Guess Who Tried to Talk to Me...

Some of you may know the whole break up ordeal I've recently gone through.

So last Monday night, my ex texted me asking "Are you really going to prom with _____?". I'm a senior in high school, and a friend of ours asked me to prom.
Note, this is the first time she texted me since my birthday (Feb. 9), and first attempt to actualy start a talk between us herself.
I replied, though I wonder if I shouldn't have. I said "I'm not sure yet, why do you ask?"
Her reply "I heard from someone that you were. I'm glad your still going, you should"

Of course, she can just be friendly and actually have a genuine happiness for me, but considering she hasn't tried to talk to me in over a month and a half, and the fact that her first text to me is a question, it seems odd to me.

The next day in class, she turns around and asks me "Hey so.... does this mean we can talk again?"
I told her "You were the one who said you never wanted to talk to me again, so thats all on you" She stared at me, I chuckled, and she turned back around.

Now about a week later, she's starting converstation with me. And from what I heard, she was having issues with her bf the week she sent me the text. I honestly don't care what she's doing. I'm done with her already.

When I asked her "Why do you want to suddenly talk to me?" she says "I dunno. I'm tired of the tension. It felt so akward not talking to you and ignoring you"
I asked "WHat do you feel towards me then?" she says "I dunno"

Haha this was more of a venting thing, but comment if you like 😆

I knewwwww it! I just knew it. For the love of god, consider accessing your Aquarius coolness when interacting with her. I think it's really warranted in this situation. Of course it's tension-filled on her end because she's been thinking about it (unlike you). I'm not saying she's sadistic or anything and half of it was thinking about what it would do to you, more like, I don't think she thought you'd "turn off" (so to speak) the way that you did. Ah, this girl. I'm glad you don't care anymore.

*shrug*

She wants things to not be tense anymore, maybe to even be friends/friendly again. It's got nothing to do with her and the Sag having or not having troubles -- you're all in high school, relationships will have troubles (esp Sag-Pisces haha) She seems happy you're moving on, making plans to go to prom with someone, etc. Probably was hoping that it would mean you guys could bury the hatchet and end the cold war, no Pisces LIKES to hurt people or see people hurting.

The thing is, it's YOUR responsibility to stand for what YOU want, not HERS to protect your feelings. If YOU cannot handle being "friends" or it still hurts too much that you can't be with her like that anymore -- then say so! And then stop answering her attempts to communicate. When you answered her, and kept engaging in conversations with her, you lost the right to play the "victim" and instead became a "participator" in everything that happens since.


And.. if you honestly didn't care what she's doing, thinking, etc.. you wouldn't have posted this thread. Just sayin'. At least be honest with yourself, life's easier that way.

Posted by 25thDecan
You and my little sister have the same bday. That said...none of that matters. You haven't followed a word of my advice. Keep going down that road and you are only conditioning yourself to be passive, open for abuse and prone to serious explosions/heartache much later.
She's an ex...keep it that way.

You cannot prevent heartache but you can condition yourself to deal with things better. Over is over. Work on you, your grades, college-if applicable and quality of life. You first, girls later...that's prioritizing.
Good luck youngster.

Oh tell her I said happy birthday!! 😄
I actually have been following your advice, and it's helped me a lot! I'm officially into the school I wanted to go too, and I know alumni there, so they are giving me tours, I even know a few of the teachers pretty well, along with clubs. I've been working on my personal flaws and I honestly see life a ton better now. Shes off my facebook and phone and everything. I haven't talked to her since the day in class. I'm getting my independence back and I'm glad to say that I don't care anymore 😛 haha

Posted by extempjunk
I knewwwww it! I just knew it. For the love of god, consider accessing your Aquarius coolness when interacting with her. I think it's really warranted in this situation. Of course it's tension-filled on her end because she's been thinking about it (unlike you). I'm not saying she's sadistic or anything and half of it was thinking about what it would do to you, more like, I don't think she thought you'd "turn off" (so to speak) the way that you did. Ah, this girl. I'm glad you don't care anymore.

Lol. You did know it 😆 you were actually really dead on with your reply back then to the situation now. It's a little weird but cool at the same time.
And thanks C: I can't start to begin how much easier things are now. I'm just trying to get away. Being her rock from like.... the 7 years I've known her, it looks like she's trying to ask me for advice and help but errr... Yeah no. Not now.

Posted by Nefer
*shrug*

She wants things to not be tense anymore, maybe to even be friends/friendly again. It's got nothing to do with her and the Sag having or not having troubles -- you're all in high school, relationships will have troubles (esp Sag-Pisces haha) She seems happy you're moving on, making plans to go to prom with someone, etc. Probably was hoping that it would mean you guys could bury the hatchet and end the cold war, no Pisces LIKES to hurt people or see people hurting.

The thing is, it's YOUR responsibility to stand for what YOU want, not HERS to protect your feelings. If YOU cannot handle being "friends" or it still hurts too much that you can't be with her like that anymore -- then say so! And then stop answering her attempts to communicate. When you answered her, and kept engaging in conversations with her, you lost the right to play the "victim" and instead became a "participator" in everything that happens since.


And.. if you honestly didn't care what she's doing, thinking, etc.. you wouldn't have posted this thread. Just sayin'. At least be honest with yourself, life's easier that way.

Yeah, I figured it was the whole trying to end tension and akwardness. I did indeed tell her how I feel. And well, it seems to be pretty damn good right now C: