NEED ADVICE!How to keep this PISCES GUY??!!

Hi everyone,
Here's my first post on this board usually I am at the Cancer forum LOL.

MY PISCES STORY--FIRST DATE--
Anyways, 2 weeks ago I met a Pisces man at an official function and he instantly followed me like a lost puppy. After the function, he told me he wanted to spend more time with me..but I couldn't do it because I had to go home soon. So we parted.

So we exchanged phone numbers and IM chat ids. That very night he send me IM chat message after midnight and I don't reply it because I was feeling abit bothered, and annoyed that this guy has no manners and appear so desperate messaging me past midnight.
A day later, he send another IM asking to meet me which I replied "Cannot because busy". After several attempts of asking me out and getting rejection (because I was really busy LOL) finally I decided to invite him to another official event organized by my office. I plan to attend the event only for a short time, actually was a bit lazy and felt unwell, I'd rather stay home than go.

HE'S SO CARING
He said "I'll wait at the coffee shop in the building," because he doesn't feel comfortable attending an event full of strangers. His friends were not there and he doesn't know anyone at the event.
I was also feeling unwell, too tired and he noticed that I look pale weak, and had headache. So, I cut the event attendance short and only came to see my boss and colleagues for 30 minutes-45 minutes and left with mr.Pisces who quickly took me to the drug store and got me some paracetamol for headache. He also bought some multi vitamins for me and we sat down at a cafe nearby the drugstore talking.

I was tired, had many life problems and pressure and felt vulnerable. I just felt comfortable with him and opened up, shared about my worries and fears..and he comforted me. He held me close and that was such a relief. I feel an instant connection and feel close to him. It was a good experience. The next morning he is flying to his city, 2 hours away from mine.

My stats
I'm Aries (sun) with Moon in Leo and Libra Rising
He is Pisces (sun) with Moon in Virgo and Leo Rising

During our date at the cafe, Mr.Pisces shared about his life story and struggle. He is indeed charming, intelligent and ambitious. I am impressed at his success in his career at such a young age. He achieved many things and he is humble. He is also financially stable, and showing off a bit of his material achievements probably trying to impress me and it worked LOL.

I begin to see him in a different light, no longer the annoying needy lost puppy desperate guy who send me IM chats past midnight. I begin to notice his qualities. He is romantic, he kissed my hand. He gave me a sweet nick name. I was feeling shaky because of the head ache at the function and held on to him, and he always hold me tight making sure that I am in correct balance. He is protective.

HE'LL BE BACK TO MY CITY IN 3 WEEKS
Mr.Pisces told me that he wants to take me on a holiday, because he said that I am too tensed and I need to getaway from work for a couple of days and visit his house near the mountain area.
He also want to take me on a small tour to visit his hometown.

I left my shawl in Mr.Pisces' car and he said he is now taking the shawl with him to his city and when he's traveling.
Next part is the things I notice so far about Mr.Pisces

I want to keep things light and fun with Mr.Pisces because I also don't want to get hurt. I am currently intrigued and charmed by him. I felt and instant connection with him when he comforted me during my vulnerable moment. He knows that I am battling depression and trying hard to improve my emotional state

Anyways here are the things I notice :

1. Communication is sometimes on his term
If I send an IM to him, it will take awhile for him to reply (1-2 hours). But if he sends IM chat first, after I reply, he will respond immediately. It's on his terms.

2.He is shy
He didn't write long sentences on IM and can't express his feelings and he said because he's shy.

3.He gets tired/sleepy quickly.

MY QUESTIONS :
1. Any tips to keep it light and fun?
2. If I behave aloof, will it make him more eager sending me IM chats?

UPDATE
yesterday we chat on IM. I notice his short replies and sometimes it takes time for him to reply the IM.
Anyways he first IM me when I was facing a problem and crying, so he calmed me down and told me to be strong. He is calming me, caring but I notice a certain coldness as if he is subliminally sending "Hey get over this fast will you" messages to me.
While mr.Aries immediately phoned me when he knew I was down to make sure I am okay.

After awhile, after I'm calm..the convos on IM with mr.Pisces continues. When I update about my situation, my problem..he seem distant and reply short sentences. But when I switch the convo to a bit playful and naughty (testing the waters)..he gets excited and replies fast.
Any insight on this?

this morning he texted me a short "good morning", I replied..and no text yet until now...:o

kristal...
a) testing the waters with sex stuff is a bad idea. ANY guy will respond to that stimulation from virtually any female. It does not mean you are special. And it doesn't mean he is interested. It doesn't mean anything other than free sexual entertainment/interaction for him. That's it.

b) you are doing the same thing with this guy, that you likely did with the cancer guy. Guys can smell needy/clingy/dependent girls a MILE away. EVEN if you try to fake not being those things, they still know you are. Guys are a lot more intuitive and omniscient than they get credit for. They are so much better at knowing when things do, and do not work, and accepting situations for what they are. Women fight them on this all the time. We fight for what we dream and fantasize about, not reality.

c) you seem very concerned with "acting" the right way with these guys. You seem to always want to work an angle that will get you what you desire. I'm sure there are things you can do, to get what you want. But it will be short-lived. The guy might buy it, or tolerate it, or entertain it for a little while.... but in the end he'll be able to tell (either because you falter, or because he'll see through you in the first place). The only way you will find someone right for you, is by being you... faults/idiosyncrasies and all.

I know a lot of people here have already told you these things (or some of them), and the reason you likely haven't gotten responses to your first post, and now this one... is because you likely read everything - said you learned from it, and now you're back with the same story, different guy. I'm not trying to be mean, and I may be wasting my finger energies typing this out. But I feel inclined to try and help a fellow gal in turmoil. So I hope that somewhere along the line you can read these posts, and really absorb them (from everyone, who I think have been more than helpful towards you).

Good luck Miss! Try a different road. Not a different man with the same road.

Posted by kristalaries

He knows that I am battling depression and trying hard to improve my emotional state

When a person is battling depression, it's usually pretty easy to identify it in a persons tone ... there doens't seem to be a depressing tone in your writing. Quite the opposite actually.

Posted by kristalaries

1. Communication is sometimes on his term
If I send an IM to him, it will take awhile for him to reply (1-2 hours). But if he sends IM chat first, after I reply, he will respond immediately. It's on his terms.

What you have described above is that when he has the opportunity in his busy day, he contacts you .. which naturally when you respond back, he does so quickly ... because he is taking the time out of his day to talk to you. When you contact him, the reason why it takes a while to get back is because he has to make the time.

What you've described seems perfectly normal .. people have lives, and can't be expected to sit by the phone and await to be contacted.

Posted by kristalaries

2. If I behave aloof, will it make him more eager sending me IM chats?

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Le Huh? More eager?

The first whole post was describing how you were annoyed at first because he was up your ass. And then further irritated because he would call at a late hour of the night ... you then describe how at a coffee shop, he would hold you tight and console you, eventhough he really doesn't even know you ..... and you want him more eager?


What the hell?


You have a Mr. Aries phoning you also?

Posted by deezie

.... you are doing the same thing with this guy, that you likely did with the cancer guy.

... with these guys

Plural ... guys

Posted by deezie

Try a different road. Not a different man with the same road.

There's the only thing you need to realize

This is just from my experience of dating one. Personally I just think if you're getting caught up with this guy too much, its taking the fun out of it anyway. I'm not judging you because I'm totally guilty of this myself, but relax and don't "behave" aloof but how about instead you genuinely be too busy to be on call at all times? Its true, no use in acting, he'll sense it anyway. Also I just think sometimes he's in the mood for you and sometimes he's not. When you think he's being disinterested, maybe step back a bit. Good luck though.

Update about Mr.Pisces
He chatted with me daily about his plan to meet me on May 30, in my city.
He said that he's eager to meet, etc. I never initiated the chats, he's the one buzzing me first.
Anyways, on May 30, I saw his online status as "OTW to watch XX concert"..as I know that XX group is performing in my city, not his. So he's in my city but he didn't inform me about it at all, nice. I also didn't ask him because he promised to inform me when he's in airport, take off etc..which he didn't.
It's been 3days already and I didn't chat with him on messenger, his status today is "Home again" perhaps that means he's back to his city (2 hours flight from mine). He's online 24/7 from his phone all the time. Phone is glued to him.
I was (naturally) a bit upset about this, I decided that he's not worth and I am moving on. He's aloof & unpredictable.

Pisces isn't going to chase u like an Aries will.
Pisces isn't going to go after you if you have another man until/unless you let the other go.
Pisces can be fickle..wanting you one day and not the next..yso yes, unpredictable.
Pisces needs to miss you sometimes and needs space/freedom..so don't be so eager to answer every call/text.
Do your own thing and incorporate him into your life, not make him your life.

Thanks Capbaby.."Do your own thing and incorporate him into your life, not make him your life." --> I like this and I am currently doing this. Thanks for your advice.
UPDATE ON MR.PISCES--He's back!
After 2 weeks of no contact at all with Mr.Pisces suddenly he buzzed me online and said "where u been?"
I said I was busy, and I didn't bring up about the failed meeting LOL, just give an impression that I have more important things on my mind and now he's been buzzing me everyday. He apologized for not being able to meet me when he's in my city and will come again end of this month to spend time with me.
He's been telling me things. He even said that he wants to remain close to me always, no matter what, no matter if I'm dating someone else.. We'll see about that. My guards are always up. I have been taking notes from previous experiences.
He is fickle and needs space..and so do I.

Mr Pisces has been messaging me everyday ever since..let's see how this progress.Will keep you updated 🙂

LOL
Is this water season or what? Another Pisces guy is approaching me this week 😛
So..now there are 2 Pisces guys..first guy is PiscesA, he lives in another town, 2 hours away from me. He's the guy I told you all about in the beginning of this thread.
Second guy is PiscesB, he lives in the same town, and he's asking me out tomorrow.

Just finish phone convo with PiscesB, was a long phone convo. PiscesB is more bold and clear with what he wants compared to PiscesA.
Let's see how it goes 🙂 Will keep you all updated.

Who's the desperate lost puppy now?

😄

marsinCapricorn -- haha not me..hahaha
I admit I like him more and more..Pisces A is still in touch with me, but we live in different cities it's quite far and he hasn't been to my city yet..so communication is mainly by phone/text.
So far so good..nothing worth reporting yet 😛

I am still communicating daily with mr.Pisces ..he lives in another city, 2 hours away from mine by plane.
He called me daily & we talk on phone, also on IM
He is caring & playful..so far so good 🙂 I keep my guards up all the time and keep things light.
I don't take it seriously..so it's all good.

DEALING WITH PISCES

Lesson I've learned so far..
Relationship with Pisces,it's worth it..if you are looking for someone caring but also playful 😛
Pisces will always be there..LOL and the messages will come morning..noon and night..yup they are caring and attentive
Always keep guards up, don't invest emotions..and don't take things seriously..that's how you proceed with Pisces (based on my experience with a Cancer-also water sign)

Water signs have a natural way of invoking your emotions and stirring emotions..stay grounded & logic..it's hard but it's attainable.
Once you can keep your emotions grounded, you won't bother the Pisces-water antiques 🙂

Hi girls,

I was on this site over a year ago trying to work out how to make.things work.with.my pisces man.

After being cruelly dumped several times I found out he is a narcissist.
At first I thought this just meant he was self obsessed but he is pathologically selfish and exploitive.

A lot of research has been done into this and if you feel like you are getting mixed messages or if he has too many female friends please google 'narcissist abuse'...just in case.

It is a horrific disorder and I'm glad my nightmare is over.