After a break-up

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Posted by Ssasy

Whats the worst way you handled a Breakup/Betrayal?



I had a mental meltdown one day when a long-term partner of mine left. She had actually been gone for a while but I was in denial. Being forced to accept that it was really over brought out a temper tantrum that resulted in flipped tables, holes punched in the walls and only God knows how many household items smashed or thrown through windows. I got the cops called on me and the whole nine yards. Ended up drinking myself to sleep for a few months afterward.

I was angry with myself though, not her.
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Nope. NO MAN is worth that. If you want to hurt or betray me, you don't deserve me. You are not worth my time. Moving on......



^^^ This!!!

How people treat you is their Karma to deal with; how you react is yours!
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Who said anything about "hurt or betray"? What if he just falls out of love with you?

That's worse than any kind of deception imo... and karma has no saying in it, you're just being honest and true to everyone involved 🙂
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Posted by Ssasy

Whats the worst way you handled a Breakup/Betrayal?



I had a mental meltdown one day when a long-term partner of mine left. She had actually been gone for a while but I was in denial. Being forced to accept that it was really over brought out a temper tantrum that resulted in flipped tables, holes punched in the walls and only God knows how many household items smashed or thrown through windows. I got the cops called on me and the whole nine yards. Ended up drinking myself to sleep for a few months afterward.

I was angry with myself though, not her.
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I can understand that. I hope youre better now...

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Whats the worst way you handled a Breakup/Betrayal?



I had a mental meltdown one day when a long-term partner of mine left. She had actually been gone for a while but I was in denial. Being forced to accept that it was really over brought out a temper tantrum that resulted in flipped tables, holes punched in the walls and only God knows how many household items smashed or thrown through windows. I got the cops called on me and the whole nine yards. Ended up drinking myself to sleep for a few months afterward.

I was angry with myself though, not her.



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IT does, but sometimes TIME isnt moving fast enough!
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I asked this question because no matter what, ive never actually seeeked revenge! I just always felt Karma would come back to me, and ive never been bitter about someones decision to cheat, leave or hurt me. I always took responsibility in evrything and if it didnt work out I rather cry, and hurt than to hurt another peroson. But the other day I seen an Audi with Keyed marks allll over it. and I thought wow I couldnt do that.
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I think that first betrayal is always the worst. Similar to TMV I was go angry at myself rather than her which is odd. Just in that moment in time I was convinced she was the one. Think I went bipolar like there's a side of me that wanted to blame everything on her and the other side blaming myself for not being good enough.

That whole year was a massive alcohol and drug abuse phase but I think it was all worth it in the end taught me a lot of things and changed my way of thinking for better or worse. Never thought about wrecking cars or physically damaging anything cept maybe a few walls and my own fist.

It's been about a decade since. We've only just recently had a talk about it after all that. So I guess to show the betrayer does have to live with it. I've been fine with it for a long time now, woulda been fine without her actual confession but it does bring up some painful memories.
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A while back I found out my fianc?e was seeing women from a dating site. After I broke off the engagement and dumped his ass, I went on that dating site and made a fake profile. Chatted with him for a while, then agreed to meet with him for drinks. A friend of mine that he didn't know went to the bar where he was waiting and took pictures of him while he sat there for 45 minutes waiting for his mystery woman to show up. He had ordered an appetizer and had a drink waiting for her arrival. The entire time he was waiting, she (i) was messaging him with excuses as to why she was late. All the while dropping little hints that it was actually me messaging. When he finally caught on he was extremely pissed. My friend and I laughed our asses off!!! NO, I do not regret it one bit...just helping Karma out...she's a busy lady.
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Don't stoop down to their level. It is not worth it! Not so much karma, but you want to have the satisfaction of not letting the asshole ex get the best of you!
I am telling you! It is not worth it! It will just creat a circle of negativity. Let him/her go! Let them realize how they fucked up on their own. You stay strong, go exercise! Go boxing! do something to release that stress! Scream or yell and most of all try to move on. Only you will allow how people will treat you!
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A while back I found out my fianc?e was seeing women from a dating site. After I broke off the engagement and dumped his ass, I went on that dating site and made a fake profile. Chatted with him for a while, then agreed to meet with him for drinks. A friend of mine that he didn't know went to the bar where he was waiting and took pictures of him while he sat there for 45 minutes waiting for his mystery woman to show up. He had ordered an appetizer and had a drink waiting for her arrival. The entire time he was waiting, she (i) was messaging him with excuses as to why she was late. All the while dropping little hints that it was actually me messaging. When he finally caught on he was extremely pissed. My friend and I laughed our asses off!!! NO, I do not regret it one bit...just helping Karma out...she's a busy lady.




This is actually funny! and harmless!