Fiance Called Baby's Mother by old Pet Name

Hi all,

Should I be concerned if my Fiance accidentally called his child's mother by the old pet name he called her when they were together? They had been broken up for 9 months now

It happened twice in which the first time I let it slide... the second time, we had an argument. He claimed it was a total accident and that he hates her and such...

What would you do in this situation?

After all, who can truly move on from their ex, when the start of a new relationship can ignite an old spark?

It would piss me off! But you are the only one who can decide. And argument wouldn’t help anything. He did! Unintentionally. He can’t undo it!

My husband called our daughter by his ex daughters name. I was...livid! But it was nothing...just a slip of the tong.

Observe and good luck.

If he continually is talking about her, even negative, I would really be concerned that he isn't over that relationship.

Indifference is usually the mark of being over someone.

Posted by Dianna
This all seems to have moved really fast. He broke up with the mother of his child only 9 months ago and is already engaged? When did you two get together? He may not be over the breakup yet. Some people try to move on by immediately jumping into a new relationship. Those old wounds are not healed and will open up eventually.

I would be concerned but not because of the pet name.

Right. I agree with what you said. Though we've only been together for 7 months now, we've known each other for a few years and also he tried talking to me prior to dating her... However, I know they dated and created memories and I respect the fact of the matter, but it has just thrown me off...

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
How do you frm man to man to engaged so quickly? You still got your penis?

Oh my gosh. Shame on you... My genitals has nothing to do with this.

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Posted by Dianna
This all seems to have moved really fast. He broke up with the mother of his child only 9 months ago and is already engaged? When did you two get together? He may not be over the breakup yet. Some people try to move on by immediately jumping into a new relationship. Those old wounds are not healed and will open up eventually.

I would be concerned but not because of the pet name.

Right. I agree with what you said. Though we've only been together for 7 months now, we've known each other for a few years and also he tried talking to me prior to dating her... However, I know they dated and created memories and I respect the fact of the matter, but it has just thrown me off...

How long was he with her? Why did they breakup?

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1.5 years... Broke up because they fought, he hit her and she sent him to jail when she initiated they physical fighting.

Yes

I was wondering if you still had your penis too. Is the guy bi and still going to dip his stick in every so often? Him calling her pet names doesn't seem like he hates her too much. Maybe after he moved on to you she was able to come to some types of terms and let him have his cake and eat the groceries too.

Posted by saggurl88
I was wondering if you still had your penis too. Is the guy bi and still going to dip his stick in every so often? Him calling her pet names doesn't seem like he hates her too much. Maybe after he moved on to you she was able to come to some types of terms and let him have his cake and eat the groceries too.

No he's not bi - just into trans females and cis females.

The back story to it all too was that they continued to fight after they broke up, but I encouraged him to be nicer to her as she is the mother of their child. I supported them having a friendly co-parenting relationship... now that they have been acting cordial to eachother, thats when the pet name slip-ups started happening.

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Posted by saggurl88
I was wondering if you still had your penis too. Is the guy bi and still going to dip his stick in every so often? Him calling her pet names doesn't seem like he hates her too much. Maybe after he moved on to you she was able to come to some types of terms and let him have his cake and eat the groceries too.

No he's not bi - just into trans females and cis females.

The back story to it all too was that they continued to fight after they broke up, but I encouraged him to be nicer to her as she is the mother of their child. I supported them having a friendly co-parenting relationship... now that they have been acting cordial to eachother, thats when the pet name slip-ups started happening.

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Yeah, cause now it's back to old times with shit going smoothly. Men are famous for ignoring all the bad and reminiscing about the good in a ex relationship. I would keep and eye on it if I were you. But don't get insecure. He wanted to be with you for a reason. Accept that you should be enough, but don't put blinders on. And don't nag him about it. But I bet from now on, you'll wish they were arguing lol. You're never supposed to be THAT supportive about an ex. 😆 Especially in a new relationship.

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Posted by saggurl88
I was wondering if you still had your penis too. Is the guy bi and still going to dip his stick in every so often? Him calling her pet names doesn't seem like he hates her too much. Maybe after he moved on to you she was able to come to some types of terms and let him have his cake and eat the groceries too.

No he's not bi - just into trans females and cis females.

The back story to it all too was that they continued to fight after they broke up, but I encouraged him to be nicer to her as she is the mother of their child. I supported them having a friendly co-parenting relationship... now that they have been acting cordial to eachother, thats when the pet name slip-ups started happening.

Yeah, cause now it's back to old times with shit going smoothly. Men are famous for ignoring all the bad and reminiscing about the good in a ex relationship. I would keep and eye on it if I were you. But don't get insecure. He wanted to be with you for a reason. Accept that you should be enough, but don't put blinders on. And don't nag him about it. But I bet from now on, you'll wish they were arguing lol. You're never supposed to be THAT supportive about an ex. 😆 Especially in a new relationship.

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Right I wish that now too..., I was just mainly concerned for their child and also wanted him to be a good dad. Also, she wouldn't let him see their daughter, so I was also giving him words of advice to get her to cooperate with him.