Younger Pisces Guy Feedback please

I am a newbie here and would love some input very long but her goes. I am an aquarius so I tend to over analyze things but no matter how I look at this one...I still cant make sense of it. A little over a year ago I a women (taurus) started at my job and we instantly clicked. We became fast friends and she tells me all about her 3 children but spends most of her time telling my about her youngest child who is a 26 year old guy. A few months go by and she brings in pics of her family and points out her son. I am 33 years old and although I thought we was cute I thought there is no way Im going there. Fastforward a few more months and she and I are maning a table at a weekend conference and she brings along her son. We speak during our time there and leave. At this point I feel as if she is really trying to push us together and I kinda feel sorry for the guy for being pushed along. A few weeks later she tells me that her son has been bugging her to give me his number. I still feel this is what she wants not him but take his number to let the poor guy off the hook. I call and he tells me that he wanted the number since we met and really wants to get to know me. We spoke on the phone a few times. The converstaions are intresting and lighthearted he asked me out a few times and after much hesitation I agreed. Before the scheduled date we discussed his love for poetry and he offers to write me a poem(which he does). He shows up to our job and spends his time in my office trying to pin down a firm date to go out. I agree to a day and time and everything seems fine but the day of we talk to discuss where to meet and he seems frustrated. After we decide on a time and place he calls back to say that he really wants to go out with his friends to a party?? I say fine then you should go out he says we should reschedule and I say probably not. He comes to our office a few weeks later and afterwards he sends me anohter poem. I respond by telling him I am confused because he blew off our date. I dont hear from him again. Fast forward 7 months. His mother and I no longer work togehter but we are still friends. Her soons starts to send me messages out of nowhere asking how I am and saying he is thinking about me. Around the same time I hear from his mother. She is in the hospital so I go to pay her a visit. After she is released I went today to drop food off for her and her son is sitting on the porch when I get there.

I see him and my face lights up he is sooo handsome and tall. He stands to give me a hug but he just kinda holds me in the most sweet and gentle way. I stand there for a few and then pull myself away cause I am even more confused. There is some chemistry there but I am unsure as to the age and mom/friend issue. Most importantly not sure why he would cancel last minute if he truly intrested. Am I missing something??

Maybe he was just doing something else ?

Posted by zentientsquirrelsentinel
Maybe he was just doing something else ?

Thanx for the response. Simple and to the point. My life would be soo much easier if my mind ever worked that way 🙂

I have no idea why you are confused ... you tried like hell not to have anything to do with him, and told us you only agreed to see him for pity sake .. so, why now be confused because he picked up on the vibe and is leaving you alone.


It was 7 months ago, and you are still trying to figure out why he didn't fall for your trap? and indeed it was a trap .... you obviously really wanted to go out with him and try to develop something with him, because if you weren't interested and it was really just a pity thing ... then you'd forgotten all about him by now.

Nope, instead, after 7 months you are confused as to why he didn't fall for you, eventhough you made him chase you. Any man who is made to chase, ought to damn well be ready to fulfill that, now shouldn't he?


Not a Pisces ..... I'm not sure at what point in time he realized you were playing for his attention ... but, he did figure it out, and stepped back.


I'm sure he is still interested ... but, he will remain at bay because he senses you're trying to play him, rather than actually have an interest in him.

Thank you P-Angel for your response but I am unsure of which post you are responding to. I said I took his number cause I thought his mom was pushing for the match, not him. When I called and we spoke he said he was interested. I was surprised. His mom had talked about him at work and brought in pictures of him I was afraid she was behind the idea not him. I was also trying to be careful because she and I were becoming friends and were coworkers and I wanted to tread lightly.

As for falling for my trap...What trap— We spoke. He was nice. I agreed to a date. He canceled it. I called him on it after he sent more poetry. I didnt hear from him again which was fine. If I had posted a question on here at that point asking why he hadnt called...then you could assume it was a game I was playing. I did not. I just assumed that he wasnt that interested. I mean who cancels a first date if they are?

He started messaging me recently and asked me out again then I run into him at his mothers and he embraces and holds me. My question is not only about his interest(again canceled date originally) and about the fact that his mother and I are friends. I did not or do not excpect him to fall for me. I would like to know how serious he is before engaging with him further. If we went out, it didnt work out and I never saw him again thats fine. As it stands now if we go out and I have a cotinued connection via his mom that would be a little awkward. Those are my concerns in case it is not clearly stated in my original post.

You stated clearly .. and my response stemmed directly from what you posted.


So he hugged you —


that's it ... ok, maybe you should now go buy a wedding dress.

You already said that the age thing is too wierd for you .. you've already stated that you only did any communication with him because of pity.


Pisces people can detect the motives behind other people emotions. I can detect just from what you've stated here that you're toying .. certainly, he has sensed the same thing.


You should move on. If he decides to go out with you, it will be to fuck with your feelings, since it is clear that how you act is different from how you feel.



Pisces and Aquarius is a no-go anyway, as far as compatibility. The whole relating will be about you projecting a false intent, and him toying with your feelings because of it.

Just to clarify false intent ..... act like you're interested, but, then act aloof at crucial interactions.

However, I think that Aquas and Pisces can be ok friends, so long as the Fish doesnt' put any faith in Aqua to be emotionally nurturing.

So long as the friendship remains superficial, which this lack of depth is where the Aqua chooses to keep the relation ... then they can make friendships.

^really—?

horseshit!



as to the OP, is this legit? are you typing on your phone? you transpose we/she, i/her/he a lot.



he wanted to reschedule. you took offense to it because you felt that you both went to significant aims to find a date that was convenient for both of you. so yeah, how dare he change/assume you're available at his beck and call?

the issue isn't one of your attempt to "play" him or his being some deep sensing pisces guru who by merely looking at you can peer into the depths of your soul 😛

he's younger. he found something he would rather do that night. he asked if it was ok with you. it wasn't. end of story.

as to the "confusion" that exists now, you're older, he's younger. you're at the point where you're trying to find a life mate and he's at a point where he should be contemplating which hole his wee wee wants to visit tonight. so i'm sure you're wondering if it's worth it to get involved with someone who is younger and who seems serious about getting to know you...but is he really.

the bigger question is, if you do go out with him, then what? are you willing to disregard his age or the difference too much for you...and why?

Posted by Kymstar
He started messaging me recently and asked me out again then I run into him at his mothers and he embraces and holds me. My question is not only about his interest(again canceled date originally) and about the fact that his mother and I are friends. I did not or do not excpect him to fall for me. I would like to know how serious he is before engaging with him further. If we went out, it didnt work out and I never saw him again thats fine. As it stands now if we go out and I have a cotinued connection via his mom that would be a little awkward. Those are my concerns in case it is not clearly stated in my original post.

oops, you sorta already answered. i skimmed 😛


so you're worried that if a problem develops between he and you, it could negatively impact the friendship with the mom? hmm... i can why that would cause reservations. solution: keep it breezy until... you're meeting a new guy. you're getting to know him. if it doesn't work out and you're the one who is exiting, make sure it's a clean break. "we don't mesh well" doesn't always end in tragedy.


you want to know how "serious" he is? how "serious" are you? how "serious" is any man that you meet? are you assuming he's not "serious" because of his age? how would you normally find out how "serious" a guy is? oh i know, you'd go out with him and let him show you just how "serious" he can be.

i get why you think that a younger man could not possibly fathom what would be required of him by getting involved with an older woman but you don't take the measure of his age, you take the measure of the man.

Thanks Caligula for your insight. I am not only assuming things based on his age but his actions. He seems unsure which makes me question it more. I will give it a try and see. thanx again