How can a Pisces do this to me? - Scorpio

I was in a relationship with a Pisces girl and she meant the world to me. I loved her more than anything. I met her when she was going through a very bad phase of her life. And I did everything I can to get her life back in right track. During this moment, I suffered many setbacks too in my life because I gave all my time/effort to her. She took a long time to recover. We never argued even once during this time. I always told her how much i love her and how much she meant to me and she told me she loved me too very much.

But things changed when she moved to a new place. Now it was long distance relationship. She slowly started changing. Day by day we talked less as she was busy with her work. After some months, She told me - she didn't miss me that much anymore. One day hell broke loose when she said to me - she missed her ex, the guy who was responsible for ruining her life. And from that day, there was this cycle of insane arguments over phone. As days went by she started ignoring me and was very rude towards me everytime i called her.

So finally one day she told me, she doesn't love me anymore and all she wanted was a friend. A FRIEND? after all I did for her sacrificing my everything. I don't know what to say or expect anymore. Right now I have gone to such deep depression i can't do or think anything straight. She broke my heart so bad it brings tears to my eyes each and every moment.

Why did she do this to me? Is this how pisces women are?

Ha! You Scorpio's always get what you deserve.

Posted by kev96
A FRIEND? after all I did for her sacrificing my everything.

Quid pro quo?

You make it sound as if she is indebted to you.

Unfortunately, this was a common theme with a Scorpio ex of mine (no, I don't think all Scorps are this way). He was an amazing man yet he never missed an opportunity to remind me and others of what he did for us.

If the roles were reversed he would be called a jerk.

No sir, that is how broken people are. You helped her to swim, now it's time to let her sink. You cannot save everyone hero. Give yourself that distance and allow yourself to heal. You won't if she keeps zipping in and out of your life. Be completely honest with yourself on that score. At times it is more painful to have someone you care about on the perimeter. Gather some pride and refuse to be option B.

^^^^^^^^Couldnt agree more^^^^^^^

I am sorry that you're hurting, Kev96. I don't know about all Pisces.. but I have a hard time accepting help from others, because I would feel indebted to them.. I, however, will go to great lengths to help someone I care about, without expecting anything in return. BUT.. I have never been in a situation where I greatly needed to rely on anyone for help.. besides my parents (both Scorps).

Pisces don't like conflict and hurting others.. I was in a 12 yr long marriage and we never once fought.. we just grew apart. There were years that I didn't feel for him anymore, but wouldn't say anything. I can bet my behavior had changed though, because I can't hide my feelings very well. So yeah, as SOON as she started to pull away, that was a warning, because we don't ignore the ones that we love. We constantly let them know how special they are to us.

I must be the only fish not buying this self serving bullshit-one.Two, its a good thing she moved away because after his tears dry revenge mode will kick in.

Posted by PiscesFebFish
I must be the only fish not buying this self serving bullshit-one.Two, its a good thing she moved away because after his tears dry revenge mode will kick in.

Why dont you buy it?

The one sentence that is very telling.... "A FRIEND? after all I did for her sacrificing my everything"

True, my dislike for scorpio's is only second to Pisces men. However, if you give from the heart it never means nothing and if your giving is genuine you will never feel used.

^^^^^I agree with the latter half of this message. I am a giving person and never regret what I have given as I expect nothing in return.

Posted by kev96
I was in a relationship with a Pisces girl and she meant the world to me. I loved her more than anything. I met her when she was going through a very bad phase of her life. And I did everything I can to get her life back in right track. During this moment, I suffered many setbacks too in my life because I gave all my time/effort to her. She took a long time to recover. We never argued even once during this time. I always told her how much i love her and how much she meant to me and she told me she loved me too very much.

But things changed when she moved to a new place. Now it was long distance relationship. She slowly started changing. Day by day we talked less as she was busy with her work. After some months, She told me - she didn't miss me that much anymore. One day hell broke loose when she said to me - she missed her ex, the guy who was responsible for ruining her life. And from that day, there was this cycle of insane arguments over phone. As days went by she started ignoring me and was very rude towards me everytime i called her.

So finally one day she told me, she doesn't love me anymore and all she wanted was a friend. A FRIEND? after all I did for her sacrificing my everything. I don't know what to say or expect anymore. Right now I have gone to such deep depression i can't do or think anything straight. She broke my heart so bad it brings tears to my eyes each and every moment.

Why did she do this to me? Is this how pisces women are?

Not all Pisces women are that way. IMO what happened was that by spending all of your time with her and not even "checking" her if she got out of line, she got bored. Her ex most likely challenged her and whenever she decided she wanted to overstep her boundaries. She got a thrill out of seeing a man "man up" on her. It's like she lost respect for you. When she started to argue with you, it was her way of seeing if you had the back bone to tell her to be quiet and listen or back down for a change. I was always told when there are no disagreements in a relationship ever, that one person isn't participating. I know it hurts now man, but the best thing to do is heal, go out and have fun and find another woman to date eventually. It happens to the best of us.

Posted by piranhaparadiise
A rebound...the fact that you knew she was having a hard time because of an ex...says she took you as someone to lean on...worse mistake is to go with someone who is not completely over their ex...no matter the sign...

once her emotions got in check...she became her independant self again...sad truth....

Her saying she missed her ex is a sign she never let the flame go for him...Usually a Pisces moves forward not back ...unless they intuitively *feel* the past relationship is not over...*rare*

You might feel used ?! However it was yourself who chose to love her ...to stay with her ...to give yourself to her...knowing she was at a hard time in her life... = from past relationship...

A Pisces needs to fix themselves...

Check and mate

Piranhaparadiise is a wise woman! If I wasn't over an ex, it would be a mistake to take me on... but I'm always honest about my situation from the getgo, so I wouldn't feel guilty if things didn't work out.

Thanks alot for your comments. I really appreciate it. Frankly, I don't want anything back from her. I just wanted her to be there with me always. But I guess I'm asking too much. Initially She came forward to me and said she loved me. Then, I fell for her gradually. But I'm quite a fixed person, if I like/love someone I really do 100% no matter what, no matter where that person is. But I think people change and I think its time to let go even though its very hard for me to let completely whom I loved so much.
Now once in a while she drops me email saying - I'm the nicest person she has ever met and want to friends with me. But I can't be just friends now. I just can't. Hope you guys understand. Thanks guys.

@PiscesFebFish - I was not even going to reply to you but still. Is this the way you reply to a newbie in a public forum? Please read the comments given by others on this thread. People post here to get/give some good advice on issues. If you can't help, please don't bother replying. And avoid flaming in forums, its quite immature.

No offense but when is Pisces NOT screwing their life up? Seriously....

Oh and Kev what is your chart like? Im quite curious because this whole 100% being there thing intrigues me seeing you are a Scorpio which in my past Scorpio's have been more like 10% LOL!

Posted by rhaina
Piranhaparadiise is a wise woman!

I know right! Wise indeed, if she wrote a blog I would definitely subscribe!

lol. I don't know, It's just that it sounds like you're up to some payback time.
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1st it's your fault for expecting too much :/
I know, I know.. it seems like everything is perfect you helped her, you're there when she needed you..
it's like.. EVERYTHING is trying to GO to "THAT" point.

but, nah. Plans are never cool.

I like Scorpio people a lot, they are good friends.
but, it seems like they look like they are going crazy every break up.

You can't say you love someone and then do the whole 'you owe me' thing, its just not right.

May be she feels you expect her to make you her God after what you did, which made her fall out of love with you, because you were by her side, with a hidden agenda.

She doesn't love you. I don't think she ever did...she just felt really indebted to you after all you did for her...and when you said those words, she felt like she didn't want to disappoint you. But now that she's far, she thought about it rationally and does not feel love for you. Gratitude yes, but she just went through something major, if you ask me, you are the selfish one here. You knew she was going through something huge, and that she would be vulnerable, yet you helped her get on her feet, and knew she would feel like she owed you something, so you cornered her and told her you loved her. She needs a friend because right now she cannot handle the pressure of a long distance relationship, it seems like she's only learning to trust again, and you are up in her face cornering her with your 'after all I did for u?'

Love does not keep account of things you do for someone, you simply do it because you love them.

Posted by kev96

I just wanted her to be there with me always. But I guess I'm asking too much.

Yes, it's asking too much ..... there is no forever ..... so to expect it with anyone is always too much.

Posted by Xin
No offense but when is Pisces NOT screwing their life up? Seriously....

I'm not.

Posted by kev96
Thanks alot for your comments. I really appreciate it. Frankly, I don't want anything back from her. I just wanted her to be there with me always. But I guess I'm asking too much. Initially She came forward to me and said she loved me. Then, I fell for her gradually. But I'm quite a fixed person, if I like/love someone I really do 100% no matter what, no matter where that person is. But I think people change and I think its time to let go even though its very hard for me to let completely whom I loved so much.
Now once in a while she drops me email saying - I'm the nicest person she has ever met and want to friends with me. But I can't be just friends now. I just can't. Hope you guys understand. Thanks guys.

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First of all, definitely gotta agree with piranhaparadiise, wise words.

On a different note, I have to stick up for Scorpios, it seems they're sometimes misunderstood. Yeah, if you betray them they'll likely flip out in the moment, but they really do try to understand where the other person is coming from, and judge whether the intentions were just. The last sentence of his original post was him asking why she did it to him. I think he genuinely wants to know why, because he suspects that maybe she isn't really a bad person. But I have to add, trying to make a Pisces feel indebted to you is easily in the top 3 worst things you can do. Some of the most important goals in my life is getting out of debt (thank you college) so I can help my family, and eventually start my own. Scorpios you have a lot to offer to a Pisces, but don't expect us to feel so intensely about things, at least right away. It takes time for us to develop solid, true feelings, in love and in life.

Posted by Xin
No offense but when is Pisces NOT screwing their life up? Seriously....

whenever we avoid getting into relationships with trash like you, obviously.