Should I stay or go away?

Time ago I met a pisces. I liked him much. We started dating. I'm cancer lady. There was a good connection. He told me he wanted to be with me, but I should wait and give him some time because he was supporting his ex girlfriend and he still had feelings for her. I didn't wait. Sometimes we kissed each other. One day he said: Do you want to have a relationship with me? I said yes. A month later he told me he had never proposed anything, he was just asking, and since I said yes he couldn't say "no" So I was the one "proposing" it. I wanted to end what we had because he was still in contact with his ex, he said he felt her absence. It hurt him much becase it was a bad, toxic relationship. He agreed on finishing what we had. But then we were looking for each other. Sometimes him, sometims me. Sometimes kisses, sometimes just friends. And it's been a month since then. Some important data: I had my first sexual relationship with him immediately a week after having started our "relationship" (some months after having known him). He was the first to say "I love you" When we broke up he told me he wanted to try again with his ex. He said I was a good person and he didn't want to hurt me.

I feel guilty. I think I put a lot of pressure, I have had lots of talks with him about stopping seeing each other and always giving up when he says "do not go away from me". Maybe I ruined that mgic we felt at the beginning. At some point I know we both thought we were the ones, It felt like we were made for each other. But now everything is confusing... I don't know what to do.. Please, help me. If he doesn't want to have a relationship with me, if he accepted to be my friend and not to kiss me or hug me (as I asked), why does he say he doesn't want me to go away. Why there are many, many days where he doesn't text me.

Supposedly, Now We want to be friends, but we like each other.

He had never accepted me to pay for anything and the other day he asked me some money to pay the parking and the tip at the restaurant.

I don't know what to do. He confuses me because he invites me his home with his family. We slept together the other day. He used to text me frequenlty and now he doesn't do it that much.

I want to have him in my life. But at the sam time it hurts he can't offer what I'm looking for. I would like to try again and have a relationship with him. But he doesn't want to be my boyfriend. He said he is not looking for a relationship. I don't know what to do.

didn't you have a thread about this dude before that said almost the exact same thing?

go away.

he played you and you deserve better.

OP, your post is a convoluted mess and I blame your dude for that.

Don't waste your time with people who make things confusing.

you should run!

Posted by SentimentalCrabby
I seriously do not understand why Cancer women always ends up with the misfortunate ones and wonder what to do.

Please realize it soon that this guy isn't good for you & you deserve better than that. And no, do not say over the lines that he is your love & you will never find someone else again.

No. NO. NO! You will find someone else who will treat you so much better & return the feelings. Stop seeking for more out of this person, they already gave you an answer that they don't want to be with you because they're still in love with their ex.

Stop torturing yourself & face reality, it'll be hard to let go, but yo, he even said you're a good person & that you deserve better. OF COURSE YOU FAWKING DO!

Do not sob over this guy & find yourself a better man who could give you what you want.

The next thing you know you're completed confused & even heartbroken of what you want in your life!

Look at the other direction, say goodbye & look forward to the new guy who's going to treat you so much better.

I mean it, you'll be so much happier & less stress. FORGET HIM.

I really thank you for your answer. It's true that it hurts a lot because I offered the best of me and he just didn't want it. But if he doesn't want it, there's nothing I can do. I won''t blame him, and not because I want to be good but because I shared beautiful moments with him, and also because I experienced things I had never lived before (depite my age), and that's enough for me, I'm thankful for that. I know it won't be easy, but it's not impossible. I really regret he is not the one. Hopefully in the future I find a pisces of those who swim against the tide because this is a sign that I liked much.

Thank you for taking your time to answer.

Posted by Dreamyboy
He's still in love with his ex so he's blinded by his emotions to have a chance to know you. Your comfort is making his hurt go away, but he's using you for that. You can't have him if his heart is still longing for her's. You seem like a great girl, he's just interested in another girl.

Thank you very much, I had never been a rebound. Honestly I feel really bad, but I know the problem is not me but his stuck emotions on his ex. However, it hurt my self steem and the affection I feel for him.

Posted by AdrianaCrabTor
Time ago I met a pisces. I liked him much. We started dating. I'm cancer lady. There was a good connection. He told me he wanted to be with me, but I should wait and give him some time because he was supporting his ex girlfriend and he still had feelings for her. I didn't wait. Sometimes we kissed each other. One day he said: Do you want to have a relationship with me? I said yes. A month later he told me he had never proposed anything, he was just asking, and since I said yes he couldn't say "no" So I was the one "proposing" it. I wanted to end what we had because he was still in contact with his ex, he said he felt her absence. It hurt him much becase it was a bad, toxic relationship. He agreed on finishing what we had. But then we were looking for each other. Sometimes him, sometims me. Sometimes kisses, sometimes just friends. And it's been a month since then. Some important data: I had my first sexual relationship with him immediately a week after having started our "relationship" (some months after having known him). He was the first to say "I love you" When we broke up he told me he wanted to try again with his ex. He said I was a good person and he didn't want to hurt me.

I feel guilty. I think I put a lot of pressure, I have had lots of talks with him about stopping seeing each other and always giving up when he says "do not go away from me". Maybe I ruined that mgic we felt at the beginning. At some point I know we both thought we were the ones, It felt like we were made for each other. But now everything is confusing... I don't know what to do.. Please, help me. If he doesn't want to have a relationship with me, if he accepted to be my friend and not to kiss me or hug me (as I asked), why does he say he doesn't want me to go away. Why there are many, many days where he doesn't text me.

Supposedly, Now We want to be friends, but we like each other.

He had never accepted me to pay for anything and the other day he asked me some money to pay the parking and the tip at the restaurant.

I don't know what to do. He confuses me because he invites me his home with his family. We slept together the other day. He used to text me frequenlty and now he doesn't do it that much.

I want to have him in my life. But at the sam time it hurts he can't offer what I'm looking for. I would like to try again and have a relationship with him. But he doesn't want to be my boyfriend. He said he is not looking for a relationship. I don't know what to do.

This is banana's babe!

Believe me, he's a handful and don't want to let go of both of you cause he benefits on both..

Use thy head not thy heart.. its just a mere admiration and infatuation.. let his thoughts be challenged make a move in a logical and rational way✌️

Posted by AdrianaCrabTor

Posted by Dreamyboy
He's still in love with his ex so he's blinded by his emotions to have a chance to know you. Your comfort is making his hurt go away, but he's using you for that. You can't have him if his heart is still longing for her's. You seem like a great girl, he's just interested in another girl.

Thank you very much, I had never been a rebound. Honestly I feel really bad, but I know the problem is not me but his stuck emotions on his ex. However, it hurt my self steem and the affection I feel for him.

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Darling! Don't listen to anyone! Do whatever your heart tells you to do.

If you love him - get him!

If you can't - I am sorry.

You must know what you want and make it happen or be hurt and loved and alone.

There is nothing wrong with that!

You will decide when enough is enough when it's time!

So far 'you will find better one' crap is just that crap! You will find better one when you decide 100% - it's enough!

So far you do what you feel is right at the moment!

Life will go on and God will help if you pray and ask for guidance. Hugs

Posted by juliettee

lol i love The Clash