Anal Sex for Men

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I'm just so curious because I have zero clue on anything in this particular area...

Can a man be curious about trying, and maybe even enjoying, anal sex without being sexually attracted to men at all?... Is this even a possibility if he wants to do it with a woman?

I've heard of women enjoy anal, but I don't know where the twist in their sexually goes.
Personally, I never could imagine letting anyone go near THAT hole. And I'd never want anything going up mine! But that's just me.

I've warmed up to the idea of doing this to my guy and being a part of discovering if this is something he'll enjoy or not. I'm even a little excited for him.

But I do wonder... I do plan on asking him when I get the chance if maybe he's attracted to men as well. I'm worried about offending him or making him feel judged, though that's not the case, especially since I'm "bi-curious" about women myself. Maybe I should lead with that?...
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Posted by Dianasart
I'm just so curious because I have zero clue on anything in this particular area...

Can a man be curious about trying, and maybe even enjoying, anal sex without being sexually attracted to men at all?... Is this even a possibility if he wants to do it with a woman?

I've heard of women enjoy anal, but I don't know where the twist in their sexually goes.
Personally, I never could imagine letting anyone go near THAT hole. And I'd never want anything going up mine! But that's just me.

I've warmed up to the idea of doing this to my guy and being a part of discovering if this is something he'll enjoy or not. I'm even a little excited for him.

But I do wonder... I do plan on asking him when I get the chance if maybe he's attracted to men as well. I'm worried about offending him or making him feel judged, though that's not the case, especially since I'm "bi-curious" about women myself. Maybe I should lead with that?...



Dafuq did I just read—

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Posted by Dianasart
I'm just so curious because I have zero clue on anything in this particular area...

Can a man be curious about trying, and maybe even enjoying, anal sex without being sexually attracted to men at all?... Is this even a possibility if he wants to do it with a woman?

I've heard of women enjoy anal, but I don't know where the twist in their sexually goes.
Personally, I never could imagine letting anyone go near THAT hole. And I'd never want anything going up mine! But that's just me.

I've warmed up to the idea of doing this to my guy and being a part of discovering if this is something he'll enjoy or not. I'm even a little excited for him.

But I do wonder... I do plan on asking him when I get the chance if maybe he's attracted to men as well. I'm worried about offending him or making him feel judged, though that's not the case, especially since I'm "bi-curious" about women myself. Maybe I should lead with that?...



Dafuq did I just read—

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^ they are okay for me at least foreplay but I much prefer my prostate stimulated.
Orgasms are ridiculous, sometimes the feeling of multiple ejaculations.
However if I feel my system is even slightly backed up I will try and avoid it.

Fyi op, in all seriousness.
Your man needs to explore on his own first!
Once he is familiar and likes what he discovered then he will comfortable with you going in there.
Some guys are just too afraid to explore up there and that's okay, it's a lot of maintenance..
You can't just throw that at it him, there's no way you will pleasure him cause you don't have your prostate up in there.
Though the nerve endings will give you pleasure but not the same kind he will experience.
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Op, you never cease to amaze me with how naive you can be. :/

Anal sex is just a kink, for anyone of any sexual orientation. To assume it has gay implications is just stupid, sorry.

I doubt the guy is gay. You know what would really tell you if he was gay or not?

If he's having sex with another man. Or making out with one. Or on a gay dating website. You know, the usual.

Anal sex? Not so much. Especially if he's having it with a female via strap on. It's just a kink. Some women like anal, some don't. Some prefer certain sex acts, others do not. Some guys prefer blow jobs, vaginal, hand jobs, some like performing anal.

Just because they know that they may be able to get off better via anal sex does not make them gay. Shame on your ignorance.
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I think a lot of women try to freak a guy out if he wants anal sex with them by saying "this must mean you're gay" - he is then supposed to say (or think) "OMG maybe she's right! I don't want to be gay, so I'd better stop thinking about this!" But the reason they try to freak them out is just that most women simply don't want or enjoy anal sex and so this is a manipulative technique they try to use to discourage it. My ex tried to use this argument on me but I told her that if I wanted it with men I could get that easily. I have done anal sex with her sometimes but unfortunately not often.
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I saw a documentary on this once where there was a group in San Francisco where women could learn how to use a strap-on properly. Either for use on their husband but also for lesbian couples or whatever. I think that actually teaches people a lot about how it is to be on the other side.
I think I found a similar article.

The most important part is "[...]encourage lovers to communicate more openly about sex, discussions that many couples find arousing and intimacy-enhancing."

I would probably need some warming up have someone go up my ass, but it is a sensitive area however you spin it and the idea of a really hard orgasm by milking the prostate sounds interesting.
I'd say it's not much different from trying to stimulate the G-spot in women.

So in short OP, having a man that is interested in assplay on himself does not make him gay.
In fact, if he goes first, it might actually make it a lot more relaxed and fun if you decide to try anal. 😉
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We feel your pain Harold. 😭

OP:
"Myth: Men who enjoy being anally entered by women with strap-ons are gay.

Truth: Not at all. Gay men enjoy kissing. Is kissing gay? Sexual orientation is all about the gender you want your lover to be. It has nothing to do with what lovers do in bed. Some gay men enjoy recipient anal play. Others don't. Many 100 percent heterosexual men enjoy having their anuses massaged, fingered, and entered by butt plugs and/or dildos, including strap-ons. Heterosexual men who enjoy recipient strap-on play are not gay. They??re heterosexuals who enjoy receptive anal."
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Posted by virgodog58
I think a lot of women try to freak a guy out if he wants anal sex with them by saying "this must mean you're gay" - he is then supposed to say (or think) "OMG maybe she's right! I don't want to be gay, so I'd better stop thinking about this!" But the reason they try to freak them out is just that most women simply don't want or enjoy anal sex and so this is a manipulative technique they try to use to discourage it. My ex tried to use this argument on me but I told her that if I wanted it with men I could get that easily. I have done anal sex with her sometimes but unfortunately not often.




I haven't nor had I planned to do this. I'll admit my ignorance, but I don't lack acceptance or flexibility.
Yes, I freaked out when he first told me, but because I care about him, I bit my tongue! LOL Instead, I came here where I knew there would be only the most honest of responses!

😢 I found out that he'll be moving soon, so we're not going to get the chance to try this anymore. I know I was nervous with the idea of doing this in the beginning, but now I'm disappointed that it's not going to happen. The more I imagined doing it, the more excited I was!

It's really too bad.
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Your guy's a Leo, right? Stay away from his ass.

Or try it and watch how quickly you'll get rebuffed.



or wait until his bday to give him a surprise fisting



Errr...fisting might be a bit much for a 1st-timer. It might actually scare the shit out of him!

Op, if you're gonna try anything, try it with a finger up his ass first. See if he flinches. If he doesn't, and his response is positive, then get a buttplug. Be gradual. You might have an ass-virgin in your hands now.
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That's a hell of a jump. I've had a woman slide a finger in while she was giving a bj, I'll even admit it felt good. If she showed up later with a butt plug, I'd be afraid.

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Posted by virgodog58
I think a lot of women try to freak a guy out if he wants anal sex with them by saying "this must mean you're gay" - he is then supposed to say (or think) "OMG maybe she's right! I don't want to be gay, so I'd better stop thinking about this!" But the reason they try to freak them out is just that most women simply don't want or enjoy anal sex and so this is a manipulative technique they try to use to discourage it. My ex tried to use this argument on me but I told her that if I wanted it with men I could get that easily. I have done anal sex with her sometimes but unfortunately not often.



Women giving or receiving? You giving or receiving?

Most women I know (bisexual and straight) would love to try pegging a man, and don't think it makes him gay in any way. Most of these same women though, won't entertain the very idea of receiving anal sex from a man (or another woman, in some cases).
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I've done it to an ex, upon his request, we experimented quite a lot. A period of discovery as it were.

I was never really keen on receiving, until it was done properly and there was no pain. Now I have no problem with it just not all the time.
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Posted by warmwaters
^ they are okay for me at least foreplay but I much prefer my prostate stimulated.
Orgasms are ridiculous, sometimes the feeling of multiple ejaculations.
However if I feel my system is even slightly backed up I will try and avoid it.

Fyi op, in all seriousness.
Your man needs to explore on his own first!
Once he is familiar and likes what he discovered then he will comfortable with you going in there.
Some guys are just too afraid to explore up there and that's okay, it's a lot of maintenance..
You can't just throw that at it him, there's no way you will pleasure him cause you don't have your prostate up in there.
Though the nerve endings will give you pleasure but not the same kind he will experience.



I love giving my Virgo man prostate simulation. He goes crazy when he cums and it's so hot. It's easy to get over the muddy stuff when you see how excited they get.
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Posted by Dianasart
I've heard of women enjoy anal, but I don't know where the twist in their sexually goes.
Personally, I never could imagine letting anyone go near THAT hole. And I'd never want anything going up mine! But that's just me.




I laugh when I read shit like this. Any woman who says they get off on anal is full of shit. Speaking of which I suggest before any woman shoves anything up a mans ass they ask first.
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Posted by Katana
Some women do actually find anal sex to be enjoyable and can even orgasm from it??_.which shouldn't be too surprising considering that some people can have orgasms simply by just thinking about having orgasms! After all, sexual arousal is all in the mind.

However, I can see how based on the fact that men can reach orgasm through stimulation of their prostrate gland, that men may indeed enjoy and benefit more from anal sex than women do. Of course if the man in question isn't mentally aroused by the idea of being pegged or receiving anal sex though then the pleasure component in that scenario would be completely nonexistent and possibly even detrimental lol



No...it has been proven women cannot orgasm from anal sex, even if they think real hard and try, maybe they fake it to turn the guy on (to each her own on that)...last time I checked my mind wasn't having an orgasm during sex either, if that were true, I'd stay single my entire life and the vibrator industry would be broke.