Ariana23
@Ariana23
16 Years
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Gemgirl and Virguy
Long distance is hard. If it was easy, everyone would be secure enough with their relationships that would allow everyone to do it. Its true most long distance relationships end. But It seems you've been doing it for a year, and you two are doing enough to keep it together for a year. Its going to hurt. But I've been a long distance relationship before, and its hard, and it hurts. but when it works out, it can be a beautiful thing.
I personal know what you mean, when that bond you have feels so good and strong when he is with you, but when he leaves it leaves you feeling empty. Its a horrible feeling, but its part of growing with that relationship. I think it builds character between you to. it allows you two to focus on things that are important to you. and when you are finally together you are able to look back and say, damn that was hard. but we are now a super couple.
that's a good sign.. in fact and AWESOME sign that your trying to be strong. is he being strong with you, and trying and doing the time and than some to hold on?
as for him being perfect, what does that entail?
As for loving him but not being in love with him? then he isn't perfect. that is something to explore between you too. if he loves you, or in love with you, and your not. does he know that you don't love him the same? Do you see your love for him like a best friend, and that's as far as it goes? do you see his love for you like something that you want, but its not what you want at this time, but still need him? wouldn't that make you greedy if you love him but your not in love with him, and he is sticking around because you still want him to? because to you he is perfect, and your afraid to let go because some other girl might find him perfect as you see him, losing him to someone else if you let him go?
no one should be treated like a back up while you go out and find someone else when he isn't around.
excuse me for being a skeptic, but is it because your cheating on him? Is there someone else filling his shoes, are you having feelings for someone else, are being interested and enticed by someone new or close to you, or your already looking into another relationship because he isn't around? do you want to be free from the burden of the long distance relationship to maybe pursue other interest?
I personal know what you mean, when that bond you have feels so good and strong when he is with you, but when he leaves it leaves you feeling empty. Its a horrible feeling, but its part of growing with that relationship. I think it builds character between you to. it allows you two to focus on things that are important to you. and when you are finally together you are able to look back and say, damn that was hard. but we are now a super couple.
that's a good sign.. in fact and AWESOME sign that your trying to be strong. is he being strong with you, and trying and doing the time and than some to hold on?
as for him being perfect, what does that entail?
As for loving him but not being in love with him? then he isn't perfect. that is something to explore between you too. if he loves you, or in love with you, and your not. does he know that you don't love him the same? Do you see your love for him like a best friend, and that's as far as it goes? do you see his love for you like something that you want, but its not what you want at this time, but still need him? wouldn't that make you greedy if you love him but your not in love with him, and he is sticking around because you still want him to? because to you he is perfect, and your afraid to let go because some other girl might find him perfect as you see him, losing him to someone else if you let him go?
no one should be treated like a back up while you go out and find someone else when he isn't around.
excuse me for being a skeptic, but is it because your cheating on him? Is there someone else filling his shoes, are you having feelings for someone else, are being interested and enticed by someone new or close to you, or your already looking into another relationship because he isn't around? do you want to be free from the burden of the long distance relationship to maybe pursue other interest?
you just can't hold on to him while you want something else. that's pretty much cheating.
and you can't hold on to him because he is perfect and your afraid to lose him to the world.
my advice? you really need to look deep down in yourself, and if you want this "perfect" virguy then you have to work it out. but if your not in love with him, or you see yourself with someone else you really should think about breaking it off.
if he is as perfect as you say he is, he will be back in your life, and you and him will be in love with each other. that's if he doesn't do the Virgos thing and he disappears from your life for what seems like forever. only to show up years later. lol! they are known to do that. 🙂 if you handle the break up right, he will need time and space to get over the broken heart you handed him back, but he might be a best friend. though the tension might be there to get back together when things are better, and maybe you'll want him back.
you really need to figure out what you want, and need to know how much you really do love him? if your not in love wit him, why? you need to be open with him if you break up with him so he knows why. its important to Virgos to know. I know us Geminis and sometimes details aren't our thing. but if you want a friendship and possible crack at being with him again after you break his heart. you need to have your answers ready. because he will have questions, even if he says he understands.
it could the beginning of a new phases in your relationship. or the beginning of a new phases without him. only you can make that decision. if your already with someone else, or entertaining that idea, than you started a new phase haven't you? you just don't want to let him go because you don't want to lose him, and break his heart and yours. but us Gemini's usually, well for me. We gem's find something else or someone else to pick us up, pretty quickly. even if its a temporary patch to our emotional problems,and we often find the physical needs to fill our voids. its a reckless road... I've been down before, and it left me numb and its to long of a road back to being normal.
I know long distance can be hard, and some people will say its not worth it. But I'm a believer. I believe in love. I believe when two people love each other they will find a way. there will be nights of crying, temptations of others, but if you trust each other, and are truly open with your feelings, as much as the gem and vir thing is slated as ill-fated across the internet scopes, (Don't believe it!) you'll find a way, to get what you need to get done with the time your not with him. you'll only be stronger, and you two will make it. I don't like when people break up but it happens. But maybe I'm a hopeless romantic, and I hope things work out for you two. It's hard, and people will say "dump him!" but only you know with your heart, what you must do. if he loves you, and you love him. it will be hard whether or not you decide to stay with him. Follow your heart. For me i would try to work it out.
sorry if i'm ranting.... LOL! 🙂
I know long distance can be hard, and some people will say its not worth it. But I'm a believer. I believe in love. I believe when two people love each other they will find a way. there will be nights of crying, temptations of others, but if you trust each other, and are truly open with your feelings, as much as the gem and vir thing is slated as ill-fated across the internet scopes, (Don't believe it!) you'll find a way, to get what you need to get done with the time your not with him. you'll only be stronger, and you two will make it. I don't like when people break up but it happens. But maybe I'm a hopeless romantic, and I hope things work out for you two. It's hard, and people will say "dump him!" but only you know with your heart, what you must do. if he loves you, and you love him. it will be hard whether or not you decide to stay with him. Follow your heart. For me i would try to work it out.
sorry if i'm ranting.... LOL! 🙂
He knows I'm NOT in love with him. We've talked about our relationship. And neither of us have cheated on one another. I've explained to him that long distance is extremely hard on me, and that I get weaker everyday he's not here. I know he loves me, he tells me those words everyday. And I also know he's very dedicated to this relationship. I just don't know if the relationship is worth it. Part of my still has hope that I can fall in love with him and things will be great, but the other half is starting to feel hopeless about the relationship.
Alot of people say "follow your heart"...but my heart is sending mixed signals. Thus, I have no idea what I want right now.
Alot of people say "follow your heart"...but my heart is sending mixed signals. Thus, I have no idea what I want right now.
and your virguy wasn't hurt when you told him you weren't in love with him? were you leading him on at any point? usually when you say i love you, i generally think that your in love with that person. and your not just saying it, because you love him but not in love with him. its like all this time you been telling him i love you like how i like Italian food, but im not in love with it, and i could live without it.
It seems he wants you and is in love with you, and is he doubting the relationship like you are, even after you told him your not in love with him? You may only see him as a friend if your not in love with him, and only want him as such and nothing more. If you have doubts about the relationship it could just be a weak point, or a sad time during the long distance relationship period. it comes and goes. It helps to keep busy. If you have hope to fall in love with him, that's a great! but if your also starting to feel hopeless, tell him why. often times its more than just him not being around. gems tend to want new things, or new people in their life, rather than keep the ones that are the closet to them. there is usually more reasons behind the feeling of hopelessness. is it future plans? is there something wrong with you? is there something wrong with him being "perfect", or is there something wrong with your own personal life. you need to talk to him since this relationship requires both peoples input. its long distance and all you have is to communicate. this isn't the time for a gem to shut out the one we love because we don't think he would understand. it seems you really don't know what you want. if you stay you could be happy but there are no promises. if you leave, you'd both end up with broken hearts, more him, you since he is in love with you, and your not. you'd lose your perfect virguy. maybe forever, or maybe not. yet, if you do leave you get the chance to be with someone new and who is there. some may look at it as a convenience, gems are social beings, and finding someone new could always be in the wings for you or you already have a liking or interest to.
follow your heart, is all that you can do. if your getting mixed signals, talk to him. and maybe he will help you decode those signals for you. whatever you two choose, you two could reach a mutual agreement. or find some way to hold on together harder. long distance is a test, and a grueling one. you have to talk to him so you both can figure out what you both want
It seems he wants you and is in love with you, and is he doubting the relationship like you are, even after you told him your not in love with him? You may only see him as a friend if your not in love with him, and only want him as such and nothing more. If you have doubts about the relationship it could just be a weak point, or a sad time during the long distance relationship period. it comes and goes. It helps to keep busy. If you have hope to fall in love with him, that's a great! but if your also starting to feel hopeless, tell him why. often times its more than just him not being around. gems tend to want new things, or new people in their life, rather than keep the ones that are the closet to them. there is usually more reasons behind the feeling of hopelessness. is it future plans? is there something wrong with you? is there something wrong with him being "perfect", or is there something wrong with your own personal life. you need to talk to him since this relationship requires both peoples input. its long distance and all you have is to communicate. this isn't the time for a gem to shut out the one we love because we don't think he would understand. it seems you really don't know what you want. if you stay you could be happy but there are no promises. if you leave, you'd both end up with broken hearts, more him, you since he is in love with you, and your not. you'd lose your perfect virguy. maybe forever, or maybe not. yet, if you do leave you get the chance to be with someone new and who is there. some may look at it as a convenience, gems are social beings, and finding someone new could always be in the wings for you or you already have a liking or interest to.
follow your heart, is all that you can do. if your getting mixed signals, talk to him. and maybe he will help you decode those signals for you. whatever you two choose, you two could reach a mutual agreement. or find some way to hold on together harder. long distance is a test, and a grueling one. you have to talk to him so you both can figure out what you both want
Ariana,
I got out of a relationship with a Gem back in November so I'm a bit close to this one 🙂
Would your feelings on the relationship change if it wasn't long distance? If they wouldn't, you kind of have your answer. From my experience with Gems, its weird. You guys tend not to appreciate what you have until you've lost it.
I got out of a relationship with a Gem back in November so I'm a bit close to this one 🙂
Would your feelings on the relationship change if it wasn't long distance? If they wouldn't, you kind of have your answer. From my experience with Gems, its weird. You guys tend not to appreciate what you have until you've lost it.
He's not in love with you ....
I think if he was here our relationship would be MUCH healthier and stronger. He's accepted the fact that I'm not in love with him, and he still feels the same towards me. If I was taking advantage of him, I woulda broke it off w/ him a LONG time ago.
P-Angel- You enjoy bringing people down, huh?
P-Angel- You enjoy bringing people down, huh?
that's a good sign that he feels the same way. but most gem girls I know... if your that if your the type to get mad if life's hiccups happen and you blame him for it than your just angry. 🙂 lol! jk.
but all seriousness...
not to be mean or anything. but Virgos are the patience type. and they will see things through the end and will go down with the ship will the gem can feel bad, but is able to go out and still march on.
Do you both have the understanding of what you two are doing? What makes and gives you the right to be the only one that thinks that, with the statement of "if he was here." Why arent you there? he could be saving the world for all we know. so it goes both was Ariana23. as much as you want him with you, he wants you there with him too.
he's in love with you. good. your not in love with him. perhaps bad. my advice to find the understanding you once had before you and he went into the world without each other, and why it isn't working anymore. Trust? Someone else on your mind? Or you just really miss each other.
but all seriousness...
not to be mean or anything. but Virgos are the patience type. and they will see things through the end and will go down with the ship will the gem can feel bad, but is able to go out and still march on.
Do you both have the understanding of what you two are doing? What makes and gives you the right to be the only one that thinks that, with the statement of "if he was here." Why arent you there? he could be saving the world for all we know. so it goes both was Ariana23. as much as you want him with you, he wants you there with him too.
he's in love with you. good. your not in love with him. perhaps bad. my advice to find the understanding you once had before you and he went into the world without each other, and why it isn't working anymore. Trust? Someone else on your mind? Or you just really miss each other.
Yea, I stuck it out with my Gem until the very end.
Ariana, you don't love him (And I'm assuming you never really will). Don't take advantage of his loyalty by keeping him around as a "comfort zone" in your life.
Ariana, you don't love him (And I'm assuming you never really will). Don't take advantage of his loyalty by keeping him around as a "comfort zone" in your life.
P-Angel: "He's not in love with you ....."
Typical Gemini .... it's ok for you to tell him you are not in love with him, and in this being "ok" for you to do this, it hasn't dawned on you that you might be bringing him down, or if it has dawned on you, it's irrelevant to you ... however, if it said that he isn't in love with you, then this means something to you because now it's your feelings at stake, so suddenly this so-called-being-in-love matters.
I assure you, this man is not in love with you, no matter how much he loves being with you .... a Virgo won't waste their real love on a person who doesn't love them back.
Deal with it .. and if it brings you down, then perhaps that's reality calling. You can't lead a man on like that and expect to be exalted for it .. and if you do, then again ..... reality check.
Posted by Ariana23
I think if he was here our relationship would be MUCH healthier and stronger. He's accepted the fact that I'm not in love with him, and he still feels the same towards me. If I was taking advantage of him, I woulda broke it off w/ him a LONG time ago.
P-Angel- You enjoy bringing people down, huh?
Typical Gemini .... it's ok for you to tell him you are not in love with him, and in this being "ok" for you to do this, it hasn't dawned on you that you might be bringing him down, or if it has dawned on you, it's irrelevant to you ... however, if it said that he isn't in love with you, then this means something to you because now it's your feelings at stake, so suddenly this so-called-being-in-love matters.
I assure you, this man is not in love with you, no matter how much he loves being with you .... a Virgo won't waste their real love on a person who doesn't love them back.
Deal with it .. and if it brings you down, then perhaps that's reality calling. You can't lead a man on like that and expect to be exalted for it .. and if you do, then again ..... reality check.
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