thought should be new post...

given everything doesn't fit the original...

So, my note, I'm starting out first off with how bad I am at verbal communication and then go into what I see as positives about him... good so far? In the end I won't attack, but I will probably express something to the effect of how he's driving me nuts with his wishy-washyness (ok, I won't use those words, promise).

Thoughts?

Should I reveal any insecurities?

do right by u no matter what. if he can't handle it then that is his problem. we need to learn when to let go and that it is not the end of the world should we need to. we can't change other ppl, or their minds, and we shouldn't try. if he can't take u as u really are, or ur honesty, then he is not for u. be genuine. be real. it is often the things we don't do in life that we regret.

Here is what I wrote:

Communication (verbal) is not my strong point - I can so better write my thoutghs & feelings. That being said, I have a few things to tell you.
First off, it makes my day when I hear from you! Do you realize how much I admire you? Or what I admire about you? You don't have the 'come what may' attitude or 'life just dished me out a bowl of shit'. You're a go getter, you work hard (well, smarter not harder), and you believe in youself from what I've seen. I respect that! Life is to short to let it pass on by. Having a purpose in live is VERY admirable to me - I have met few men in my life that take that stance. That is something I so like about you!
That is the stance I take in life as well. I'm a go getter! You should realize this - after all I've shown when I want 'something' I go all out (over kill at times).
I'm all into you! Know that, please! I'm not out 'hooking up', I'm not out hitting on other men... I don't do multiple men, it ain't my style . When I like someone that's it! And I play for keeps... that's my style !
I feel like I'm begging for your acceptance. That! I should not have to do! I've played that game - it's not good. I'm 'me', if you don't like who I am than so be it. BUT, don't judge me on a few indescressions. No one is perfect .
You need to make clear your expectations if you want me in your life (which you have yet to make clear and, frankly, I'm very confused about). I WILL do my best to meet your expectations and pleasing you tops my list of thing to do 'today' - everyday. After the fact can be a little harsh (e.g., going to the bar by myself and being treated as though I cheated or something). Work with me, please. Don't expect me to take things for granted or read you mind.
You have come upon an honest (to a fault) woman who sees nothing but the best in you. Where you want to take that is really your decision. So, ya either like me or ya don't . Hon, make up your mind. I don't like to be on the loosing end and I don't like to be toyed with.

got cut off... to finish

You know where I stand (by your side if that's where you want me), what about you?

Ah, you are correct in that his Mars is in Pisces.

Either he didn't take his mail out of his box, or he thinks the world of me for the note. He called and wanted me to just ride along with him while he made some deliveries of a product he sells. I would have been all over that, but I was napping and didn't get the call.

My god, I just met the guy a month ago and it's rocky already *picking petals* I've made myself clear (I think), the ball is in his court now I suppose.

Dammit!

He can go screw himself, I don't need him playing games! I am too good a woman for such shit!

*smh* *sigh* I'm all messed up!

You don't have him, you have yourself though .... I would suggest putting more mirrors around you because you clearly think higher of yourself than anything/one else.

He knows this ... Pisces knows.

But, hey ... if you're easy, then I guess he'll take it.


He's probably bored, and you are desperate for him ...... perhaps some good blow-jobs could come from this.

lol, my husband has Mars in Pisces and he is nothing like described.


The problem here is that you think you are better than him, and knows you think this .. it's obvious just in this post, not to mention the others, in the way you said wishy-washy and then made a remark to infer that you promised not to use, as you indeed used it and then laughed mockingly.


Oh yeah .... this vibed is loud and clear. I hope you get royally fucked.

P - go screw yourself! You have no clue as to who I am or what I'm about!


He doesnt' seem to hide anything about the way he feels about things! And I'm calling him on it too! He's been going on about how my best friend is 'not worthy'... fine, you think she's a bad influence on me, I made it clear I'm a big girl, can handle myself and am my own person, get over it already!

I asked if I was worthy... said we would work on that. *smh* Oh, and being my own person... we're going to work on that too... HA, if he really thinks that he's got another thing coming! I'm me, me to a fault, and if he doesn't like it, well ya all know what I think of that - go fuck yourself! 😄 (I'm really a sweet innocent kinda gal - just don't piss me off or try to control my ass, at ain't gonna fly).

I do appreciate the fact that he and I are clear w/ each other. Typically, I recoil, draw into myself and avoid confrontation. For me to actually say "HEY' Stop, don't say that - I don't appreciate it" is a major step for me. Why? Because it can result in rejection, something I so do not handle well.

Yeah, clarity up front is probably a good thing. Being ourselves and not sugar coating things, that can actually go a long way in the end... people probably hide too much about themselves up front and it most likely creates problems, I can't imagine that Mr. Pisces and I would EVER go down that path or have such a problem - we're already there! I so like that man! But, have not problem telling him to go fuck himself...

Posted by ianthefish
its only been a month...
whats the rush?

are you going somewhere?
waiting for someone else?

there is no rush!!
find some shade and chill out..

Na, just want to be loved... don't get me wrong, I'm not lonely, I just want to feel special!

yup, left it in his box. But one of his staff ttok his mail in so he didn't get it. He kept insisting today wanting to know what it was about... so, I read it to him. No comment, nothing, but then again I didn't expect anything I would rather he take it in.

You don't have him .. I can go fuck myself all the day long .. but, you still don't have him.



What I find hilarious is that you keep saying things like, "He needs to get over himself" ... while you are the one chasing him down, looking desperate. He tells you exactly what he is thinking and feeling, you can't handle it, so call it wishy-washy, and then act like you are some wonderful catch and he needs to get over himself and realize this.


A woman who is actually a good catch .. doesn't have to chase.


And second .. if he's such a loser, why would you even want him?


A good woman, as you like to call yourself, doesn't chase losers, lol.






But, I suppose he might get some good blow jobs out of the deal ... so, I'm sure he doesn't mind playing.

Not chasing... don't have to, he called me like 15 times Sun night because he couldn't reach me. Then yesterday he called me multiple times while I was at my girlfriends house for random reasons (or was maybe checking up on me). He has even suggested I come to OH with him in the future.

Of course he did ... and look at how good his timing is with that.

Damn, I should have voiced in a long time ago ... then you wouldn't have even had to think about writing a letter telling.

Hmmm.... you gave him an ultimatum to a degree with the whole "make up your mind already!" so I wouldnt be surprised if he disappears for a while or for good. The fish dont like to be forced into doing anything in any less than their own time and on their own terms. Not saying you should stand for that.... just that they are very indecisive and like to process things in their own time without feeling pressured or pushed. You push him to decide and you may not like the decision.

My advice.... back off.... lay low..... and do your own thing, let him come to you. If he likes you he'll come back around. My Pisces still texts me EVERY single day (and it was his decision to break off the committed relationship) but I have moved on and do my own thing and he knows and feels it so he keeps communication flowing. No pressure, no committments & we live 3 states away. He knows I love him and he loves me and thinks that if its meant to be it will be someday, so Im fine with that cause I have a soft spot for him and he's rather fun to play with! LOL!

Oh... keep the conversation light and fun instead of so heavy and strained. If he can see that you are okay with where things are, he will respond and you will probably get more from him than you think. Although.... clarity is not likely.... he's a fish, you're a cappy..... you have different style s of communicating and a fish is unique in that way. Im a Leo & it took a lot of soul searching and DXP advice from other fish to figure that out for me!

"My Pisces still texts me EVERY single day (and it was his decision to break off the committed relationship) ....."




Of course he does.