How do I break up with an Aquarius? Is that possib

So after 4 years of ups and downs, ins and outs, I've finally decided to call it quits with my first kiss, my first love, my aquarius. I'm an Aries so you know when we are done with someone we actually tried to stick out as long as possible. So what broke the camels back was him being controlling. A good friend of mine was having some depressive days so I decided that after my shift at work I would go visit her a while and be there for her. So I let my Aqua know, before i went to work, that I would go visit my friend bc she is depressed. He gave me his usual judgmental look, at that moment I knew there would be some friction. He explains that it would be too late for me to go over there. That instantly pissed me off, one thing I hate is someone tell me what to do. Besides my friend needed me. He knows my nature, he knows that I'm always there for those I am close to. So for him to object to my action was the spark that started my Arian fire. After that we didn't talk to each other for about 2 days. Day 3 He started lurking around me then he finally asked about our relationship, he wanted me to define our status. I tried to avoid him but I got cornered in the shower, ugh. I told him truth and said I'm done, I'm glad you started this job so you can start to save up money for your own place.....Bad Aries, No tact......Of course he got extra sensitive and took my words like I was trying to hurt feelings, he asked the question I gave him the answer. Well that's when the war began, he walked off and gave me peace for about 30 minutes then he came back ready for war. He said once I stop caring about you that's it, you keep it up and that's what's going to happen. honestly what he said amused me bc i didn't care. So he did his usual tactics. He began to talk crap about me and how he doesn't need me. At work, I think he's going to cool off but no, I see Facebook posts and i get passive aggressive text messages. I didn't realize it's gets so messy to break up with someone.... I think its only Aquarius because I never had this problem with the other signs. Has anyone broke up with an Aquarius WITHOUT starting a war? If so, how?

Lol sorry to laugh, but reading everything you wrote could've been something I wrote myself in every aspect.

My aqua ex used to try the emotional threats too, whilst in what I called tantrum mode. As he was 6yrs younger than me I found that behaviour rather amusing Lol.
He was a bit like yours when we broke up for second and last time too. Talking crap on fb, exaggerating and twisting things when talking about me, to make himself look justified in his childish behaviour etc etc

I was deeply hurt by the break up as, despite the way the relationship was I did love him very deeply. But also knew the split was for the best. So as you can imagine this behaviour pissed me off,and my reaction was that of a typical, wounded Aries impulsive and thoughtless and quite frankly childish. I posted something very private on fb that I really shouldn't have.

After a few angry phone calls where he screamed down the phone and me hanging up he done what Aquarians do best and disappeared.
I wouldn't recommend what I did at all.

His behaviour was clearly because he was hurting too and that was his way of dealing with it. Much like your guy I would imagine.

I really don't know what to suggest. All I know is while he is still in this mode it's not going to be an easy task for you.

Good luck

Wow what you described about your ex's tantrums sounds a lot like him. I know he's hurting and that's fine but I really don't like how he's acting now bc it makes me not even preserve a friendship with him and we have to get along for the kids. I'm just so emotionally over it. Ugh!!!

He'll eventually calm down and come to terms with it, once he's processed it.

The guy I was with had not long split with his sons mother and obviously they weren't on the best of terms to begin with but it all calmed down pretty soon and they ended up being really good friends. In fact I'm friends with her myself.

The fact that you are no longer emotionally attached should help speed up the process, as he won't be able to play the emotional games with you to drag it out.

I split with my sons dad a Pisces 8yrs ago only stopped being an arsehole 6mths ago lol

Hey Sammy thanks for the advice, ironically that's what I did last night, we actually sat down and talked and I showed remorse about our breakup and explained my reasoning for our breakup. Since then he's a little too touchy lol, I have to constantly remind him that WE are trying to be friends. He told me that he still believe there's hope until I have sex with someone else, he said once I do that then he don't know how he would feel about me.

it took me about 4 years to finally get rid of an aqua ex too (and im a fellow aqua!). and he only finally got lost when i started dating someone else & had to get my new bf to threaten him to leave me alone or he'd fuck him up lol. aqua guys for some reason can be controlling & psycho. they need to either be w/ a water sign or someone more masculine than them who could put them in check. i'm glad u broke up w/ him. they're crazy

I have dated a couple of Aquarius men and they sound like your guy. As an Aquarius woman I actually thought we'd hit it off pretty well but my style in break ups is to f***ing break up. Theirs...was not so much that way. It was a lot of cry-fest and obsessive behavior and accusations. It was abandonment issue central. Neither of them seemed able to control themselves despite the fact that we clearly were better off apart. The guilt trips were just the beginning.

Yep! Sad to say that aqua men are very controlling in relationships, which is quite opposite of aqua women. The women usually have the live and let live philosophy. My brother is controlling with his fianc?e. So much that now that he's getting close to the wedding date, my mom reminds him everyday to not be controlling after he gets married. His fianc?e is a Leo with cancer moon and she seems to be ok with being a puppet...for now I suppose.

There was an aqua guy 3 yrs younger than myself who became crazy, psychotic after having one conversation with me. He wouldn't leave me alone. I had to change my phone number. Thank God he didn't know where I lived. He would call me late at night drunk and would cry confessing his love for me. I felt sooo sorry for him. Woe onto all those men who fall in love with a woman instantaneously.