Texting and relationships

I'm very confused by a man I recently met... 3 weeks ago... I'm really attracted to him.. Really! LOL very handsome and charming, anyway so far after our initial meet which was at work, we have only texted.. We have had a few phone conversations but mostly texting. He texted constantly the night I invited him out and he couldn't go... Texted me all night... Now it seems I do all the initiating... He never text first. I always do but he responds back instantly.. I keep hinting I want to see him privately or you know a date lol but nothing... What is up, why does he respond so quickly but not make the move? I'm going crazy, can't stop thinking about this man! Any ideas, insights would be appreciated!

he sounds unavailable? what sign is he?

loved that book btw

He maybe in another relationship and he's not sure what to do.

I do t know what sign he is but I will ask him his birthday... I'm kind of Afraid he might be taken but he wasn't wearing at work? Should I come at and ask him, I think I deserve to know at this point... If he is married don't know how he could text all night?

It doesn't mean he may be in a relationship or anything like that. That is not always the case. He may be a Taurus and if he is, this is typical behavior of them. You need to find out his bday.

I just texted him lol his birthday is Aug 29

virgo

ask him if he's single?

I'm a libra by the way. Do Lubras and Virgos get along? I'm scared to ask, he is so HOT... I'm getting nervous just thinking about asking him... I'm assuming he is available based on things he has told me... He doesn't say much about his personal life... Maybe tonight l will be brave enough to ask, I got to know, this is driving me crazy!

I was wondering if me having to text first always was just a guy thing?

you text first? stop that right now...

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Ok so it is bad then... Damn he probably has a girlfriend! Wish he would just tell me instead of all this other BS! FML!

Posted by Shescomeundone
I was wondering if me having to text first always was just a guy thing?

No, it's more of a desperate woman thing....

How often are you texting him?

Wait and see how long it takes him to text you. In my experience, I've had the best luck if I let the man take the initiative. It's okay to text first, but ONLY about every 4th interaction. Let him pursue you and let him wonder what you're up and where you went. He will get curious and see whats happening.

Don't chase him, it makes you less attractive to him. Men like to be the conquerors and men like to do the chasing. It's that hunter mentality men have had since the beginning of time. See, if you come across too available,(and chasing him makes you look too easy or desperate), he will lose interest FAST! Attraction for a man builds when he has to work for it.

Posted by Shescomeundone
Ok so it is bad then... Damn he probably has a girlfriend! Wish he would just tell me instead of all this other BS! FML!

He isn't going to tell you, go with your gut...

What are you afraid of?

I don't chase him, I've just met him... I have texted him once each week but after I text him he will call if we both can talk or we continue the texting ALL day...but I have only texted him first basically 3 times.. After we are done or whatever he just never text me first : /

I've texted him really only 1x a week... Just to say Hi... I've just met him so..when I've texted he responds immediately, even if he is busy working... Once I've initiated we text back and forth for hours and if we are both able to talk he will say let me just call you, so I am thinking he really doesn't like to text.. I really want him to ask me for a cup of coffee or something!

If he's not initiating, he's not into you. If he were into you, he would have already asked you out.

Sorry. 😢

After a heavy heart I texted him today and asked if he could call me today.... He is married and I'm broken hearted. I know that's it for me... He sounded sad when I told him I wouldn't be initiating any conversations anymore ... God I hate my life... I really really like(d) him! I'm gonna melt when I see him at work... Luckily he won't be there too much longer...

Thank you Aleese76, I've been down all day... I was afraid he was not single but never dreamed he was married! I'm glad I finally just asked him heart to heart... It was difficult even though this was short lived I felt a real connection. I know if he is unhappy he has to let that unravel or work to make it better... Not sure why I'm so sad, I should be mad!