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joined April 10, 2016
"Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
"Time... it changes people's hearts. It'll change yours too. Someday you'll understand."

"You can't run from what you see and feel..."

"Even if it's to save your life, there are some things you just don't do."

"But just as some things can be right and useless at the same time, can’t something be wrong and priceless?"

"I want to follow my heart. Whether it is right or wrong will be judged by history."
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by Gemitati
    @81gem

    Have you tried sex? Just a suggestion...


    Oh yeah. All the time. No worries there.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
    Posted by 81gems
    My dad was in the hospital. He has issues with his heart that he needs to be concerned about. He also may have sleep apnea, but he still doesn't change his diet. Yesterday we got into an argument and he kept saying "let me be." and other stupid bullbutter. So I told him "Well, next time don't make Mom waste time taking you to the hospital. Just collapse here and let us call the ambulance!"

    A male friend of mine told me he was going to have some wine at lunch. The idiot has already had a DWI and kept making up reasons why he won't get pulled over on Easter Sunday, in the middle of the afternoon, and how he won't drink that much. That isn't the point though! And he kept saying, "what? I'm never going to drink again? I can't have a drink when I go out anymore?"

    "NOT IF YOU HAVE TO DRIVE HOME!!!"

    But did he listen? Of course not!

    An "employee" of mine has been in and out of the hospital and said yesterday, he wasn't getting better, but would wait until Monday to go to the doctor. This means he will miss work on Monday. He has a lot of health issues and, just with the way he says it, "I'll be out if I have to be out." just reeks of him not caring.

    So I ended up hating my parents last night. And hating my friends, and "employee" who's also my friend. All of these individuals are men, and I ended up telling my husband how men never change, and they don't listen. They don't ever do what's reasonable and sensible and end up putting others or themselves in a bind, and their too stupid to know what's good for them.

    It's gotten to the point where I'm seriously considering switching job locations next year, and distancing myself from my family, and also isolating myself from people. But I wonder if I should also look at it and myself from a different perspective too. And before anyone makes a claim to the contrary; no, I'm not a man hating feminist. I hate women just as much, but don't have much to do with any woman.

    How old is your dad?

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    He's going to be 70.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    My dad was in the hospital. He has issues with his heart that he needs to be concerned about. He also may have sleep apnea, but he still doesn't change his diet. Yesterday we got into an argument and he kept saying "let me be." and other stupid bullbutter. So I told him "Well, next time don't make Mom waste time taking you to the hospital. Just collapse here and let us call the ambulance!"

    A male friend of mine told me he was going to have some wine at lunch. The idiot has already had a DWI and kept making up reasons why he won't get pulled over on Easter Sunday, in the middle of the afternoon, and how he won't drink that much. That isn't the point though! And he kept saying, "what? I'm never going to drink again? I can't have a drink when I go out anymore?"

    "NOT IF YOU HAVE TO DRIVE HOME!!!"

    But did he listen? Of course not!

    An "employee" of mine has been in and out of the hospital and said yesterday, he wasn't getting better, but would wait until Monday to go to the doctor. This means he will miss work on Monday. He has a lot of health issues and, just with the way he says it, "I'll be out if I have to be out." just reeks of him not caring.

    So I ended up hating my parents last night. And hating my friends, and "employee" who's also my friend. All of these individuals are men, and I ended up telling my husband how men never change, and they don't listen. They don't ever do what's reasonable and sensible and end up putting others or themselves in a bind, and their too stupid to know what's good for them.

    It's gotten to the point where I'm seriously considering switching job locations next year, and distancing myself from my family, and also isolating myself from people. But I wonder if I should also look at it and myself from a different perspective too. And before anyone makes a claim to the contrary; no, I'm not a man hating feminist. I hate women just as much, but don't have much to do with any woman.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Because having kids doesn't always CHANGE a person. Children can actually be a serious threat to the dynamics of personal relationships and life itself. Children aren't always a blessing. Sometimes, they're a burden, and the parent doesn't realize this until the child is born. And what happens? They don't want to deal with the burden. So they let other people deal with it, or turn to self destructive behaviors, or go back to their immature way of life... And why? Because society has groomed people to think that you absolutely never do anything wrong by having a child. When some people need to be slapped around and advised to terminate the pregnancy, for the sake of the un-born child, and everyone else involved.

    It's actually more complicated than that, but I don't have a decade to be on here typing things.

    The moral is, don't have kids. The world is populated enough.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    That looks so stupid.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by OCJack
    This is actually a very intuitive question that gets to the heart of the most central factor to what is going on with the current generations.

    For the longest time there has been a stark contrast between Masculinity and Femininity, and a strict rule that Men are always Masculine and that Women are always Feminine. Not because of some conspiracy by the people on top to engineer the species that way. Even if they DO abuse said system in their own favor. Rather it is simply a product of nature, as all other primates follow something nearly exactly the same. Even among the ones that DO defy this system to some degree, only do so in the sense that the roles are reversed with the females being Masculine and the males Feminine.

    Among other species this extremely rarely ever changes. The one documented case where it did, just involved yet again an absolute flipping of roles between the 2 sexes. Humans however are a genuine departure from this as recent generations have been defying this rule in much smaller chunks, much more gradual ways, and much less absolute switching. In otherwords a true Masculinity/Femininity Grey, is beggining to form for the first time in the history of Evolution on Earth.

    This is most likely because unlike other species we have a strong ability of Awareness, and thus have become aware of the 2 boxes and the necessities and shortcomings of both. With this has come a shift towards men becoming more feminine and women more masculine, without the likelihood of a complete and absolute flip.

    A simultaneously good and bad result of this is that both men and women have risen to challenge oppression inherent to the original system. The bad is that women have come to believe they hold the power in a relationship even when they are predominantly feminine.

    This is a problem because the answer to the question of this topic is in fact that Masculinity is inherently superior to Femininity, in the same way that Strength inherently trumps Weakness, or in the same way that Dominance inherently trumps Submission, or Courage inherently trumps Fear, etc.

    If a Man is in fact Masculine, then he will trump any Feminine Woman. It is the femininity that has overtaken men that convinces them that women call tell them what to do, or that they have to worry about a specific woman withholding da pusspuss. As if women have ALL the options and Men have NONE. An Alpha sees through this facade, there are literally 4.5 billion other women and it is a flagrant lie if you believe all of them are going to have the same attitude. Especially cause NONE of them will if you know the power of masculine charm.

    So to answer the question. We are onto you, cookiemonsteres. We see the game you are trying to play. Remember, you can't change the game, you can only join it.


    Oh God. Typical Neo-Nazi Skinhead punk. Any woman who fell for your "masculine charm" must have been desperate.

    There are decent women out there that want decent men. Then there are dumb women who are happy enough with just some guy, who's an "alpha," lifts weights, is good for a quick lay, and that's about it.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by Therealjane10
    Posted by CreativeCap
    The op is mplying that her colored coworkers are putting her whiteness on a pedestal


    I also read it as:

    Don’t black people have anything better to do than talk about superficial non important materialistic stuff?


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    No. They don't.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by MoonshineLeo
    When did you know you needed to end a friendship? what was the final straw for you?


    When I went to go talk to a counselor about it.

    I’d been having problems with this friend the last two years or so. I kept feeling guilty, and the friend was fueling my anxieties. Well, the counselor told me that anxiety is a “symptom” and that there was something dysfunctional in each of us that kept driving these problems and the relationship itself. It was such a revelation to me that I worked on changing things and letting that friendship go... and working on myself.

    From the person though, I thought enough was enough when the stupid misunderstandings turned into bigger problems, lies, and dishonest actions.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Began over five years ago, having to do with one person in particular. This person and I had no romance. We just talked a lot over the phone.

    I dreamed I'd be talking to him on the phone. During the talks, he would be angry. As time went on, he would go from angry to sad. More dreams, and he was sounding depressed, devastated, telling me he didn't know what to do, that he was at the end of his rope. I could hear the raw emotion in his voice, and I felt it. Shared it. Sometimes, I could hear him crying. The dreams stopped after a couple of years. Then shortly there after, this guy had a lot of horrible stuff happen to him. Suffice it to say, all the sadness, crying, depression, uncertainty... everything I heard in my dreams over the two years prior, all came to pass.

    Later, I kept having dreams where he was angry with me. Yelling at me. I felt nothing in these dreams. Over the next couple of years, these dreams also came true.

    I've stopped talking to him, but dream at times that I'll get an email from him, or we will be on the phone talking. It'll happen maybe two nights in a row, then nothing, and within a week I will hear from him via email. Recently, I was talking to him in a dream. Within a week, he called but I changed my number.

    I don't think interpretations of prophetic dreams are necessary, but if you have insight, feel free. I guess what I'd love to know, but perhaps may never know, is why? And if this has happened to anyone else.


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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    THIS THREAD IS TURNING ME ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Big Grin
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    I have dreamed of people I had falling outs with. Family and friends. Some of them, I'd eventually resume the relationship with. Some, we had words and took *breaks* more than once.

    Well, I'd dream they'd make contact with me in some fashion. Or we'd be talking. And it was not long after that that I'd hear from them in some manner.

    Speaking of which, I had a dream two days ago I called an old friend I haven't talked to in almost a year. There's no way I'm calling them. But the dream does make me think of them, and wonder how they're doing. Maybe I'll hear from them. Guess I'll find out eventually.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by Brittnie
    Would be a Gemini 😂 Dump him please, tell him no. You have feelings for the other guy so he can move on



    This thing gives Geminis a bad name. I've been faithful to my husband since I first met him 17 years ago.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by GeminPhilly
    My aqua found out that I was sleeping with one of his close friends and wants to stay with me and work it out but if I'm being honest it's not just so easy to cut off his close friend because we have developed feelings for each other now. I feel really bad because I hurt my boyfriend but I can't deny the feelings that I have smh


    Tramp
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    I've posted about issues with a Taurus man I know and don't really remember the answers I got, but don't think they answered much.

    Anyway, I was remembering a Taurus man from years ago. It seemed like he was pretty damn arrogant. What I would expect from a Leo, or a "know it all" Virgo. Basically, he had his mind made up about everything, and everyone who thought different was stupid. And most people were ugly, and idiots too. He could get along with people, and had friends, but really, no one ever seemed to measure up.

    This Bull I know now... sometimes it's the same thing. I'm 36 and apparently too young to grasp certain aspects of life (he's in his 50's.) He ridicules. Criticizes. Claims I learn everything from Facebook! Claims I believe in things I don't. Accuses me of loving things and people I don't. No matter how many times I tell him he's wrong, he never listens. EVER! He says I'm ignorant and brainwashed, but it doesn't make him like me any less! I always love arguing. I refuse to listen. Seems the other way around to me!

    A female friend of his is a Taurus and they would eventually end up arguing if they hung around each other too often.

    I knew a Gem with a Taurus moon. It was the same thing. He was an incredible sarcastic smart ass. He was always right. No one knew more than him. He had to challenge everyones beliefs if he felt they were wrong. Whatever you told him, he'd never just shut up and *get it*!

    Well, sorry for the rant. This kinda thing does look to be a Taurus thing... doesn't it?
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by SentimentalCrabby
    Is this placement bad?

    Is it just me, or do Virgo moon's get annoyed with someone asking such an obvious question?
    🙋🏻 I have to admit that I get annoyed.

    Are you guys' careful with handling your money? Cause I get mad when my mother carelessly spend her money on things she doesn't really need and ends up not wanting it later on. 🤦🏻‍♀️

    Y'all like to make sure you have all the information you need to know?
    I need to know everything. I need to know what are the plans for my meetings, appointment, what I need, a full detail, a brief explanation, so I could write it down on my agenda - and see if my schedule would be open.

    I'll prepare a list of questions right before my appointment.

    I feel like I have OCD when it comes to my class notes. Everything needs to be neat - and must be highlighted or written in different colors. ( I've looked at other classmates notes and theirs was sloppy, hard to understand and the words were everywhere. )

    When plans are just at the last minute - I get so frustrated. My schedule has to change, and I get stress out when I've to met up with the deadline with other important things.

    I've push other people away just to take care of my health first. My health is number 1 priority to me.

    Virgo moon's do you relate?
    Or this is a common trait with people.


    I have this moon. No, I don’t get annoyed with obvious questions.

    Sometimes I handle money well, other times not so much. Your mothers money handling, well, that’s not really your problem, now is it? But “Virgo” has this thing of getting mad when people don’t do as you believe (Know, because Virgo just *knows* what’s best for everyone even when it doesn’t and should just mind its own damn business!)

    I don’t make a schedule for anything outside of work, or planning a vacation!

    Not OCD, but I can be a bit anal/fussy/particular about things.

    I have gotten better about wanting to know what I’m talking about before I start talking about it. Still mess up sometimes though.

    Love last minute plans. Spontinaety. Love it.

    I am a Gem sun. My moon is afflicted by Neptune. Thank God. It softens up that hard assed earthy moon. Virgos appeal to me. I *get* them. But honestly, if I never form another non-romantic relationship with one again it’ll be too soon.

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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Is it normal for a taurus to constantly accuse someone else (me) of arguing? Like, he expects me to see things his way. If I don't and explain why, I'm arguing and it's sickening.

    Do bulls always expect their friends to go along with how they view things, and what they think? I seem to have encountered this problem A LOT with Virgo's. What with their criticisms, unsolicited advice, and them thinking something is wrong with you if you have a different opinion. But Taurus too?

    It actually makes me pretty sad because I feel this kind of thing is putting a strain on our friendship.


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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by csdude55
    Posted by 81gems
    Yeah. And maybe the men never stop to think either. You know why? BECAUSE MEN DON'T THINK. Period. They have butter for brains.

    They also don't listen. And they don't know what's good for them. That's why they're always getting caught up in stupid situations that could have easily been avoided. DUH......

    Trust me, Virgo's do disappear all the time for no reason, or for their own misinterpretations. Or their own stupid reasons. Is this d-bag worth hanging around for? Probably not. He is a man, after all.

    Wow, a man hater and a Virgo hater, rolled into one. How rare and refreshing.

    Pretty much everything you said was wrong, though, and contradictory. But I'm not going to argue with you about it; clearly you have issues, and you're probably just looking for someone to fight with you on them. But you're not important enough to waste my time.

    But I will say this. As a Virgo and a man, if I disappear for more than a few days then it's either because:

    (a) you disappeared first;

    (b) you've sent a lot of signals that you've lost interest and I'm protecting myself; or

    (c) I've totally lost interest.
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    Sorry dude, you've already wasted your time...

    I actually am not a man hater. That person, whoever he was, made all those blanket statements so I figured I'd join in.

    I actually get along with Virgos better than my own fellow Gemini's (my Virgo moon to blame?) But I will tell you, your reasons for disappearing seem on point with a big flaw Virgo's have; nothing is ever their fault. Ever.

    Even when they do something blatantly wrong, it's someONE or someTHING else that drove them to that. They're not wrong for their mistakes; someone else MADE them mess up. You follow me?

    Aren't you the guy with "White Knight Syndrome" ??? Tell me, if you get involved with such women, and it all ends badly, who's fault is that? The woman's? Sure, it's easy to blame ANYTHING else, but really, who knows better? Who's been through it before? Who knows what they're doing and getting themselves into, and still forges ahead with it anyway?

    Some Virgos do whatever necessary to spin things around so that their actions, however shady, or wrong, are the result of someone else who did something else first! This isn't hate, but straight forward honesty. As a Virgo you can appreciate that.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    A very handsome and sexy capricorn?

    Pics.

    PICS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    My niece has this placement. She also has a libra ascendant. Too much venus. That's why she's lazy as sin.
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    "Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
    Posted by Geminlove
    bulls and bullettes


    Shouldn't that be bulls and cows? Cause I guarantee, taurus gals are just as stubborn, hard headed, and immovable as cows. Ever seen some poor soul try to get a cow moving when it thinks it's stuck? Yeah...

    stupid cows.