Air Moon/Mars and Virgos

Help me to understand this side of me , that I unfortunately cannot control.

Let me start by saying that break-ups, so far , haven't been difficult for me. It simply isn't difficult for me to break up and move on from people who I deem not suitable for long term relationships. To me this is just pure common sense.

Anyway , I might like a person a lot but if their personality /actions turn out to be something completely different from what I want in a partner - I break up , sob for a while , and then I move on. And I really mean it when I say that I don't look back . Well , In rare occasions I did, but only to satisfy my cravings for sex but once I had what I wanted I wouldn't contact that person anymore.

I don't sleep around while I'm in a relationship however if I meet another man who seems to have the qualities that I'm looking for in my ideal partner then I drop the current one and go for the possible mr right .

Another thing is that I get bored easily . Sometimes things start off intense but with the time ( usually a short period of time ) everything gets lost somewhere and I just lose interest .

I have had some piece of shit partners/dates but others weren't that bad but these ones often bore me easily with the time .

I'm usually very committed to my work - if I love it and/or if it's challenging enough- and my healthy routine- however when it comes to romantic relationships the story is completely different . ( I have a theory for this but I guess that I'll leave it for another thread )

In hopes to find out more about this side of me, I researched my Chinese horoscope and I discovered that I'm a metal horse . This helped me to make a bit more of sense of my unattached nature and need to be free , despite the fact that I still want to find the right person for me.

I truly want to change and become more mature , patient and persistent in relationships , but how do I do this?

I'm getting to know 2 potential partners and depending on how it goes , I want to avoid going through this cycle again.

So airy moons and Mars people, Virgals and Virguys do you relate to any of this ?

And for those of you in long term relationships, please share your secret 🙂

I'm neither Virgo sun air moon/mars but this describes my Virgal perfectly. We're platonic friends but for the last 10 months I've watched her do the exact thing you described. She's Virgo sun, Libra moon/Mars Gemini.

Let me guess...in those intense situations you jump in head first and most likely know that person isn't right for you. You probably already know this, but the reason is to justify you staying in your comfort zone of being unattached. The root of this is fear...nothing more. You get all the passion and excitement but yet can leave and face no real threat of an actual healthy commitment from the douchebags. Those "good people" make you feel trapped and stuffed. So your mind says "I'm bored" drama most likely ensues because you picked them apart or sabotaged the situation. It's easy. But this comes at the cost of your long term emotional health.

If you're a Virgo sun, realize that your polarity is negative. This is not to say you're bad or evil but your thought pattern comes from a mainly negative view point...it's the energy itself. This includes any self criticism or finding a good person boring etc. Any real change comes first from changing your thought pattern...your thoughts send out energy and that manifests in your life. I mean, why not have that same dedication to work applied towards your work life. If you believe working and doing things like showing up on time and doing your best is you'd for you and you believe that long term it'll bring positive results even if the job "is not perfect" or "what you'd ultimately want." The reason for this is to bring stability to your love life. The reason those good people show up is to teach you that. Never let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Those same patterns you developed in relation to work should be applied to your love life. Also, if you get bored...why not break the routine with those good people by simply going out and having fun with them. It's about developing a positive mindset first and foremost. It will take time because I surmise you've been doing this for a while. But anything that is good takes a prolonged effort because you have to build it. Quick and easy is fleeting and superficial. It's like building a house. Find someone who treats you right. Who invests in you. I'm not ya;king about dates and constant texting. But they care about you and your emotional well being. They give and don't ask for anything but your respect and consideration. Yeah it sounds boring, but tyats the thing...changing your mind set to where those things in a person are not boring.

We can analyze charts all we want but at the end of the day we are creatures of habit and that is where most of our problems and solutions to life lie. Changing habits one step at a time. Good luck.

Thanks a lot for taking the time for reading and replying my post. And damn your answer alone is enough. You went there. You analysed my situation and provided good insights and solutions.

You are right , I seem to feel more attracted and have stronger feelings for the ones that aren't good enough for me, but with my detached nature and knowing that they aren't long term partners material,I tend to let them go easily. However I'm reaching a phase in my life where I don't want to keep doing this anymore. It's not fun anymore, and like you said this is starting to affect my emotional health. One of my new years resolution is to work on this, and I'm glad that I started by seeking advice here because yours was great 🙂

I'd really like to have a conversation with your friend just to get to know someone that reflects me so well. We even have the same placements, I too Am Virgo Sun, Libra moon and Gemini Mars. Believe me its a struggle when it comes to dealing with feelings. They simply come and go like the wind.

Thanks again for your input @beautifulsoul74

You're welcome and anything I can do to help. 🙂

The process of change and growing to to always face the full truth of who we are and our inner demons. It doesn't make us bad people because we're all human. But a lot of life is really about seeing things from a different perspective and the answers always lie within us. It's simply a matter of us using what's in us to change our outcomes. It's not easy because no sooner than you do try bad things will happen to try to keep you from changing but you have to remain focused. That's one thing I've tried to show my friend...focus and follow through.

Lol, I wish you could talk to her. She's trying to make those same changes you are but sadly she falls back to the same patterns. The only thing I can do is try to encourage her. The problem is it's more complicated then that because of what has taken part between us over the last 11 months and I'm not at liberty to discuss it 🙂. But I surmise, there's probably someone in your life that can provide guidance. Good luck 🙂

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You're welcome and anything I can do to help. 🙂

The process of change and growing to to always face the full truth of who we are and our inner demons. It doesn't make us bad people because we're all human. But a lot of life is really about seeing things from a different perspective and the answers always lie within us. It's simply a matter of us using what's in us to change our outcomes. It's not easy because no sooner than you do try bad things will happen to try to keep you from changing but you have to remain focused. That's one thing I've tried to show my friend...focus and follow through.

Lol, I wish you could talk to her. She's trying to make those same changes you are but sadly she falls back to the same patterns. The only thing I can do is try to encourage her. The problem is it's more complicated then that because of what has taken part between us over the last 11 months and I'm not at liberty to discuss it 🙂. But I surmise, there's probably someone in your life that can provide guidance. Good luck 🙂

You are awesome @beautifulsoul74! Thank you again for the very mature advice that you have given me ! I'll definitely keep them in mind !

I wish all the best to your friend , I'm sure that both of us will eventually change for the better. I think that I have found someone that will help me in this journey, hopefully my chart twinnie will have the same luck soon 🙂 x take care x

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You're welcome and anything I can do to help. 🙂

The process of change and growing to to always face the full truth of who we are and our inner demons. It doesn't make us bad people because we're all human. But a lot of life is really about seeing things from a different perspective and the answers always lie within us. It's simply a matter of us using what's in us to change our outcomes. It's not easy because no sooner than you do try bad things will happen to try to keep you from changing but you have to remain focused. That's one thing I've tried to show my friend...focus and follow through.

Lol, I wish you could talk to her. She's trying to make those same changes you are but sadly she falls back to the same patterns. The only thing I can do is try to encourage her. The problem is it's more complicated then that because of what has taken part between us over the last 11 months and I'm not at liberty to discuss it 🙂. But I surmise, there's probably someone in your life that can provide guidance. Good luck 🙂

You are awesome @beautifulsoul74! Thank you again for the very mature advice that you have given me ! I'll definitely keep them in mind !

I wish all the best to your friend , I'm sure that both of us will eventually change for the better. I think that I have found someone that will help me in this journey, hopefully my chart twinnie will have the same luck soon 🙂 x take care x

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Thank you for your kind compliments 🙂 I just want to say that there are different and better experiences for you both out there if you truly want them and the reward is worth it...you can't put a price tag on peace of mind😉. You take care as well!

@Star wars:

Wise words and very insightful. I learned something valuable. 🙂