Help! Scorpio/Pisces Breakup

she's a bad fishy...put 'er on the grill.

unless it's the drama, not her, that you love? then get on with it! 😉

nah, but being serious...she seems really vindictive. or has no grip on reality and can't think how her actions affect others. that's really not cool.

@caligula

so nearly two years later you're wondering if she still loves you?

@nimbue

Posted by iceredrobot
Cheats, keeps you around as backup and harasses you in emails??
I'm more shocked a Pisces can be this proactive tbh!

LOL can't lie, i thought that too

@scorpioguy

14 Years

thanks for your input everyone 🙂

@outofcomfortzone4now

15 Years

I feel the pain in your words scorpguy, but where is your self-respect? and why would you want someone like that after how she treated you? go out, date, find a hobby, occupy your time to move on, usually people like that are miserable and karma ends up biting them in the end.

Posted by scorpioguy

But I still have very deep feelings for her and I can't seem to resolve them...

That's because Scorpios cannot be the break-up'ees ... they have to be the breaker-uppers.

If you had broken up with her, then none of this over-top pining away for someone you claim you do not want would exist.

Posted by scorpioguy

I haven't heard a peep from her in 10 months...

... it's been 10 months ... wtf is the matter with Scorpios

@PlutoVenus

15 Years

Can you post yours and hers charts?

@caligula

17 Years1,000+ PostsPisces

awwh, he's a baby in comparison to her. she busted his cherry and that is essentially the problem.

@Nefer

5.5 years in a LDR? That's not a relationship, that's a fantasy. One of you needed to make it permanent and REAL, and neither of you did. A Pisces can exist inside their fantasy for a time, some longer than others, and we're pretty good at this -- but in the end we NEED it to move into reality, or it fizzles out.

I myself was in an LDR for about two years (a Virgo).. it never moved into reality, and thus it never became real - and my REAL LIFE trumped the LD fantasy. (Missed opportunity? Perhaps. It wasn't meant to be, and in the end it is what it is... which in all fairness.. is nothing but a memory.) Yes, I felt emotions for him, still remember him fondly and think of him once in awhile. Occasionally I might miss him, even enough to be moved to send him a "How are you doing?" message, just to see.. well, how he's doing. Not that I want to mess up his life, or trigger any hurt. And certainly not that I want him "back".. Just fondness and curiosity. He didn't answer the last couple times, and I have not contacted him in at least three years now. I just smile when I think of him and silently wish him well in his life.

Also, flip side.. there's a guy I've known for some twelve years online.. a Pisces (heh).. who swore himself to be madly in love with me, yet we failed to make it real. Years ago, I visited his state to see friends.. I was an hour's drive from him.. he could not or would not come that hour to see me and gave several lame reasons for it.. later told me he panicked out of fear. Understandable, yes. But the results were catastrophic.. missed connection. I went on with my life, and he with his. He would periodically contact me.. he got married, had a couple kids.. I was happy for him. But there was nothing to rekindle on my side.. when the fantasy died, it burned up all but a faint, bittersweet fondness. But he persisted, unable to let go.. insisted he'd leave his wife and kids for me, which HORRIFIED me. No, absolutely not, I won't be party to that. So I stopped responding, have not responded in years.

There's also a Sag (I've written of him before) who keeps contacting me.. I rarely respond (then he gets rude and we fight! haha) We were friends, but he was secretly into me for years. But I cannot exist in a fantasy forever. I cut him loose.. he's moved to another state, married now.. but again, I won't be party to that.

And I LOVE my Libra. My REAL LIFE Libra trumps them all and they are nothing but memories.

@Nefer

17 Years1,000+ PostsPisces

LDR's (the ones that are maintained as such, and moves never made to make them real) are usually a sign of a deeper psychological issue.. for me, it was being not ready or willing to find and maintain true intimacy with a real person. It was me needing to work on myself, and using the LDR as some sort of protective shield to keep myself closed off from the rest of the world.. pretty effective way of keeping myself in an invisible box. Of course, I never SAW it that way, not at the time. I truly loved and cared for this person! I couldn't help where I met him! He moves me, he reaches me, he GETS me, no one else triggers such a deep connection in me!.. Yeah, and I could stay safe in my box, risking nothing, taking no responsibility for being unable to find and maintain a relationship with a real person, in real time. I wanted the perfection of the fantasy.. where our conversations were thrilling and thought-provoking, where I missed and yearned for this man and he for me. Where everything we said to each other or every "secret" we revealed just made us more amazing and wonderful to the other. I didn't want the reality.. the working a man wholly into my life, into learning and accepting all the little faults and foibles that show up from prolonged contact in the real world.. the way he leaves his wet towels on the floor.. it was kinda funny the first couple times.. but now it's about as endearing as me hunting under the bed for his wadded up dirty socks that NEVER make it into the clothes hamper! It was my own fear of being OPEN and VULNERABLE.. of being KNOWN (and possibly judged and found lacking!) the good AND the bad... not just morning hair and morning breath, sleep-crusty eyes and no makeup.. but he would see how I truly LIVE and AM, on good days and bad, my once a month psychosis, how I interact with my kids and my coworkers and my friends.. he would see my lazy weekends in sweats.. he would see my IMPERFECTION.

And when I wasn't ready for all of that in my real life... I maintained an LDR to keep me unavailable for it. I could simply and honestly state that I was already committed to someone, spending all of my emotional time and energy on the near-perfect fantasy, and therefore not even NOTICE other men in the world. I was safe, cushioned, sequestered, protected.. from the world, from MYSELF.

What I find hilarious isn't that he's crying and whimpering after 10 months .... it's that he has no clue, being a Scorpio, that it makes him weak.

Scorpios think they are strong ... jsut listen to this shit ... they can't even get past suffering themselves.

Scorpios have to be the ones to break up .. they cannot handle if a person breaks up with them.

That's all this is .. a Scorpio crying because he got broken up with.

@Awakened

15 Years500+ PostsPisces

@ OP

Why don't you begin the REAL issue by asking what YOU could have done better? Oh, but that famous scorpionic arrogance prevents that eh? Nobody can tell ya shit with you asking about the Pisces.

@Awakened

15 Years500+ PostsPisces

Posted by scorpioguy

Posted by NovLady
@scorpioguy

I noticed in your chart that you have several planets in Libra. Is it possible that you have felt that you gave TOO much? Or, that you lost your identity and sense of self-purpose IN the relationship? You say that you have worked towards much self-improvement in the last several months. How do you feel these changes would affect you differently in a relationship now?

I ask all of this because I know that there are two people in a relationship that must take responsibility for its 'life' and that by examining your own motives/intentions you can uncover the hidden gifts this experience has had (and continues) to offer.

yes i feel i gave WAY too much and i lost my entire identity... it's been a long road to recovery... i think with any potential new relationship im now very guarded and i also will not waiver from my values/beliefs and my boundaries are set in stone LOL im a recovering "nice guy" 😛

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Really? So now we see the point of the thread. How great you are and how terrible the pisces was. Sounds like the same ol' dribble that gets posted here daily.