Just forget about her, if she's interested she'll initiate a contact, but it doesn't look like a good prospect. She's still in contact with her ex, just find another girl lol.

I'm not sure whether she'd be the type to initiate the contact, I can never feel what she likes or doesn't like, I'm half tempted to ignore her until she contacts me next...just to gauge whether she's truly interested or not.. I don't think there's much going on with her ex, it pisses me off they still talk..

This kind of passive aggressive ultimatums never work.
She will either tell him to fuck off or just give an half assed ambiguous response, and OP will keep convincing himself than she is interested but that he goofed up by putting some pressure on her and the situation will get worse fom there.
Just forget about her, if she's interested she'll initiate a contact, but it doesn't look like a good prospect. She's still in contact with her ex, just find another girl lol.

KMA.

There is nothing passive-aggressive in my statement.

She is the one who flaked, not him.

Therefore, he needs to keep it cool and copacetic, and tell her to get back to him when her schedule is set.

Being direct with a flake will never work, so it's wise to just be loose with her and see what she does.

Getting an expectation other than loose and chill is not going to work with a flake chick.

I have a feeling that if I ask her to check her schedule of when's she's free and get back to me, she'll never let me know...haha I guess one last shot won't hurt.

Posted by PsychoScorp
I have a feeling that if I ask her to check her schedule of when's she's free and get back to me, she'll never let me know...haha I guess one last shot won't hurt.

Then in that case, I wouldn't even worry about her anymore.

The more you obsess, the more she runs away.

Remember that.

Yeah, I guess so...ah well, In a couple of days I'll ask her one more time, if she flakes again I'll forget it. Ah well.

Posted by PsychoScorp
Yeah I was thinking of doing that, or just saying "I don't want you to feel obliged to say yes to lunch, if you dont want to go and just want to stay as friends then I'm cool with that (deep down i'm not)" or I could say "So did you find out when you were free"? etc I'm not sure what to do

Scorps hate being lied to.

But Scorps hold back (it's like lying) in order to not scare others away. Scorps also ask small questions to dig at the real question without really getting there, and therefore not really getting answers. It stirs the paranoia pot and confuses the other person.

We're like irony that way.

We find all these ways of saying things without saying things, and thoughts get misconstrued in the process. Scorpfish's simple message is very good. You could even ask her if she'd like to go out with you again, and if so, when would be a good time?

People either meet halfway or they don't. Things should fall into place without coercing, without messages to force a reaction.

Since it's a water sign couple..she either picks up on what you put down or she doesn't. And if she doesn't, do you really think persevering will work? You'll always wonder if she was into you for you or for the amount of effort you put into this.

From where I am standing, you made your interest quite clear.

Alright, quick update:

I sent her a message today asking her whether she found out when she was free...If I dont get a positive response I'm pulling the plug!

Posted by Reincarnation

Posted by PsychoScorp
Alright, quick update:

I sent her a message today asking her whether she found out when she was free...If I dont get a positive response I'm pulling the plug!

You have to be much more aggressive man. You're at a "1" and you need to be at a "7" or "8" at least.

"Pulling the plug"? WTF? Do you want this woman? If so, then don't give up.

Use your intensity to your advantage; don't hide it.

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personally, if anyone has the intensity and power to do it, it's a scorpio man. but i'm bias.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Reincarnation

Posted by PsychoScorp
Alright, quick update:

I sent her a message today asking her whether she found out when she was free...If I dont get a positive response I'm pulling the plug!

You have to be much more aggressive man. You're at a "1" and you need to be at a "7" or "8" at least.

"Pulling the plug"? WTF? Do you want this woman? If so, then don't give up.

Use your intensity to your advantage; don't hide it.

personally, if anyone has the intensity and power to do it, it's a scorpio man. but i'm bias.

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Honestly, I think when it comes to dealing with women no one is better than Fire males. They have that confidence and will use charm, intellect and opportunity to get your undivided attention. They are just at ease with women. These dudes will get their women, even if she's not that into them. They will at least get a few dates or a life long friendship. Intensity is not exclusive to Scorpio males but I find that many fear their intensity and power so tend to water it down.

I love water males but, they are very sensitive and have a tendency to give up when there is a challenge. Except Cancer males, they are kind of different, if they are discouraged they will disappear and come roaring back!!! Crab males are very charming and excellent at initiating and asserting themselves and pretty intelligent in knowing when to grab opportunities!!

For example, I was flirting with a Crab male about a year ago, we lost touch, or I blew him off, whichever. Anyway, last week I was coming from the store, walking toward my car; I heard a horn honk but ignored it. I'm sitting in my car and about to back up when I noticed a car come to a screeching halt and blocking me from backing up. Turns out it was the Crab. LOL He ran right up to me and we hugged. I was so overwhelmed by this act of assertiveness I gave him my number, again. Knucklehead pinched my ass as we were saying out goodbyes. FRESH!!!

aight ended up talking about pretty much everything, I'll update you guys when I wakeup,

ciao
xx

Posted by LunarMaiden

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Reincarnation

Posted by PsychoScorp
Alright, quick update:
I sent her a message today asking her whether she found out when she was free...If I dont get a positive response I'm pulling the plug!

You have to be much more aggressive man. You're at a "1" and you need to be at a "7" or "8" at least.

"Pulling the plug"? WTF? Do you want this woman? If so, then don't give up.

Use your intensity to your advantage; don't hide it.

personally, if anyone has the intensity and power to do it, it's a scorpio man. but i'm bias.

Honestly, I think when it comes to dealing with women no one is better than Fire males. They have that confidence and will use charm, intellect and opportunity to get your undivided attention. They are just at ease with women. These dudes will get their women, even if she's not that into them. They will at least get a few dates or a life long friendship. Intensity is not exclusive to Scorpio males but I find that many fear their intensity and power so tend to water it down.
I love water males but, they are very sensitive and have a tendency to give up when there is a challenge. Except Cancer males, they are kind of different, if they are discouraged they will disappear and come roaring back!!! Crab males are very charming and excellent at initiating and asserting themselves and pretty intelligent in knowing when to grab opportunities!!
For example, I was flirting with a Crab male about a year ago, we lost touch, or I blew him off, whichever. Anyway, last week I was coming from the store, walking toward my car; I heard a horn honk but ignored it. I'm sitting in my car and about to back up when I noticed a car come to a screeching halt and blocking me from backing up. Turns out it was the Crab. LOL He ran right up to me and we hugged. I was so overwhelmed by this act of assertiveness I gave him my number, again. Knucklehead pinched my ass as we were saying out goodbyes. FRESH!!!

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🙂 Thanks for sharing that, Lunar. Nice story. But i love me my husband and he's got alot of fire, so i guess i got the best for me. ^__

^___^ I hope you and your assertive crab man get together! Sounds potentially great for you two.

@psychoscorp, good luck!

Alright so we ended up having a huge conversation about pretty much everything, She said she was still building emotionally, and that she isn't ready to give herself to any other man (not just me) at the moment, but she still wants to remain close friends. I said I could wait and I'm kind of hoping she comes around eventually...

What's everyone's opinions?

Its been about 7 months since she broke up with her ex and he's still trying to get back with her.

I'm not sure where to go from here, that's all

you might want to hide the girl's name and city from that url lol

Posted by hydorah
you might want to hide the girl's name and city from that url lol

+1

Why the hell would you even write her full name on there? Even worse while writing just your first name? SMH.

I hate it when people say they are confused, when what they really mean is that they refuse to face the truth.


She's not into you like that ... but, I see you refuse to face that. I see you will continue to make a fool out of yourself by attempting to score a person who isn't interested.

And the fact that you want to 🏆 someone is writing on the wall about you.

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

What she said. Whatever that was 😛

I see a Mercury - Pluto square on that chart.

You're ruled by Pluto so communication will be a huge issue with the square. It takes adapting to.

However natural chemistry > birth charts.

Posted by Damnata

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

What she said. Whatever that was 😛

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😄. Figure I'd leave it alone.

I've spent more time on the fish board in the last few hours than the whole time I've been a member on DXP. It's time I take my leave.

Its really sad, thanks for everything guys, but I guess I'll just move on and hopefully one day she changes her mind. Still hooked on this one.

SIGH.

I guess her past relationship really messed her up. Ah well.

Posted by 8Marchpisces

Posted by PsychoScorp
Its really sad, thanks for everything guys, but I guess I'll just move on and hopefully one day she changes her mind. Still hooked on this one.

SIGH.

I guess her past relationship really messed her up. Ah well.

Her past relationship has nothing to do. When a Pisces woman acts the way she acts with you, is because she is not interested. She felt no connection.

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It's easier on his ego to assume it's the past relationship that messed her up.

I think you're right, I'm fine being friends with her though. Better than to be friends than nothing at all.

All these couples out here having romances.
Going to festivals, holding hands, watching live bands, hugged up, flirting, verbally bantering and going home together. It's not really that hard to get with someone who has a mutual interests, unless there is game playing.

If ya'll ain't doing any of these things, she ain't interested.
If I meet my type and he is openly pursuing me, I am available and actively accepting his invitation to date and making plans to bring it to light.

A Pisces is no different. Shyness, ex-boyfriend, blah blah is just code word for not into you.
Sorry, try asking out other women and see how easy it is to get the girl.

Posted by fishinamaize
Why would you want to be"just" anything with someone who doesn't respect you?

Because he might work an angle later to get her?

Dude, if that chick tried to FRIEND ZONE your ass and leave it at that....

You need to disappear.

Totally disappear.

If you allow her to treat you like her homosexual male girlfriend / emotional tampon, then you will be regarded as such for life.

GET BUSY.

Find things to do that get you away from being her FRIEND ZONE gay shopping bag holding boy toy, and do something else.

Work out, spend time with other people, and take photos with other girls.

Do NOT be her tampon. Be a MAN and walk away until she comes to you.

I'm not really going to initiate anything coversation or being her emotional scaffold, I ain't about that. I do talk to a lot of other people, and I am walking away, but I would prefer to remain on good terms, than to not talk at all.