Scumbag Pisces

Good morning everyone.

I'm pissed right now and I just wanted to ask you guys & girl.
When is it time to quit the nice guy/girl Pisces and become the shark?
Cause I'm being too nice for certain people most of the time, and they're mistaking it for weakness it seems.

You know very well how angry we can get and how we can increase that anger if left to fester.
I like him very much but he crossed a line and I really REALLY feel like punishing him.

Probably pissed off my Aries mercury but I'm boiling here..

So do I show him the not so mr Nice guy version of me or not?
If not to prove that I do know how to stand up and fight back.
I promise it won't be pretty.

^^^^ -1. 😢

I don't agree with Neme.... sorry
Sometimes you have to "fight fire with fire!"

Or as the Shakespeare has said or better yet....The Red Queen...

"OFF WITH HIS HEAD!!!!"

Yeah, I let ppl know how I feel rather quickly. That was something that I had to learn. I had a older man tell me one time. Always tell a man when he has done something to hurt you or bother you because if you don't he will do it again and again. IF you didnt tell em its free range. I might be the most blunt Pisces there is..Mercury in the 1st houst..

And being that way you will find that more respect will come your way..AT the end of the day you must respect me if nothing else. You dont have to love me hell you dont have to like me but uh you will respect me..:-)

Posted by EusiveSoulll
but I am giving my beast to entertain you! Take it as a compliment 😉

I think she just hit on you PHV 😛

Oh jeeze..... I'm awful, I poke because you correct your typos, and then when one pops up that you don't correct and tickles me like no other... I use it against you.

I wouldn't blame you to smack me right in the face Elusive 😉

PHV.... annnnnnnd....... GO!

Posted by Ormas
Good morning everyone.

I'm pissed right now and I just wanted to ask you guys & girl.
When is it time to quit the nice guy/girl Pisces and become the shark?
Cause I'm being too nice for certain people most of the time, and they're mistaking it for weakness it seems.

You know very well how angry we can get and how we can increase that anger if left to fester.
I like him very much but he crossed a line and I really REALLY feel like punishing him.

Probably pissed off my Aries mercury but I'm boiling here..

So do I show him the not so mr Nice guy version of me or not?
If not to prove that I do know how to stand up and fight back.
I promise it won't be pretty.

Just to make a valid contribution to this thread. Ormas.... You know when it's time. When you're tired of taking it all. Right? I don't know about anyone else, but for me it's rarely a choice. My perspective changes all on it's own, and bam - it all comes flying out. If you're feeling it, and it's time for it to come out. Out it comes, I say!

And I will full out deserve what comes my way! 🙂

haha and monkey...! Wins again!!

Dragqueen, Rabbi and a Monk eh? This IS quite the gathering!
Hi Nem 🙂

I fling poop! Which is trouble for E's fur... your scales further protect though... hrmmmm...
I think together with my poop and your fiery breath.... if the Rabbit has a paper bag - we could really wreak havoc.

OMG what is wrong with me today—?

Ooo... two scaleys and a poop flinger. Things are shaping up!

I'm gone for a few hours and you guys derail the complete topic! 😄
Shouldn't you just make a 'spam' topic for this kinda chat?
I can hear you all going 'errrrry topic is a chance to spam bitch'.

Thanks deezie, out it should go & out it came.
I flung my poop -or whatever that thing was I glanced over scrolling down- and hit target.
Lets see what happens now, I'm all calm again.
Now I feel kinda bad for doing that & I want to make it up.

*shrug* My Shark has a will and a life of her own.. she comes out when she comes out.

I might SNARK undeserved.. but I never SHARK undeserved.

And you're right, it's anything but pretty.

Posted by Ormas

Now I feel kinda bad for doing that & I want to make it up.

F.... that's the inevitable problem with holding it all in, and letting it out in one big wallop. After you get this feeling of perhaps overreaction? Or... something.

It's part of the cycle.
1) Hold, hold, hold
2) blow up
3) feel bad
4) make amends.

Weird part is what the perception is from the other party in each of these phases?
I propose in a general sense (non-water signs) would have the corresponding responses to our phases:

1) Oblivious to any crap they're dealing out (or perceived crap by the fish)
2) WOAH!? where'd that come from—
3) Well at least it's over now.... on we go...
4) awwwww ________ is being so sweet, I must be pretty awesome.

hahahah take that only minimally seriously.

Posted by deezie

Posted by Ormas

Now I feel kinda bad for doing that & I want to make it up.

F.... that's the inevitable problem with holding it all in, and letting it out in one big wallop. After you get this feeling of perhaps overreaction? Or... something.

It's part of the cycle.
1) Hold, hold, hold
2) blow up
3) feel bad
4) make amends.

Weird part is what the perception is from the other party in each of these phases?
I propose in a general sense (non-water signs) would have the corresponding responses to our phases:

1) Oblivious to any crap they're dealing out (or perceived crap by the fish)
2) WOAH!? where'd that come from—
3) Well at least it's over now.... on we go...
4) awwwww ________ is being so sweet, I must be pretty awesome.

hahahah take that only minimally seriously.

click to expand

True.
I have wondered how it would look to see me explode from the outside. I only know how I react and how I get there, but like I said.. now I'm feeling bad and I don't like to fight with him. So I want to make it up. He probably has no idea where it call came from, even when I pointed it out. "is that it?" is probably the thought haha.

But yeah, I feel like I wasn't myself, that wasn't me, must make it up to him.
Rinse & repeat. He is awesome indeed, but not above verbal spankings!
Funny how I was so pissed and then over the course of a few hours, it all went from angry to mellow to 'what did I do now you ugly monster', go make up! 😄

The trick is learning to be a bit more communicative pre-emptively. So that people around you aren't caught off guard, thinking all is ok, when actually it isn't.

Sorry a bit hard for me to comment fully on this - as I don't know what the actual circumstances are.

haha, we had a moment there koi. Sweet 🙂

Posted by deezie
The trick is learning to be a bit more communicative pre-emptively. So that people around you aren't caught off guard, thinking all is ok, when actually it isn't.

Sorry a bit hard for me to comment fully on this - as I don't know what the actual circumstances are.

He "insulted" me by telling his cousin that I never do anything for him cause I don't value him enough.
I went from a 'wait what?' face to a 'really' to 'ponder' to 'pissed' (do you have any idea how much you mean to me?) to 'angry' (wasn't going to take this one laying down since he just mentioned that his ex did everything for him like a slave).
When he said 'I like my boyfriends like that, I think I need a slave' I saw red and boom went this Pisces.

Believe you me I tried to hold it back but nope, it had to come out. He thought it was funny, until he noticed that I wasn't fooling around. I'm nobody's slave and if that's what you're looking for, I wish you good luck with the search. Scary how, if he pushed me in that moment, I would have dropped it all and just gone home.

Still not the whole detailed story, but it gives a general idea.
How dare he say I don't value him, he's on my freaking mind a lot and I do so much for him & his family in the way that I can. Plus he said I needed to be more dominant with his cousin (she can be lazy) so part of me wanted to show just HOW dominant I could get.

See in that situation... if this was the first time he has made this kind of comment. You let him know RIGHT NOW, that's not funny to you.

If he's made the comments before, and you had the same reaction without the blow up - that's where you need to man up on the communication and put it out there first, second time it comes up. Then you can avoid the blow up/make up for it cycle.

Posted by deezie
See in that situation... if this was the first time he has made this kind of comment. You let him know RIGHT NOW, that's not funny to you.

If he's made the comments before, and you had the same reaction without the blow up - that's where you need to man up on the communication and put it out there first, second time it comes up. Then you can avoid the blow up/make up for it cycle.

Oh it was right after he said that for the first time ever. My face gave off a range of emotions but happy wasn't one of them. Lets hope he learned his lesson not to say that again, it's one of my blind weak spots I just discovered.
I need mental prep to talk about about ex's, but blindsiding me and then comparing me to one.. wrong idea sugar.. very wrong.

That's a good point koi.
You can't claim true intimacy until the bad makes it's appearance!

Posted by koi
Indeed, Deezie 🙂! I feel so understood just now.

Ormas, we'll never know, but if you hadn't vented now, I suspect you'd have been an ugliER monster eventually. Well, I'm willing to bet you're no ugly monster at all even as is. Supposing you'd managed to hold in every single thing of this sort that pissed you off, indefinitely... The negative energy wouldn't just disappear on its own. You'd get lumbago at best and at worst you'd begin to hate his guts. Also, I've come to realize I haven't allowed a person to truly be intimate with me until I've shown them my angry me. Now he knows your angry you. He can consider himself a lucky bastard, I'm sure.

I had/have a sore neck for a few days now. Perhaps I was building up to this? Thought I was just being ill, but maybe my body was warning me a meltdown was coming on. Cause honestly, it's going away now.

True, I do tend to forgive & forget very fast as long as people just.. talk to me. I'm not made to stay angry for long, I just don't like it. When I started feeling bad, I was going borderline 'forgive me' in my head. Gah I had to kick that submissive side of me hard, you don't just explode and then crawl back. Self respect bitch! 😄

Have you ever noticed that about yourself before?

My stress and tension totally comes out in physical form on my body, because I refuse to let it out in just about any other way. Start keeping an eye on that!

Posted by deezie
Have you ever noticed that about yourself before?

My stress and tension totally comes out in physical form on my body, because I refuse to let it out in just about any other way. Start keeping an eye on that!

I had it a while ago for the first time.
Intense neck pain, I tensed up completely.. had to go to the doctor etc and they did a full workup.
My grandma died little over a week ago and I had been picking up all the slack from home.
It wasn't very .. healthy to be home cause mom was a mess, fighting, crying, .. brrr I just picked up on that all and it freaked me out. I became her and started bossing everyone around, gah no I'm not made for that. I tensed up from that more & more and then suddenly everything froze.

I do have a few things on my plate right now emotionally. His 'joke' was just the last straw and I snapped.
I do need to learn how to let it out consistently over time and not bottle it up. Bottling it up means 'at a certain point I just dump you and vanish from your life'.

I'll keep an eye on it deezie.

Part of why I love him is that by just being around I completely relax.
My stress bucket gets emptied but this time he filled it up.
I expected him to be good for my stress level, not this time.. that's what made it so extra annoying afterwards.
"I want that peaceful feeling back you give me", like crack really.