"Oh, my name, it ain't nothing. My age, it means less..."
"Time... it changes people's hearts. It'll change yours too. Someday you'll understand."

"You can't run from what you see and feel..."

"Even if it's to save your life, there are some things you just don't do."

"But just as some things can be right and useless at the same time, can’t something be wrong and priceless?"

"I want to follow my heart. Whether it is right or wrong will be judged by history."

Posted by AllegoryAddictX
First, what's your ethnic background? And are you averse to dating people of a different background?

*If you prefer to just list your race, that's fine, too.


I am hispanic. Or Latino. Whatever my people feel like calling themselves. I grew up around a bunch of stereotypical "Macho Mexican" men though my dad wasn't quite like that. So I knew I didn't want to marry into that kind of world.

I married a caucasian of Western/Eastern European decent. Anyone who doesn't think there's a difference between latinos and whites has never spent enough time around either.

I totally am all for dating/marrying outside of ones race. In fact I encourage it.
I'll be meeting up with a friend to visit and catch up with. Then go off to a local theater to see an old movie. Then meet up with another friend after that.

Tomorrow I'll probably do laundry and get all the classroom materials ready. And review paperwork, etc., in preparation for the first day of school on Monday.

Video games and pizza is something I might have to try tonight if I'm not too lazy....
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Posted by 81gems
I'll ask about "d"

His behavior towards me over the last year; why?


We can't know the inner workings of D because that person's energy is not present.

How about:

"Advice in regards to dealing with D"

Okay?


Thats fine.


Death clarified by 5 of swords reversed

I don't know your relationship with this person (whether it's romantic or platonic) but the cards tell me you need to let it go. Whatever pain or old wounds this person keeps re opening--let it go. You need to move on. Or perhaps it is this person who resents You hence D's behavior.
Just let this person go, it's not beneficial to you having this person around upsetting you.
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Thank you.

And thank God this WASN'T a romantic relationship.
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Posted by lavaliquid1
Living in California, I've noticed several all gender bathrooms.
I love the idea behind, but internally I feel like it's crossing the line. And maybe this is narrow minded, but this gives me the whole "separate but equal" vibe.


Things have to start somewhere. Creating a gender neutral bathroom is a step to opening a dialogue about how we perceive gender (and in many ways sexuality) in this country.

Also remember that historically "separate but equal" has never truly been equal. One group always receives the short end of the stick in that scenario. For example black or "coloreds only" bathrooms either had broken or dilapidated facilities compared to "whites only" bathrooms. These inequities and exclusionary aspects infringed on people's basic human rights to have clean, operational bathroom facilities.

The intention behind gender neutral bathrooms is to create a safe, operational alternative to the current bathroom options available at present. Gender neutral bathrooms are therefore not designed to exclude in the same manner that "men's only" and "women's only" bathrooms are. To put it simply, it's a step in a "safer" direction.


Are you a homosexual?

You're right. Gender neutral bathrooms exist to include everyone. Even perverts, rapists, child molesters.

As a woman I don't want to walk into a multi-stall bathroom where any obvious looking male can walk in to. I don't care what kind of woman said male *thinks* he is.

Californian's may say it's "safe" or some other bull butter like that, but it won't be when some little girl gets groped/murdered, or some little boy gets handled by some perverted woman (yes, they do exist.)

I think the Californians should worry about other things other than "inclusive bathroom." Like fixing Hwy 1 as soon as possible.

Single stall bathrooms have been around forever. Including gender free ones. Those don't bother me.


First, no I'm not homosexual. I'm as heterosexual as they come. I'm also originally from Texas and am not native to California. Regardless even if I was homosexual (or a native Californian), NONE of that has ANYTHING to do with what I'm talking about. So save those remarks.

Second, gender neutral bathrooms don't suddenly increase the number of perverts, rapists, and child molesters. In fact gender neutral bathrooms are typically single stall/single use facilities. Meaning only one person can use them at a time. Usually there's a lock for safety/privacy. So I stand by my statement that they are "safer" (also note how I put "safer" in quotations to denote that there are come potential caveats to this concept because no situation is ever 100% safe). Likewise you're also assuming that children are somehow immune to rape and molestation when they use their own gender's designated facilities. A little boy can still get molested in a men's only restroom too.

Third, having a gender neutral bathroom doesn't mean that suddenly "men's only" and "women's only" bathrooms would disappear either. No one is seeking to jeopardize the privacy, safety, or concern for women or children in this discussion.

Having gender neutral bathrooms (which have been around practically all over the United States for years) means that there is an actual designated place for people who may not readily identify as male or female to use the bathroom without feeling persecuted by those who fear/hate them. Since transpeople are often targets of both hate and violence (including sexual violence), gender neutral bathrooms are practically a necessity.

Transgender and transexual people exist if you weren't aware and also have human rights. They like everyone else have the right to a safe restroom experience just like you. Since I doubt you'd want a transperson using the facility you're in, gender neutral restrooms exist as a necessary compromise.
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Oh, I don't care if a transperson uses the ladies room along with me. I'm not afraid of the man who became a woman, or is in the process of doing so. It's just naive to think that some sort of perverted individual WON'T take advantage of this whole thing. And THAT is where the problem lies. Not saying that's what you think, but there are people out there that do.


Posted by Chuckcem
Posted by lavaliquid1
Living in California, I've noticed several all gender bathrooms.
I love the idea behind, but internally I feel like it's crossing the line. And maybe this is narrow minded, but this gives me the whole "separate but equal" vibe.


Things have to start somewhere. Creating a gender neutral bathroom is a step to opening a dialogue about how we perceive gender (and in many ways sexuality) in this country.

Also remember that historically "separate but equal" has never truly been equal. One group always receives the short end of the stick in that scenario. For example black or "coloreds only" bathrooms either had broken or dilapidated facilities compared to "whites only" bathrooms. These inequities and exclusionary aspects infringed on people's basic human rights to have clean, operational bathroom facilities.

The intention behind gender neutral bathrooms is to create a safe, operational alternative to the current bathroom options available at present. Gender neutral bathrooms are therefore not designed to exclude in the same manner that "men's only" and "women's only" bathrooms are. To put it simply, it's a step in a "safer" direction.
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Are you a homosexual?

You're right. Gender neutral bathrooms exist to include everyone. Even perverts, rapists, child molesters.

As a woman I don't want to walk into a multi-stall bathroom where any obvious looking male can walk in to. I don't care what kind of woman said male *thinks* he is.

Californian's may say it's "safe" or some other bull butter like that, but it won't be when some little girl gets groped/murdered, or some little boy gets handled by some perverted woman (yes, they do exist.)

I think the Californians should worry about other things other than "inclusive bathroom." Like fixing Hwy 1 as soon as possible.

Single stall bathrooms have been around forever. Including gender free ones. Those don't bother me.
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Okay, you guys are admitting to it, but not saying WHY.

I'm sure you are lovely people with a lot of amazing qualities. I love my ex and I love my sister dearly. But, good God, that is SUCH an ugly trait to have--not to be proud of.


We are being facetious.


I HOPE SO. I'm sure not all of you would be, though.


No, a lot are markers like you described.


WHY? I really just want to understand it. It's so foreign to me to be an marker, especially when you KNOW you're being unfair and continue to do it and not want to change. Placing myself in someone else's shoes is the first thing I ever do. Why that's so hard to do for some people, I don't understand.
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Because they like being markers. No other reason. Everyone can help what they are if they want to. It takes time, and work, and sometimes guidance from outside sources. If they're content with being the way they are, to Hell with them.

Do yourself a favor and stay away.
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Posted by 81gems
I'll ask about "d"

His behavior towards me over the last year; why?


We can't know the inner workings of D because that person's energy is not present.

How about:

"Advice in regards to dealing with D"

Okay?
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Thats fine.
I'll ask about "d"

His behavior towards me over the last year; why?
For the last year I've had problems with one friend after another. To the point where I don't know if I even have any left, as I've had to walk away from a couple of them. Maybe it's an age thing (all were easily 15 plus years older than me.) Maybe it's a gender thing (all single men.)
And no, there's been no romantic feelings whatsoever, so that isn't an issue.

And all of these friendships weren't exactly new. I'm not exactly a people person, but I made efforts to get to know these guys and help them out as much as I could, spend time with them so they wouldn't feel so lonely. Help them during their hospital stays and illnesses. Of course, they didn't always have problems so we still hung out when everything in their life was fine.

They're in bad moods and overreact; it's my fault. They don't agree with me and want me to believe what they do; that's my fault. They get aggravated and start yelling at me, complete with F bombs; that's my fault too. My tastes and likes are juvenile, bland, etc., and they need to criticize; my fault. They yell at me while drunk; my fault. I'm closed minded, brain washed, etc., because I don't share their beliefs; my fault.
Everything's my fault and something is wrong with me, according to them.

None of these people know the other, so it's not like they're in cahoots or something. And it probably doesn't help that they're mostly earth signs.

Anyway, I'm left sad because I miss these people. Despite what I seem like on here, I am really big hearted and funny and kind. I have my moments like everyone else, but I am respectful, and I apologize. Perhaps a bit too often. I'm just so sick of it all and the fact that I'm going to see a couple of these guys at work soon (I am the "boss" of one) makes me nervous and even sicker!
Thanks tiz, and agent. And yes, I believe you two are on to something. Poor guy, I would say he does have self esteem issues due to a several years of traumatic stuff happening to him. That's why I feel terrible when I get mad at him. I believe I should endlessly brush it off and ignore him. But he is in control of what he says, and he means it, and it is bothersome sometimes.

Ladyneptune, thanks for your last message. What you said at the end, I'd forgotten all about that!

Thanks to everyone else.
I didn't read your whole post. But here's my 2ยข.....

You're a Sagittarius. You've known him 8 months.

Stop meddling. Stop the self righteous crap. Stop talking on his family's behalf. Stop the sanctimonious butter. Stop the "here's the truth!" Bull butter. Stop being the annoying know it all, pain in the ass.

You're dealing with a grown man, who has his own mind and heart. What is true for you, is YOUR truth. What is true for others is true for THEM. You don't get it? Well, start. You're a big girl now, aren't you?

He's stubborn and procrastinates. He's a Taurus. No surprises there.

TRUTH.

Stop being the do gooder for the "good" of everyone else. They don't need it. He's a grown man that has to get through this himself. Or not. You don't have to like it and you don't have to stick around. If you were invested in this relationship three or five or ten years.... if you were committed to each other for the long haul, I'd say you'd have more of a point in what you are doing. And even then, you'd do better not endlessly harping on butter.

Live and let live. Stop trying to shove what YOU believe is the "ABSOLUTE" and "INDISPUTABLE" truth on this guy.

And, if some day you decide to stomp away because he doesn't agree with you 100% on everything you think he should, doesn't let you be right about everything, I'm sure you'll both be all right.
I have moon in Virgo. I get them. I found I have a certain "ESP" with males. Can't really explain it. With females, there's no unspoken "connection," but there are similar likes, an understanding, etc. I've faired better with females than males in the long run. I know this isn't relevant.

As for Geminis, men and women, I'm wary. Even I'd run far away from a gem guy. It sucks, because they are crazy in a good way. They're FUN! And unpredictable, and some are a little twisted. They're crazy. ALL IN A GOOD WAY!

But they're also too treetrunking sarcastic for their own good. Too impulsive. Too unpredictable, and crazy in BAD WAYS as well.

And then I've actually met boring Gemini dudes, who on top of that, were blunt and sarcastic and didn't give a butter.

Men don't give a butter as it is, and Gemini men even less. I lump them in with saggies. The kind of people that never have any idea wtf they just did. The kind of people you want to knock out, but you don't because they're too hard headed to have any new realizations any more.

MY EXPERIENCE. yours may differ. Nothing says you can't give it a try either. Good luck!
Posted by LadyNeptune
Stop talking politics with your employees. Problem solved.


I really don't though. The example I used has him talking about trump over text. I mention something objective and he flips out. Once I told him not to believe everything he hears on the news, and he angrily emailed me demanding to know what news I watch, etc.

He's like this with other matters too, in and outside of work.
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Hehehe I am a Taurus sun with Aqua moon. I am extremely stubborn..... no comments needed... lol


So, say a friend of yours expresses an opposite view on.... anything. Do you automatically take it as an affront to your views, or a challenge, or a debate? You automatically think the other person is a moron or something?

Serious question.

I don't know what is. This bull I know has an aqua moon.

Anyway, he is sometimes quick tempered and jumps down my throat. Example;

Him: only 36% of people love trump. These people are (various expletives)

Me: I wouldn't trust those "polls." They said hillary would win and look what happened.

Him: WHY DO YOU LOVE THAT MF'er SO MUCH?! I can't stand Trump, nor those who love him..... blah blah blah, you should go hang out with the other small minded people we know who worship him. Blah blah blah. I can't take your mentality right now. I'm turning off my phone!

Just one example. And I've already told him 100 times that I don't like Trump. I just don't revel in hating him like so many on the Left do.

Then he's mad at me. We disagree about a movie. He says, "you haven't finished seeing it, so I will continue to disprove and discredit what you say about it."

BIG WOW. What's the point of that? Why does it friggin' matter?

He's so cool and wonderful, and funny. Everyone likes him and with good reason! And other times he seems so arrogant and sarcastic. So..... sometimes he's mean in what he says. Uncooperative. And difficult. I only expected this kind of crap from the angry Virgos I've known. We work together. I'm his boss, so to speak. He says he'll return to work this year with a better attitude and be less of a "cookiemonster." Really he even gives me a hard time at work now and then.

Ugh. I don't know what to do. The worst I always heard about Bulls was that they were too stubborn for words. This is more than that.

Suggestions?
By LA do you mean Los Angeles in California or the state of Louisiana?

California is a "plate to car" state, or something or other. The plate stays with the car upon sale, trade, etc.

Don't know about Illinois (Chicago)

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Posted by 81gems

Did he use logic to justify his behavior to himself, and therefore, me? Or is he just a drunken POS?


yep

he thinks he did nothing wrong because he was honest about the way he feels about your family, but is sorry for the way he expressed himself
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You're probably right.

And it's the biggest load of bullbutter. Evidently his first apology was a lie. Hope he rots for doing that to me.
So, Virgos, what should I make of a Virgo guy who says "I'm sorry for the way I was yelling and carrying on yesterday. And for tearing apart your family. I don't even really know them..... What? Did I say that!? I'm sorry! You're not stupid or an idiot. I was very angry and drunk. Please forgive me."

I accept and tell him so.

A few weeks later (minimal contact in between) he says, "I don't have a very high opinion of your family. But I apologized for the way I expressed myself. Not what I said. It wouldn't have been so bad had I not been drunk.

Did he use logic to justify his behavior to himself, and therefore, me? Or is he just a drunken POS?
Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Do Virgo moons have issues with dealing with too much emotions? Like when a conversation gets too emotional, do you get uncomfortable and try to change the subject to avoid showing your emotions?


I would have to say no for the most part.

I've sat and listened through some very sad, difficult, heart breaking stuff. At times I've left the conversation feeling like the other person felt; tense, sad, distraught, etc.

But I have a negative neptune aspect to my moon. That may be to blame.
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this is exactly what is wrong with the world. smh.

we can't continue to allow the system (media and all) to turn us (the people) against each other. that's what they want.

divide and conquer.

posting ignorant butter like this is giving them what they want.

we're stronger in numbers. instead of pointing at each other, we should be pointing at the "justice system" and it's highly flawed and trigger happy trainees.


Black ppl have been said this

We been mocked. We been stepped on. The ppl on dxp actually were defending the police

WHY DOES A WHITE WOMAN HAVE TO DIE FOR THEM TO VALUE HUMAN LIFE

YOU CAN SHUT THE treetruk UP

YOU AND EVERY EVIL HYPOCRITICAL FAKE ASSES ON DXP

WHITE DEVILS

I HOPE MORE COPS SHOOT YALL WHITE DEVILS DEAD


Now imagine if Jesus said treetrunk the human race because these cookiemonsteres are out here mocking me, stepping on me, got me carrying this huge muthatreetrunking cross, getting beaten, laughed at, battered, bruised... etc.

my point is... you can't fight hate with hate ma... it can only lead to destruction on both ends...

a life is lost. There are NO WINNERS HERE!!!!!!

and no i won't shut the treetrunk up because i'm the only logical muthatreetrunker on here...
and if that makes me fake to care about the human race then so be it...


God bless!


What's that dumb thing about equality under the law...footnote unless you're black

Oh yes white ppl are winning. That's why they continue to oppress
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Perhaps you should get off DXP and actually go out into the world to see what it's like. You might be surprised.

White people are not oppressing you. Don't blame the "white man" or "white ppl" or "system" 'cause you're too lazy to go to school or work. Or that you had so many kids with different men that you can't work.

It's not the fault of whites or the system that you go around acting like a typical "black cookiemonster."

I'm not white. I don't want people to give me special privileges, attention, or money for doing nothing because of my skin color.

That you aren't given what you think you deserve, or your "blackness" isn't noticed, worshipped and adored doesn't mean you're "oppressed." So you don't get free rides, or let go after you've been pulled over for simply being black. Big deal.

I bet you're happy that the cop who shot this woman was a black Somali named Mohammed Noor. He's probably a muslim terrorist disguised as a "good cop." Or he's just a treetrunking idiot.