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Cancer Man Gone Distant on Me After Week Together
Hi Cancer Girl dating a Cancer Man - quite a new relationship
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I then started panicking as I had arranged a lot of time around his visits to my country. Also was over the moon I was going to go and visit him in the summer. I emailed him and said I was worried as I had not received any responses to my contact.
Later I received a message saying he was experience major family issues and also needed time to think about the future (ours I guess) and would get back to me by the end of the week.
I know we spent a lot of time together but can anyone throw any light on this. We are both cancerian.
Be as blunt as you like
Thank you
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I then started panicking as I had arranged a lot of time around his visits to my country. Also was over the moon I was going to go and visit him in the summer. I emailed him and said I was worried as I had not received any responses to my contact.
Later I received a message saying he was experience major family issues and also needed time to think about the future (ours I guess) and would get back to me by the end of the week.
I know we spent a lot of time together but can anyone throw any light on this. We are both cancerian.
Be as blunt as you like
Thank you
Welcome to the world of Cancer.. they do this. It's really annoying. But it's there thing. I live 3 hours from my cancer in the usa and he lives in Canada and we're kind of dating but I've gone to visit him twice and he doesn't really text or use facebook or anything (like yours) he doesn't have a car so it's only been me doing the contacting. I hadn't heard from him in 3 weeks and he knows I've been planning to move to his town for the summer to get a better job. Still haven't heard from him. So I thought he wasn't interested since... he hasn't contacted me in almost a month now.. But according to his friend he's counting down the days til I get there and is really excited. Yeah, wtf? All I can tell you is to be patient and NOT clingy or obsessive, I've held back SO much and I guess it's worked? Eventually when you two are closer you can let him know it's not okay to ignore you.. but right now you have to go with the flow.. give him space and don't contact him unless he contacts you. It's selfish and stupid and annoying and seems cold and heartless of him to ignore you but.. that is what they do. If you don't like it, find a scorpio or leo :-)
Posted by roxyfalcon2006
Welcome to the world of Cancer.. they do this. It's really annoying. But it's there thing. I live 3 hours from my cancer in the usa and he lives in Canada and we're kind of dating but I've gone to visit him twice and he doesn't really text or use facebook or anything (like yours) he doesn't have a car so it's only been me doing the contacting. I hadn't heard from him in 3 weeks and he knows I've been planning to move to his town for the summer to get a better job. Still haven't heard from him. So I thought he wasn't interested since... he hasn't contacted me in almost a month now.. But according to his friend he's counting down the days til I get there and is really excited. Yeah, wtf? All I can tell you is to be patient and NOT clingy or obsessive, I've held back SO much and I guess it's worked? Eventually when you two are closer you can let him know it's not okay to ignore you.. but right now you have to go with the flow.. give him space and don't contact him unless he contacts you. It's selfish and stupid and annoying and seems cold and heartless of him to ignore you but.. that is what they do. If you don't like it, find a scorpio or leo :-)
Hi...thanks for the reply; I'm sorry you're having dramas with your man - seems there's a few on here confused with the cancer male (me being a cancer female thought i might empathise with him but i would never leave someone confused and worried about my lack of contact - his message back to me did not even contain an apology or to say he'd had (or not had) a nice time too).
It seems there's a fine line to be drawn with 'giving them their space' and being a 'doormat'. Unfortunately my will to know where I stand is stronger than my pride. It's hard as I'd hate to be thought of as pushy but after spending a whole week together I think I was kind of justified in contacting him after not hearing a word.
I'm very disappointed to be told he'll get back to me by the end of the week and also needs time to think of our future. In the meantime he's supposed to be dealing with family issues. I don't know if this is a cop out so I don't contact him. But it leaves me in a position where I can't now as I have to respect what he is saying.
Thing is he is 20 years older than me and a successful, well mannered person who must know that it's out of order not to just send a text to say he has had issues and won'
Posted by piranhaparadiisePosted by roxyfalcon2006
It's selfish and stupid and annoying and seems cold and heartless of him to ignore you but.. that is what they do. If you don't like it, find a scorpio or leo :-)
it is not what they do when they really really like you...when you find a cancer man that is 100% into you...you will understand what I have been saying all along...
Until then... you will keep believing Cancers shell for long periods when they like you so much...it's simply not true...click to expand
I can see you've met a good one... I like to think of the motto that actions speak louder than words but this has been confusing as my cancer man's actions have been positive and reassurring, everything he said he would do he has done - and then suddenly this strange act.
Maybe after spending the week together he's thought I'm not for him, although he didn't let this on during our time together - just stopped the contact from the moment we kissed goodbye...!
Posted by splashdashPosted by roxyfalcon2006
Welcome to the world of Cancer.. they do this. It's really annoying. But it's there thing. I live 3 hours from my cancer in the usa and he lives in Canada and we're kind of dating but I've gone to visit him twice and he doesn't really text or use facebook or anything (like yours) he doesn't have a car so it's only been me doing the contacting. I hadn't heard from him in 3 weeks and he knows I've been planning to move to his town for the summer to get a better job. Still haven't heard from him. So I thought he wasn't interested since... he hasn't contacted me in almost a month now.. But according to his friend he's counting down the days til I get there and is really excited. Yeah, wtf? All I can tell you is to be patient and NOT clingy or obsessive, I've held back SO much and I guess it's worked? Eventually when you two are closer you can let him know it's not okay to ignore you.. but right now you have to go with the flow.. give him space and don't contact him unless he contacts you. It's selfish and stupid and annoying and seems cold and heartless of him to ignore you but.. that is what they do. If you don't like it, find a scorpio or leo :-)click to expand
Hi...thanks for the reply; I'm sorry you're having dramas with your man - seems there's a few on here confused with the cancer male (me being a cancer female thought i might empathise with him but i would never leave someone confused and worried about my lack of contact - his message back to me did not even contain an apology or to say he'd had (or not had) a nice time too).
It seems there's a fine line to be drawn with 'giving them their space' and being a 'doormat'. Unfortunately my will to know where I stand is stronger than my pride. It's hard as I'd hate to be thought of as pushy but after spending a whole week together I think I was kind of justified in contacting him after not hearing a word.
I'm very disappointed to be told he'll get back to me by the end of the week and also needs time to think of our future. In the meantime he's supposed to be dealing with family issues. I don't know if this is a cop out so I don't contact him. But it leaves me in a position where I can't now as I have to respect what he is saying.
Thing is he is 20 years older than me and a successful, well mannered person who
My highly bonded son reckons I am hard enough to be found when I want to be and impossible when not. Disapearing and sometimes reappearing is a common trait. Cancarians are basicaly lost souls. Their disapearance is not lack of love, but other forces at play.
No doubt it is hard, but this sounds like a game. Someone that much older and successful...just might be enjoying a good time.
The dissappearing thing is a bitch. Confrontation is a Cancers worst enemy, even over little things. If he is eclipsing like that and it is hurting you, line up a new suitor and go for something else. Respect yo'self gf! Unless you are cool with a f buddy. Sounds like you are wanting more.
The dissappearing thing is a bitch. Confrontation is a Cancers worst enemy, even over little things. If he is eclipsing like that and it is hurting you, line up a new suitor and go for something else. Respect yo'self gf! Unless you are cool with a f buddy. Sounds like you are wanting more.
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