leejt86
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Anyone had any luck with Match.com?
I connected with my aqua on there. I felt safe because we are from the same small town and went to the same high school. We knew who each other was but that was about it.
I also had one date with a Virgo and talked with a Taurus quite a bit, but we never went out.
The problem I have with it is it looks like there are tons and tons of people on there. But, a lot of them are no longer active. If you don't hide your account when you delete, it shows up as a possible match. Also, when they do the "sign up for free" thing, a lot of people sign up and look around but if they decide not to join, then their profile still shows up. So, I suppose what I'm saying is there may not be as many active people on there as it looks.
Look for the profiles highlighted in green, I think those are most likely the most active people.
Hope what I said makes sense.
I would do it again if my romantic situation changes.
I also had one date with a Virgo and talked with a Taurus quite a bit, but we never went out.
The problem I have with it is it looks like there are tons and tons of people on there. But, a lot of them are no longer active. If you don't hide your account when you delete, it shows up as a possible match. Also, when they do the "sign up for free" thing, a lot of people sign up and look around but if they decide not to join, then their profile still shows up. So, I suppose what I'm saying is there may not be as many active people on there as it looks.
Look for the profiles highlighted in green, I think those are most likely the most active people.
Hope what I said makes sense.
I would do it again if my romantic situation changes.
I met an ex through match.com, I would try some free sites too, I met my boyfriend of over a year on plenty of fish 🙂
I always heard bad things about plenty of fish.
With all the posts in DXP of women complaining about their soulmate they have not yet met online, I am truly amazed at the shortgage of posts to this thread! 😕
Posted by LetltB
With all the posts in DXP of women complaining about their soulmate they have not yet met online, I am truly amazed at the shortgage of posts to this thread! 😕
Lol
i'm afraid for the REAL men on here who are single.
they would be DEVOURED. (maybe that's what they want) lmao
they would be DEVOURED. (maybe that's what they want) lmao
Posted by 11PeacefulCancer11
It's great for women and HORRIBLE for men. The problem with online dating is that there is paralysis by analysis.
They have too many choices and a plethora of women in their mid-40's holding out for a millionaire that's THEIR age, 6'+, ripped muscular body, italian model-looks, worldly, well-traveled, highly educated, wealthy and healthy etc. etc.. Too add they still want to have kids at their mid-40's age (not saying that's bad but could be dangerous) OR they already HAVE children. Boggles the logical mind. I hate to break it to them but men embodying these qualities in their mid 40's will simple go for a woman half their age. Why? Because they can. I personally don't mind someone's age bc it bears little into what I truly want in a woman.
It's sad, but based on my observations, conversations and unscientific investigative researching there are many women online that aren't there for a relationship. Same can be said for men. Many are there for an ego stroke. To add...They delude themselves thinking they are the needle in the haystack and have THAT unique set of qualities that the hot, interesting millionaire has been searching for and not found in any other woman...just a click away. Right.
They hope that being one of the 80% of women out there searching for the top 5% of men that they will get him/one of them. Oh, and don't you SETTLE girlfriend!!! Facepalm of facepalms.
It's sad. Many good men HOPE that a good girl will find favor with them but they don't. It's a scam for men and an ego stroke/distraction for women.
Being a single guy, 42, lives happily alone in a nice apt. in a beautiful part of the country, not looking for marriage, children, artistic, creative, well-educated, hot, sexy, healthy, athletic, emotional and physically available, business owner, spiritual, musically gifted, has a positive net worth, funny, caring, sensitive and sweet with a big heart finding a woman that I can DEEPLY connect with is damn near impossible. Why? My expectations are high for what I bring to the table. There are lots of average women-few exceptional ones. I'm not talking about looks but one who embodies much of what I possess in character and traits. I'm looking for me in a woman's body. A true reflection.
Getting a date or laid is never an issue. However, I'm unique in that sex without an emotional connection is pretty empty to me. I have tried
quote cut off.
said with some humour: "I hear a silent stampede!"
said with some humour: "I hear a silent stampede!"
Posted by leejt86
I signed up for 3 months of match.com because both my sister and my cousin have had luck on there.
Is it a scam or has anyone had any luck?
As with online dating in general there are some things/rules you'll have to remember:
1. Online dating involves the internet. The internet is & will always be the #1 tool liars, cheaters, scammers use. Match.com can't protect you from that.
2. Sometimes you can use all of your common sense & street smarts & yet STILL get played. BUT most of the time, if you use your own intuition, common sense & street smarts, YOU (keyword) can save/spare yourself from a lot of the bullsh**t by allowing your OWN intelligence to learn how to weed out the good from the bad.
3. Most of the time, the people with bad intentions usually tell on themselves in some way, shape or form. They leave clues. They leave hints. The key is paying attention & being able to identify these red flags so that you won't fall victim or cast yourself as the perfect prey
With that being said, be just as careful online as you would be in person. Yes, actions still speak louder than words, even on the internet. Sweet words mean nothing if that's all you're getting & nothing else.
Make sure that the things you include on your profile is most likely to appeal to the kind of person you're trying to attract. If you're trying to attract the Christian hard-working guy, half naked pictures & a lot of cussing/slang probably wouldn't appeal to him lol. If you're trying to convey the message that you are fun, outgoing & ready for love, the things you include on your profile should reflect that. People won't naturally assume you are anything more than what you show them.
You've got 3 seconds to make a 1st impression on the internet so it's important that you market yourself in a way that can catch the attention of the kind of person you want to attract. If you can get all of this down pact, not only will you not be as paranoid about online dating, but your chances of having 100 horror stories decreases dramatically! lol Good luck!
I think websites like Match.com have a lot more success stories simply b/c of how sophisticated their "matching" systems are. Plus, the theory is that people are most likely to take dating/online sites more seriously when they have to pay for it. So I'd def. recommend Match.com as opposed to PlentyOfFish for example =)
either the women on there are super shallow, or all fake, im getting very few replies to messages
We put too high of expectations on these online dating sites.
It's just a website. A website that is only powered by the people entering it. The very people who can be liars, cheaters, scam artists & shallow can easily get online & carry out their bad intentions like they can in person.
The world doesn't lose it's scam artists just b/c Match.com was created lol
Go into online dating remembering that there are bad people EVERYWHERE. They're not just in person or just online. They're EVERYWHERE! Use the same street smarts, instincts, intuition & common sense online that you would in person!
The kinds of people who have rocky relationships online, constantly get scammed or constantly get taken advantage of online, usually have the same kinds of dramas going on when they're meeting people in person.
It's just a website. A website that is only powered by the people entering it. The very people who can be liars, cheaters, scam artists & shallow can easily get online & carry out their bad intentions like they can in person.
The world doesn't lose it's scam artists just b/c Match.com was created lol
Go into online dating remembering that there are bad people EVERYWHERE. They're not just in person or just online. They're EVERYWHERE! Use the same street smarts, instincts, intuition & common sense online that you would in person!
The kinds of people who have rocky relationships online, constantly get scammed or constantly get taken advantage of online, usually have the same kinds of dramas going on when they're meeting people in person.
I've tried Match.com, I didn't have any luck. TO be honest, I've never dated anyone that I wasn't friends with already or that I haven't met through a mutual friend, so this whole meeting men online was a bit foreign to me. I went on about 4 dates, there was no connection or desire to go on another. I tried to be open minded, but still am not a fan of dating.
These days, I don't care for going out much, so yes... it is hard to meet people, and I struggled with being single for majority of this year. Friends on their second child, people constantly asking why I'm single or have I tried online dating. That use to annoy the crap out of me, and would get me down. However, I know they have good intentions, and well... I'm embracing my singledom now :-)
These days, I don't care for going out much, so yes... it is hard to meet people, and I struggled with being single for majority of this year. Friends on their second child, people constantly asking why I'm single or have I tried online dating. That use to annoy the crap out of me, and would get me down. However, I know they have good intentions, and well... I'm embracing my singledom now :-)
Hey Rae, give it another go after a few months. The landscape will change, with men coming and going. Who knows...next time around, there could be someone there who's right for you!
Thanks Undine!!! I will definitely do that!
ive been on for two months and havent had any luck...maybe im doing it wrong
leejt
NO you're not doing it wrong. A Washington Post columnist wrote a blog after her divorce about either Match.com or online dating in general.
She claimed she went on 700 some dates, and did not meet one male worth her time.
Ha the first one she met said to her..."Your breasts are etc etc." dont know exactly what it was word for word, but it was cheesy"
IT'S NOT YOU!!
Meet someone either doing what you like to do or thru friends, family.
NO you're not doing it wrong. A Washington Post columnist wrote a blog after her divorce about either Match.com or online dating in general.
She claimed she went on 700 some dates, and did not meet one male worth her time.
Ha the first one she met said to her..."Your breasts are etc etc." dont know exactly what it was word for word, but it was cheesy"
IT'S NOT YOU!!
Meet someone either doing what you like to do or thru friends, family.
Whoops leejt just noticed you were a male!!
Well the same applies....
Well the same applies....
Posted by leejt86
ive been on for two months and havent had any luck...maybe im doing it wrong
You are too young to be on a dating site. For your age range, there are plenty of "marriage markets" in town. Called day or night clubs.
It only pays off to use a dating site when most of your peers are married/in a serious relationship, and you are trying to figure out which of the remaining singles are not commitaphobes.
one of my friends is actually marrying a guy she met off match. com... try it it wont hurt
I hope she did a background check. I don't trust anyone on there.
Posted by UndinePosted by leejt86
ive been on for two months and havent had any luck...maybe im doing it wrong
You are too young to be on a dating site. For your age range, there are plenty of "marriage markets" in town. Called day or night clubs.
It only pays off to use a dating site when most of your peers are married/in a serious relationship, and you are trying to figure out which of the remaining singles are not commitaphobes.click to expand
I despise night clubs...
Stop being so desperate and it'll come to you when you least expect it.
That's one of the reasons bs like this is set up for failure. When you go out looking for it, it doesn't work out. It's when you stop looking that something will come out of left field.
That's one of the reasons bs like this is set up for failure. When you go out looking for it, it doesn't work out. It's when you stop looking that something will come out of left field.
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